Feeling unattractive?

cklbrown

There are times I feel unattractive but I know that I have so many wonderful attributes. I try to focus on the things that make me feel more secure about myself. My self confidence is more attractive than I will ever be physically.

aneedforchange

In the past.. but I think feeling physically unattractive has more to do with how you feel about yourself as a person and I was at the time in alot of bad relationships with guys that wanted to break me down and I let them. I suspect they wanted to keep me fat ... To keep me and thinking about it now it's scary how low their self esteem must have been because I'm insanely loyal..ugh bad times. You need to raise that confidence girl!

Lone_wolf46

Never

Christina7796

Sure do

Lyds8585

Yes... hopefully that will change as I lose weight...

ASAPStocky

I have good and bad days...been leaning heavily bad as of late

LJ16MFP

cdiller77 wrote: »

Sure do

No reason too Hunni .. attractive lady

31Nightmare

AashenReykar wrote: »

low self esteem/self worth/self image coupled with an overactive mind means on the rare occasion i am given a compliment i always question the motivation behind it; even amidst the knowledge that doing that is a result of LSE. I'm sure many others are in the same boat.

We all seem to want to rebel against societal norms regarding what is good/is not good and how we see ourselves, but we are just as quick to forget that when making judgement of others.

I wish I was in the same boat as you

There may or may not be motivation behind that

Motorsheen

LJ16MFP wrote: »

cdiller77 wrote: »

Sure do

No reason too Hunni .. attractive lady

And how, mister! and how.

I would write a bad check or two, I damn sure would.

31Nightmare

Im not feeling unattractive, I know I am ugly. Talk all you want, no one looks on the inside, it shines- it might actually be kind of a filtered light, a bit crazy and female.
Always have been always will be. To top it off, going through a divorce, back to school after 11 years, and being ditched doesn't help. At least if i was attractive, I dont know .. it'd be something.
maybe I wouldn't have held on to a emotionally abusive husband as long, maybe I could go out and laugh with friends because id actually have some, maybe my mom would be happier to call me her daughter, maybe my form would improve because i could actually stand to look in the mirror when lifting.
Being ugly has its benefits, and perhaps that's all that matters- how we use who we are to make this world a little better. I'd rather be ugly and alone yet be able to empathize and help someone feel better about themself, than be beautiful. I know what it's like and maybe I can help someone so they don't have to struggle. And maybe so I dont have to always struggle alone.

chelsearutene

I've put back on weight lately and my bad diet shows I've been getting blemishes and oily skin ....feel terrible to be fair ...gets me down no matter how I try and play it off as I don't care

kathywinterhalter

Absolutely. But I'm trying not to focus on that right now.

slimgirljo15

I have good days and bad days ..it happens to us all.

TravisJHunt

You all look amazing!

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kwph

Wow ...I didn't know so many people felt that way ...Give credit 2 anyone being so honest ...I guess everyone has their moments ...I get told I look angry (5 am @ the gym I'm just not awake yet & I'm not the most social at that point either) ....Good days & bad days Definitely

kwph

...But I have 2 say ...It is Amazing how far a smile can go for u ...So boys & girls ...That's the lesson of the day ...Smile!

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GymRatSF

I think it is hard to look in the mirror and not see the person we use to be no matter what we look like now and as a result feel unattractive. I definitely struggle with that. I still see the rail thin person I was most of my life and have a hard time accepting compliments as a result. I often think that fixing the person on the inside is more important than the one on the outside.

BinaryPulsar

LiftingLady5 wrote: »

Today is a feeling very ugly day. Maybe because it was grey and raining. Maybe because lots of stress. Maybe because other things in my life should be better than they are but they aren't. But, tomorrow is another day.

I think you are adorable. And pretty eyes.

But, I understand. I have some pain conditions from medical injury. I feel down, vulnerable, and a little scared when pain is flaring up.

Svanel

Yes. Often, actually. Idk. Low self-esteem, damaged goods, call it what you want. I can relate to a comment that said they are told they are beautiful, etc. But feel the person is lying. Exactly how I feel. Lol. I feel disgusting most days. If I was beautiful, I would have someone, right? Who knows. Life is crazy beautiful and works in mysterious ways. Maybe my soulmate is still wandering about hah tmi

waffles_tasty_waffles

I'm not going to try and get all philosophical here, but what im reading in these threads there's a theme of how much negative we see in ourselves. im included in that regardless of how much I'm told otherwise. One important thing to remember is that "beauty" is in the eye of the beholder, one of the most beautiful women I know was my best friend, and she didn't see it or feel that way about herself and didn't believe I could either. so just becuase you aren't beautiful by your standards or maybe a magazines or maybe even some people doesn't mean 1. that you aren't beautiful and 2. other people don't find you beautiful, or handsome (in the case for the Bros). I know it's hard but try to hold your head high and know that someone out there will find your physical appearance wonderful and when you show that person who you are also (unless you're a complete turd) on the inside you'll go from beautiful to amazing. that's the most sentimental and emo I'll be getting all year. thank you for shopping s mart.

