Single life or Relationship ?

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  • JusticeGirl25
    JusticeGirl25 Posts: 703 Member
    Considering I updated my profile picture, I've just started a relationship last few days.
  • jacobhyatt91
    jacobhyatt91 Posts: 120 Member
    im in a relationship right now but its not really working...think i like the idea of someone being into me a lot more then I actually like her haha ..idk starting think im meant to be single...Dam all those people that are able to have meaningless casual sex :(
  • EmilyJackCO
    EmilyJackCO Posts: 621 Member
    Relationship

    Dating world sucks especially if you are older, over weight, and unattractive.

    Just to be fair - it ain't much better if you're older, tall and fairly fit either. I've been single for 5 years, and been asked for a phone number precisely once. So ... yeah.

    I don't think I can ever do marriage again - I don't think I can even live with someone again. So single, it is.
  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
    I want to remain single forever
  • Laura8603
    Laura8603 Posts: 590 Member
    I will always prefer being in a healthy, mutually fulfilling relationship over being single.

    But I will always prefer being single to being in a bad relationship.

    Right now, I am single, and I am happy. Open to whatever comes my way but also genuinely happy.
    Well said. I totally agree.
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  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    ok... this is complicated...

    i live a single life. i've happily lived a single life for most of the last ten years.
    but, recently, i don't feel single because of an online relationship.
    i guess it's a bit weird but it's comfortable for me right now.
    it fills my emotional/mental needs.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    Relationship

    Dating world sucks especially if you are older, over weight, and unattractive.

    Just to be fair - it ain't much better if you're older, tall and fairly fit either. I've been single for 5 years, and been asked for a phone number precisely once. So ... yeah.

    I don't think I can ever do marriage again - I don't think I can even live with someone again. So single, it is.

    There is this couple I know that live near me. A long time ago, they made some key decisions together. Those were, they will never live together, they will never have children, and they will never marry. They both own their own homes. They are probably the happiest couple you will ever meet. There's no BS. Of course, they're together a lot and stay at each others places frequently. But, they have their own spaces. And they love their arrangement, even though it seems a bit odd. They have been together almost 20 years.

    So, it doesn't have to be a traditional arrangement. Maybe, if you find someone you like, you can set up the relationship to where you both stay happy. I think this is more the case with older people. I, for one, am all over that idea.

    Am also pro- not having to actually sleep in the same bed/bedroom, or have those boring battles over stupid crap like dishes and cooking and etc and etc. I think that's what grinds relationships down to little nubs, even when they start out great.

    Takes space, which means $, though. The financial benefits of traditional marriage (esp as governments set them up, too) are pretty appealing for most.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    im in a relationship right now but its not really working...think i like the idea of someone being into me a lot more then I actually like her haha ..idk starting think im meant to be single...Dam all those people that are able to have meaningless casual sex :(

    Haha. If that appeals to you, why damn them when you can join them? :huh:
  • avababy05
    avababy05 Posts: 930 Member
    Single. Had enough of relationships.
  • BluejayNY
    BluejayNY Posts: 301 Member
    Relationship. I like I can get easy sex almost whenever I want.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    I have been with the same person for eight years, unmarried, one child together and a child with a prior relationship (my son). We met when he was 19 and I was 21. We have had problems, it wasn't perfect, love is easy a relationship is making decisions sorting out what works, sacrificing certain things. If you do not want children and are independent people living apart and separate lives is probably amazing. However if you want children and you thrive for stability for that child having separate houses isn't desireable. Both him and I are very happy, we have an amazing sex life, we argue but eventually agree or agree to disagree. We go to bed smiling we do didn't rush in either. We lived together for 3 of the 8 years and had our baby girl in the 7th year together. We will be getting married (because estate and everything is much harder to transfer if - hopefully it never happens - but if he passes away) *shrugs* I know people that have been married and lived together for years.

