WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2016
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Toni and Allie – When I suggested using ‘you’, it was because using ‘husband’ could be easily misconstrued as ‘others’, not your husband; or say ‘my husband’. He is probably going to go into a ‘defensive’ mode, even if you called him by name. He is a control freak, maybe thinking that he is ‘taking care of you’; but, you don’t feel that way. Sounds like you feel like a caged bird, with a beautiful voice and want to be able to get out and test your wings. Wherever you choose to confront him is really up to you. I assume that you must have supportive friends in both places, if his reaction does not make you comfortable. From some of the posts I get the impression that he is very vocal (yelling) when things are not going along with ‘his’ plans.
Pip – Well it was certainly a good app; it looked exactly like it was a painting.
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Mary & Margaret: It is awesome that you got to visit in person. WTG!!! Nice deal with the cars, too. I love the photo of the two of you. :bigsmile:
Cheri: Congratulations on the sale of your house. WTG!!!
Becca: Your musical ability is a gift and you are generous to share it.
Pip: I love your dog "painting."
It is gorgeous outside today. There is bright sunshine and snow on the flowerbeds and lawn. The sidewalks and streets seem pretty clear in my neighborhood. I missed yoga this morning but rode DH's bike in the garage long enough to burn a good number of calories and I am feeling energized.
"So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible and the fun."
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Allie, the things you want to tell Tom are very reasonable, but unfortunately, nothing you've shared about Tom suggests that he is reasonable. Having the conversation in Connecticut sounds like a better choice than in Florida with the long trip home looming afterwards. Do you have a plan of what you'll do if he deems your suggestions not OK with him?
Mary and Margaret, I love the picture and the fact that you were able to meet in conjunction with the change of ownership of the car.Lenora, everything I've written about books has been about books that I've read...I'm not a writer. Today is my last scheduled physical therapy appointment. I now have 15 exercises to do 10-30 times twice a day. I think I have enough to keep me busy along with dog walking, dancing, and riding the exercise bike. Barbie from chilly NW Washington 3 -
afternoon ladies~
thank you all so for your kind words of advice.. which I will take into consideration... right now all is quiet, I wrote down what I wanted to say, and you all are correct in waiting until I get home...
I did go out and buy myself a few things and Tom worked on the back patio... well with him working on back patio in Florida , means fire ants.. and you guessed it he got bit a number of times ,so off to the Dr he went for a shot and going to pharmacy for steroids .. he never ever learns
showered and off to take the boys for a walk and then going with Mary to the voices of la casa..2 -
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allie, I wish you all the luck in your talk with Tom. I am with the others, don't be surprised if he just either laughs in your face or gets up and leaves without saying anything. This may need to go to a mediation situation with some one else making decisions.
Sherry, I have seen many RVs with dishes. When we had our directV installed, they didn't get any kind of signal until they got up on our roof. Now we have the huge tree removed and we could have had it placed in a better place.
My Grumpy Pants decided to wake up and put on his husband pants this morning. I know how slow he walks and how he hates cold weather but he is out running the errands needed today. He wouldn't let me go with him. I really didn't want to go out at all in this bitter weather. I was able to get, with no problem, a water resorvior for my CPAP, then he went to the grocery store. I convinced the man that there are some simple meals he can fix for the two of us. I had him pick up all the fixins for a big pot of vegetable soup. It won't have tomatoes in it like he likes it but he didn't even want it. One of the new blood pressure medicines I was put on in the hospital isn't on my insurance med list. So they gave me alternatives which I called to my doctor's office. They just called back and said that both my cardiologist and familly doc says I can't take any of the alternatives. I see doc on Tuesday and I guess it will be resolved then. Or at least another drug given. This drug works with the kidney filtration system.
OK, Charlie is home, I need to figure out how to put this water thing in my CPAP.
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OK I am an emotional ping-pong ball today! I was soo emotional at the food bank, long story, but the gist of it was that I played the victim, and I need to stop doing that. I let negative people have control of me, and I need to not let it bother me. So I got into a better frame of mind, (thank goodness my husband said) and then just got off the phone with Kim from Dublin CA!!! I am blessed by her friendship and all of your ladies friendship :-) So instead of venting about my experience today, I am posting a picture of my childhood dog Katie, and my cat Thomas!
