Do men secretly want a more traditional housewife?

feather314

Hmmm... while I don't think my husband wants a "traditional 50's housewife" - i.e. meal on the table when he walks in the door, doting on him, etc I do think he secretly wants me to be more wifey. Not sure if that makes sense.

We both work full time; however, I work from home. We are a two income family but his income is more than double mine so...

I do think he expects me to be more the nurturing partner/parent. I think he would rather me cook the meals, give the kids baths, do the laundry, etc. Not because he's a man and he thinks those are women's jobs but because thats the household he was raised in. He was fortunate enough to have parents that were (and still are) together. Dad worked full time and mom stayed at home til all four kids were in school. Once all her kids were in school she went back to work (in the school system so she had summers off). So naturally his mom did all the cooking, all the laundry, took care of the kids, etc.

Don't get me wrong, he does cook on occasions (mostly the grilling and such), he does do laundry when necessary, and will give the kids a bath but for the most part I do those things. And buy all the gifts, plan all the parties, make sure the birthday and holiday cards are sent, and make sure the bills are paid. I'm better at it. If those things tasks were assigned to him, holy moly - people would get Christmas cards in July!!!

I on the other hand was raised by a single mom that worked multiple jobs. I did not have a "traditional" family/household. There were no specific roles in our house. Mom did it all until we were old enough to help (be told what to do). I think how one is raised has a lot to do with how people think marriages and families should work.

ravegee

I'm not married and don't plan on getting married anytime soon. But whenever I do get married I wouldn't do any yard work. I think that's a man's job. But I would keep the house clean, cook my husband dinner, wash his clothes, and take care of the children. I would also supply my income with writing books. I think that it's a man's job to take care of his family .

Jerrypeoples

To be honest I could care less what role is done by who. I would think the minute you start assuming the other will do things is the minute youre setting yourself up for failure

shasingalls

I'll ask everyone at the next Man meeting and let you know.

LOL Thats awesome!!!