Has anyone become attractive after losing weight? If so then tell me..
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My take could be that confidence is attractive. And a lot of people gain confidence when they lose weight. Walk taller, smile more, more outgoing, etc. which makes them seem more attractive.2
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Attraction is so subjective. There are people who like people who are big. So if those people lost weight, they would be unattractive to those people.
Attraction isn't just about how you look. There's a lot more involved. Lol, people with money get a lot of attraction regardless of how they look. So do famous people.
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Attraction is so subjective. There are people who like people who are big. So if those people lost weight, they would be unattractive to those people.
Attraction isn't just about how you look. There's a lot more involved. Lol, people with money get a lot of attraction regardless of how they look. So do famous people.
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This is a good point and definitely happened to me. My ex dumped me when I started losing weight because he likes big guys. After I lost about 40 pounds, he freaked out and said that I wouldn't be attractive anymore if I lost weight. To each their own but I realize that him liking me for my size was damaging to us both as it was a fixation for him and kept me from making necessary changes for my health. So, yes attractiveness is subjective, but I certainly don't believe the views of my ex are mainstream. Most people are attracted to fit or average individuals, body wise.4 -
depends on what people are looking for I guess. I've been told I lost too much weight. whatever. I'm the same person either way.
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I will never be attractive, even if I get down to my "perfect" weight. I'm disabled and have weird proportions - top half of my body is the size of a 5'9" person, my legs are about the size of a 4' person. I'm also disabled and my legs and hips are deformed. So for me, losing weight has nothing to do with looking better. It's just for my health.3
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Someone who thinks they're unattractive "before" usually thinks the same thing "after" because either they have a poor self image or unrealistic expectations.5
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I've definitely become more confident
You got more attractive too, dude. The slimmed out face draws more attention to your features, and maybe it's the fact that you're no longer hiding in the photo but you look like you got swag now.
It's 50:50. You're hotter but you also got energy.
I hope I get more attractive when I hit goal. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I get you, OP.
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Beauty is subjective, but I feel that I personally am far more attractive when I am fit. My husband seems to think I'm hot no matter what, but he's crazy about me.
I enjoy the energy, strength, flexibility and aesthetics of the fit version of my body. I feel healthier and stronger and I look healthier and stronger, and those qualities are extremely attractive to me. I think many people feel more confident and energetic when they look and feel fit and healthy. And confidence and energy are always attractive.
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How are you defining attractive?
When you lose weight you conform more to societal norms, so yes that is attractive.
Actually the better term would be acceptance.
When you are closer to an ideal weight your going to conform and be more acceptable at first sight which is a judgement we all make and don't say you don't because you would only be fooling your self.
Attractiveness is beyond subjective and has way to many factors involved for you to ask this question in this way.
I have met way to many people who were physical attractive, I mean stone cold physically attractive who after a minute and half had me wishing I had that minute and a half back.
So lets cut to the chase, when I loose my goal I will be more acceptable and presentable to those I meet and I look forward to that.5 -
My ex-husband recently said, "I never was into skinny girls." Lol, good thing I am into being thinner.
It all depends on who is judging what is attractive. 0 -
Sorry guys I was busy this week so I couldn't reply to most of you. After reading the replies I have realized that many are not happy with my thread. I just wanted to motivate others to exercise. We all want to be attractive even if you say no. I don't judge someone on the basis of their looks. For me their character and inner beauty matters.
And yeah someone correctly pointed that OP is from India! Hell yes I am Indian. If that same person has problem with my 'nationality' or my 'culture' then you really down to earth person.0 -
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I really don't think he meant it that way.Look_Its_Kriss wrote: »Motivating someone to exercise to lose weight in hopes of finally becoming attractive is absolutely heart breaking to me. Any person Before, during and after is attractive because of the reasons outside of their weight, because they are good, honest, loving human being who would give the shirt of their back for someone they care about. They are a person who can give love and accept someone else for who they are regardless of their size. They have a great personality and can make someones day simply by existing and the people who have had the pleasure of meeting these people are incredibly thankful to have them in their lives.
I spent 29 years of my life being told i was a waste of life because i was fat.. i was not a waste of life, i was not ugly and i didn't become attractive after i lost weight, i was always attractive..
This thread really breaks my heart.
Maybe i am over reacting, but i feel like there are betters ways to motivate.