Becca
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Question peeps. I finally bought this humidifier for my CPAP. I didn't buy any distilled water, well I forgot to tell Charlie to get it. How do I make it?0
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Hello all: I have been lurking and reading although I got somewhat behind. Finally made DH go to primary doc on Monday. He was so dehydrated that they could not get a BP. Doctor ordered an ambulance and he went directly from the office to the hospital. Doc said he had lost 25 pounds in the last two months. Took him off several meds including diabetic ones. He needs to have everything readjusted. That will happen next Tuesday. He was told to drink lots of water (8-12 cups per day) after lithotripsy on Nov 7 and just refused to do so. Because he was not drinking or eating but still taking meds he was dizzy and nauseous every time he stood up. He was admitted to the hospital with acute kidney injury, kidneys not functioning. Finally on Wednesday morning tests came back with better kidney function so they let him come home on the condition that he keep drinking lots and eat. I continue to keep asking him what he has eaten or drunk and he is angry because I am "pushing him". I refused to take him to the store with me yesterday because it was past noon and he had not eaten anything yet. Sometimes I just want to smack him. All of this could have been prevented by simply following the doctor's orders in the first place.
Sherry - I loved the pictures of the tractor parade. DD and I are saving up for one to use on our place. Hope you get your TV woes worked out soon.
Lisa - Glad you are working on your book again.
Becca - Love the pet pictures and singing.
Pip - That is a cool app.
Mary and Margaret - So glad things worked out as they did. Nice picture ladies.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA
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Good eve all. Been trying to catch up,but was going cross eyed,so had to give up.DH had a couple wks of back pain.....cause unknown.He is slowly improving ....cause unknown,but he is still walking slow & easy.Hate when he isn't well.
Need to get cookie dough made tomorrow,then will bake whenever.Have cut back on lots of Christmas traditions,but they love the cookies.Freezing rain predicted for tonight,so maybe tomor will be a stay home & make the house look like Christmas is coming day. Have a great Saturday. Pat
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Sue in WA, sending hugs to you to help you cope with your frustration with your husband....it is so frustrating when they know what to do to feel better and refuse to follow directions.Joyce there are directions online for making your own distilled water. Here is something I found:
https://youtube.com/watch?v=NpkDJ6yIN8I Today was my last day of physical therapy. I was a few minutes late because I sat down to watch some figure skating on TV earlier in the afternoon and fell asleep while watching and woke just in time to race out of the house. I now have 16 exercises that he's given me to do and as a "graduation present" he said I needed to do them only once a day instead of twice. He suggested that I keep doing them for at least a month. My range of motion has increased but my biggest challenge is recovering from the leaning forward I did for so long to compensate for the pain and now I have to retrain my back to stand up straighter and stretch the necessary muscles. Barbie from NW Washington 3 -
Thanks Barbie, that is the exact instructions I found but I don't have a pot that has a glass lid.0
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Stats for the day
Rde hm 2 gym- 14.59min, 11.8amph, 153mhr, 2.9mi= 170c
fitbit- 148mhr, 120c
STAIRCLIMBER- 15min, 59fl, 28ftpmin, lvl7, 68ftpmin, 141mhr = 142c
fitbit- 140mhr, 108c
ROPE PULL- 15min, midset, lvl7, 28ftpmin, 449meters 121mhr = 80c
fitbit 202mhr, 158c
TREADMILL walk/jog- 8.23min, 4incl 3.6sp, last .1 6.4sp, 144mhr 16.50ap, .5mi = 60c
fitbit- 188mhr, 82c
ride gym 2 dome- 7.03min, 12.2amph, 155amhr, 1.4mi = 110c
fitbit- 148mhr, 87c
walk station 2 wk - 10.26min, 137mhr, .4mi = 59c
fitbit- 124mhr, 70c
walk wk 2 sta- 11min est, Fitbit 130mhr .4mi - 74c
ride dome 2 hm- 19.30min, 8amph, 140mhr, 2.5mi = 205c
Fitbit- 138mhr 110c
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening My Dear Friends,
I have been missing you something terrible but not finding the time to spend with you. I’ve had to skip pages of posts and quickly skim others. I’m so sad to hear that many of you are suffering from different seasonal problems. And others with health issues.
Joyce, a special ((((Hug)))) for you and I hope you are better soon! I hope you can feel the love I’m sending your way.
Congrats to those that are faring well this holiday season.
