Has anyone become attractive after losing weight? If so then tell me..
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SierraFatToSkinny wrote: »I think Op meant well.
I kind of feel bad for him right now, but that's because I'm codependent.
I think he's coming from a different cultural mindset. I'm going to take a stab at it and guess he's from India. (Sorry if I'm wrong.) If he had grown up in a western country then he might have picked different words to conform better.
And... I'm going to be honest. Part of the reason I'm losing weight is so I can be more attractive! I think I'm fairly attractive currently... (with makeup, haha). And I have grander, more honorable goals of being healthy and fit, but I'd also like to enjoy a picture of myself in a group of friends.
@ sierra...you are gorgeous.
I caught the cultural differences as well...1 -
My experience has been that when I am fitter--not thinner--but strong and fit--I get hit on more often. But I also find that if I smile more I get hit on, so as everyone says it is all subjective. I rather think it is a confidence thing, not a body size thing...
I'm sorry that some people found this thread offensive. I teach a large population of English as second language students, and I have found that sometimes ideas are lost in translation, and cultural differences occasionally come across as social mores when they really aren't meant that way...3 -
SierraFatToSkinny wrote: »I think Op meant well.
I kind of feel bad for him right now, but that's because I'm codependent.
I think he's coming from a different cultural mindset. I'm going to take a stab at it and guess he's from India. (Sorry if I'm wrong.) If he had grown up in a western country then he might have picked different words to conform better.
And... I'm going to be honest. Part of the reason I'm losing weight is so I can be more attractive! I think I'm fairly attractive currently... (with makeup, haha). And I have grander, more honorable goals of being healthy and fit, but I'd also like to enjoy a picture of myself in a group of friends.
@ sierra...you are gorgeous.
I caught the cultural differences as well...
LOVE you.
I bet that translates well into whatever culture.2 -
SierraFatToSkinny wrote: »I think Op meant well.
I kind of feel bad for him right now, but that's because I'm codependent.
I think he's coming from a different cultural mindset. I'm going to take a stab at it and guess he's from India. (Sorry if I'm wrong.) If he had grown up in a western country then he might have picked different words to conform better.
And... I'm going to be honest. Part of the reason I'm losing weight is so I can be more attractive! I think I'm fairly attractive currently... (with makeup, haha). And I have grander, more honorable goals of being healthy and fit, but I'd also like to enjoy a picture of myself in a group of friends.
Hey i was gonna say the same thing. Its total cultural disparity that made OP ask such a question. He's not being mean spirited, just a little um, not diplomatic. Because as a south asian/Indian I can tell you people get judgey if you don't look a certain way. All this western civilized talk of its what is inside that matmaks or whatever is making my head spin lol. Kinda disbelieving coz it IS a different culture
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Matters makes* sheesh typos
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alecgrodecki wrote: »Well, according to a former coworker a few years back, she became interested after losing the weight
As nice as this sounds your coworker kinda sounds like a terrible person if she only became interested because of that0 -
I was born ugly ... nothing changed
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Self-confidence is really important part of being attractive. When we are overweight, because of the society's beauty standards we can't be self-confident and also because of lack of plus size clothes it's hard to be attractive. When I was in "normal range of weight" I wasn't confident about my appearance, because of I wasn't thin enough for society so I hadn't had enough dates and partners. Whatever I have gained lots of weight even become obese but I have became more body positive and self-confident. So I have had many dates and partners.0
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Meh. I'm over 400lbs and am a babe. A super fat babe, but a babe nonetheless.
Make of that what you damn will.
When I lose all this weight will I become more of a babe? Nah. Just a smaller babe.
What I will be is healthier and hopefully increase my capacity to live longer and to run and enjoy life more and all that fun stuff. Priorities.6 -
Problem i have i never see a difference in my self otgers tell me im losing i simply dont see it xx0
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I certainly didn't feel attractive before I lost the weight, and certainly didn't have a lot of confidence in myself or my body. I feel better about myself now, but I'll y'all make the call.
