Other people's reactions to your weight loss or diet

Canehdn

Most people actually don't seem to care. Especially when they're trying and not seeing success. Some actually seem mad that I talk about it instead of being happy for me.
I've mostly stopped talking about it, because of that.

sfa90

Yesterday someone made a comment, but I didn't really liked it. She was screaming at me ohhh you lost at least 25kg, I've lost 15kg but ok. After she said I look soo fantastic and beautiful.
I guess I should feel happy when someone tells me I look amazing, but I feel like oh so before I looked terrible? I don't know I prefer people don't say antything about my weight loss.

clbortiz

estherjellybabe wrote: »

The saddest part about losing weight is that I am finding that people are consistently nicer to me now compared to before. It's a subtle, wordless thing; and they probably don't even notice it themselves. It truly shows how people can't help but judge someone just on their appearance.

I agree, I find people are nicer to me now and strangers say hello and make more eye contact BUT I also find that I am more confident and happier now and I put out more effort to do my hair and makeup and look nicer, have a happier attitude overall, hold my head up when walking down the street and make eye contact with people before they say hello (where in the past I would dart my eyes away from them and ignore them).

I think for me, people treating me better is a direct result of me treating myself better and being more confident.

birgitkwood

I've had relatively few comments on my 100 lb weight loss over the past year. But I simply believe that the people in my life are polite! I also had, thankfully, very few comments on my rather precipitous weight GAIN the year before! (My husband had a bad stroke and the anxiety took its toll.) Either way, it's MY journey and MY body - I'm grateful that most people in my life keep their opinions about my physical shape to themselves.

poolchicko5

I am 5'5'' and 143lbs and I've been like this off and on for about 14 years. I'm 30. Any time I lose weight people tell me I look sick. Any time I talk about losing weight and getting in shape people like to tell me how great I look and don't need to lose anything. It's really discouraging either way because I'm not comfortable with myself. Having cellulite/flabby tummy and arms has stayed with me more on than off because of these comments. I'm trying hard again and have gotten my boyfriend to be firm and supportive when I try to make excuses.

katanak9

Chef_Barbell wrote: »

NAP150 wrote: »

Most people have been really supportive and I have this one man at a club I belong to make such a big deal the other day it was actually embarrassing as he would not stop, He is not a close friend and he continued to make a big deal after I had thanked him for noticing. Anyone else have anything like this happen and how can you handle it as I felt he was actually making a bit of a scene at the club.

I would fart really loudly. But I'm pretty uncouth. :laugh:

Best. Response. Ever! My hubby and I cracked up at that.

NannersBalletLegs

I've had people react to the fact that I'm cutting calories like they think I have an eating disorder...and I'm like, "yeah...I've been a compulsive snacker with almost no restraint for years, and my BMI was pushing from overweight into obesity territory. I think I'll be okay if I cut back for a while." It's frustrating that so few are actually happy for you when you get motivated to make a positive change in your life and get healthy.

jjohnstonlni

(Coworker) "wow you look like you've lost weight! What? Down 15 or so?"
(Me) "thanks, I'm down 65"
Coworker choked on her coffee

sunnysunny88

I keep trying to tell my mother in law that I'm not on a 'diet' this is a lifestyle change that I plan to keep doing. When she cooks for us, she would say ' eat this, you can continue your diet tomorrow' and I'm like ' it's not a diet and I can fit this into my lifestyle' haha and she told me that she thinks I eat too little and I said don't worry I never let myself go hungry and I've got plenty of energy

KatyBell164

15 pounds in, no one has noticed so far - I'm so excited for someone to say something lol

killindafat

KatyBell164 wrote: »

15 pounds in, no one has noticed so far - I'm so excited for someone to say something lol

Just from your picture that you have as a default i can see a major difference. Keep up the good work!

Ive had a few customers at work look at me and ask me if ive lost weight and that my face looks a lot thinner. Its the first thing to go. Id rather have my stomach gone!

shetland

I remember years ago when I first lost weight. I was 24 and lost about 85 pounds. I was a healthy size 6, 5'5, 135 pounds. I worked at a pediatrician's office and rumors started circulating that I had CANCER!! I had patients hug me and tell me they were praying for me I finally set them all straight and then they all started asking me to tell them how they could do it too!! I managed to keep the weight off for 10 years, then had two kids and gained a bunch of weight. I decided when I turned 39 that I would try to get back to 135 by my 40th birthday. I was living in a new town where everyone knew me as "heavy", so when I lost all that weight people were really positive about it, but I am sure people talked as well.

tinamarie6624

I've lost 170 Lbs (I have 93 left to go). Most people have been supportive and let me know that they have seen how much weight I've lost. I have an aunt who had a weird reaction and said she would pray for me to lose the rest of the weight. I'm sure she meant it in the best possible way but to my way of thinking that denotes that she doesn't think I will finish my journey. I've also had people not to lose too much. (Other family member) I just scoffed at that one when I have this much still to lose.

scjl132

I ran into a former co-worker who had not seen me while I was losing weight, she looked me up and down. Then sat down beside me and said, "You're not sick are you?" I told her that I was fine. But what I should have said was, "Yes, sick of being fat!"

lorrpb

tinamarie6624 wrote: »

I've lost 170 Lbs (I have 93 left to go). Most people have been supportive and let me know that they have seen how much weight I've lost. I have an aunt who had a weird reaction and said she would pray for me to lose the rest of the weight. I'm sure she meant it in the best possible way but to my way of thinking that denotes that she doesn't think I will finish my journey. I've also had people not to lose too much. (Other family member) I just scoffed at that one when I have this much still to lose.

Maybe she prayed for you because she has some understanding of how hard it can be to keep on track. Sweet aunt!

jroth261

I just think it's bizarre who even notices. I've lost weight a few times before and it only seems to be coworkers or casual acquaintances that throw you a compliment. I know it's harder for people you see everyday to notice it, but still, after a certain point, it's like "hello! something different about me?!" The most weight I lost before wasn't intentional, it was due to stress, and I was actually just barely underweight. Nobody said anything while I was shrinking except a distant relative.

Untilproud11

The worst comment I've got:

Keep ur old clothes cause u never know what happens...:(

And people just don't get that you can eat anything you want but not tons of it ( as long as it fits in ur daily allowance) , so when i go out and eat a couple slices of pizza their jaw drops

NanP135

I had a co worker keep glancing at me the other day and then asked if I had been on a vacation....LOL I could see in her eyes she was trying to figure out what was different but couldn't quite figure it out.

MaybeLed

I think it's a combination of factors closeness and gender being important.

Spent the weekend with my in-laws, I've lost about 30lb he's lost about 35lb, they go on and on about his loss, whereas I get a 'you're looking well'. Neither has comented on how we're eating, but being closer to him they comment.

In contrast one of my great friends (male) whom I eat with noticed, and eventually when I brought up MFP he gushed about how well I was doing but said he didn't want to say anything to make it awkward (and therefore have to avoid each other forever). A female colleage also said something (no prompting) and I panicked and told her how much I lost, so we both looked stunned until the standard response came up:

quiksylver296

I went to my chiropractor last night and when I walked in he was talking to his previous appointment about the "blood type diet." Pretty sure I rolled my eyes out loud. Then he began to ask me about my powerlifting, and he about lost his kitten when I told him I was currently on 50% carbs. He seriously asked me "What's the science behind that?" I thought, "You've got to be kidding me?!? You were just advocating the blood type diet to someone, and you want to know the 'science' behind mine?!?"

He's a really nice guy and a terrific chiropractor, but I won't be taking diet advice from him anytime soon.