Do men secretly want a more traditional housewife?

JUDDDing

I secretly want to be married to a doctor, lawyer or CEO...

Then I can hire a household staff and spend my time with hobbies and playing on the Internet like god intended.

Mother_Superior

So here's my question: in this modern society do men secretly (or sub subconsciously) want a 1950's doting housewife?

I'm not meaning dressing up like a 50's house wife, but more in spirit : making the man the #1 priority, centring your day around his comings and goings, hot meal on the table, house clean, wife all prettied up...

If guys do like that is it just a novelty and they get bored with it or is it something deep down they want but dare not say so?

Men aren't a monolith; they don't all want one thing or another in a woman (Heck, some of them don't want women.)

So yeah, some do and some don't, just like with anything else.

This pretty much sums it up.

Although I'm sure a lot of men - and women - would like a spouse that makes them a priority. Isn't that kind of the point?

^This. As long as I'm her priority and she is mine, the rest is inconsequential.

MG_Fit

Hell no!

In every circle I belong to (ie. work, home, church, etc), I believe everyone needs to play to their strengths/passions first. There are other factors of course, but let me explain. My wife is naturally a better cook than I, so she'll usually make 70% of the meals we eat at home. I'll still help her prepare and we have the unspoken rule that whoever cooks, the other will do the dishes. If she's busy with work and I'm free, I'm not going to let the dishes sit there and make her stay up late to wash them, that's ridiculous. She likes to be in the garden, taking care of the plants and making sure the lawn looks good. I personally, don't care and would rather hire someone to do that. For some reason I know how to iron, well I might add. So I'll do most of the ironing should it be needed.

My wife usually does:
Mopping
Gardening (the actual planting and choosing of plants and such)
Cooking
Taking out the Trash

I usually do:
Laundry
Ironing
Dishes
Sweeping
Cleaning bathrooms
Lawn mowing

We don't really have set chores and it's not like if I'm out of the house for a week the dishes just sit there or laundry doesn't get done. The other person just picks up the slack. I do however like when she goes on vacation, then I can make whatever my heart desires.

Junkergal

The Good Wives Guide circa 1950!

Have dinner ready.
Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself.
Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away clutter.
Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, papers, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
Over the winter months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Prepare the children.
Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces, comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimise all noise.
At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.
Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him.
You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the right time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his.
Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his real need to be at home and relax.
Your goal.
Try to make sure that your home is a place of peace and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone throught that day.
Make him comfortable.
Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or a warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is master of the house and as such, will always excercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.
You have no right to question him.
A good wife knows her place

Hahahahahahaha.......wow......no.

rileamoyer

I have no clue what men want in a wife. I only know how I am. Must be ok, 30 + years with same guy and we survived both of our mid life crises. His in his 40's and mine in my late 50's. Neither of us is looking for anything/one else.

rileamoyer

The only thing traditional about me is I live in a house.

Junkergal

Hell no!

In every circle I belong to (ie. work, home, church, etc), I believe everyone needs to play to their strengths/passions first. There are other factors of course, but let me explain. My wife is naturally a better cook than I, so she'll usually make 70% of the meals we eat at home. I'll still help her prepare and we have the unspoken rule that whoever cooks, the other will do the dishes. If she's busy with work and I'm free, I'm not going to let the dishes sit there and make her stay up late to wash them, that's ridiculous. She likes to be in the garden, taking care of the plants and making sure the lawn looks good. I personally, don't care and would rather hire someone to do that. For some reason I know how to iron, well I might add. So I'll do most of the ironing should it be needed.

My wife usually does:
Mopping
Gardening (the actual planting and choosing of plants and such)
Cooking
Taking out the Trash

I usually do:
Laundry
Ironing
Dishes
Sweeping
Cleaning bathrooms
Lawn mowing

We don't really have set chores and it's not like if I'm out of the house for a week the dishes just sit there or laundry doesn't get done. The other person just picks up the slack. I do however like when she goes on vacation, then I can make whatever my heart desires.

This is called team work and it is, in my opinion, a wonderful way to go about things and to make part of a happy marriage.

rileamoyer

Hell no!

In every circle I belong to (ie. work, home, church, etc), I believe everyone needs to play to their strengths/passions first. There are other factors of course, but let me explain. My wife is naturally a better cook than I, so she'll usually make 70% of the meals we eat at home. I'll still help her prepare and we have the unspoken rule that whoever cooks, the other will do the dishes. If she's busy with work and I'm free, I'm not going to let the dishes sit there and make her stay up late to wash them, that's ridiculous. She likes to be in the garden, taking care of the plants and making sure the lawn looks good. I personally, don't care and would rather hire someone to do that. For some reason I know how to iron, well I might add. So I'll do most of the ironing should it be needed.

My wife usually does:
Mopping
Gardening (the actual planting and choosing of plants and such)
Cooking
Taking out the Trash

I usually do:
Laundry
Ironing
Dishes
Sweeping
Cleaning bathrooms
Lawn mowing

We don't really have set chores and it's not like if I'm out of the house for a week the dishes just sit there or laundry doesn't get done. The other person just picks up the slack. I do however like when she goes on vacation, then I can make whatever my heart desires.

