What's on your mind?

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  • newmeadow
    newmeadow Posts: 1,295 Member
    edited November 2018
    RomaineCalm wrote: »
    Eggplant.
    Smuggling.

    I always thought he just strolled casually in the room carrying it in full view innocently asking for recipes and eggplant expiration dates.
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones wrote: »
    I'm very nervous about meeting up with my biological father this weekend. The last time we saw each other was when I graduated from high school. He contacted me last January to meet up and he cancelled last minute. I have a lot of resentment and anger towards him , my mother did a great job at raising me with my step father but a part of me always wanted a relationship with my father. I'm really scared he lets me down but I'm willing to take that chance. He can't hurt me more than he has already.

    THIS ("emboldened"). Focus on what matters to you now. Everything else (the resentment, the anger, the cancellation) ... To the wind.

  • newmeadow
    newmeadow Posts: 1,295 Member
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones wrote: »
    I'm very nervous about meeting up with my biological father this weekend. The last time we saw eachother was when I graduated from high school. He contacted me last January to meet up and he cancelled last minute. I have a lot of resentment and anger towards him , my mother did a great job at raising me with my step father but a part of me always wanted a relationship with my father. I'm really scared he lets me down but I'm willing to take that chance. He can't hurt me more than he has already.

    you ain't that kid he bailed on anymore. that kid already got hurt by it enough I'd imagine. lady you are now though- pretty sure she can handle a lot more without blinking, especially at this point.

    maybe he bails again and maybe he doesn't. he ain't gonna be able to make up for lost time either way. you're doing him a favor imo hopefully he appreciates it.

    point being, just do what feels right and if it works it works. if it doesn't as least you tried. be lame to not have tried and then end up regretting it later you know.

    <3
    newmeadow wrote: »
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones wrote: »
    I'm very nervous about meeting up with my biological father this weekend. The last time we saw eachother was when I graduated from high school. He contacted me last January to meet up and he cancelled last minute. I have a lot of resentment and anger towards him , my mother did a great job at raising me with my step father but a part of me always wanted a relationship with my father. I'm really scared he lets me down but I'm willing to take that chance. He can't hurt me more than he has already.

    Maybe you can wait until you feel stronger before you make a plan to meet with him. I know you have a strong baseline but you've taken a tremendous blow to the heart quite recently. Taking a gamble on getting your feelings hurt by someone with a shaky track record might not be a good idea right now.

    I know, I may not be very strong right now but I guess a part of me is worried that he won't reach out again and I'll regret not going...

    You can absolutely reach out to him when the time is right.

    I went to visit my own father in my midthirties after having no contact with him for 20 years. He was drunk, ridiculed me for being fat and told me to get out.

    I still reached out to him again and we were able to remain friends for the rest of his life.

    I don't know your father but I think when you reach out to him he won't reject you 💜.
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    edited November 2018
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones wrote: »
    k8eekins wrote: »
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones wrote: »
    I'm very nervous about meeting up with my biological father this weekend. The last time we saw each other was when I graduated from high school. He contacted me last January to meet up and he cancelled last minute. I have a lot of resentment and anger towards him , my mother did a great job at raising me with my step father but a part of me always wanted a relationship with my father. I'm really scared he lets me down but I'm willing to take that chance. He can't hurt me more than he has already.

    THIS ("emboldened"). Focus on what matters to you now. Everything else (the resentment, the anger, the cancellation) ... To the wind.

    Absolutely, life is too short to hold on to anger. 2 months ago, I lost someone very close to me and my children, every day since that happened, I wish I wouldn't have let my anger get in the way of saying or doing certain things. It's too late now but it's not too late to make other things right.

    My sympathy and condolences to you and your children for your loss. I'd been reading and I was voting "Hugs" throughout your posts on the Board when you'd shared your pain and your concerns for your babies, for I didn't want to be too forward and engage with a response, knowing how emotionally raw you still are, given we rarely interact here.

    Inasmuch as fathers (however they come with their imperfections) weren't a part or were in part huge facets of our lives ... They are our Dads. And when you're gifted by the Universe to have 2 ... You don't have to have only one, when you're being given this opportunity, however it presents itself when it unfolds and however long it'll last. To not, is to deny yourself, a part of you.

    I hear you ... I'd stopped talking to my father for years, for having hurt my Mum, in a huge way ... Given I'd never in all my life dared to say anything that would hurt him, my rebuff - choosing to rarely speak with him as though he'd live forever ...Is my torture chamber. He gave me the world. Never denied me anything
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  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    Carolina Red. Mmmmmm.
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  • Dakase83
    Dakase83 Posts: 2,524 Member
    Tenebrous_D wrote: »
    I think today's the day. Stay tuned.

    Quit your job?? Propose to your GF?? Eat a whole pizza?? WE NEED THE DEETS!!!!
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  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    edited November 2018
    laprimaJenny wrote: »
    Is the past participle of smelled smelt or smelled? I know in British English the use of smelled and smelt are interchangeable, but in North America I’ve noticed smelt never being used.

    The first thing that comes to mind when I hear (or see) 'smelt' is something to do with metal working, I'm not sure what it is tho.
  • Dakase83
    Dakase83 Posts: 2,524 Member
    Tenebrous_D wrote: »
    Dakase83 wrote: »
    Tenebrous_D wrote: »
    I think today's the day. Stay tuned.

    Quit your job?? Propose to your GF?? Eat a whole pizza?? WE NEED THE DEETS!!!!

    Defend my title, but first, I'm fueling up my flame thrower for later.

    Good luck, you got this! PS - Please let me borrow said flame thrower...
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    sleepy
    today is my friday.
    getting another foster dog (1 out of 70 shihtzus from a hording situation)
    turkey trot tomorrow
    running streak starts tomorrow
    sleepy

    on the subject of other people. live and let go. and the only thing you have any type of control over is you and how you react to stimulus.
  • The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones
    The_Devil_in_Miss_Jones Posts: 684 Member
    Someone that shouldn't be
  • sniper300_Rum
    sniper300_Rum Posts: 1,073 Member
    tinkerhellraiser wrote: »
    what music is going to make it a good day
    what music is going to take me down
    Rock n roll
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    tinkerhellraiser wrote: »
    what music is going to make it a good day
    what music is going to take me down

    Funny how music can do that.
    I had a day last week where every song I heard on the radio on my drive to work made me weepy and sad nostalgic.
    Then I started laugh/crying
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member
    mbaker566 wrote: »
    sleepy
    today is my friday.
    getting another foster dog (1 out of 70 shihtzus from a hording situation)
    turkey trot tomorrow
    running streak starts tomorrow
    sleepy

    on the subject of other people. live and let go. and the only thing you have any type of control over is you and how you react to stimulus.

    💛 this
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  • DawnOfTheDead_Lift
    DawnOfTheDead_Lift Posts: 753 Member
    How "meh" the thanksgiving holiday is to me. Is it like this for others?
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    DawnOfTheDead_Lift wrote: »
    How "meh" the thanksgiving holiday is to me. Is it like this for others?

    me
    i find it feeling forced and weird with people black friday shopping the next day
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member
    edited November 2018
    Tenebrous_D wrote: »
    Defending my title

    Stay loose and enjoy the game TJ. 🙌 Rooting for you!

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