Janetr, I hope your tests turn out to be something easy peasy to heal. *Love and healing thoughts coming your way*. Didn’t mean to make you worry. Sorry.
Heather, so glad the family drama is working itself out for the time. I love the picture of your little lamb!!! So precious.
Allie, so glad you got to go to Florida. I hope you make the most of it!!
Sherry, love the pictures in the snow. Just glad I’m not there. So glad you got moved.
Cheri, so happy for the house sale!!!
Betty, great going on the lab results!!!!
I hope you are all safe in the snow and cold.
I love all the pictures, my friends.
I’ve been spending nearly every day at my friend’s house, trying to get her packed up and ready for the movers. Today I’m taking the day off and giving my back time to recoup from all the work. I had a couple helping yesterday and we got a lot accomplished. It is actually easier with my friend already in Texas, as she often just gets in the way. Lol The movers aren’t coming until mid-January so there is no a big rush, but I want to get it finished. I’ll hold an estate sale at her house to try to sell most of what she isn’t moving.
I picked a good day to stay in because it was cold for us today. Never got out of the 40’s. By Sunday it’s supposed to get back in the 70’s. Go figure.
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
Sending love, good thoughts and sunshine to all of you and I hope you all have a Happy and Healthy Day!
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Hi Gals,
Lisa – ok I’m interested in this dish thing, LOVE the idea of a flat amount, but how do you get internet? My cable TV (Comcast) and internet connection is bundled…
Barbie - So glad about Bernie’s good news!!!
Heather – I want your TV internet phone deal…. So mine is $89 per month for 6 channels of TV and internet, and $23 per month for phone, no long distance; cell is another company and is about $100 a month-its called the extreme basic package -… So in pounds..71 for TV/internet,18 for phone, 80 for cell – per month!
Allie – I know I am hard on you and Tom sometimes, but it is because I worry and care, this sounds like more than a reasonable approach. You go!
Heather – great job! I am going to a friends house for C-mas eve and day and wish they would tell me what I am to bring, as I would like to prep.
Cheri – congrats!
Mary and Margaret – Excellent! Cute snow bunnies
Busy day – 4 hours gardening, and just tons of embroidery – all on 4 hours of sleep as I picked up a neighbor at the airport (about 30 min drive away) last night his plane landed at 10 min after midnight… So took a break this afternoon and called Becca! So nice to put a voice and style to the words on the page. And tonight I am babysitting for another neighbor – so 7-11 at their home. When I lost my job (in 2008) I started babysitting, taking friends to the airport, doing anything to make a bit of cash and this is the only family I still babysit for, good kids, 3 doors down… so it is easy! And I’ll be bringing my Christmas cards and finishing them up after the kiddos are in bed.
December Goals:
Write Christmas letter, and have all cards ready to send by Dec1…this was for nov. but still working on it.
Read and report on a book
Log everyday to the best I can, over if need be.
11,000 + steps everyday
Work on water consumption –
Lunch with Kyle - Done
Smiles.
Kim from N. California
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YAY!! I got two Christmas cards in the mail today from two lovely ladies here.....you both know who you are!!.....not just one but two!!!....and they are beautiful cards!!....ladies I will be sending ones back to you both, I hope they make it there in time for Christmas.....I will take another walk later tonight and drop them in the outgoing slot so that they will go out in the morning.....
Allie - I agree, you should wait till you get home unless you are prepared to get to the airport yourself somehow (maybe a friend down there can give you a ride) and fly home alone then somehow get home (maybe a friend could pick you up) because I fear if you try to say anything down there he might just leave....he doesn't sound like a man who listens to you much, if at all....it might be a good idea to get some counseling if you can beforehand and run this by your counselor....he or she may suggest mediation as well.....I just worry about you a lot and want to make sure you stay safe.....I would also suggest having an escape plan if things go wrong when you talk to him.....and for heaven's sake girl, be prepared to do exactly what you tell him you will do if he does not comply.....make sure all your ducks are in a row and be prepared for the worst......and you are on my friends list now so please message me if you need support or need me in any way....I am here for you.....no, you are not being unreasonable so stick to your guns, we are all behind you.....
Becca - love the pics of the doggie and kitties....they are all so cute!!! Especially the little kitten, I'm a sucker when it comes to babies of any kind of animal!....