July 10, 2013 5:53 am

A man that cleans the bathrooms?????
Are you kidding?????

I think I love you. wink

JamieG8991

Oh my God, I think my ex husband wrote the one about the good wife!!!!

JenAndSome

No.

I want my woman to have a full time job, come home, cook, clean, take care of the kids, satisfy me sexually, and then let me go and hang out with my friends all day.

You sound just like my boyfriend. Sadly, I'm serious.

Kai81109

I believe that some men do and some men dont.... I was always a very independent person and then i met my husband and i thought that was one of the main things he liked about me was that i didnt need him to take care of me and that we could be a team. I was wrong very very wrong lol. All within the first year of being married I got pregnant, I was in the Navy as is he and he talked me into getting out using the baby as the excuse and i agreed(seeing his logic at the time)... Now i have been married to him for 5 years and he got me from being a tom boy to being all dolled up to sit at home and clean and cook and taking care of the child. I HATE it dont get me wrong love being around my son but it makes me feel useless and like i lost all independence, that I have to depend on him for everything. SO i think it all depends on the guy.

ddxm

So here's my question: in this modern society do men secretly (or sub subconsciously) want a 1950's doting housewife?

I'm not meaning dressing up like a 50's house wife, but more in spirit : making the man the #1 priority, centring your day around his comings and goings, hot meal on the table, house clean, wife all prettied up...

If guys do like that is it just a novelty and they get bored with it or is it something deep down they want but dare not say so?

Well, those who are terrible people do.

dittmarml

So here's my question: in this modern society do men secretly (or sub subconsciously) want a 1950's doting housewife?

I'm not meaning dressing up like a 50's house wife, but more in spirit : making the man the #1 priority, centring your day around his comings and goings, hot meal on the table, house clean, wife all prettied up...

If guys do like that is it just a novelty and they get bored with it or is it something deep down they want but dare not say so?

Hell, I want a doting housewife. So, probably.

^^^This

TS65

So here's my question: in this modern society do men secretly (or sub subconsciously) want a 1950's doting housewife?

I'm not meaning dressing up like a 50's house wife, but more in spirit : making the man the #1 priority, centring your day around his comings and goings, hot meal on the table, house clean, wife all prettied up...

If guys do like that is it just a novelty and they get bored with it or is it something deep down they want but dare not say so?

Hell, I want a doting housewife. So, probably.

^^^This

Ha! Glad to know I'm not the only one who thought this!!

Mr_Bad_Example

So here's my question: in this modern society do men secretly (or sub subconsciously) want a 1950's doting housewife?

I'm not meaning dressing up like a 50's house wife, but more in spirit : making the man the #1 priority, centring your day around his comings and goings, hot meal on the table, house clean, wife all prettied up...

If guys do like that is it just a novelty and they get bored with it or is it something deep down they want but dare not say so?

flobag83

Nope. I'm daddy househusband and take care of everything at home. Oh and I never have a headache.:laugh:

A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

haha this is funny! :laugh:

Grimmerick

The Good Wives Guide circa 1950!

Have dinner ready.
Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself.
Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away clutter.
Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, papers, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
Over the winter months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Prepare the children.
Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces, comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimise all noise.
At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.
Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Listen to him.
You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the right time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his.
Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his real need to be at home and relax.
Your goal.
Try to make sure that your home is a place of peace and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone throught that day.
Make him comfortable.
Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or a warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is master of the house and as such, will always excercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.
You have no right to question him.
A good wife knows her place

I would bet money that this article was written by a man.

might not have been I didn't see anything about a once a month mandatory steak and a *kitten*.....maybe that's in the 50's guide to sex

Happy_10yr

It completely depends on the guy. For instance, I want a wife who has a job of her own, and I'd like to cook as much as she does, etc, but I'm sure there are plenty of guys who want to be the only one who works and never cook etc.

I agree!!

I want a wife who has a mind of her own and is completely committed to the marriage/family that we are building.

jollyjoe321

Well of course I'd love someone who cooks for me , but of course I'm just as happy to do my own.

Food is the way to my heart :flowerforyou:

emmamaelee888

well... this is like asking people what religion is better or what political party is "right"
You will be bound to get heated discussion and loads of opinions and reply's!!

Some people say that women these days are lazy, but really I think that from the original traditional views both have equally gotten away from their "expected" roles. Men used to be the breadwinners and have that on their shoulders. now they want the women to carry half their financial load. Same for women we want the men to share half the cleaning, cooking and kids responsibility.

This is how it is on our house I work 4 days per week, my husband and I share the household duties(though I do all the cooking) so we are right in line with what "society" thinks we shold be sharing etc... that being said I am secretly old fashioned at heart and would love to be home cooking/baking/cleaning etc feeling refreshed and stress free from days of work, relaxing on the deck with a good book and off to the gym in the afternoon maybe out for coffeee with a friend with loads of energy for "other things later in the evening"... but that sounds more like retirement than a current reality for me! I also think unless you had a lot to do you would get bored after a while or depressed.

Maybe I should have become a teacher... had 2-3 months off every summer plus march break and Christmas.. I would get a tase of both worlds.. 3 months being home, loving it and the rest feeling independant and modern! lol...