WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2017
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY LENORA (insert birthday cake emoji here)
Becca its okay to be a turtle sometime!
NYKAREN1 -
Going to check in more often and not get too far behind again...... famous last words! I am going to have lunch with my friend. She wants to go to Mimi's Cafe. Fine by me. I have my salad planned out and will enjoy a muffin guilt free. Planned the rest of my day to stay under calories and still under 120 total carbs for the day. Now I need to stick to it. Forgot to mention that my study group finished our course on forensic investigation and have begun one on the National Parks. Mondays lectures were about Yellowstone. I have never been there but have always wanted to see it. The other ladies in my group are well traveled and have seen it. The lectures included a great deal about the geologic features and what caused the park to develop. Very interesting.
Lisa- I loved the poem about your mom. I can tell she was a very special lady.
Heather - Enjoy your outing!
Allie - Hang in there.
Pip - awww Rocky in Heaven with my beloved Pip! Hope he gets along with kitties.
Jolene - We must live close to each other because I experience that strange dark storm yesterday, too. Woke up from a nap and thought I'd slept til 7:00!
Toni in Tennessee
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Hope Heather is safe terror attack in London....2
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Yeah, Leigh! You are doing great on your path to healthy!1 -
I forgot Heather was off to Nottingham via London today. Tubes are closed on several lines due to the terrorist attack at UK Parliament and Westminster Bridge. Hope you are safe, Heather.
Karen in Virginia2 -
Accountability Post
March Goals
Tuesday's Progress (3/21)
✔1. Carbs 50-75g (limit 25g/meal)
(B5, L15, D25, MS5, AS13, BBS8= 71g)
✔2. Fiber 30g (29g)
✔3. Track/complete entry daily
✔4. Vegetables - big salad daily
✔5. Exercise - log 30 Fitbit minutes.
✔6. No eating after 9pm.
✔7. In bed by midnight.
8. Declutter: ✔Office Supplies, Electronics, Music, Craft Supplies, Cleaning Supplies, ✔Utility Drawer, Utility Closet
• Declutter -Got utility drawer done.
Busy day planned. Wish a great day for you all.
Prayers for London.
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Been out most of the day and only just put SkyNews on horrendous attack hope Heather is OK
I suppose it was only a matter of time before London was hit again
Kate UK2 -
Heather prayers for London
Lenora Happy Birthday!1 -
Didn't attend my TOPS meeting. Just didn't feel like going. One of those days. Tomorrow shall be better! Sometimes I just can't do this. Hmm I need summer is what I need!
Becca
Blue in beautiful Oregon2 -
Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening My Dear Friends,
Re, you look fantastic. I know you have to feel good. On the job front, that is a hard one. That kind of money is hard to turn down if it’s a job you think you’d like. If you put most of the extra away from now until you retire that would go a long way on helping you be very comfortable and being able to do extra things. Perhaps you have a great retirement plan going and that’s not something that is important. All I can say is once you get my age you don’t have many options on getting extra money if you want/need it for things.
Gloria, glad the doc didn’t find a problem with Zac, so hopefully the Cardiologist won’t either. Definitely better safe than sorry. That is good to know your program would cover a knee/hip replacement. Good luck searching for a new job. There seems to be a lot more part time than full time around here so I hope it’s an easy search.
Rori, even though you may have picked up a pound it’s great to have the body say otherwise. Go girl!
Becky, I really commend you for adopting your daughter. It’s a challenge at an advanced age and especially one with issues. (Not that all teenagers don’t have issues.)
Beth, I hope you take the time to take a breath. My heart goes out to you hearing that everything happens at once. When your son’s care giver is a no show do they ever come back or what is the deal? I can’t imagine anyone doing that other than if they had an emergency. (((Hugs))) Prayers for your Dad.
Lois, TEN INCHES in the waist???? Wow, woman!! That is terrific. Keep up the great work.
Sharon, your DD has a beautiful family. You should be proud.
Allie, so sorry you don’t have support from the home front but please know our support is real and we are with you all the way. (((Hugs)))
Kelly, I laughed at you talking about the way your DH did certain things in your absence. Sometimes I just shake my head at things my DH does when he knows that “I do them this way!” Then I stop and think, at least he did put it up or do so n so. What is it about us? LOL
Lillian, don’t you wonder where these hubbies think the meals, clean clothes, clean house, etc. comes from if we do nothing but sit in front of a computer all day.