Joyce - I wish I could tell you how to make distilled water but alas I have never had to and wouldn't even know where to start except with a jug of water....lol....my doc wants me to have a sleep study done cuz he thinks I need a C-PAP too, but I won't do it cuz I can't even wear a paper mask, they make my face sweat....lol.....I told him that if I DID have sleep apnea and stopped breathing in my sleep and died, that wouldn't be such a bad way to go.....I can think of worse ways, really.....lol.....
OK, now I've gotten lost on who else said what else cuz I can only go back to the top of this page or I lose my post....
.....the rest of you all please forgive me.....
Anyway, I spent most of the day doing research on the web for TV service here.....actually found several companies and several options including internet service only and getting a Roku or Amazon Fire TV stick or something similar.....and after all the phone calls, and all the people I have talked to and all the options I've looked at, at all the various prices and packages and blah blah blah......I have decided to go with a local company out of The Gorge that has service here and can do a TV only deal with roughly 200 channels, including the ones I really want, for just under $60 a month.....my credit was approved (of course) so no money up front and I am slated for installation Wednesday morning.....I made damn sure they are aware I live in a motorhome and made them verify that they CAN install on motorhomes and that they will not bail on me (they assure me the installers all live in The Gorge area and that they can all drive in the snow.....I tried to ask every pertinent question I could think of and verified everything I could think of to make sure this finally goes off without a hitch....but I am not gonna get my hopes up or get excited about it till it's all done and said.....and this time I got smart and have a backup option on standby in case something goes wrong....again.....let's just hope the third time is actually the charm like the saying goes......I just can't believe it's this darn hard to get TV service somewhere......oh well, onward and upward.....
I made my Cabbage and Polish Sausage soup again tonight.....threw some carrots and celery and some sweet onions in the mix as well.....it came out super yummy and little piggy me had two big bowls....lol......it's definitely filling and warming......I'm stuffed.....
Well my fitbit app and my MFP app quit talking to each other for some reason and I just can't seem to get them back together short of uninstalling both and reinstalling both and then try to re-sync them.....I know they both back up their data to their respective websites but I just don't want to lose any data that I have already catalogued on this journey to skinnyness and good health......so for now I will have to double-log everything until I can figure this out......my health data and food diary are like my babies.....I don't want to lose any of it....it's my only documented proof of what I have accomplished so far......nooooooooooo!!!!!.....ugh.....
OK, I think that's it for now.....this post has gotten so long I am sure a few of you are thinkin' "Whew!".... Besides, it's time to medicate and start lookin' through my movies to see if I can find one in there somewhere that I somehow missed and haven't seen for a while....hah, fat chance of that, lol!!.....after while crocodile!!!!....
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DJ!!!! - your here!!! Big waves!!!! Sounds like you have been super busy!....I don't envy you the job of having an estate sale.....before I moved into this motorhome I had to get rid of a lot of stuff so I thought I would be smart and have a yard/garage sale one weekend....it only lasted one weekend and I swear I will never do that again, ever!!!........I had never met so many cheap, mean, argumentative people as I did that weekend!...one guy even tried to start a fight with me over paying $2 for a DVD, and a Blu-ray at that too!!!.....I actually had to take my cell phone out of my pocket and start dialing 911 before he would put the movie down and leave my property....then he got in his car, revved his engine real loud, flip me off then peel rubber as he pulled away while screaming profanities at me!!......I tell ya, some people's children!!!.....and I think your sunshine made it all the way over here, it was beautiful today!!....
Love and hugs!!
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Joyce – What type of C-pap machine do you have? My newest one, has a reservoir that you put in by pulling apart the place the hose goes into, which lifts up. The humidifier goes into the top rather than into the side, like my last one did. Not nearly as easy as my last one. Put distilled water into it up to the ‘fill line’ … I had to use a marker to highlight the rough ▲ so that I could actually see it. I do not like my new C-pap machine nearly as much as I did my last one because it is harder to put the water reservoir in and out without spilling water everywhere; but, it is a whole lot quieter. One thing it does is start off slow and build up to whatever your settings are. I had to contact my supplier to find out if he would call the MD and see if they could start it off higher than #4 because it took too long to build up to what would allow me to get enough air to fall asleep; so he raised it up to #9; and, it will then work up to #12. Is this a ‘new’ C-pap machine, or is it just that they’ve added the humidifier? Now, I fall asleep within 5 minutes of putting it on. I also use a ‘wisp’ mask because I am so claustrophobic to use a full- or half-face mask. Mine is a Respironics. If you don’t have any distilled water, I would just boil some and let it cool off and use it, it won’t hurt to do that for a few days. But, it does call for ‘distilled’ water.
