LGBT chit-chatters?
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jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »Hey all
I'm 27 bisexual woman, in a monogamous relationship with my husband of 7 years 
let's be friends! Need some motivational friends to kick me in the A**
My condolences
WTF does that even mean?
That they feel sorry for you?
Understand where they're coming from since I don't believe monogamy. Not as fun.
So because they can't be in a monogamous relationship, they have to be rude about the choice I made for my life? If that's the kind of people in this chat group, I'm out.
You are married to a man and are monogamous within your marriage, which is a lifetime commitment. Yet you still identify as bisexual?
You seem to feel sincerely offended by the comment offered. Yet you intentionally entered a thread for LGBT people, where traditional values are not usually commonplace. Perhaps you'd be more compatible chatting in threads with monogamous women married to men who limit themselves to having sex only with their husbands.
Have you considered entering discussions at religious sites where monogamy is valued and practiced by both the men and the women? The likelihood of becoming the recipient of comments like the one you take umbrage to is probably nil.
MFP is about "fitness". Consequently most discussions are body related and include heaps and heaps of: 1) body consciousness, 2) body celebration, 2) body fixation, 3) body hobbies (promiscuity), 4) crude jokes, 5) sexual innuendo, 6) obsession with appearance; and 7) various expressions of dysmorphia.
Sometimes it's more fun to lurk and count your blessings. Otherwise, like I said - go with the religious sites.
Just because I am in a monogamous relationship with the opposite gender does not automatically mean I am someone different than I always was. Just like if I were in a monogamous relationship with a woman, I would still be Me. Try again.
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salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »Hey all I'm 27 bisexual woman, in a monogamous relationship with my husband of 7 years let's be friends! Need some motivational friends to kick me in the A**
My condolences
WTF does that even mean?
That they feel sorry for you?
Understand where they're coming from since I don't believe monogamy. Not as fun.
So because they can't be in a monogamous relationship, they have to be rude about the choice I made for my life? If that's the kind of people in this chat group, I'm out.
You are married to a man and are monogamous within your marriage, which is a lifetime commitment. Yet you still identify as bisexual?
You seem to feel sincerely offended by the comment offered. Yet you intentionally entered a thread for LGBT people, where traditional values are not usually commonplace. Perhaps you'd be more compatible chatting in threads with monogamous women married to men who limit themselves to having sex only with their husbands.
Have you considered entering discussions at religious sites where monogamy is valued and practiced by both the men and the women? The likelihood of becoming the recipient of comments like the one you take umbrage to is probably nil.
MFP is about "fitness". Consequently most discussions are body related and include heaps and heaps of: 1) body consciousness, 2) body celebration, 2) body fixation, 3) body hobbies (promiscuity), 4) crude jokes, 5) sexual innuendo, 6) obsession with appearance; and 7) various expressions of dysmorphia.
Sometimes it's more fun to lurk and count your blessings. Otherwise, like I said - go with the religious sites.
just because someone is in a committed relationship does not all the sudden make them no longer bisexual.....
when i date someone i am always bisexual i dont suddenly only like dcks or vag
If woman is married to a man, who identifies as monogamous, and also identifies as bisexual - it would be prudent to question what the future holds in terms of maintaining said monogamy.
I love the bisexuals and homosexuals in my life as neighbors, friends, co-workers, family members, etc.
But if I were being pursued romantically by a man who identified as bisexual, and he promised me commitment and monogamy whilst still identifying as bisexual - I would feel very uncertain about how he would manage temptation futuristically and decline the offer.
oh damn i forgot
bisexuals are sluts how silly of me
let me just listen to someone who is not bisexual tell me what it is to be bisexual
You must renounce all sexual attraction to others to remain monogamous and faithful.
False. There are always going to be beautiful people out there. Being monogamous means you chose to ONLY be with the person you are with.5 -
salembambi wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »I'm a B, but I'm living the hetero life..lol!
please dont get all internalized biphobic on us
I will get my dictionary to figure out what you mean, but let me say I'm not anything phobic. I'm bisexual, and have been with a man for 23 years. Sorry if I offended, I guess I should have kept quiet?4 -
At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals
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JustMissTracy wrote: »salembambi wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »I'm a B, but I'm living the hetero life..lol!
please dont get all internalized biphobic on us
I will get my dictionary to figure out what you mean, but let me say I'm not anything phobic. I'm bisexual, and have been with a man for 23 years. Sorry if I offended, I guess I should have kept quiet?
