Weird gender attraction question
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OMG so many terms I've never heard of!! Back in the day, you liked girls, you liked boys, or you liked both and didn't tell your parents. It's a new world, for sure!
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SquallGull wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
As no one can be as genetically related to you as you except a clone or identical twin, I would consider this to be a form of incestuous attraction.
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Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.4 -
saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!1 -
BinaryPulsar wrote: »Wheelhouse15 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Is it wrong to be attracted to a Green Chili Burrito?
.....I'm asking for a friend.
Objectum sexual
So fetishism has a new term?
No, it's not fetishism. It's a rare situation in which people do not have sexual attraction or romantic interest in people. They feel that they are in love with specific objects and the objects are also in love with them. I'm pretty sure it's classified as a mental illness (though they disagree). Everyone that has this condition has other disorders along with it such as a severe attachment disorder.
Interesting, I don't remember that from my Sexual Psych class but I guess it's probably been cleaved off from fetishism recently. I would doubt that it's considered a mental illness unless it's causing the person emotional distress. AFAIK almost all of the sexually related disorders were removed from such classifications unless they cause emotional distress because they were really just encoding morals into psychiatry e.g. homosexuality.
ETA just noticed I missed where you mentioned that there were associated personality disorders so it's probably a disorder by extension.
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Escloflowne wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!
You act like you don't even have a vagina.
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GnothiSeauton23 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!
with fries
I wonder if there's research to back that up!
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KrazyDaizy wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!
You act like you don't even have a vagina.
Since joining MFP, I know about vaginas than most female posters on MFP asking why they have gained weight on the rag0 -
SquallGull wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connection
Is there something for 'almost never sexually attracted by anyone'? lol.
Yes, that's what demi-sexual is. Demi-sexual is not completely asexual. It's a person with a low sex drive that doesn't feel physically attracted to people based on physicality alone. They only sometimes want sex with a person they have formed an emotional connection with.
I think it might be worth a try to date women and see how it goes.
I'm bisexual. But, I have a high sex drive.
Your description of demi-sexual is more in line with Grey Asexual / Grey-A. Demisexuals do not necessarily have a low sex drive. Some demi-sexuals have a rather high sex drive. They just have sexual feelings for people they already have some kind of emotional connection with.
Oh interesting. I didn't know that. I always saw it described as low sex drive. That's why the word demi. I do agree the vast amount of labels now gets confusing. But, I do understand people wanting to be able to accurately seek compatible partners. Thanks for the info.0 -
Escloflowne wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!
lol lesbians have sex many different ways, and scissoring is almost never one of them. Some people do not mind the blood, some play in the shower, some people use something to block the flow, obviously there are more methods too but I'm not really sure how to discuss this without grossing some people out...2 -
GnothiSeauton23 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!
with fries
everything is better with fries....1 -
Caporegiem wrote: »toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »if it doesn't burn WORSE when it leaves you...it was never love
That's pretty insightful for someone with only 163 posts...
oh and by that you meant someone with a life, right?6 -
saragreen012 wrote: »OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit.
Orrrr, OP, you could just not label it and just go with it.
Why is our society so obsessed with labels? It seems very odd to me that we desire to stick labels on very complex parts of who we are (everyone must have a sexuality label, a religious label, a political ideology label....blah)
Labeling/categorizing EVERYTHING is very anti-queer imo1 -
saragreen012 wrote: »OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit.
Orrrr, OP, you could just not label it and just go with it.
Why is our society so obsessed with labels? It seems very odd to me that we desire to stick labels on very complex parts of who we are (everyone must have a sexuality label, a religious label, a political ideology label....blah)
Labeling/categorizing EVERYTHING is very anti-queer imo
Isn't Queer, a label but otherwise I agree?0 -
MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connectionBinaryPulsar wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
I don't know. Maybe auto-sexual. I might have just made that word up. But, I have found that if you search anything sexual that it probably has people talking about it or proclaiming a fetish for it.
This is more of a meta comment....
I hate the current LGBTQ-academic movement to stick a label on every feckin mode of sexuality out there
It also seems quite "anti-queer" as the point of queer theory has been to break the confines of societally imposed labels and recognize things like sexuality as self-determined and sometimes fluid/uncategorizable
Anyway, carry on....
I understand and agree to a degree. I understand that people are wanting to understand their sex drive because it leads to less conflict in relationship when people understand and are up front about that. It's not an issue for me personally. I think it's more of an issue for people with low sex drive or asexual.
I personally just identify as bisexual. Like I always have. I don't really understand why pansexual had to come into existence. I guess people didn't like the term bi meaning two. But, I feel like pansexual is just unnecessarily singling people out based on their gender orientation. But, whatever. I don't care. People can do what they want. I don't want to make an issue out of it.
I think some people go overboard with too many labels. But, again, whatever, they can do what they want.