    Some are meant to be single. Some are meant to be together. Perhaps 'want' is a better word
  • sixibabey
    sixibabey Posts: 80 Member
    single guys add me
  • healthyandfitgirl14
    healthyandfitgirl14 Posts: 413 Member
    Relationship :)
  • teagirlmedium
    teagirlmedium Posts: 679 Member
    Single
  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
    Married. It's wonderful to have a loving, funny, intelligent, supportive partner who always has my back and is there when I need him. He is still my favorite companion after 42 years.

    YOU, dear lady, are very blessed! :flowerforyou:

    I've been single for about 12 years.........I enjoy it immensely. But I was married to a crazy man for a very long time......................chemically dependent, very jealous and possessive, lazy, manipulative. I find it hard to imagine being in a relationship again, because I've so enjoyed doing whatever I want, when I want, with whom I want.

    I do think that, if I found a very cool guy that truly was something special, I could go there again. But in the meantime, I am very happy with my life just the way it is :heart:
  • welly5
    welly5 Posts: 293 Member
    Relationship! I'm a serial monogamist.

    First bf was 5 yrs

    single for two weeks

    second bf was three years

    single for a month

    third (and final most awesome bf) is two years and counting.

    When I went through my break ups I was all NO BOYFRIENDS.UGH I DO NOT WANT TO MEET ANYONE. and then BAM.. ok I'll go out to dinner with you.. and then a movie, and then dinner again and suddenly not single anymore.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    Married life. I pay less in taxes that way.

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    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    Single.
    Now, if that cute guy down the street asks me out...................................................:wink:



    :laugh:
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    Married. It's wonderful to have a loving, funny, intelligent, supportive partner who always has my back and is there when I need him.

    This.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Single and there are times I don't like it much. However, I'd rather be single than be with the wrong person.
  • C12254
    C12254 Posts: 198
    I havent been single since i was 14. i love my hubby (the only guy ive been with since i was 14) but sometimes i wish i got to experience being wild and crazy first...
  • zombiesama
    zombiesama Posts: 755 Member
    Forever alone.
  • paulperryman
    paulperryman Posts: 839 Member
    Having never been attractive to the female persuasion other then good friends and being used to get someone else jealous not to mention all around me i see one bad relationship after another. I can stay stuff that, single life for me, i'm too independant now anyway.

    Do what you want, when you want and don't have to answer or plan for another person to have to be included plus your money and assets are yours and noone else's

    I do get lonely and it would be nice to not be single all my life at times but on the whole you get use to it.
    Kudo's to people who make it work and are truly in a love love relationship
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    Married. It's wonderful to have a loving, funny, intelligent, supportive partner who always has my back and is there when I need him. He is still my favorite companion after 42 years.

    YOU, dear lady, are very blessed! :flowerforyou:

    I've been single for about 12 years.........I enjoy it immensely. But I was married to a crazy man for a very long time......................chemically dependent, very jealous and possessive, lazy, manipulative. I find it hard to imagine being in a relationship again, because I've so enjoyed doing whatever I want, when I want, with whom I want.

    I do think that, if I found a very cool guy that truly was something special, I could go there again. But in the meantime, I am very happy with my life just the way it is :heart:

    :love: and {{hugs}}
  • Silver_Star
    Silver_Star Posts: 1,351 Member
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  • jess_1993
    jess_1993 Posts: 151 Member
    Relationship :)
  • Jennicia
    Jennicia Posts: 409 Member
    Single....but technically still married on paper. Just recently made the split and on I'm on my own with my 2 girls! I miss the closeness of a good relationship (and sex of course) but I will have to say, I like having my own place and total control of the remote! ;)
  • I'll take a relationship. Mine is a difficult marriage at the moment - I'm living in the US and he's in England (as he's English). My visa is in process.

    We are freelancers, and that means we spend 24/7 together.

    Lived together for about 9 months so far and haven't killed each other yet. Talk every day, and have since 2011. I don't think I'd trade it for the world; we don't even want 9 to 5 jobs because we wouldn't be able to go do what we want together.
  • walleyclan1
    walleyclan1 Posts: 2,784 Member
    Relationship. I know that if I was single I would just be searching for what I already have.