How to make distilled water at home
Fill a stainless steel container half full with tap or regular water.
Place a round, glass bowl afloat in the water into the pot. Be careful that the bowl should not touch the bottom of the pot. If there is enough water in the steel container, the bowl will easily float. If it seems difficult to float it then you can place a round baking rack on the bottom of the pot to give the glass bowl a support.
Place the lid on the container and fill it with ice. You may remember the rule of condensation; hot steam touches the cold layer. Here hot steams hits cold lid and the condensation will happen.
It’s not worth it to me to go through this, I’d just make sure that I got some distilled water in the next day or 2. Putting tap water into it isn’t going to matter unless you do it ‘long-term’.
Becca – Your kitties are ‘cute’ as well as your childhood pets. Good for you, for not allowing someone to make you ‘the victim’ … or for, at least, getting out of that situation. It is sometimes a ‘hard’ thing to do. You are ‘too positive of a person’ to let someone get to you like that. All of us here, love you!!!!!
Sue – Why is your hubby being so difficult about following MDs instructions? Surely he does not have a ‘death wish’. When I was “Lithium Toxic” about 10 years ago, they flushed my kidneys. They told my DH that I ‘might’ night even survive the procedure. I don’t remember any of it, thankfully. Is he diabetic?
Lisa – OK, you’re the author? Right? What type of book(s)?
Patcheoh – I wish I could find one of those cookie dough things that works like a caulk gun. My Mother had one (she used hers mostly for cheese straws) but it had several little disks in it that you could make cookies in different shaped.
Nothing worse than a ‘sick man’ … they are ‘such babies’.
Allie – Just about every town and city have a “Legal Aid” office, and you could probably get some information from them; or contact a Women’s Shelter and get information from them as well. While he might not have ever laid a hand on you, ‘emotional abuse’ is something harder to accept than ‘physical abuse’ in many cases. We are just concerned about you. But, you are the one married to him, and you know him a lot better than any of us do (other than what you’ve been willing to share). I also agree with some of the ladies here who had suggested pretty strongly about ‘getting your ducks is a row’. Start snooping if necessary. Look at bank statements, look at income tax returns. Just look for where you husband is spending ‘y’all’s money’ on. Sounds like you are also contributing money to the household bank account(s).
Welcome to all the ‘newbies’ and to those who are just ‘lurking’.
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DJ (Janet #1 in my book ) wrote "Janetr, I hope your tests turn out to be something easy peasy to heal. *Love and healing thoughts coming your way*. Didn’t mean to make you worry. Sorry."
So glad to hear you are fine and BUSY. I had just told my husband this evening that I was getting concerned. Thanks for letting us know. Also, thanks for the well wishes. Have not got blood work results yet.
Janetr OKC
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Thought that since a lot of us have ongoing health problems and have to deal with the rediculous hoops of insurance that you all might take an interest in this:
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Hope that takes you to the story....I know, I know.....no politics......but this is important for all of us!....
Sherry in "supporting healthcare reform..." Dufur0 -
Sue in WA: I am sorry your DH is being stubborn about taking proper care of himself. You were right to make him go to his doctor. (((HUGS)))
Barbie: Congratulations on completing your physical therapy. You are doing a great job with your recovery.
DJ: It is wonderful to see your post! I have missed you. :flowerforyou:
Sherry: I'm happy that you've lined up the TV and internet services you really need. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the installation happens on schedule.
We had a cozy, stay at home day today. I read a book from cover to cover and enjoyed it. The book is by Patricia Briggs and is part of the Mercy Thompson series. Her books are about Werewolves, shape shifters and magical beings. Mercy Thompson is the heroine and shifts into a coyote. There are connections to Native American themes, too. The books are centered in the tri-cities area of Eastern Washington, but occasionally travel to other places. I read some in the past and only recently stumbled into them again through my library. I have always been an avid reader and this is fun for me.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
"Normally I'm quite normal . . ." The Gods Must be Crazy
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Katla - I have my fingers crossed too, but we shall see....I'm not having the best of luck even getting service but maybe this time it will happen....those books sound awesome!....I like stuff like that so I will have to see if I can find them in the Multnomah County Library as I still have a library card with them even though I live in Wasco County now.....shhh....don't tell anybody, lol.....I like to read their e-books still so I have kept the card....