Jolene, great news on that job suddenly going up a few pay grades. Good for you if you decide to take it.
CarolGA, I think I’d probably be the same way with young children at this point in my life. I do wish I had some grandchildren to find out. I know my DH would have been the best Grandfather in the world. He has always had a way with kids. When our DD was 2 or 3, he was so popular with the neighborhood kids that one day a little boy knocked on the back door and asked if D.D.’s Dad could come out to play. (My dear daughter’s name happens to be D.D.)
Katla, how are your DH’s eyes doing? I hope all is good.
Becca, it must be something in the air because my DD is a bit blue in Oregon. New day ahead.
I hadn’t see the news but hope we hear from Heather soon.
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I thought I was going to have to take my friend t get her car at the dealership but they finished before the shuttle was finished and took care of it. I was glad because it was going to make me rush to get to the Moose lodge on time to help sell raffle tickets. I’m leaving early to go deposit money in the bank for my friend who’s car we sold. Even though we got a certified bank check for the car, my bank put a 24 hour hold on it before we could take out the whole amount. Go figure. The buyer made it out to my DH.
Sending love, good thoughts and sunshine to all of you. Wishing you all the best that things can be.
I Love you
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Haven't seen the news to see what happened in London but stay safe Heather.
I know that DNRs are important but I wish a loved one could rescind in when their loved one is 'no longer there' but is still alive. I don't think I could take it.
Pip, some of your pictures look like a piece of art like the one of Rocky.
Headache most of yesterday, went to bed with it but slept well and woke up with it.
Joyce, Indiana2 -
Felt really lousy (nauseous & dizzy) this morning, so took a sick day & stayed home. Got some more sleep this morning after finally got back to sleep again. Been lazy sitting on couch all day since didn't get up again until about 10. Reading posts in between watching recorded tv shows.
I'm inserting a "disclaimer" of sorts here. Didn't mean to get so carried away with the long post that follows, but guess it felt good to air my feelings on the matter. Decided to leave it as is. Feel free to read or not.
To respond to Kim & Sharon: Thank you for your kind words. Just to clarify a bit: We adopted our niece, not grandchild (she was my sister's child). Also, we're not retired yet, so have needed to juggle the demands of "starting over" raising a child while still working full time.
My job is also very demanding & often work long hours, plus long drive from home. When our son was young, we also both worked & dealt with childcare, etc, but were younger then & I also worked closer to home when he was young. Also, once he was a teen, he could be at home alone so we didn't have to rely on a sitter just to go out for an hour or so, but she can't be so that's a bigger challenge, too. We've been fortunate that our son has still lived at home after finishing college & works from home on computer, so he's able to be here before & after school for the time DH & I have to leave for work & before get home again.
Son's been dating a nice girl for about 8 months now & spends some days/nights at her place depending on her works schedule (varies which days she's off), which has caused some difficulty for us with that lately when it's a weekday. He also is thinking of moving out possibly in August. Glad he's finally starting his own life. Since DH plans to retire sometime this summer (probably in Aug, too), won't have to worry about needing son to watch her any more after that at least. Will also be easier for DH to take her to her many dr. appts. without needing to either take time off work or schedule during breaks from school for her & I. She has Tuberous Sclerosis (so did my sis) which causes numerous health & cognitive or psychological issues, so she sees about 9 different specialists to keep tabs on things. Some more often than others. She also sees a psychotherapist at school about every other wk.
Fortunately, her behavior has made big strides since the 1st yr (was awful - very volatile & could be abusive to me & extremely uncooperative). We knew she was like this, but harder to LIVE with it. That was at the same time Mom's health began declining so also was helping her a lot - I stress ate my way up 30 lbs that 1st yr. I really couldn't have done it without my wonderful DH. He's been my rock through so much. She also never had a real dad & was often better for him - he was really resistant at 1st to taking her in, but has become very close to her & protective of her. It's been helpful that he works in her school district & has easy access to teachers, psychotherapist, etc. too. Plus he's able to leave work more easily if need be & home much sooner than I am.