@salembambi is kinda wrung up I think Miss Tracy1 -
Aww...i'm not going thru the 4 pages, but being attracted doesn't make you slutty...nothing makes us slutty, until someone else puts that on us. And I agree with your comment above mine. We're still the same people, just because we choose to limit our sexual activities to one person, regardless who it is or what sex they are, doesn't change what we are attracted to. And in my case, it doesn't affect my relationship with hubs..he is solid, has no insecurities regarding "us".jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
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JustMissTracy wrote: »salembambi wrote: »JustMissTracy wrote: »I'm a B, but I'm living the hetero life..lol!
please dont get all internalized biphobic on us
I will get my dictionary to figure out what you mean, but let me say I'm not anything phobic. I'm bisexual, and have been with a man for 23 years. Sorry if I offended, I guess I should have kept quiet?
@salembambi is kinda wrung up I think Miss Tracy
he's right this stuff makes me slightly snappy *hug*2 -
LOL..no worries xo1
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JustMissTracy wrote: »Aww...i'm not going thru the 4 pages, but being attracted doesn't make you slutty...nothing makes us slutty, until someone else puts that on us. And I agree with your comment above mine. We're still the same people, just because we choose to limit our sexual activities to one person, regardless who it is or what sex they are, doesn't change what we are attracted to. And in my case, it doesn't affect my relationship with hubs..he is solid, has no insecurities regarding "us".jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
I was making a joke. Bisexuals are always made out to be promiscuous lol2 -
salembambi wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »salembambi wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
straight person defining other peoples sexualities
what a concept
Did someone really just flag you because the didn't agree with you? lol
i pissed off the straights
Yeah, no. Maybe you pissed off a straight person. Maybe you pissed off someone who doesn't like you, regardless of their orientation. Maybe you didn't piss off anyone and the person that flagged you just didn't like your post, but you didn't piss off the "straights".1 -
jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
I'll have you know that my balls are quite attractive.0 -
salembambi wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »salembambi wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
straight person defining other peoples sexualities
what a concept
Did someone really just flag you because the didn't agree with you? lol
i pissed off the straights
Yeah, no. Maybe you pissed off a straight person. Maybe you pissed off someone who doesn't like you, regardless of their orientation. Maybe you didn't piss off anyone and the person that flagged you just didn't like your post, but you didn't piss off the "straights".
i did it again3 -
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salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »salembambi wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
straight person defining other peoples sexualities
what a concept
Did someone really just flag you because the didn't agree with you? lol
i pissed off the straights
Yeah, no. Maybe you pissed off a straight person. Maybe you pissed off someone who doesn't like you, regardless of their orientation. Maybe you didn't piss off anyone and the person that flagged you just didn't like your post, but you didn't piss off the "straights".
i did it again
Whatever assumptions help you sleep at night in that ivory tower. However, I've known you long enough to know that your panties would be knotted tighter than a nun's legs in a barroom is someone had the audacity to say something like, "I pissed off the gays", or Ged forbid say something like a non-vegan sign made them laugh.2 -
salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »salembambi wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
straight person defining other peoples sexualities
what a concept
Did someone really just flag you because the didn't agree with you? lol
i pissed off the straights
Yeah, no. Maybe you pissed off a straight person. Maybe you pissed off someone who doesn't like you, regardless of their orientation. Maybe you didn't piss off anyone and the person that flagged you just didn't like your post, but you didn't piss off the "straights".
i did it again
Whatever assumptions help you sleep at night in that ivory tower. However, I've know you long enough to know that your panties would be knotted tighter than a nun's legs in a barroom is someone had the audacity to say something like, "I pissed off the gays", or Ged forbid say something like a non-vegan sign made them laugh.
"known you long enough"
lol
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salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »salembambi wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
straight person defining other peoples sexualities
what a concept
Did someone really just flag you because the didn't agree with you? lol
i pissed off the straights
Yeah, no. Maybe you pissed off a straight person. Maybe you pissed off someone who doesn't like you, regardless of their orientation. Maybe you didn't piss off anyone and the person that flagged you just didn't like your post, but you didn't piss off the "straights".
i did it again
Whatever assumptions help you sleep at night in that ivory tower. However, I've know you long enough to know that your panties would be knotted tighter than a nun's legs in a barroom is someone had the audacity to say something like, "I pissed off the gays", or Ged forbid say something like a non-vegan sign made them laugh.
"known you long enough"
lol
Yes, you caught the typo before I did. Gold star for you. Tells me all I needed to know.0 -
jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
I'll have you know that my balls are quite attractive.
Hahahahaha1 -
sunn_lighter wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »Hey all I'm 27 bisexual woman, in a monogamous relationship with my husband of 7 years let's be friends! Need some motivational friends to kick me in the A**
My condolences
WTF does that even mean?
That they feel sorry for you?
