Do men secretly want a more traditional housewife?

KANGOOJUMPS

duh>>> men want a good little fun loving trollop,
all the time,

BobOki

No secret about it... I would love it if my girl would clean... even.... a little.

kenmunson333

Secretly? No. I've made it abundantly clear. Has that gotten me anywhere? No!

cynthiaj777

depends on the man how he was raised and culture

Agreed.

My boyfriend now is VERY traditional because that's how he was raise. Hell, his father is 71 and STILL works two jobs 6 days a week for his house and family. He works one job 7am-3pm then another 4pm-11pm. He comes home when everyone is asleep, and he leaves back out while everyone is asleep. His wife (my boyfriend's mother) has adapted her schedule in order to be able to even see him. She gets up at 4am with him, and she sits up with him at midnight while he eats before bed. His mother and father are also the care takers of all the elderly on both sides of the family, which includes cutting everyone's grass, doing house repairs, paying for most of the bills and having everyone over to their house every holiday in order to get the family together (and one has cancer and has been ill for quite sometime). His parents also own a rental house, which his father must upkeep. Honestly, I don't know how they do it.

But back to your question: Because he was raised to take charge and be the one who can DO IT ALL, he wants me to stay at home once we have children. He wants me to be Susie Homemaker. He always comments on how he loves coming home to me and his son and there's dinner after he's been working all day, and he loves going to sleep at night with the house cleaned by me WHILE HE takes care of EVERYTHING else. The outside house work, the extended family, his son (he's not OUR son, so he feels like he should do more than I do even though I would gladly drive him to school, etc...but he refuses to let me), the bills. He doesn't want me to have to worry about anything other than taking care of him and our children and making sure we all can properly function in our lives (feed, bathed, fun).

Nonetheless, I have a graduate degree with a high paying job, currently. I do not foresee me leaving until I take leave for when we have children. I will ALWAYS work at some capacity (after children, who knows how it will work out). He isn't against me working, obviously, but he wants to take care of me (i.e. be the bread winner). I find it very manly and sexy.

etoiles_argentees

I don't know. I love making a man feel like a man and adored, appreciated. I do like working though, at something I enjoy.

SelfHelpJunky

My guy jokes about wanting me to be a traditional housewife, but he also likes the significant income boost from my job. And he realizes that with my demanding career I can't devote my life to his needs, so he can't have it both ways. So we have to approach household chores as a team, and we are both completely ok with that.

ldrosophila

Can someone please make me a traditional housewife I hate working! I'd rather watch Regis and Kelly, catch up on my soap, complain about making lunch for my two year old, do a few chores, complain I have to run to the store to get some groceries, then make dinner, and complain to my husband how rough my day was. Please please make me traditional.

ldrosophila

Just a thought my Grandma was a 50's wife and she was a full time teacher and mother to 5.

Lesa_Sass

I LOVE being a doting housewife. Love love love it! I have a wonderful husband that treats me like a princess and I, in turn, love treating him like a king. He never EVER demands anything of me, I do it all because it brings me joy.

Ya know who gives me the most grief about being a housewife? Other women. They get catty, snoddy and try to make me feel like I am not a real woman because I enjoy staying at home and taking care of myself, my husband and my home. It is funny to me that after each and every time a woman who degrades me for staying at home, turns around with in an hour and says "I wish I could stay home".

I was 32 before I got married and had a great career and enjoyed it for the most part, and still have a part time gig I do from home when I feel like working or a client has a campaign they need me to do, but nothing gives me the satisfaction that laying down in clean sheets that smell like bleach and downey with the man that I love more than anything and know that he is happy, well fed and comfortable and happy because of me.

sammniamii

My hubs grew up in that traditional house - dad worked, mom did the housework... he provided, she provided for him.

I on the other hand did NOT grow up like this. Both parents had jobs, all 3 of us where lack-key kids, he "tried" to lazy around when he got home but mom typically threatened him enough to go do some housework.

My and the hubs are the OPPOSITE of the 1950's family - I make most of the money, I have the stressful taxing job, but somehow I STILL end up doing all the housework, the cooking, the YARD work, bills, etc. I end up doing them because we would be living in a dark, smelly messy rat-trap w/ fast food and nothing else.