I just studied sexuality and learn a lot about it and certain things just stick in my mind.
Sexuality is definitely fluid and on a spectrum.1 -
Wheelhouse15 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »Wheelhouse15 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Is it wrong to be attracted to a Green Chili Burrito?
.....I'm asking for a friend.
Objectum sexual
So fetishism has a new term?
No, it's not fetishism. It's a rare situation in which people do not have sexual attraction or romantic interest in people. They feel that they are in love with specific objects and the objects are also in love with them. I'm pretty sure it's classified as a mental illness (though they disagree). Everyone that has this condition has other disorders along with it such as a severe attachment disorder.
Interesting, I don't remember that from my Sexual Psych class but I guess it's probably been cleaved off from fetishism recently. I would doubt that it's considered a mental illness unless it's causing the person emotional distress. AFAIK almost all of the sexually related disorders were removed from such classifications unless they cause emotional distress because they were really just encoding morals into psychiatry e.g. homosexuality.
ETA just noticed I missed where you mentioned that there were associated personality disorders so it's probably a disorder by extension.
I just saw it in documentaries and stuff on tv at one point. It's very rare. Just a few people in the world. And among those people they have certain types of autism or attachment disorder from severe sexual abuse as a young child by a family member that they lived with. So, they are exploring if it's an orientation or something else. Especially since it's so rare. The people can fall in love with a banister at their church and suffer greatly when it gets replaced. So, it does seem to impact them. Or the main women that talks about it married the Eiffel tower.0 -
saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »saragreen012 wrote: »Escloflowne wrote: »I would just stick with dudes, OP. Women are so high maintenance and a few days a month it's a no go for sex.
It certainly doesn't have to be a no go for sex, there are plenty of options regardless of where either lady is in her menstrual cycle. Also, lesbian bed-death is a greatly exaggerated stereotype, (just like u-hauling) it certainly can happen but it has zero to do with attraction. No one questions a straight woman's sexuality when she is too tired or "not in the mood" to have sex with her husband, so why is that if gay women going through the same thing it's because they "don't stay physically attracted" to each other, or their relationship was a result of a "fantom symptom"??
Relationships take work, regardless of the gender. OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit. Whether you are attracted to no one, or everyone, it's 100% ok.
Like scissoring? How do lesbians have sex on their periods!? For Science of course!
lol lesbians have sex many different ways, and scissoring is almost never one of them. Some people do not mind the blood, some play in the shower, some people use something to block the flow, obviously there are more methods too but I'm not really sure how to discuss this without grossing some people out...
I'm disgusted but intrigued....0 -
MeganMoroz89 wrote: »This thread just went all over the place, didn't it
If they go over 1 page, it's a guarantee; that it'll!0 -
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BinaryPulsar wrote: »MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connectionBinaryPulsar wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
I don't know. Maybe auto-sexual. I might have just made that word up. But, I have found that if you search anything sexual that it probably has people talking about it or proclaiming a fetish for it.
This is more of a meta comment....
I hate the current LGBTQ-academic movement to stick a label on every feckin mode of sexuality out there
It also seems quite "anti-queer" as the point of queer theory has been to break the confines of societally imposed labels and recognize things like sexuality as self-determined and sometimes fluid/uncategorizable
Anyway, carry on....
I understand and agree to a degree. I understand that people are wanting to understand their sex drive because it leads to less conflict in relationship when people understand and are up front about that. It's not an issue for me personally. I think it's more of an issue for people with low sex drive or asexual.
I personally just identify as bisexual. Like I always have. I don't really understand why pansexual had to come into existence. I guess people didn't like the term bi meaning two. But, I feel like pansexual is just unnecessarily singling people out based on their gender orientation. But, whatever. I don't care. People can do what they want. I don't want to make an issue out of it.
I think some people go overboard with too many labels. But, again, whatever, they can do what they want.
I just studied sexuality and learn a lot about it and certain things just stick in my mind.
Sexuality is definitely fluid and on a spectrum.
I have to agree that the labeling is getting ridiculous. I thought pansexual used to be the old term for bisexual and I think queer morphed from meaning homosexual to more about a persons view of their gender but the thing I object to the most is that gender is a social term and not a biological one. Gender is not the male/female binary (leaving out hermaphrodites here) but masculine and feminine as defined by ones culture. The signal to noise ratio is getting lower right now and starting to become meaningless due to political correctness. I'm just hoping we can get a handle on this sooner than later so we can have an open and honest dialogue about how to treat everyone with the same respect and decency without the gender politics.
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GnothiSeauton23 wrote: »MeganMoroz89 wrote: »This thread just went all over the place, didn't it
we are just experimenting with different topics
LOL
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saragreen012 wrote: »OP, you are the only one who gets to determine (and label) your sexuality. If you were to just reading through a list of sexualities, based only on what you've told us, demi-sexual may be the best fit.