Before:
After:
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It depends on your genes. If you were cute/pretty/handsome as a larger person, you're going to be pretty/cute/handsome, after. If you weren't necessarily born with an attractive face, you're not going to have one when you lose the weight, either. Your body will be attractive/normal but your face is your face.2
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I think I know what you mean by this post
well esentially i've always been called "handsome" "cute" but I personally never felt attractive until I started loosing weight. I can definitely say though ever since i've lost weight I get approached way more than before when I was heavier.1 -
SierraFatToSkinny wrote: »I think Op meant well.
I kind of feel bad for him right now, but that's because I'm codependent.
I think he's coming from a different cultural mindset. I'm going to take a stab at it and guess he's from India. (Sorry if I'm wrong.) If he had grown up in a western country then he might have picked different words to conform better.
And... I'm going to be honest. Part of the reason I'm losing weight is so I can be more attractive! I think I'm fairly attractive currently... (with makeup, haha). And I have grander, more honorable goals of being healthy and fit, but I'd also like to enjoy a picture of myself in a group of friends.
You nailed it. All very apparent. I feel bad for him too. There is a cultural nuance of acceptable terminology and phrasing of which he is possibly unaware.
OP, most people hope to be more physically attractive by becoming fit and trim, me included. And I'd venture to say that most people do become more physically attractive once their weight problem is corrected. There is nothing wrong with that - most people admire a form and figure that is not distorted by excess fat. Thus, they attract more people on a physical level.
Of course, there are many other aspects of men and women that make us attractive to others which don't center around our physical appearance. Those personality and character traits are far more important than our looks in the long run. I hope this helps answer your question, OP.5 -
Yes I have experienced this and often people who have been heavier and lost weight give off more positive vibes and have more confidence which makes them more attractive as a person than someone who has always been stick thin.0
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I feel more confident after weight loss. I think that is what you may have wanted to know.0
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People arent losing weight to become more attractive? Not sure why people have the need to lie about this topic
Its a social perspective on being "oversized" so people feel the need to lose weight/fat to become more appealing either in the sense of their own opinion or to others, nothing to be concerned over if you benefit health wise too
Everyone can jump up and down whilst being offended but its a clear ego rant to do so6 -
EbonyDahlia wrote: »Sorry, but if you're ugly, you're ugly. Thin or fat. No diet will fix that.
What the saying means is
You can change being fat
You can't change being ugly "ugly as ugly on the inside"
There is no such thing as ugly . Beauty is subjective. Everyone is beautiful in there own way.
You should be trying to make people feel good about themselves not hate who they are tsk tsk tsk!
I'm sorry I opened this thread
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Will most people see you as more attractive? Yes. Does that even matter? Nope. As someone who has been on both sides of the skinny-fat spectrum, I can tell you this: people will treat you better. And it's going to suck. Why? Because you are still you, underneath whatever weight you plan to lose you will always be you. You will have adapted to life as a heavier person and expect everything to a the same except your looks, but you will find that everything has changed because of your looks-- everything but you. People will be more kind. They will smile more. They will include you more and value you more, and they will expect you to reciprocate. But if you only built yourself from the outside, you won't be ready for that. You will be highly aware the how differently others see you, and it's going to be uncomfortable. We live in an ugly world. Find the attractive in you right now, and build on that.1
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nurseangelamomof5boys wrote: »EbonyDahlia wrote: »Sorry, but if you're ugly, you're ugly. Thin or fat. No diet will fix that.
What the saying means is
You can change being fat
You can't change being ugly "ugly as ugly on the inside"
There is no such thing as ugly . Beauty is subjective. Everyone is beautiful in there own way.
You should be trying to make people feel good about themselves not hate who they are tsk tsk tsk!
I'm sorry I opened this thread
I'm not judging anyone nor am I trying to make them feel bad. You are what you are. Losing weight is not going to make you less ugly, sorry.2 -
I was definitely more attractive at 150 lbs vs 270. I'll get there
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I honestly don't understand why people are offended by the OP's question, or started straw-man arguments about it.
He simply asked a question: If anyone experienced feeling more attractive after a weight-loss.
I personally have. I feel more attractive and confident when I am in lower body fat percentage, and athletic.
However this statement takes nothing away from people that feel confident and attractive being overweight. Kudos to them too.8 -
So, my boss said to me yesterday twice that I am becoming more attractive. So that means that indeed, some people feel this, even if it's not myself.1
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subcounter wrote: »I honestly don't understand why people are offended by the OP's question, or started straw-man arguments about it.