Understand where they're coming from since I don't believe monogamy. Not as fun.
So because they can't be in a monogamous relationship, they have to be rude about the choice I made for my life? If that's the kind of people in this chat group, I'm out.
You are married to a man and are monogamous within your marriage, which is a lifetime commitment. Yet you still identify as bisexual?
You seem to feel sincerely offended by the comment offered. Yet you intentionally entered a thread for LGBT people, where traditional values are not usually commonplace. Perhaps you'd be more compatible chatting in threads with monogamous women married to men who limit themselves to having sex only with their husbands.
Have you considered entering discussions at religious sites where monogamy is valued and practiced by both the men and the women? The likelihood of becoming the recipient of comments like the one you take umbrage to is probably nil.
MFP is about "fitness". Consequently most discussions are body related and include heaps and heaps of: 1) body consciousness, 2) body celebration, 2) body fixation, 3) body hobbies (promiscuity), 4) crude jokes, 5) sexual innuendo, 6) obsession with appearance; and 7) various expressions of dysmorphia.
Sometimes it's more fun to lurk and count your blessings. Otherwise, like I said - go with the religious sites.
just because someone is in a committed relationship does not all the sudden make them no longer bisexual.....
when i date someone i am always bisexual i dont suddenly only like dcks or vag
If woman is married to a man, who identifies as monogamous, and also identifies as bisexual - it would be prudent to question what the future holds in terms of maintaining said monogamy.
I love the bisexuals and homosexuals in my life as neighbors, friends, co-workers, family members, etc.
But if I were being pursued romantically by a man who identified as bisexual, and he promised me commitment and monogamy whilst still identifying as bisexual - I would feel very uncertain about how he would manage temptation futuristically and decline the offer.
oh damn i forgot
bisexuals are sluts how silly of me
let me just listen to someone who is not bisexual tell me what it is to be bisexual
You must renounce all sexual attraction to others to remain monogamous and faithful.
False. There are always going to be beautiful people out there. Being monogamous means you chose to ONLY be with the person you are with.
@_waffle_ was being facetious pretty sureJustMissTracy wrote: »Aww...i'm not going thru the 4 pages, but being attracted doesn't make you slutty...nothing makes us slutty, until someone else puts that on us. And I agree with your comment above mine. We're still the same people, just because we choose to limit our sexual activities to one person, regardless who it is or what sex they are, doesn't change what we are attracted to. And in my case, it doesn't affect my relationship with hubs..he is solid, has no insecurities regarding "us".jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
@ jaelynsmith was using sarcasm too
actually y'all got so sarcastic you couldn't figure out who was on which side of what lmao
Probably true haha0 -
jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
I'll have you know that my balls are quite attractive.
Hahahahaha
Why is this always the reaction?
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salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »salembambi wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »salembambi wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
straight person defining other peoples sexualities
what a concept
Did someone really just flag you because the didn't agree with you? lol
i pissed off the straights
Yeah, no. Maybe you pissed off a straight person. Maybe you pissed off someone who doesn't like you, regardless of their orientation. Maybe you didn't piss off anyone and the person that flagged you just didn't like your post, but you didn't piss off the "straights".
i did it again
Whatever assumptions help you sleep at night in that ivory tower. However, I've know you long enough to know that your panties would be knotted tighter than a nun's legs in a barroom is someone had the audacity to say something like, "I pissed off the gays", or Ged forbid say something like a non-vegan sign made them laugh.
"known you long enough"
lol
Yes, you caught the typo before I did. Gold star for you. Tells me all I needed to know.
I would prefer a silver star but thank you1 -
jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
I'll have you know that my balls are quite attractive.
Hahahahaha
Why is this always the reaction?
I thought you were being cheeky, not creepy haha 0 -
jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »At any rate, I'm more attracted to personalities than genitals, So... I guess I'm the slutiest of the slut bisexuals lol
I'll have you know that my balls are quite attractive.
Hahahahaha
Why is this always the reaction?
I thought you were being cheeky, not creepy haha
I am...was...I think. I'm rarely serious, maybe. If someone who is rarely serious tells you that they are indeed, rarely serious, does the become like a double negative? 0 -
salembambi wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »SassyMommasaurus wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »jaelynsmith wrote: »Hey all I'm 27 bisexual woman, in a monogamous relationship with my husband of 7 years let's be friends! Need some motivational friends to kick me in the A**
My condolences
WTF does that even mean?
That they feel sorry for you?
Understand where they're coming from since I don't believe monogamy. Not as fun.
So because they can't be in a monogamous relationship, they have to be rude about the choice I made for my life? If that's the kind of people in this chat group, I'm out.
