Weird gender attraction question
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Can't believe I'm posting this, but heck.
First let's start by saying that I've very rarely been physically attracted by someone. I'm not a very sexual person and I need to be emotionally involved to even consider getting there, and even when I like someone, having sex is typically not the first thing in my mind (I guess I'm weird. Dunno).
The thing though is that I've met a couple women in my life that I found very attractive... which isn't much, but I can't say I've felt that way about more than a couple men either. Does it mean I'm bi? I mean, I've never even considered having sex with them but frankly there's really one man I can think of that I haven't been with and actually felt physical desire for so... I'm not sure it really means anything. I'd say that 95% of men and women, even if I find them beautiful/handsome, just don't make me feel any attraction whatsoever.
Thoughts? Is it normal?
First let's start by saying that I've very rarely been physically attracted by someone. I'm not a very sexual person and I need to be emotionally involved to even consider getting there, and even when I like someone, having sex is typically not the first thing in my mind (I guess I'm weird. Dunno).
The thing though is that I've met a couple women in my life that I found very attractive... which isn't much, but I can't say I've felt that way about more than a couple men either. Does it mean I'm bi? I mean, I've never even considered having sex with them but frankly there's really one man I can think of that I haven't been with and actually felt physical desire for so... I'm not sure it really means anything. I'd say that 95% of men and women, even if I find them beautiful/handsome, just don't make me feel any attraction whatsoever.
Thoughts? Is it normal?
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If you can't get it wet, get it muddy.11
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TavistockToad wrote: »
Lol yeah...0 -
TavistockToad wrote: »
Indeed, but lesbihonest, I was just playin'18 -
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OP, nothing is wrong with you. If you feel an attraction to someone, for any reason, than it is normal.3
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I think you are just emotionally attracted - as in, you could really love them as a friend.
Our society has corrupted people's minds into thinking if you are connected to someone that connection must be sexual.
The Greeks had lost of names for love, which described many different kinds, and only one of them, eros, was sexual. There was brotherly love, friendship love (which you may be experiencing), paternal love and the general goodness/kindness for humanity, agape. There are more, but I can't remember them off hand.
You said your emotions are connected to your ability to be physically attracted. I would say that your physical attraction is a "fantom symptom" of your emotional connection, that if ignored, would go away, while the friendship aspect could flourish.
You should look up lesbian bed death. Even women who really are attracted to women don't stay physically attracted, and just stop having sex.
So why bother starting, and getting yourself confused about your identity over something that is not real?8 -
If you feel attracted to both sexes then you have a larger pool to choose from.
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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »I think you are just emotionally attracted - as in, you could really love them as a friend.
Our society has corrupted people's minds into thinking if you are connected to someone that connection must be sexual.
The Greeks had lost of names for love, which described many different kinds, and only one of them, eros, was sexual. There was brotherly love, friendship love (which you may be experiencing), paternal love and the general goodness/kindness for humanity, agape. There are more, but I can't remember them off hand.
You said your emotions are connected to your ability to be physically attracted. I would say that your physical attraction is a "fantom symptom" of your emotional connection, that if ignored, would go away, while the friendship aspect could flourish.
You should look up lesbian bed death. Even women who really are attracted to women don't stay physically attracted, and just stop having sex.
So why bother starting, and getting yourself confused about your identity over something that is not real?
Congratulations on completely discrediting an entire group of people.19 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »I think you are just emotionally attracted - as in, you could really love them as a friend.
Our society has corrupted people's minds into thinking if you are connected to someone that connection must be sexual.
The Greeks had lost of names for love, which described many different kinds, and only one of them, eros, was sexual. There was brotherly love, friendship love (which you may be experiencing), paternal love and the general goodness/kindness for humanity, agape. There are more, but I can't remember them off hand.
You said your emotions are connected to your ability to be physically attracted. I would say that your physical attraction is a "fantom symptom" of your emotional connection, that if ignored, would go away, while the friendship aspect could flourish.
You should look up lesbian bed death. Even women who really are attracted to women don't stay physically attracted, and just stop having sex.
So why bother starting, and getting yourself confused about your identity over something that is not real?
Err what? It's 2016. Open up. Don't believe all the anti gay stuff you read.
I wasn't talking about anyone specific, to specify. Hasn't really happened to me in years.4 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »I think you are just emotionally attracted - as in, you could really love them as a friend.
Our society has corrupted people's minds into thinking if you are connected to someone that connection must be sexual.
The Greeks had lost of names for love, which described many different kinds, and only one of them, eros, was sexual. There was brotherly love, friendship love (which you may be experiencing), paternal love and the general goodness/kindness for humanity, agape. There are more, but I can't remember them off hand.
You said your emotions are connected to your ability to be physically attracted. I would say that your physical attraction is a "fantom symptom" of your emotional connection, that if ignored, would go away, while the friendship aspect could flourish.
You should look up lesbian bed death. Even women who really are attracted to women don't stay physically attracted, and just stop having sex.
So why bother starting, and getting yourself confused about your identity over something that is not real?
Ancient Greeks also slept with young boys...so there is that...11 -
Escloflowne wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »I think you are just emotionally attracted - as in, you could really love them as a friend.
Our society has corrupted people's minds into thinking if you are connected to someone that connection must be sexual.
The Greeks had lost of names for love, which described many different kinds, and only one of them, eros, was sexual. There was brotherly love, friendship love (which you may be experiencing), paternal love and the general goodness/kindness for humanity, agape. There are more, but I can't remember them off hand.
You said your emotions are connected to your ability to be physically attracted. I would say that your physical attraction is a "fantom symptom" of your emotional connection, that if ignored, would go away, while the friendship aspect could flourish.
You should look up lesbian bed death. Even women who really are attracted to women don't stay physically attracted, and just stop having sex.
So why bother starting, and getting yourself confused about your identity over something that is not real?
Ancient Greeks also slept with young boys...so there is that...
*golf clap*0 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »I think you are just emotionally attracted - as in, you could really love them as a friend.
Our society has corrupted people's minds into thinking if you are connected to someone that connection must be sexual.
The Greeks had lost of names for love, which described many different kinds, and only one of them, eros, was sexual. There was brotherly love, friendship love (which you may be experiencing), paternal love and the general goodness/kindness for humanity, agape. There are more, but I can't remember them off hand.
You said your emotions are connected to your ability to be physically attracted. I would say that your physical attraction is a "fantom symptom" of your emotional connection, that if ignored, would go away, while the friendship aspect could flourish.
You should look up lesbian bed death. Even women who really are attracted to women don't stay physically attracted, and just stop having sex.
So why bother starting, and getting yourself confused about your identity over something that is not real?
Sources? Mind you Westboro Baptist isn't a credible one.8 -
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Is the issue that the one man you are sexually attracted to isn't your mate?
Sexuality is fluid for many people, desire for sex ebbs and flows - attraction less about genitals and more about appearance and personality. You're fine. Enjoy life.3 -
Usually, I don't judge a book by its cover, but good looks always help0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TB73Ko12yiQ
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