He simply asked a question: If anyone experienced feeling more attractive after a weight-loss.
I personally have. I feel more attractive and confident when I am in lower body fat percentage, and athletic.
However this statement takes nothing away from people that feel confident and attractive being overweight. Kudos to them too.
I don't take issue at the question and gave an honest answer. Which the OP then laughed at. I took some offense to that, but decided I was happy with my physical attractiveness at any weight and am fortunate enough to not be married to a man who thinks I'm always sexy, so let it slide. If the OP wants to be shallow that's his problem.1 -
jennybearlv wrote: »subcounter wrote: »I honestly don't understand why people are offended by the OP's question, or started straw-man arguments about it.
He simply asked a question: If anyone experienced feeling more attractive after a weight-loss.
I personally have. I feel more attractive and confident when I am in lower body fat percentage, and athletic.
However this statement takes nothing away from people that feel confident and attractive being overweight. Kudos to them too.
I don't take issue at the question and gave an honest answer. Which the OP then laughed at. I took some offense to that, but decided I was happy with my physical attractiveness at any weight and am fortunate enough to not be married to a man who thinks I'm always sexy, so let it slide. If the OP wants to be shallow that's his problem.
He responded to my post with "Wow... thx." To which I replied with an explanation.
Later I realized he probably doesn't know that response would be read as mildly sarcastic. I'm guessing he probably doesn't know his response to you would be seen as mocking. I'd just the the smilie face at face value.2 -
Yeah, I don't understand why some people got so offended by the question. Sure people can be attractive or unattractive at any weight, and of course it's what's on the inside that truly matters. But let's be real, if we're going by looks alone people do generally look better when they lose weight, unless they're going from a normal weight to pretty underweight. I think people are lying to themselves if they want to say they don't think weight contributes to attractiveness. Admitting this isn't shallow, it's just the truth. It's shallow to no longer love your significant other when he gains weight, but it's not shallow to admit that he would appear more attractive to you if he did lose weight.5
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Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »Motivating someone to exercise to lose weight in hopes of finally becoming attractive is absolutely heart breaking to me. Any person Before, during and after is attractive because of the reasons outside of their weight, because they are good, honest, loving human being who would give the shirt of their back for someone they care about. They are a person who can give love and accept someone else for who they are regardless of their size. They have a great personality and can make someones day simply by existing and the people who have had the pleasure of meeting these people are incredibly thankful to have them in their lives.
I spent 29 years of my life being told i was a waste of life because i was fat.. i was not a waste of life, i was not ugly and i didn't become attractive after i lost weight, i was always attractive..
This thread really breaks my heart.
Maybe i am over reacting, but i feel like there are betters ways to motivate.
I am really with you on this. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and is skin deep. Attractiveness is more to do with how you feel about yourself and not about how you look. Using attractiveness to "motivate" either yourself or others to lose weight is not effective at all. Our aim, when losing weight is about being fit and healthy. If anything, like a previous poster touched on, you are more attractive when you're happy. Some people who may be at a healthy weight, may be as ugly as anything and that is more to do with them being a horrible person. My fella is overweight and he is one of the most beautiful people I know. I wouldn't change him for anything. I was with a slimmer and fitter man before him and although he was handsome, he wasn't as beautiful!
The original poster said that people don't get the idea by this post, well I think it would help the discussion if the idea of the post is explained. This sort of thing concerns me and I feel could be more positive and constructive when talking about the benefits of losing weight. The most important thing is how you feel inside about you, instead of how you feel other people see you!
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jennybearlv wrote: »subcounter wrote: »I honestly don't understand why people are offended by the OP's question, or started straw-man arguments about it.
He simply asked a question: If anyone experienced feeling more attractive after a weight-loss.
I personally have. I feel more attractive and confident when I am in lower body fat percentage, and athletic.
However this statement takes nothing away from people that feel confident and attractive being overweight. Kudos to them too.
I don't take issue at the question and gave an honest answer. Which the OP then laughed at. I took some offense to that, but decided I was happy with my physical attractiveness at any weight and am fortunate enough to not be married to a man who thinks I'm always sexy, so let it slide. If the OP wants to be shallow that's his problem.
LOL, that should say I am married to a man that thinks I'm sexy. How did that not get in there?0
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