Have needed to "train" him not to coddle her too much or enable her bad behavior sometimes. Also, he needs to not wait on her all the time & encourage her to do things she's capable of doing herself - like pouring her own drink or making herself a sandwich. When she 1st came, if she spilled a drink (often happened), she'd just sit there oblivious to it. At least I've gotten her to make some effort to help clean it up now & ask for help if needed. Luckily happens less, too although she still leaves a mess with crumbs when she eats. Will clean up her dishes, though. Also helping her to learn how to cook some things in microwave, too. She once threw up in the tub when showering at night, though, & never told us - son found it the next morning when he went to shower - after we'd gone to work. (Different shower than we use - we did reno 2 yrs ago to add a 2nd bathrm & another bedrm for her - best investment.) Kind of funny actually - his frantic call to DH who told him to just clean it up himself. Son wasn't thrilled - to say the least. He's never had to deal with caring for a child at all. We've dealt with puke lots of times from HIM. LOL
Sometimes just feel sad when I feel that DH & I have lost our chance to enjoy life as a couple again the way I'd envisioned. When we were "empty nesters" while son was away at college, we got a small taste of it, but couldn't really afford any real vacations together then, since strapped paying for college for him (beyond his student loans) & also several yrs of job insecurity for me after I changed careers to become a teacher. Now we finally can afford it & he'll be retiring this summer (so will be off from work when I'm also off), but we're tied down with her now. It's been so difficult to get someone to watch her for just a short amount of time, can't imagine being able to actually take a longer vacation without her. We'll probably take her with us on a camping trip sometime this summer for a few days & some day trips to places, but would love to be able to get away as just a couple for longer than one night once a yr. Her behavior can really be challenging for longer than a few hours so don't really want to spend $$ on a vacation that won't be able to enjoy. Even spending time together at home is always centered around HER needs - just having a conversation longer than 2 min. can be tough at times.
Want to try to work on convincing my sis-in-law (brother's wife) to agree to take her for longer than one night for us. Not sure I'll have much luck, though. She's been more willing to take her now & then for short time periods the past couple of yrs now that her behavior has improved, though. Really annoyed me sometimes how little they stepped up to help us out with her & SinL would complain in the past about how hard it was for her to watch her - they only had her for a day & we've had her all the time. She even made a "joke" once about getting paid extra for needing to give meds to her - REALLY?! What does she think we have to do EVERY DAY? Giving her meds is the least of it all. She said she was "just kidding", but it still annoyed me.
We were the only ones willing to step up & take on the responsibility so they got off easy (& they're actually her godparents - meaningless, I guess) - the least they could do is offer to help us out more often. They live nearby, too. My brother is a self-employed bldg contractor & works long hours, but she only works part time. They also have a huge house, with extra bedrooms since their children are both grown & gone (except their daughter sometimes there when home from college). They've faced some financial & marriage problems in past yrs, but glad they've worked out their marriage troubles & are closer now. Maybe that's made a difference lately, too. We sometimes go take care of their dogs so they can go away together - never think twice about it whenever they've need us (or our $$ for loans). Also used to watch their children when young quite often. It just would be nice for them to HELP more. We actually PAY them to watch her, too from respite funds we've been able to get from a program, so glad to have the funds to help them out, too. If that ends, wonder if SinL would still be willing to ever watch her or if I'll still need to pay her. Also, would make it harder to afford to take a week-long vacation if have to pay someone to watch her for a whole week. Have to start being careful about our $$ since will have less when DH retires. Also want to try to save as much as possible so that I can retire before too many more yrs.
DH & I really are the best people for the job to take in our niece & have been able to afford to take her in financially without any problem. The fact that we'd watched her many times over the yrs when sister was alive (esp. when sis was in hospital on & off & as Mom wasn't up to it any more) made it easier for us to take her, too. We've also been very proactive in getting her needed medical & psychotherapy help. It's really helped her thrive with us. Now we're trying to get other services in place to help her further & over the long-term. Been a 2-yr process (crazy slow) to try to get to this point when her access to Medicaid waiver, etc never should've stopped when we took her in over 4 yrs ago (but that's a whole other story).