slimgirljo15

antisocial_gymrat wrote: »

I'm not going to try and get all philosophical here, but what im reading in these threads there's a theme of how much negative we see in ourselves. im included in that regardless of how much I'm told otherwise. One important thing to remember is that "beauty" is in the eye of the beholder, one of the most beautiful women I know was my best friend, and she didn't see it or feel that way about herself and didn't believe I could either. so just becuase you aren't beautiful by your standards or maybe a magazines or maybe even some people doesn't mean 1. that you aren't beautiful and 2. other people don't find you beautiful, or handsome (in the case for the Bros). I know it's hard but try to hold your head high and know that someone out there will find your physical appearance wonderful and when you show that person who you are also (unless you're a complete turd) on the inside you'll go from beautiful to amazing. that's the most sentimental and emo I'll be getting all year. thank you for shopping s mart.

Lol..I've met a few good looking turds ..
I agree with your sentiments. Thing is you can tell someone till you're blue in the face that they are attractive ..but if they don't see it ..they will always think you are lying.

waffles_tasty_waffles

slimgirljo15 wrote: »

antisocial_gymrat wrote: »

I'm not going to try and get all philosophical here, but what im reading in these threads there's a theme of how much negative we see in ourselves. im included in that regardless of how much I'm told otherwise. One important thing to remember is that "beauty" is in the eye of the beholder, one of the most beautiful women I know was my best friend, and she didn't see it or feel that way about herself and didn't believe I could either. so just becuase you aren't beautiful by your standards or maybe a magazines or maybe even some people doesn't mean 1. that you aren't beautiful and 2. other people don't find you beautiful, or handsome (in the case for the Bros). I know it's hard but try to hold your head high and know that someone out there will find your physical appearance wonderful and when you show that person who you are also (unless you're a complete turd) on the inside you'll go from beautiful to amazing. that's the most sentimental and emo I'll be getting all year. thank you for shopping s mart.

Lol..I've met a few good looking turds ..
I agree with your sentiments. Thing is you can tell someone till you're blue in the face that they are attractive ..but if they don't see it ..they will always think you are lying.

torally agree. that's why I was saying that what we see as beautiful even with our own selves doesn't depict how others see us. even if we feel that way. feeling ugly is something I wish I could change about people. it's really a tough feeling.

moya_bleh

5ft 8, grey hair, ugly face, not shredded enough, single for four years and counting. Unattractive? I genuinely hate myself and I am 100% ashamed of myself for the way I look and the effect that my appearance has on women.

rugratz2015

This is such a sad thread, people listing what they consider makes them ugly, when actually, the truth is that beauty comes from within. I genuinely believe there is someone for everyone but if you can't love yourself you can't really expect anyone else too...

Etsar73

Hard to type this but yes very much how I feel about myself most days, and how I have felt for my entire life. It's difficult when you suffer from anxiety (at times debilitating). Often goes hand in hand with feeling very negative.

Motorsheen

moya_bleh wrote: »

5ft 8, grey hair, ugly face, not shredded enough, single for four years and counting. Unattractive? I genuinely hate myself and I am 100% ashamed of myself for the way I look and the effect that my appearance has on women.

well now.... the only direction from this is 'up', isn't it?

Svanel

moya_bleh wrote: »

5ft 8, grey hair, ugly face, not shredded enough, single for four years and counting. Unattractive? I genuinely hate myself and I am 100% ashamed of myself for the way I look and the effect that my appearance has on women.

i don't see it. you're very attractive! don't see being single as a bad thing - do things that you otherwise would not do. i've been single now for 2 years. i don't miss the drama of a relationship. i do miss the hugs and the intimacy perhaps. but i love that i can be me and no one can say otherwise. if i have a bad day i have a bad day. i can call friends and talk or i can go for a long drive and get out of this town.

Cerealsensei

I used to struggle with self image/self esteem and it's still an issue from time to time. Some days I feel like a god and other days not so much. But I realized that for me personally the things I don't like about myself, whether physical or mental are things that I have the power to change.

The more I exercise and stay on course the more I generally feel better about myself. Other people's opinions on how I look are starting to mean less and less to me because to be honest most people can and will find any reason not to like you, if it's wasn't your looks it would be something else really trivial.

There was a point i meant to make but now I think I'm just rambling.

But to end this comment, sometimes you just gotta look in the mirror, tell yourself you're awesome and there's no one else like you on earth, and keep it moving.