Would you charge your parents rent?
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No freaking way ......
^ This.
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Most definitely not!0
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From the age of 0-18, my parents have spent a large amount of money on me. I could not fathom the idea of charging her to live in my house. No way.0
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Nope. Partly because I know she would never charge ME rent if I needed to move home for some reason. Mainly because I love my mom dearly. She's welcome to live here if she ever needs to. Of course, she's a stubborn, independent woman (much like her daughter)...it would take a lot for her to agree to it.0
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^^^This^^^Would depend on if she had charged her child/children rent when they were growing up in her house? - I'd say she's paid her dues once already
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You aren't a cold heartless *kitten* because you charge your mother rent.Yes, I would.
I don't consider myself a cold, heartless *kitten* because of it.
You charge your mother rent because you are a cold heartless *kitten*.0 -
There is no way in hell.0
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Admittedly, I didn't read the rest of the comments, so this may have already been said. Here's what I would do:
Charge her only the difference in your utility bills and grocery bill. That's reasonable to me. She's my mom. Ideally, I wouldn't charge her anything. But, she's from the generation that firmly believes in paying their own way. This way, she keeps her dignity (doesn't consider herself a "charity case" and I get a little help with the extra cost of housing her).0 -
I have a somewhat similar situation myself, and I actually pay my mom to live in my house because she helps take care of the kids, thus saving me childcare expenses and the hassle of transporting them to and from a sitter or center. I'm not financially well off by a long shot, but I think it's wrong to charge rent from the woman who dedicated 18 years of her life to taking care of me. In the example given, she doesn't even have income aside from government subsidies, so why would anyone want to take that away from her when they obviously don't need the money themselves?0
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I only pay $600 a month to rent a 3 bedroom, 800 sq ft house with a fenced in yard!!! I can't imagine charging my widowed mother, $1000 to live in my basement.
This makes me sad and reminds me of my stepmom's family. Her mom is paraplegic and a widow, living in a retirement 'apartment'. My dad and stepmom take her out 2-3 times a week and are lucky if stepmom's brother and wife even talk to her on holidays. But you know at the funeral of my stepmom's dad they wanted to run the show, show off the money they had, didn't even put a mention of me or my brother with 'grandkids'. :noway:0 -
There is no amount of housing, money, anything I could give my mom and dad that would pay them back for the life they gave me. Nothing. I just can't even imagine charging them rent lol.0
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Probably not unless you couldn't afford it (although sounds like that isn't a problem in the situation described) But I would discuss it with her/them and see what they think. They might want to pay rent or at least contribute in some way (pay something towards the weekly food shop for example)0
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It's a win-win. Dont cahrge rent because she's your mom, my mom probably still has checks she never cashed from me lying around somwhere. But, she can always help out when you need a sitter.
Dont make a big deal out of it unless she really insists or something, but even then you can simply tell her itt's not necessary.0 -
I would give her the choice, maybe she would feel uncomfortable by not contributing. If she chose to contribute then i would set this money aside for her in an ISA account or premium bond e.t.c. then if her situation changed and she needed the money for any reason she could have it back.0
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You aren't a cold heartless *kitten* because you charge your mother rent.Yes, I would.
I don't consider myself a cold, heartless *kitten* because of it.
You charge your mother rent because you are a cold heartless *kitten*.
:flowerforyou:
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No. But assuming she had no other major bills, she could help with the food she was going to eat or at the very least pay her own way for stuff (like not be asking for additional cash for fun acitivty/trips).
At the very least I would expect her to use her money for personal things she uses - toiletries, medication, fun shopping, etc.0 -
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if you know nothing about the mother or the poster, you may be way off base. some mothers are terrible people and them squeezing out a kid or two doesn't change that.
You aren't a cold heartless *kitten* because you charge your mother rent.Yes, I would.
I don't consider myself a cold, heartless *kitten* because of it.
You charge your mother rent because you are a cold heartless *kitten*.0 -
Being an Asian.................NOPE. It's my mom and that would be pretty disrespectful.Situation (not my own situation):
You are doing well financially (mortgage paid off, you and your spouse have high paying/stable jobs etc.). You have 4 children that are all under the age of 10. You let your mom live in your finished basement after your dad passes away. Her only income is from the government (pension/benefits) which is around $800-1200 per month.
Would you charge her RENT?
IF ...
Yes - Then how much would you charge her ?
No - Tell us why, is it wrong ?
BE HONEST ....
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No, I would not charge my mother rent to live with me. My mom has put herself last for 30+ years so she could put me first. If she needed to live with me, my door would be open to her, free of charge. Knowing my mom, that would be an absolute last resort for her, and she would insist on paying for something. If not rent, then helping out with bills, groceries, etc. She's not a free-loader in any way, shape, or form.
This is not to say I think everyone should do the same. Not everyone has a mother like mine. Family relationships can be complicated.0 -
First of all I'm a parent of two boys 22 & 15 and let me say this they don,'t owe me anything, now or later in life for doing my job and taking care of them. I.E. diapers, food, clothing & roof over their head. I made the choice to have them and it’s my duty to provide for them. Some say your kids owe you for raising them and they don't. Now to the question...I have to agree with most who say it depends on the relationship. Some people may want to pay rent because it may still give them a sense of independence. I myself before getting married I had my own house and my mom lost her job. I advised her to downsize from the large apt to a small 1 bed room, use the buy-out money to pay her rent while she look for another job. Well needless to say she didn’t listen to me and ended up getting evicted. She wanted to move into my basemen, I told her yes however; I wasn’t going to charge her rent but gave her 12 months to rebuild her credit and save her money to get another place. Since I don’t drink or smoke neither of these activities are allowed in my home especially since one of my boys are asthmatic (she does both). She didn’t take the offer and moved in with a friend who ultimately gave her the same option (but she could drink & smoke) instead of living in an entire basement she was confined to one room. She finally got it together (12 mo later).0
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My mother was ALWAYS there for me when I needed her (at no charge) and I needed her a few times in my adult life. When she needed me, I was there for her. (at no charge) Unfortunately, her needs soon became something I was not trained or physically capable of handling anymore and she now lives in a nursing home. I visit her a MINIMUM of 3 times a week.0
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My parents charged me rent when I was growing up, the second I was old enough to get working papers I was told I had to get a job as a teenager during high school and my dad immediately took 30to 40% % saying I used that much in electricity, heat, water for showers or my laundry, taking up space in his house he could rent out , I was also expected to do chores for them with no allowance paid to me for it, dishes, cooking, cleaning bathrooms, vacuuming and dusting. . So while I wouldn't be unfair or unreasonable about it, yes absolutely I would charge them rent and expect them while they were able to pitch in around the house with cleaning and sharing cooking duties. My parents taught me there are no free rides in life, no one is a charity case, they should be proud to see how well I listened and learned from their example.0
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No.0
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Never.0
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No way.0
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Don't even need a reason. Just because. That's why.0
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Wait let me think about it. No! The answer is still no. It'll be no in ten minutes too. Also in ten years. Just no.0
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No way.
BUT I would take full advantage of the built-in baby-sitting availability.
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no its your mum!!! i bet shes helped you out a tonne growing up without asking for anything in return. by the sound of it your ok with cash, maybe get her to look after the kids or clean or cook once in a while
Agreed. She is your mom. Enough said.0
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