Orrrr, OP, you could just not label it and just go with it.
Why is our society so obsessed with labels? It seems very odd to me that we desire to stick labels on very complex parts of who we are (everyone must have a sexuality label, a religious label, a political ideology label....blah)
Labeling/categorizing EVERYTHING is very anti-queer imo
It's just people that are trying to understand what they want and meet sexual partners that they are compatible with. Since there are so many relationships that are difficult because people didn't understand themselves and find compatible partners. Only for people that feel they need that. No one has to label anything. Only if they want to.2 -
BinaryPulsar wrote: »Wheelhouse15 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »Wheelhouse15 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Is it wrong to be attracted to a Green Chili Burrito?
.....I'm asking for a friend.
Objectum sexual
So fetishism has a new term?
No, it's not fetishism. It's a rare situation in which people do not have sexual attraction or romantic interest in people. They feel that they are in love with specific objects and the objects are also in love with them. I'm pretty sure it's classified as a mental illness (though they disagree). Everyone that has this condition has other disorders along with it such as a severe attachment disorder.
Interesting, I don't remember that from my Sexual Psych class but I guess it's probably been cleaved off from fetishism recently. I would doubt that it's considered a mental illness unless it's causing the person emotional distress. AFAIK almost all of the sexually related disorders were removed from such classifications unless they cause emotional distress because they were really just encoding morals into psychiatry e.g. homosexuality.
ETA just noticed I missed where you mentioned that there were associated personality disorders so it's probably a disorder by extension.
I just saw it in documentaries and stuff on tv at one point. It's very rare. Just a few people in the world. And among those people they have certain types of autism or attachment disorder from severe sexual abuse as a young child by a family member that they lived with. So, they are exploring if it's an orientation or something else. Especially since it's so rare. The people can fall in love with a banister at their church and suffer greatly when it gets replaced. So, it does seem to impact them. Or the main women that talks about it married the Eiffel tower.
I wonder if those who buy those expensive sex dolls and treat them like real women fall under this.1 -
Wheelhouse15 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connectionBinaryPulsar wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
I don't know. Maybe auto-sexual. I might have just made that word up. But, I have found that if you search anything sexual that it probably has people talking about it or proclaiming a fetish for it.
This is more of a meta comment....
I hate the current LGBTQ-academic movement to stick a label on every feckin mode of sexuality out there
It also seems quite "anti-queer" as the point of queer theory has been to break the confines of societally imposed labels and recognize things like sexuality as self-determined and sometimes fluid/uncategorizable
Anyway, carry on....
I understand and agree to a degree. I understand that people are wanting to understand their sex drive because it leads to less conflict in relationship when people understand and are up front about that. It's not an issue for me personally. I think it's more of an issue for people with low sex drive or asexual.
I personally just identify as bisexual. Like I always have. I don't really understand why pansexual had to come into existence. I guess people didn't like the term bi meaning two. But, I feel like pansexual is just unnecessarily singling people out based on their gender orientation. But, whatever. I don't care. People can do what they want. I don't want to make an issue out of it.
I think some people go overboard with too many labels. But, again, whatever, they can do what they want.
I just studied sexuality and learn a lot about it and certain things just stick in my mind.
Sexuality is definitely fluid and on a spectrum.
I have to agree that the labeling is getting ridiculous. I thought pansexual used to be the old term for bisexual and I think queer morphed from meaning homosexual to more about a persons view of their gender but the thing I object to the most is that gender is a social term and not a biological one. Gender is not the male/female binary (leaving out hermaphrodites here) but masculine and feminine as defined by ones culture. The signal to noise ratio is getting lower right now and starting to become meaningless due to political correctness. I'm just hoping we can get a handle on this sooner than later so we can have an open and honest dialogue about how to treat everyone with the same respect and decency without the gender politics.
I've thought something very similar, but not as well worded in my head.1 -
BinaryPulsar wrote: »MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connectionBinaryPulsar wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
I don't know. Maybe auto-sexual. I might have just made that word up. But, I have found that if you search anything sexual that it probably has people talking about it or proclaiming a fetish for it.
This is more of a meta comment....
I hate the current LGBTQ-academic movement to stick a label on every feckin mode of sexuality out there
It also seems quite "anti-queer" as the point of queer theory has been to break the confines of societally imposed labels and recognize things like sexuality as self-determined and sometimes fluid/uncategorizable
Anyway, carry on....
I understand and agree to a degree. I understand that people are wanting to understand their sex drive because it leads to less conflict in relationship when people understand and are up front about that. It's not an issue for me personally. I think it's more of an issue for people with low sex drive or asexual.