Thnx. I really didn't mean that way0 -
iamfighting wrote: »Idk why anyone is confused by this post . YES YOU GET MORE ATTRACTIVE. absolutely . Being over weight is fine . It's life . No one judges. But yes . ANYONE is not attractive thinner.
So yes.
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Please explain why I didn't get more attractive after my weight loss.
And everyone judges, just some are better about keeping their mouths shut.6 -
Don't know if I've become more attractive but I'm a lot more outgoing in public now and I feel awesome.14 -
Yes, the honest truth is that not only do people look better within a healthy weight range, they feel better too, which is way more important. Losing the weight, sticking to a plan, giving this gift to yourself builds confidence and confidence is attractive on anyone.2
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if what you mean is "wow there was a hottie under there" then yes lol0
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Confidence!!!
The person probably feels better about themselves and accomplished after losing the weight, therefore having more confidence!
Also, what I think is attractive in men most women don't - so like others have said subjective, everyone have different opinions. *I think love handles on men are cute, someone who can make me laugh, someone who has a positive outlook......... and the most attractive thing about anyone to me is -- you are who you say you are (not just broken promises) 0 -
I've always been attractive to MYSELF but now that I'm 90lbs lighter I get 90% more "attention" so I guess in other people's eyes I'm more attractive....soooo yeah?1
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born_of_fire74 wrote: »I was never terribly large, just a little on the hefty side but, when I was larger, I was often mistaken for a boy. My hair is as short as ever and I still don't wear make-up but I can't remember the last time someone thought I was a fella. I really haven't changed the way I dress either, still wear the manly shoes, same skinny jeans and same heavy metal t-shirts I have for years, so not sure what's up with that. Used to happen all the time, like weekly if not daily, but it's been months.
I think it's the PC culture. They might still think you're a "him" but it's extra-impolite nowadays to "assume someone's gender."
I got a boy's haircut in 5th grade. I guess the teasing could have been devastating, if I'd cared what other people think.0 -
People were nicer to me after I lost the weight, like I was more approachable or something. I don't know. Some people said I just seemed happier and more happy, so who knows. I guess it's not just the physical change, it's the whole package that makes you more attractive.0
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autumnblade75 wrote: »born_of_fire74 wrote: »I was never terribly large, just a little on the hefty side but, when I was larger, I was often mistaken for a boy. My hair is as short as ever and I still don't wear make-up but I can't remember the last time someone thought I was a fella. I really haven't changed the way I dress either, still wear the manly shoes, same skinny jeans and same heavy metal t-shirts I have for years, so not sure what's up with that. Used to happen all the time, like weekly if not daily, but it's been months.
I think it's the PC culture. They might still think you're a "him" but it's extra-impolite nowadays to "assume someone's gender."
I got a boy's haircut in 5th grade. I guess the teasing could have been devastating, if I'd cared what other people think.
I think @born_of_fire74 had a similar experience to me. I assume I faced less sexism when I was obese because I was viewed as more butch. I agree people are more sensitive now to assuming gender (I lost the bulk of my weight in 2006), however, I still get called a "him". I got called a him on mfp today, in fact!
As an aside, I went bungee jumping in New Zealand when I weighed 220 pounds. Because weight is important in bungee jumping, our weights were written in black pen on our arms and we were put in a line by weight for jumping order. I was heavier than the dozens of men jumping that day. I'm still kinda proud of that experience, in the sense that I think a lot of women wouldn't have tolerated that.1 -
I'm actually much more heinous looking but at least I don't fart anymore.3
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Attraction is so subjective. There are people who like people who are big. So if those people lost weight, they would be unattractive to those people.
Attraction isn't just about how you look. There's a lot more involved. Lol, people with money get a lot of attraction regardless of how they look. So do famous people.
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Even though this is the case, there's certain things that are considered attractive almost universally because of biological conditioning to find a healthy child bearing mate. for example:
teeth: are they yellow? rotting? missing?
skin: pallor or sickly complexion? acne? rashes or injuries?
eyes: red? pink? half lidded? dull?
Indicators of illness: coughing? wheezing? Immobility? Fatigue and weakness? Poor posture? Poor mental clarity?
Essentially, most people have a general idea of what we consider "healthy" outwardly and judge this in the first 1/2 second of laying eyes upon someone REGARDLESS of our preferred "traits" and what consider attractive. Bright eyes, skin, healthy hair, energy, sharp mental clarity, etc. go a LONG way!
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