You are married to a man and are monogamous within your marriage, which is a lifetime commitment. Yet you still identify as bisexual?
You seem to feel sincerely offended by the comment offered. Yet you intentionally entered a thread for LGBT people, where traditional values are not usually commonplace. Perhaps you'd be more compatible chatting in threads with monogamous women married to men who limit themselves to having sex only with their husbands.
Have you considered entering discussions at religious sites where monogamy is valued and practiced by both the men and the women? The likelihood of becoming the recipient of comments like the one you take umbrage to is probably nil.
MFP is about "fitness". Consequently most discussions are body related and include heaps and heaps of: 1) body consciousness, 2) body celebration, 2) body fixation, 3) body hobbies (promiscuity), 4) crude jokes, 5) sexual innuendo, 6) obsession with appearance; and 7) various expressions of dysmorphia.
Sometimes it's more fun to lurk and count your blessings. Otherwise, like I said - go with the religious sites.
just because someone is in a committed relationship does not all the sudden make them no longer bisexual.....
when i date someone i am always bisexual i dont suddenly only like dcks or vag
If woman is married to a man, who identifies as monogamous, and also identifies as bisexual - it would be prudent to question what the future holds in terms of maintaining said monogamy.
I love the bisexuals and homosexuals in my life as neighbors, friends, co-workers, family members, etc.
But if I were being pursued romantically by a man who identified as bisexual, and he promised me commitment and monogamy whilst still identifying as bisexual - I would feel very uncertain about how he would manage temptation futuristically and decline the offer.
That'd be like saying that a straight person, can no longer be straight; while in a committed relationship to 1 person because for them to be straight, it means that they're either attracted to men or women, not a man or a woman! Being straight is an attraction to the gender, opposite of your own of various people; not just the gender of 1 person.9 -
daddyfitt1 wrote: »Straight
people for get this a Lgbt chit chat.4 -
williejmaddox wrote: »daddyfitt1 wrote: »Straight
people for get this a Lgbt chit chat.
They don't know what L G B T means6 -
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saragreen012 wrote: »Being in a monogamous does NOT generally mean halting all attraction to other people. I'm a lesbian in a very happy monogamous relationship, I would never ACT on my attraction to other women, but it would be a bold-face lie to pretend that I'm not just a little tempted when a beautiful woman hits on me. So, just because she is happily monogamous with her man, doesnt stop all sexual attraction she has to other men AND women.
Being attracted to someone is one thing. Being sexual with them is another. Perhaps there's a difference of opinion of how sexuality is defined. Personally, I don't think an attraction defines a sexuality. Attractions are often fleeting, usually temporary and acting upon them is entirely optional.
Sexuality IS defined by attraction, point blank. This applies to all sexualities. Sexuality is about ATTRACTION, not action.
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There are people in this thread who seem to lack a basic understanding of sexual orientation. Bisexuality means a person can be sexually attracted to either men or women (and of course romantic attraction often comes into play, if not moreso, as in any orientation - it frustrates the hell out of me when gay and bi people are only associated with sex, rather than love and romance as well, as if sex is the ONLY driving factor of the queer community, but I digress), it does not mean they are attracted to ALL men and women, just as straight women aren't attracted to all men and so forth. And then of course, it's a huge leap to go from attraction to sex, there are typically a lot of boundaries in place unless one is completely nondiscriminatory and willing to sleep with strangers.
A bisexual person in a committed monogamous relationship is no more likely to cheat, be tempted or feel they are "missing out" than a person who is straight. There is no reason to question the fidelity of a bisexual person based on their orientation. I feel like this should be obvious, but I guess not.
"Bisexual" is also not synonymous with "polyamorous," it does not mean they want more than one partner at once. (though, a bisexual person could be polyamorous, but so can a straight or gay person - the point is that there is no correlation between bisexuality and desiring multiple partners rather than one.
Bisexuality or pansexuality does not denote promiscuity anymore than heterosexuality denotes chastity. A gay or bi person can be a virgin just like a straight person can be a nymphomaniac. Sexual orientation is based on attraction, (or a lack thereof in the case of asexuality), and that is all.
I find it absurd that people make these connections but it's perhaps indicative of a preoccupation with stereotypes and people who've never put much thought into orientations besides their own because they are the majority.13 -
Awesome! ^
Exactly, I am a polymorous bi-sexual but I am not polymorous because I am bi-sexual.
Also polymorous definition is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships where individuals may have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of all partners. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy".
Still NOT cheating. Cheating would be going behind your partners back without them knowing.6 -
I think straight people just think we have a chart and pick and choose on any given day or something
Even being a straight person isn't black and white
Its mostly social stigma and inhibition anyway for them5
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