A text message I received...what do you think?

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  • Cerealsensei
    Cerealsensei Posts: 1,625 Member
    thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
    khaleesikhaleesi wrote: »
    I know I'm not the only one here who thinks you're way too beautiful to have to stoop low enough to accept someone talking that way to you. Girl, regardless of your weight, you are a prize, and any DECENT man would be lucky to have you. My boyfriend was just as proud of me at 200 pounds as he is now that I'm 155.

    PM me his address-- I'll send him a bag of d!cks on your behalf. :wink:

    Doubt it. He probably LOVES you as much.

    I would caution women to not be so arrogant. You might not be happy about what I just said, but men can defend my statement (I won't be). Sometimes BECAUSE men love you, they are willing to OVERLOOK things they dislike, including weight gain. It doesn't mean they don't care. It means they don't talk to you about it.

    ^very valid point

    But i think in this case it wasnt so much what he said but how he said it. Even if you really do want your partner to lose weight he could have at least been supportive or offered some kind of help. It came across really shallow with how he worded it.
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
    Watch "revenge body" by kloe kardashian!!!!
  • TheSkyBlushed
    TheSkyBlushed Posts: 153 Member
    happilymegan wrote: »
    Ummm tell him to eat a bag of d!cks

    And the winner for best quote of the day is... envelope please...
  • thisonetimeatthegym
    thisonetimeatthegym Posts: 1,977 Member
    Cerealsensei wrote: »
    thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
    khaleesikhaleesi wrote: »
    I know I'm not the only one here who thinks you're way too beautiful to have to stoop low enough to accept someone talking that way to you. Girl, regardless of your weight, you are a prize, and any DECENT man would be lucky to have you. My boyfriend was just as proud of me at 200 pounds as he is now that I'm 155.

    PM me his address-- I'll send him a bag of d!cks on your behalf. :wink:

    Doubt it. He probably LOVES you as much.

    I would caution women to not be so arrogant. You might not be happy about what I just said, but men can defend my statement (I won't be). Sometimes BECAUSE men love you, they are willing to OVERLOOK things they dislike, including weight gain. It doesn't mean they don't care. It means they don't talk to you about it.

    ^very valid point

    But i think in this case it wasnt so much what he said but how he said it. Even if you really do want your partner to lose weight he could have at least been supportive or offered some kind of help. It came across really shallow with how he worded it.

    I totally agree. FYI: I wasn't addressing the OP's situation at all because I already put my 2 cents in.
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
    I'm curious to know, forget what he said about you. How do you feel about how you look?
  • thisonetimeatthegym
    thisonetimeatthegym Posts: 1,977 Member
    edited January 2017
    khaleesikhaleesi wrote: »
    thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
    khaleesikhaleesi wrote: »
    I know I'm not the only one here who thinks you're way too beautiful to have to stoop low enough to accept someone talking that way to you. Girl, regardless of your weight, you are a prize, and any DECENT man would be lucky to have you. My boyfriend was just as proud of me at 200 pounds as he is now that I'm 155.

    PM me his address-- I'll send him a bag of d!cks on your behalf. :wink:

    Doubt it. He probably LOVES you as much.

    I would caution women to not be so arrogant. You might not be happy about what I just said, but men can defend my statement (I won't be). Sometimes BECAUSE men love you, they are willing to OVERLOOK things they dislike, including weight gain. It doesn't mean they don't care. It means they don't talk to you about it.

    Nope. He told me he didn't even see a problem with my weight. He's into thicker women. But good try!

    Ok.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    He isn't the type of person you really want to be with, is he? Lots of things can happen throughout life that take your good looks away. What if you fall and bust your teeth, what if you get burned in a fire, what if you lose your hair or get wrinkles or saggy body parts? Will he love you then? LOVE isn't about looks. Eventually we will all lose our looks and level of fitness. Love is about a connection far deeper than what you look like. If he doesn't see that then you are so much better off without him.

