Who pays?

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  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    What if the guy shows up with exactly enough for his half, without tip, and tells me to figure the rest out?

    Yep, this past week.
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Where did you all go where he knew what exactly half the bill would be before hand? Chinese buffet?
  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Where did you all go where he knew what exactly half the bill would be before hand? Chinese buffet?

    Some place he's been many times and I have never been, apparently.
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Should've thrown a curve ball and gotten dessert.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    for those in the "woman should at least offer" mindset, my question is: is you opinion of the man diminished if he accepts the offer?

    For me, yes. And I hate myself for saying that. In all my years of dating, only one took me up on the offer. We did go out on a 2nd date though...but I honestly don't remember who paid.

    you're just being honest. There are just a lot of complexities on either side anymore, it's hard to know what's right.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    KrazyDaizy wrote: »
    for those in the "woman should at least offer" mindset, my question is: is you opinion of the man diminished if he accepts the offer?

    Yes, now take me to dinner.

    only if you then take me to breakfast.

    yeah, i went there. :p
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    edited August 2016
    This is why coffee as a first date works so well. If he pays, I don't feel like I ripped him off (not that I would actually feel that way). If I pay I don't feel ripped off. If we go dutch, well that's just like at work and we're talking a few dollars so who cares!
  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Should've thrown a curve ball and gotten dessert.

    He did! It's bizarre lol
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.
  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part
  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part

    Obviously. Good thing I'm an "independent woman who don't need no man"?
  • grinning_chick
    grinning_chick Posts: 765 Member
    edited August 2016
    First meeting? Each pays their own way. After that? If I initiate, I pay. If he initiates, he pays. If he doesn't pull his fair share of initiating? He's gone. I always offer to cover the tip if he's paying and wouldn't be offended if offered in kind but don't expect it.

    Same with planning activities and who is driving/paying for petro/paying for event tickets/etceteras. I also always offer to pay for half of the fuel if he's driving as a courtesy. And, again, would not be offended if offered in kind but never expect it.
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part

    Obviously. Good thing I'm an "independent woman who don't need no man"?


    Wonder what his game plan was if you hadn't brought money...let you wash dishes?
  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part

    Obviously. Good thing I'm an "independent woman who don't need no man"?


    Wonder what his game plan was if you hadn't brought money...let you wash dishes?

    We had our own cars so I was definitely fending for myself. He probably also realized I wasn't going to be that kind of girl to expect to be paid for.
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part

    Obviously. Good thing I'm an "independent woman who don't need no man"?


    Wonder what his game plan was if you hadn't brought money...let you wash dishes?

    We had our own cars so I was definitely fending for myself. He probably also realized I wasn't going to be that kind of girl to expect to be paid for.

    Do I dare ask if there's a second date after all of that?
  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
    A war date sounds strangely appealing

    Bish hand me the check or I swear to god I will put this taser to use!!
  • llaurenmarie
    llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part

    Obviously. Good thing I'm an "independent woman who don't need no man"?


    Wonder what his game plan was if you hadn't brought money...let you wash dishes?

    We had our own cars so I was definitely fending for myself. He probably also realized I wasn't going to be that kind of girl to expect to be paid for.

    Do I dare ask if there's a second date after all of that?

    No. Besides this, there were very awkward conversations and very different personalities. Very "judgey" of others and expected me to be the same.
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    In that case this fella obviously could see into the future.

    He also talked me into ordering dessert :blush:

    Cause he knew he wasn't going to be paying for your part

    Obviously. Good thing I'm an "independent woman who don't need no man"?


    Wonder what his game plan was if you hadn't brought money...let you wash dishes?

    We had our own cars so I was definitely fending for myself. He probably also realized I wasn't going to be that kind of girl to expect to be paid for.

    Do I dare ask if there's a second date after all of that?

    No. Besides this, there were very awkward conversations and very different personalities. Very "judgey" of others and expected me to be the same.

    Sounds like an overall awkward date...at least you had dessert.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    i just want to be in real life friends with angela so we can go to the bars and pick up hotties


    also it depends what kind of date it is , but i always assume i will pay for myself
  • Icheatonmywife
    Icheatonmywife Posts: 132 Member
    Being a gentleman I would never expect a date to pay for dinner or activities. I would be insulted if she did.
  • Zealand4530
    Zealand4530 Posts: 180 Member
    Being a gentleman I would never expect a date to pay for dinner or activities. I would be insulted if she did.

    Nice guy but this is how you start to lose control
  • arleban
    arleban Posts: 369 Member
    edited August 2016
    A war date sounds strangely appealing

    Bish hand me the check or I swear to god I will put this taser to use!!

    You think I won't taser you?! I will tase everyone in this restaurant!!

    Boom. Love at first threat. The happy couple then leave and both get tased by the establishment as they forgot to pay the check in their hormone and adrenaline fueled romance.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    Would it be wrong to ask a women to pay for everything? (I don't do this, but I'm curious about the "double standard")
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  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    Would it be wrong to ask a women to pay for everything? (I don't do this, but I'm curious about the "double standard")

    to ask her to pay, is probably wrong. I have never been asked to pay for everything.
  • selina884
    selina884 Posts: 826 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    Would it be wrong to ask a women to pay for everything? (I don't do this, but I'm curious about the "double standard")
    that's no Alpha trait
  • arleban
    arleban Posts: 369 Member
    edited August 2016
    selina884 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    Would it be wrong to ask a women to pay for everything? (I don't do this, but I'm curious about the "double standard")
    that's no Alpha trait

    Yeah, I also headbutt the waiter to make sure everyone knows who the real Alpha is at this date.
  • selina884
    selina884 Posts: 826 Member
    arleban wrote: »
    selina884 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    Would it be wrong to ask a women to pay for everything? (I don't do this, but I'm curious about the "double standard")
    that's no Alpha trait

    Yeah, I also headbutt the waiter to make sure everyone knows who the real Alpha is at this date.

    haha!

  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    I met a guy off of PoF years and years ago at Applebee's who tried to insist we order off the "2 for $20" part of the menu...I told him that I didn't mind paying for my lunch and he said "good because I don't have a lot of cash on me"

    I still see him on Tinder...