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Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
It doesn't really matter in the big picture.1 -
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
It doesn't really matter in the big picture.
True, but in the "small picture" or day to day it's awkward (for me)
I often unabashedly speak my mind, just say my honest and random thoughts...but the responses I get make me feel like I did something wrong.
I'm trying to not care, and I do get over it...but I hold back more than I want to I guess because of negative responses.
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TeinyWinehausen wrote: »
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
Some people are going to get upset or offended regardless, you have no control over that. I think it's the same with being liked by some and not by others. I think speaking your mind is empowering and I do it often but I have learned that timing is everything and I always assess the situation and ask myself beforehand "is this necessary and/or the right time" before I launch into a rant
I'm super bad with that...I've been told I'm cold and just rude or a *kitten*...something for me to work on
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
good point!
It's funny tho because I don't mean to offend...but I can't lie...and apparently lack tact often!1 -
TeinyWinehausen wrote: »
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
Some people are going to get upset or offended regardless, you have no control over that. I think it's the same with being liked by some and not by others. I think speaking your mind is empowering and I do it often but I have learned that timing is everything and I always assess the situation and ask myself beforehand "is this necessary and/or the right time" before I launch into a rant
I'm super bad with that...I've been told I'm cold and just rude or a *kitten*...something for me to work on
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." good point!
It's funny tho because I don't mean to offend...but I can't lie...and apparently lack tact often!
You seem to be doing just fine right now, very tactful and honest and most importantly of all... Genuine
One take away from the Dali Lama in the book of Joy that I got is that we are basically all the same, we all wish to be happy and to not suffer at our cores...
He says that when you think of yourself as different, you automatically set up barriers between you and everyone else which makes it hard to relax and relate to people because you have already decided that you are different...
For myself, this is a daily struggle... So I sort of understand where you are coming from.1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »TeinyWinehausen wrote: »
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
Some people are going to get upset or offended regardless, you have no control over that. I think it's the same with being liked by some and not by others. I think speaking your mind is empowering and I do it often but I have learned that timing is everything and I always assess the situation and ask myself beforehand "is this necessary and/or the right time" before I launch into a rant
I'm super bad with that...I've been told I'm cold and just rude or a *kitten*...something for me to work on
Biggest one is speaking my mind and not having people look at me with blank stares like I did or said something wrong or them being upset or offended.
I guess that insecurity leads me into the other big one...that I am unlikable or put people off.
And that leads into why do I care? About any of the above mentioned...does it matter?
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." good point!
It's funny tho because I don't mean to offend...but I can't lie...and apparently lack tact often!
You seem to be doing just fine right now, very tactful and honest and most importantly of all... Genuine
One take away from the Dali Lama in the book of Joy that I got is that we are basically all the same, we all wish to be happy and to not suffer at our cores...
He says that when you think of yourself as different, you automatically set up barriers between you and everyone else which makes it hard to relax and relate to people because you have already decided that you are different...
For myself, this is a daily struggle... So I sort of understand where you are coming from.
Thank-you...that helps me a lot!
I'm glad you see genuine, because I am.
The bolded is a great point, and it's probably hard to not do for most people.0 -
A dream. It felt so real and how it's going to be on my mind all day.1
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Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »A dream. It felt so real and how it's going to be on my mind all day.
Same here. Now I need someone to explain to me why motor oil would be leaking from the roof of my car and taste like chocolate syrup. I also need to know why people were sitting and stretching in one lane, while traffic whipped by in the other lane. I'm tired.
I love dream interpretation, since it's mostly bogus anyway. I'm going to take a shot:
The chocolate oil leaking into your car shows that you thrive on chaos. (I imagine you were sitting in the drivers seat with your head back and mouth open to catch it)
The traffic? Uh... I don't know. What lane were you in?0 -
Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »A dream. It felt so real and how it's going to be on my mind all day.
Same here. Now I need someone to explain to me why motor oil would be leaking from the roof of my car and taste like chocolate syrup. I also need to know why people were sitting and stretching in one lane, while traffic whipped by in the other lane. I'm tired.
I love dream interpretation, since it's mostly bogus anyway. I'm going to take a shot:
The chocolate oil leaking into your car shows that you thrive on chaos. (I imagine you were sitting in the drivers seat with your head back and mouth open to catch it)
The traffic? Uh... I don't know. What lane were you in?
I was pulled off to the side because my engine just seized due to lack of chocolate oil apparently. The oil hit the side of my face and i wiped it with my hand, then tasted it. The street I was on was a street near my hometown that I used to cruise up and down as a kid.
Hmmm. You're feeling like you're being left behind; that something is holding you back, but you're determined to make the best of the situation... or something about your mother. I don't know, I was only a Psych major for a year.
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WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »A dream. It felt so real and how it's going to be on my mind all day.
Same here. Now I need someone to explain to me why motor oil would be leaking from the roof of my car and taste like chocolate syrup. I also need to know why people were sitting and stretching in one lane, while traffic whipped by in the other lane. I'm tired.
I love dream interpretation, since it's mostly bogus anyway. I'm going to take a shot:
The chocolate oil leaking into your car shows that you thrive on chaos. (I imagine you were sitting in the drivers seat with your head back and mouth open to catch it)
The traffic? Uh... I don't know. What lane were you in?
I was pulled off to the side because my engine just seized due to lack of chocolate oil apparently. The oil hit the side of my face and i wiped it with my hand, then tasted it. The street I was on was a street near my hometown that I used to cruise up and down as a kid.
Hmmm. You're feeling like you're being left behind; that something is holding you back, but you're determined to make the best of the situation... or something about your mother. I don't know, I was only a Psych major for a year.
I disagree..all that chocolate oil..definitely sexual :laugh:2 -
I'm naturally enthusiastic and kind, don't know how to, nor want to be anything less...
I realize people either love you or hate you for it, regardless I'm just thankful it's Friday and I feel pretty damn good!6 -
jpoehls9025 wrote: »Cant understand why wife refuses to be happy no mater what I do... smh
Change your attitude and your life will change after it2 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »I'm naturally enthusiastic and kind, don't know how to, nor want to be anything less...
I realize people either love you or hate you for it, regardless I'm just thankful it's Friday and I feel pretty damn good!
I try to be this way too, and that is totally true. Dont let the *kitten* get you down1 -
Reading the hobbit to Ezra2
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captainfantastic94 wrote: »Reading the hobbit to Ezra
How is little Ezra doing?1 -
captainfantastic94 wrote: »Reading the hobbit to Ezra
OMG you named him Ezra... That's super bad *kitten*!
Best luck man, hope you get to bringm home soon!1 -
Coaching a soccer team of 3 and 4 year-olds this weekend is going to be hilarious!2
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It's funny how some people blatantly try to cockblock.
#Noshame
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