I personally just identify as bisexual. Like I always have. I don't really understand why pansexual had to come into existence. I guess people didn't like the term bi meaning two. But, I feel like pansexual is just unnecessarily singling people out based on their gender orientation. But, whatever. I don't care. People can do what they want. I don't want to make an issue out of it.
I think some people go overboard with too many labels. But, again, whatever, they can do what they want.
I just studied sexuality and learn a lot about it and certain things just stick in my mind.
Sexuality is definitely fluid and on a spectrum.
Fair points. I get that "sexuality" labels are convenient ways to communicate your preferences and also important for validating a multiplicity of forms of sexuality
I think labeling things has historically been a weird subconscious way for humans to avoid dealing with the scary complexity of the world. The problem is, when everything has a label/category, things that fall outside that are then "othered" or labelled as "unnatural." Plus, it's a shame to simplify/categorize every aspect of what makes one human.....since humanity's beauty is in its complexity.
It's just seems so strange to me.... With all these labels it seems like the queer community itself is afraid of the gray O_o
I dunno though. To each their own. I guess if you want a label, then pull one out of the hat that applies to you.
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BinaryPulsar wrote: »MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connectionBinaryPulsar wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
I don't know. Maybe auto-sexual. I might have just made that word up. But, I have found that if you search anything sexual that it probably has people talking about it or proclaiming a fetish for it.
This is more of a meta comment....
I hate the current LGBTQ-academic movement to stick a label on every feckin mode of sexuality out there
It also seems quite "anti-queer" as the point of queer theory has been to break the confines of societally imposed labels and recognize things like sexuality as self-determined and sometimes fluid/uncategorizable
Anyway, carry on....
I understand and agree to a degree. I understand that people are wanting to understand their sex drive because it leads to less conflict in relationship when people understand and are up front about that. It's not an issue for me personally. I think it's more of an issue for people with low sex drive or asexual.
I personally just identify as bisexual. Like I always have. I don't really understand why pansexual had to come into existence. I guess people didn't like the term bi meaning two. But, I feel like pansexual is just unnecessarily singling people out based on their gender orientation. But, whatever. I don't care. People can do what they want. I don't want to make an issue out of it.
I think some people go overboard with too many labels. But, again, whatever, they can do what they want.
I just studied sexuality and learn a lot about it and certain things just stick in my mind.
Sexuality is definitely fluid and on a spectrum.
Fair points. I get that "sexuality" labels are convenient ways to communicate your preferences and also important for validating a multiplicity of forms of sexuality
I think labeling things has historically been a weird subconscious way for humans to avoid dealing with the scary complexity of the world. The problem is, when everything has a label/category, things that fall outside that are then "othered" or labelled as "unnatural." Plus, it's a shame to simplify/categorize every aspect of what makes one human.....since humanity's beauty is in its complexity.
It's just seems so strange to me.... With all these labels it's seems like the queer community itself is afraid of the gray O_o
I dunno though. To each their own. I guess if you want a label, then pull one out of the hat that applies to you.
Yeah. I definitely understand. I'm not personally into tons of labels or into labels being very specific. But, I do see how it's helpful to some people. So, I think it's just a personal choice. And I'm ok with people exploring that for themselves. Though I would hope they aim towards seeking being understood. And having a long list of labels just creates a bigger barrier of being misunderstood. So, I think people should try to find the right balance for themselves. But, whatever makes them happy. I'm not going to complain.1 -
MeganMoroz89 wrote: »You might feel like you fall into one of these categories:
Pansexual = You can be sexually attracted to any gender, whether or not it is within the male/female binary
Demisexual = You are only sexually attracted to certain people with whom you have an emotional connectionBinaryPulsar wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »What's self attraction's label?
I am not conceited but my self esteem, won't allow me; to be loveless!
I don't know. Maybe auto-sexual. I might have just made that word up. But, I have found that if you search anything sexual that it probably has people talking about it or proclaiming a fetish for it.
This is more of a meta comment....
I hate the current LGBTQ-academic movement to stick a label on every feckin mode of sexuality out there
It also seems quite "anti-queer" as the point of queer theory has been to break the confines of societally imposed labels and recognize things like sexuality as self-determined and sometimes fluid/uncategorizable
Anyway, carry on....
I totally agree that you shouldnt have to label yourself. I generally would not label myself as any one thing, because I am many things, and I do not think that my sexuality is my defining trait. However, many people find it easier to to explain things with labels.
Usually when I discuss my relationship it's in very gender neutral terms because in my experience if I outright mention their gender I am attacked with "why do you always have to talk about your sexuality?" even if the entire conversation was involving relationships and whatever I wrote was on topic and completely non-sexual. So generally it's societies need to label us, and then DEFINE us by that label, not the other way around. I avoid that as much as possible by being vague, but I still know what label would fit me best, and sometimes I'd rather define myself than let someone else do it. Perhaps that is what the OP is looking for as well.3
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