My hubs would LOVE it if I stopped harking at him to help, to STOP bringing up the fact that I am the breadwinner.... you know what, DON'T LIKE WHAT I HAVE TO SAY, STEP UP YOUR DAMN GAME.

Remember - you reap what you sow. In this day & age, most women have good paying job, an education and more. But somehow they are still saddled w/ all the crap that many "men" consider "women's work - dishes, cooking, housework, etc. Life isn't what it was in the 1950's, times have changed.

I would stay home and play "Sally Homemaker" if he was the breadwinner - but he isn't & he doesn't. So in order for OUR life to be plaseant, I do BOTH sides/roles.

*rant over - back away from the box and goes back to "working" for his living*

MyChocolateDiet

after careful google perusal of the many and varied definitions of the word "dote"

I am puzzled by the non-doters as I thought that this was what people in love wanted to do to one another? I suggest the lady posting this in her office print out the link provided as it makes prettier artwork for the office and more thought provoking. The end.

My thoughts exactly--I love him. Why would I not dote on him?

I wish I could post the link, but I don't have the image on a photo sharing website, nor do I have access to doing so at this time, unfortunately. I can say that a google image search will turn up hundreds of different copies in many different formats from modern to the original print.

In the same vein of thought, did anyone else find the life of a Stepford Wife appealing? (Excepting, of course, not having free will.)

Any media portrayal where a woman's hair, make up, and outfits are eternally "done" are extremely appealing to me. #spanishsoaps, #porn, #gossipgirl, #prettylittleliars, #themovieswherewomenfrommonstersandspiesinstilletos

leed12345

I'm a teacher so I live both worlds: breadwinner and working mom 10 months of the year and stay home mom in the summer. My whole family is happy when I am able to spend more of my time and energy focusing on our family. However, after 2 months, I get antsy and am ready to go back to work. The rest rejuvenates our family life and makes it obvious to us all that we work best when we all pitch in. My husband thought he wanted me to stay home, but even he sees that I am happy when I work which sets a good example for our daughters and makes our home life happier in the long run.

MyChocolateDiet

Can someone please make me a traditional housewife I hate working! I'd rather watch Regis and Kelly, catch up on my soap, complain about making lunch for my two year old, do a few chores, complain I have to run to the store to get some groceries, then make dinner, and complain to my husband how rough my day was. Please please make me traditional.

Alright, alright. After my break.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

We both work. I wouldnt' say the house work was even but he helps.

However. He doesn't think you need to sweep the bathroom in order to qualify it as "clean". :grumble:

grdnr03

My hubby likes a more traditional scenario( we are both in out mid 40's), but will support me when I work(worked) outside the home!! I like having my on $$$

CorvusCorax77

I want a stay at home wife, but I'm not sure my income could support that...

I do this myself and look in the mirror just so I can get my 1950's house wife fix:

Mother_Superior

I want a stay at home wife, but I'm not sure my income could support that...

I do this myself and look in the mirror just so I can get my 1950's house wife fix:

How YOU doin?

BurningAway

I would love to be a traditional house wife, cleaning the house, taking care of the children, being provided for, being beautiful ALL day!? BRING IT ON! Of course my reality is the opposite so maybe thats why haha.

fannyfrost

I didn't read what people have said so far, but I will say this:

Secretly everyone wants to be the center of their spouses universe. Even someone like me who likes to have her own space would love it sometimes if my husband could be commanded to do everything I want and need done at the very second I want it. Constantly make me his only priority and cater to my every whim. I don't care if you are a man or a woman.

However, that is totally unrealistic and anyone who centers around you only eventually suffocates you because they don't have any of their own interests. So in reality the only people who really want someone who centers everything around themselves is an abusive person who wants to completely control the other person and not let them ever be their own person.

FYI, outside interests aren't always a job outside the home, it could be anything, volunteering, hobbies, etc.

Teardrop81

I may lose a man card on this one, but I do the bathrooms exclusively, almost all of the cooking, and most of the dishes and kitchen cleaning. I also do the mowing, gardening, tree trimming, and house and car repairs, so hopefully that lets me keep it :laugh:

You should stop chore-hogging! That's selfish.

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