Well, I am quickly figuring out that double-logging in both the fitbit app and the MFP app is a real pain in the a**.....I braved it and uninstalled the fitbit app and reinstalled it and tried to re-sync to MFP but no luck.....I still had to log my meals and exercise in both apps.....and tonight when I logged my exercise in my MFP diary it showed the correct calorie burn but when MFP sent those logs to my news feed it showed an extra 180 calorie burn that I can't account for....I think the whole problem might be with MFP in the app....I haven't yet checked my news feed on the website to see what it shows but I will before I go to sleep.....I'm curious now to find out what the heck is going on......I don't like the food database on fitbit as much as MFP's which has a wider selection of foods......and there is a difference in calorie amounts for the same servings of the same foods between both the databases....so now I don't know which one is more accurate.....kinda frustrating........I guess I will go by the calories in MFP as I have a lower calorie goal there than I do on fitbit.....I think as long as I stay under THAT goal I will continue to lose weight, at least I hope.....the proof's in the puddin' as they say....
Well, time to go over my emails as usual, then to sleep....I hope everybody has a good night.....
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Lenora - I'm one of the authors on here, yes. Heather in the UK is another. The two books I have up on Amazon are a mystery story set in East Texas and a collection of my short opinion/editorial articles. You can find them by doing a search for "Lisa C. Hannon." I don't post links here, as it's against MFP's terms and can get me thrown off the site. The sequel I'm writing to the mystery story is set in West Texas. The books are available both on Kindle and in paperback.
Kim - at the moment, I have cable Internet, with my own router tied to it. I will probably move to a hotspot with my cellphone provider once the term is up on the cable. With a hotspot, you have to be super-careful of your data usage, but if you keep it reasonable, no streaming video, etc., it can stay reasonably close to the $48 a month I'm paying for Internet now. Much of it depends on the provider. Unlimited data plans exist, but are nearly as expensive as satellite Internet. However, the equipment to obtain satellite Internet can cost as much as $7,000--while a cellphone hotspot costs about $50. Many cellphones can, themselves, act as a hotspot, but that's kind of in it's infancy, as well. I tend to be a late adopter whenever possible.
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Heather-Okay I will take your word for it that kipper is delicious. ;-)
Lillian-Curling? For real? Pack healthy snacks so you don't get too hungry and grab unhealthy stuff.
Allie-your plan sounds reasonable. I hope Tom is open to the discussion. I do think Katia has good advice for you. Yikes, I read more responses and I am new here so I don't know much about your situation, it sounds like he is a very controlling man and others here are concerned about him. I think you should get some professional advice on how to handle this and squirrel some money away that he doesn't know about before you have a conversation with him. If he is controlling, once he knows you might leave or do something about him, he may tighten the controls. Have an exit plan and resources in place in case you need it.
Okay, I logged almost 18,000 steps on my fitbit yesterday. I did exercise some reasonable self control at the Xmas potluck. For the first time in a really long time, I pushed my plate away with some goodies on it because I was full and I just didn't want to get overfull. That is huge for me!
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Hi all!
Talking about baffling husband's ...... mine isn't keen on my "improving" books. I am reading one now about successful people and I mentioned this morning that they often take risks and can cope with failure. That set him off as if it was a personal criticism! He said I had been dissatisfied recently (?) and taking risks was dumb. I really was talking about my perfectionism and my need to get things right before I attempt something. The idea of failure is scary to me and I don't take easily to experimentation. (Hence I haven't opened my new laptop again since my early failure).
To say I have been dissatisfied is a bit of a cheek as I have been sleepless over his family's problems, the house move and all the Christmas organising.
I always want to improve myself and seek how to live an even happier life. He sees it as a criticism of him that he is not keeping me happy.
If my mood is a bit off he thinks I am unhappy with him. That is frustrating that I can't share my enthusiasms for improvement with him. :sad: Or just be fed up occasionally.
Not a huge problem, but a little bump in the road this morning. All because I want to be a little more open to trying things.
I'm trying to get my head around where he is coming from.
Sending my love to those who have far worse husband troubles.
Going to attempt my pistachio soup this afternoon.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
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Still packing early flight tomorrow
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