    This is pretty much true.

    .... Although I'm looking better & better with age.
  • legsnbacon
    legsnbacon Posts: 122 Member
    just break up
  • Cat3141
    Cat3141 Posts: 162 Member
    Guy sounds like a complete *kitten*. Either tell him to f-off or don't respond at all and block the number. Unless he has anything important to you, then say "okay" get your stuff, and then tell him off. Seriously, no one who really cared about you would say something like this to you.
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
    You a pretty girl don't start going down the road of letting men devalue you once you allow that you can get stuck there I'd give him a chance to rephrase that not by insisting him to do so but show your disappointment and see if he does it on his own sometimes people make mistakes he he doesn't see he made a mistake he will do it again. So just look for a better quality person
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    aoibhs22 wrote: »
    Guys thank you for your support, I can lose weight I will work hard but I don't want to be made to feel like that the only way he will fancy me if I am one of these girls that he is talking about. You are right, so when I am going through a hard time - weigh tor other stuff- will he support me? So he wont get into photos with me or want to spend time with me because i'm not good enough at the moment to be proud off.

    I don't know. My head is fried, I am disappointed in him. still haven't replied just don't know how to word it correctly, and I don't think I will for a while. This all came out of nowhere....

    breath

    I think the questions in your first paragraph are things you should ask him. And i think it is time for a real phone call, not texting, as things can translate poorly in text sometimes. And as you said, keep breathing...
  • vikinglander
    vikinglander Posts: 1,547 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    aoibhs22 wrote: »
    I would love to hear your opinions on the following message.... I received this last night and I still haven't replied, cried a little and cant stop thinking about it.....

    Of course you are important to me, how could you not be

    But I want you to start putting more effort into training and getting into shape, as I am surrounded by people who are in shape and training hard all the time, and all these people have full time jobs too, and get tired but still do their training

    so I'm used to seeing hard working, slim and toned girls all day, and want to be proud to show off my girlfriend as being just as hard working and in just as good of shape

    Chat tomorrow



    ...................

    Training?

    LOL! @newmeadow! Sounds like a D/s thing, right?? I'm going to go ponder that for a few minutes...!
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    He isn't the type of person you really want to be with, is he? Lots of things can happen throughout life that take your good looks away. What if you fall and bust your teeth, what if you get burned in a fire, what if you lose your hair or get wrinkles or saggy body parts? Will he love you then? LOVE isn't about looks. Eventually we will all lose our looks and level of fitness. Love is about a connection far deeper than what you look like. If he doesn't see that then you are so much better off without him.

    This is pretty much true.

    .... Although I'm looking better & better with age.

    Lucky you! We won't all be so blessed. lol

    True story.

    I was dating a girl when I live in Los Angeles and my dad came out from Ohio to visit. She looked at him and said ( filter off): "Oh my God. How old is he? Damn, if you age as well as him I'll marry you tomorrow!"

    I laughed. My dad laughed.


    Two years later I married one of her friends.
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
    Well the most important thing is how she feels about herself that's really the bottom line isn't it?
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Reinvented46 wrote: »
    Well the most important thing is how she feels about herself that's really the bottom line isn't it?

    ... not to the boyfriend
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
    Apparently your right. I vote dump him
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    edited January 2017
    If you are long distance, he has been not paying attention to you lately and he says this then I would assume he is looking to break up/is interested in someone else... that you no longer fit in his world.
    He is saying you are not good enough for him and he is not proud of you after 8 years together. Not a good sign for a continued relationship.
  • Thehardmakesitworthit
    Thehardmakesitworthit Posts: 838 Member
    ewwwww......and i bet when he is 50 he will be sporting a gold chain, fake damn tan and pot belly. Screw that. Move on.
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
    Ok ok ok okayyyyy
  • JLAJ81
    JLAJ81 Posts: 2,477 Member
    Send me his number I'll text him for you.
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