My other brother & wife live a couple of hours away so not practical for them to watch her & they haven't had the space either. Not very close to DH's sisters in recent yrs & the 2 that live nearby have their own troubles with many grandkids, etc so don't ask for their help. We've been fortunate for a friend we've made who's the mom of two autistic boys that are friends with our daughter. She's been awesome about taking her sometimes for the day or a rare sleepover. We've tried to get together when possible so the kids can play or a movie, etc together, too. She's a single mom living with her parents, though so that's not easy for her. She says she loves to take her, though cuz the kids play & give her a break. Been trying to get together for months, but always someone sick, etc. so hasn't worked out yet - maybe this wkend. I'd love to return the favor, but her son is terrified of our dogs. It's difficult just to have them visit at our house. Have taken daughter & the older boy (same age as daughter) to the movies before to at least give her a bit of a break. When weather gets better, will try to go bike riding together, too.
I also very much admire those who've taken on the challenges of taking care of someone else's child(ren) in their later years. I've gained a new appreciation for the many difficulties/sacrifices it requires. Guess it also forces us to try to stay healthy & "young" longer, which is a good thing.
Have also been able to gain more insight into the daily lives of those raising children with various special needs. As an aunt, I was certainly aware of my sister's challenges & tried to help her out as much as possible & watched my niece now & then when I could, but much different to deal with it 24/7. I also realize that some have it much harder than we do. Fortunately (with the help of therapy & meds), her behavior's more manageable & she doesn't have ongoing daily health needs (other than meds & special shoe inserts) & is able to do her own personal hygiene for the most part (won't wash her own hair, though), just needing lots of reminders. She's also mobile so that's easier. The biggest challenges are psychological & her immaturity mentally while in a teen's body.
WOW - can't believe how much I've gone on & on. Also can't believe it's after 3:30 already. It's amazing how time flies when doing NOTHING! LOL
Gotta go shower before caseworker comes for home visit.
Have a good day. Best wishes to everyone for health & happiness & success in personal goals. I do care about all of you. Sorry my post today was so self-centered.
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Hello everyone,
Kim I am going to try your soup, it looks great. Thanks for sharing.
Re Good luck with your job quandary and such amazing pics, you can really see the progress. Good on you!
DJ lololol!
Lenora Thoughts and prayers are with you and Happy Birthday.
Jolene oh my, glad you are o.k. What a fright.
So I am in a very nice hotel room and it has one of those non complimentary junky snack bars. See what I did:
The things we must do. So it's off to a Mexican restaurant so I am hoping to find something that isn't too terrible.
Take care everyone. Sarah in Toronto 9 -
I'm fretting about Heather. Somebody tell me to cut it out.0
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((((Becky))))) - 0
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KetoneKaren wrote: »I'm fretting about Heather. Somebody tell me to cut it out.
She is just fine. She is staying at the hotel in Nottingham tonight. Perhaps a second glass of wine before bed. Stop worrying
Janetr okc1 -
Feel so sad about what happened in London. My heart goes out to the victims and families of those who were killed or injured.0
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Lenora happy birthday
(insert confetti balloons cake)
DH had painful facet shots at L2/L3 today. Pain should mean doc found the exact spot that is giving Wayne his greatest discomfort. Hope so we'll know in 2-3 days.
Becky I don't know what to say really all words seems so trite. You & your husband are the ultimate care givers I hope you can get some respite care and your daughter grows to be independent if that's a possibility. She is so lucky to have such unselfish second parents.
Lois on the very windy & chilly North Shore of Ma2 -
Greetings Lovelies,
I had lunch this afternoon with an old friend - such a lovely time and I had an amazing superfood salad. Felt very virtuous!
Here's a strange thing - DH had a call with a Dutch client in Amsterdam this afternoon. "Hey", she says, "what's going on in your Parliament?" That's how we learned about the awful events in Westminster -via a Dutch client!
I've checked with my mother to make sure she hadn't decided to go into town today (she lives 150 miles away from me in Wimbledon, but you never know - she could have decided to go into town on a whim). No need to worry - she had stayed home today.
I feel so sad for those poor people who were caught up in the nightmare - especially the families of those who won't be coming home tonight.
And I have just cried my eyes out at This is Us that I have just finished watching on catch up.
Time for bed - good night my friends4 -
Janetr OKC Thanks!
