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  • honesty71108
    honesty71108 Posts: 50 Member
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    Beautiful family, @heroldkelly

    novio50 : its called blind love, if you have it for your other half then yes it is possible...but i think to some extend we are selfish about ourself in our lives.....this kinda love your talking about is like romeo and juliet, lol

    that kida love will consist of a lot more of personality and will be near perfection...perfection again is different to everyones need:smile:

  • heroldkelly
    heroldkelly Posts: 30 Member
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    Guns_N_Buns wrote: »
    ...you'd probably think something was off/wrong if all of a sudden she's raping you in your sleep. :smiley:

    I would do anything for her to do that to me! :wink:

  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
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    As much as I'm not in the mood most times, I just remind myself that it's just 5 minutes of my time that will make my hubby happy/satisfied. I've been on the other end where I was continually deprived/rejected from having sex and it's not a very good feeling, so I try to catch myself when I start to complain or say no because, to some extent, I'm sure it affects men the same way.
  • heroldkelly
    heroldkelly Posts: 30 Member
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    Yeah, we've had very long talks about it and part of the difference when we first married was our complete difference in experience. I was way more experienced than I should have been and she had absolutely none. We knew that would be harder (no pun intended), but I'm a patient man and she learns things well, so we thought it would get better. Well, we now have been married 5 years and have two kids, so time is nonexistent, and it's worse than ever. Our next step, if things don't improve soon, is counseling. I think the important part is to realize everyone is so very different and what @Guns_N_Buns can handle is much different than what my wife can handle. I wouldn't expect my wife to be a daily woman, heck I don't think I could handle it! :smiley: But finding that common ground in how much each has to compromise is difficult for any couple, but through patience and communication it can be done.
  • RunRachelleRun
    RunRachelleRun Posts: 1,854 Member
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    @Cutaway_Collar ha! quiet sex is the worst. This is why children change sex lives. Love your wedding photo. Super fun. And not TMI for me. This is quite interesting. I don't think it's ever taken me 45 minutes to orgasm. I'll have to start watching the clock. 8-12 in one session! Lucky wife.

    @Guns_N_Buns I am not willing to have a quickie every day because the stimulation leaves me wide awake and then I can't sleep. So while he's snoring away right after, I'm lying there for an hour or more when I need to be sleeping. If our morning schedules ever become compatible, maybe I'd be willing to have sex almost (key word) daily.

    @heroldkelly you have a beautiful family. It's good that you are talking about it. A six-month-old baby explains a lot. I don't think your frequency is abnormal for having a young baby. It is hard to go from being entirely responsible for this little person's every need to getting into sexy mode. But you can help too. Take care of the kids and do the dishes while she has a long bath or goes for a walk. Make her a nice dinner (and do the dishes - don't underestimate the power of doing the dishes). Take the kids to a family member's for a night. Surprise her with wine and chocolate. Watch a funny movie after the kids go to bed (stay away from anything rom-com - these are mood killers in my opinion; more like Will Ferrell - stupid comedy is best or action/spy movies if she likes those; nothing sexual if she's already feeling pressure or about kids). She likely needs time to relax and remember she's a woman, not just a mom for a bit. It can be tough to transition.
  • RunRachelleRun
    RunRachelleRun Posts: 1,854 Member
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    heroldkelly wrote: »
    what @Guns_N_Buns can handle is much different than what my wife can handle. I wouldn't expect my wife to be a daily woman, heck I don't think I could handle it! :smiley:

    Ha. Loved this. True.
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
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    hahah @Cutaway_Collar, Not TMI...I say 5 minutes, because like I said, usually it's him wanting it -- so it's like get in, get out so I can go to bed! If it's a time where we both want it, then yeah...I've gone 12-20 times in one session, but once I hit the first peak, the rest are easy to achieve. So, it's still only 30 minutes maybe...I can't imagine 45-60 minutes! :dizzy:
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
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    Also, why can you 'tag' a username, but there are no notifications that alert you to the tagging?!
  • heroldkelly
    heroldkelly Posts: 30 Member
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    Guns_N_Buns wrote: »
    Also, why can you 'tag' a username, but there are no notifications that alert you to the tagging?!

    I don't know. I think the notifications thing sucks. I can't get it to email me when someone comments and I wanted that! :(
  • heroldkelly
    heroldkelly Posts: 30 Member
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    Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
    It is never sexy and hot all the time like in porno.

    LOL, I always laugh when I hear people who think sex should be like a porno. It's like thinking your Big Mac is going to look like the commercials! :tongue:

  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
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    Yum. Now I want a Big Mac...
  • dwatson925
    dwatson925 Posts: 143 Member
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    Thanks for making me hungry when I'm out of calories :(
  • RavenLibra
    RavenLibra Posts: 1,737 Member
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    The Emu prefers foreplay to start at first light... and carry on throughout the day... emails... phone calls, texts... after all the brain is our largest stimulus... then... it can be pure porno...the beauty of a loving relationship is having the trust to share those most intimate thoughts... and to help materialize them... starting in the living room, the dining room , the kitchen floor... finishing in the bedroom a couple of hours later... or in the kitchen again after some snacks and water... hydration is important... :)
  • honesty71108
    honesty71108 Posts: 50 Member
    edited June 2016
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    lonestar5715.....i like how u write....
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
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    I want a Big Mac and a pet emu...they're so wise.
  • honesty71108
    honesty71108 Posts: 50 Member
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    this thread is v slowly...turning into a whole new thing...lol
  • DarleneReid577
    DarleneReid577 Posts: 4,401 Member
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    I agree and not so sure I am comfortable. Seems more like sex chat than support chat.
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
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    It's chit-chat, which implies fluid conversation. The best way to change the direction is to supply another topic. What do you need support with, Darlene? By all means, take the wheel!
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited June 2016
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    novio50 wrote: »
    Ladies, do you feel your husbands are enamored with you? Is he so in love with you that no matter what happens in life or what you do, you are never wrong? So in love with you that as long as he can look at you while the sky is falling he's ok with death? Is there a such thing?

    Definitely not never being wrong. And I would hate that! I want a partner that challenges me and helps me be my best and grow and learn. I do feel he is so enamored with me that he would never leave me. But, that means I must treat him well, take care of myself, be sexy, be a good partner that keeps that feeling alive and going. I hope he would never foolishly die for me (he wouldn't because he's smart), but I do think he would sacrifice his life to save me and I would do the same for him. But, I wouldn't want that to ever happen and I would be devastated if he sacrificed his life for me because I wouldn't want him too.

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