What's on your mind?

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  • cmsienk
    cmsienk Posts: 18,905 Member
    Working at home today, which is not necessarily a good thing. Puts me way too close to my fridge and pantry. πŸ˜‘
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

    You are not alone in your "other"ness. :heart:

    I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.

    Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.

  • steelrod1
    steelrod1 Posts: 127 Member
    edited November 2021
    I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

    You are not alone in your "other"ness. :heart:

    I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.

    Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.

    Interesting thought. Perhaps the fact that "WE" don't fit in is exactly the opposite. Perhaps we do and every one else doesn't. I think the trap of society is just a modern day slavery the elite wants us in. Wake up work your job pay your bills you must conform or you won't fit in. We've gotten so far from real freedom that we can't recognize it anymore. So ladies do you and trust in yourself we do fit in just not with that group. Totally get the lonely thing I'm with ya, just waiting for my people to wake up and notice.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

    You are not alone in your "other"ness. :heart:

    I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.

    Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.

    Are you sure you and I aren't the same person? Oh, wait.. I can't lift like an absolute champ. πŸ˜‚

    You've described it (and me by association) pretty well. And usually, if I force myself to go to the gatherings, I have a good time (most of the time), but it leaves me feeling really, really drained. Like my "people battery" has run out of juice. Alone time replenishes the "juice", but I feel like I require a lot more of it (alone time) than maybe most people I know?

    I know that has to do with being introverted, but still.. kinda sucks when you want to be personable, reach out and do things with people, but feel that the very core of your being rejects that idea entirely. It does lead you to feeling a bit like a freak, honestly.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Completely unrelated, but aww.. bowling ball grouchy face no longer looks like bowling ball grouchy face. :(
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    It's interesting you say this. My oldest is 16 and she is neurodivergent. She hasn't been officially diagnosed (in progress), but we believe she has both ADHD and is autistic / has Tourettes.
    She has uncontrollable tics, which often cause her to jump, cringe, hit herself, or almost hit herself. Sometimes these are accompanied by sounds, clicks or pops.
    If I were in her shoes, i would have felt that I had to do everything in my power to suppress them.
    Must. Assimilate. Right?
    But for her, when I talk about getting her help to manage / control / minimze the tics, she gets upset with me because "this is who I am. Why should I have to change? To make other people feel more comfortable? Nah, they just need to realize there is nothing wrong with me. I'm just different and different isn't bad."
    Note: I don't think she is broken, or needs fixing, or even needs to suppress her stims. I just want her to have as smooth a life as possible.
    I wish I was as comfortable in my skin as she seems to be in hers. I am so proud of her.

    This is fair. She shouldn't have to change if it's not bothering her nor affecting her negatively. Good on her!

    For me, personally, the only time I "change" is when personal well-being is taking such a hit due to mental health struggles that I have to actively seek help, either by reaching out and talking to someone I know (which I dread), or talking to a complete stranger (and paying them), which oddly, I dread a lot less.

    It's not changing, either, when I think about it since I fundamentally cannot alter my brain chemistry to be "not-depressed" and "not-anxious". It just helps figuring things out without my own personal biases getting in the way. Same with talking to folks here: I get different strategies, viewpoints and anecdotes to draw information from and find a solution.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    edited November 2021

    Well.. took me 5 mins to work out how to delete something. Now to see how to add a gif. πŸ™„

    And where have the emoji gone? 😐

  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,741 Member

    Emoji's. Bottom left in the box when typing a reply.

    Phew! Figured something out (which you probably already have. πŸ˜› (Ooooo more tongue ones.)

    (I hate change.)

  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member

    Eewwwww I didn’t know they were gonna change the whole thing! Change is BAD! 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀🀠

  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member

    I see it now πŸ˜‰

    I don't like it at all 😫 Maybe its because I'm on a mobile that it all looks crazy.

  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member

    Nope looks crazy on a desk top also 😫😫

  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member

    I clicked on recent discussions down the bottom in the quick links and it says there are none. Thats not right.. 😠

  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member

    They trying hard to kill the fun and chat..


    Even it's flagged as follow.. it will not list on discussion list.. πŸ™„

  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    edited November 2021

    They trying hard to kill the fun and chat..


    Even it's flagged as follow.. it will not list on discussion list.. πŸ™„


  • PaperDoll_
    PaperDoll_ Posts: 32,857 Member
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member

    Are they making this so difficult for us social users of Fun and Games and Chit Chat cause they are trying to get rid of us? 😫πŸ₯Ί

  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member

    Heading that way.. πŸ™„


    Some of us use them to pass time.. most forum I've been on have an area just to chill with others ("water cooler").

  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member

    it Was fun to be back for a minute but, like, bye πŸ˜‚

  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member

    That should make them stand up and take notice.. make em tremble in their boots πŸ€£πŸ˜‚

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  • cmsienk
    cmsienk Posts: 18,905 Member
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member

    How are you seeing who does the reactions; what am I missing?