Good Night, Yinx. Sad for you and all our Brit friends. Sad for the whole world.
Karen in Virginia2 -
Sometimes my signature gets chopped off when I use my tablet !
Yinka in Worcestershire, UK2 -
Sarah - WOW!! The hotel just puts it right out in the open to tempt you. Not locked away. I'd probably request they remove it. ;-)
Glad you covered it up. Out of sight!
Ginger
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Had my eye appointment. I definitely need the laser procedure to add a drain hole to each iris. I already have some scarring from a previous episode that I didn't know about. Thank God my optic nerves are still healthy. I'll count my blessings!
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Hello everyone.
Yes, I'm fine. I was on the train to Nottingham well before the incident. I knew nothing about it until I read it on here just now. Really dreadful. Awful for the families.
I met the furry grandchildren and, being greyhounds, they were very self contained and I had no problems with them. We went for a walk and stopped off at a microbrewery. They were very well behaved.
Later my son and I went for tapas. Good but expensive..
All good. It's a bit of a treck, but I'm glad I've come up and he so wanted me to see the dogs. He didn't stop talking about them. Still hasn't got a job .
I'm going to leave after breakfast tomorrow. DOS wanted me to see him tomorrow, but I think I've done my duty. Enough.
Eaten too much, drunk too much. I did do my exercises this morning.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx8 -
Lenora! Happy Birthday!!! Hope you are doing some celebrating!
Lanette1 -
Thank you all, Sweet Sisters;
For both your kind words about my photos and your wise advice about the job quandary. After pondering whether or not my schedule could be adjusted to work with that 8-5 standard work schedule (it can, just) I have determined that I am going to go and interview for the new position.
The money is just too good - I mean geez between $800 and $1000 dollars a month increase? Besides, the trained monkey work I am doing now isn't particularly challenging - so, Underwriting again - on existing loans - might be refreshing.
I sort of hated Underwriting on New Originations at a Wholesale Lender... I hated the mortgage brokers, I hated the fraud, I hated having to be the bad guy all the time when some idiot gave me a ridiculous "Stated Income" figure. (If 7-11 clerks are making $5k a month, I am going to work, THERE!) However, in a modification environment, it won't be like that... Fraud will be less, and more easily spotted. There are no slimy brokers intent on getting every last dollar from every loan they close - and willing to do ANYTHING to close the loans - and there is no such thing as "Stated Income" on a loan mod. I expect the work would be tolerable, or even enjoyable - and never boring. I know the boss and like him... and based on how my old friend is poaching and recruiting everyone he knows, there will probably be a few other familiar faces.
Of course, it's not a sure thing - even with my friend - whom I called Little Brother when I worked with him - at the helm. I have to apply, I have to pass math tests... neither of which really frighten me. However, the interview is done by three people - or I have to go through three seperate interviews with each of the three people - not quite sure - but all hiring requires a consensus of all three people. And, Dear Ones - on occasion, I have been known to rub someone the wrong way... (I am sure that I have rubbed one or two of you on occasion, and for that, I apologize) so, it is by no means a certainty - but, I will begin the process, and keep you apprised of my adventures in interviewing. Time to dust off that ancient resume and buff it to a fine shine.
For now, I have to just keep my head down and keep on doing my thing, here... Because, hey - if the new gig doesn't materialize, I need to have some intact bridges here...
So, back to work for me!
Hugs for everybody!
Re in TX5 -
Jmkmomm awww thanks!0
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Lenora: Happy Birthday. May you have a lovely day.
Re: Meant to tell you how fab you look in the photo collage. You are on a roll and sound brimming with confidence at the prospect of a higher paying job. WTG.
My DH also has creative places to store things while I'm away on trips. Usually they turn up in the vicinity of where they should be. But sometimes ????
We're still looking for the litter box scooper that disappeared during my last trip. 
I'm reading a book called "How to Say It to Seniors" which is definitely clearing up many of the questions I've been having about my 72 year old DH. Not unlike toddlers and teenagers, seniors also have normal stages of development. According to this author, this behavior is not a sign of diminished capacity, but a need to hang onto some control. (I'm not doing this subject justice....)
Heading to bed early tonight. Stay well friends. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
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