Bad memories, experiences you had as a child which still haunts you, reminds you till this day
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »I just want to give some of y'all a big hug.
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jpoehls9025 wrote: »jpoehls9025 wrote: »Some of these bad "experiences" should not haunt these people still today... some just need thicker skin. But others I can relate with totally Shi** stuff can happen in life just as long as you can turn your circumstances into something constructive. Ive dealt with a lot of trauma in life and I just rather choose to learn from the experiences rather then let it haunt me for ever.
Please don't undermine someone else's trauma.
I suppose your right what is common place for me might be an out right tragedy for another, who am I to judge. I still think people could benefit from developing a thicker skin / Positive mindset.
Maybe too thick of skin can cause someone to think that they are not bigger than their circumstances. They may just take life as it comes and never use those bad experiences to create positive changes in their lives.
No one can really judge what should or shouldn't be traumatic to another person.
actually I believe having "thick skin" will allow you to not fall victim (adhere to some ones standards, criticism or any other form of physical / mental abuse) to the circumstances and allows you in your words to always be bigger then them in any or all situations. Thus this will allow the individual to always have a positive outlook, no mater what adversity they face in life, and as I said "who am I to judge" because at the end of the day some one on one side of the world has probably witnessed friends and family murdered to the hands of tyrants and here in the US we drop our gum on the sidewalk and its just an absolute tragedy... thats my point.0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »I just want to give some of y'all a big hug.
.... with a reach around
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When. I was 7 I was at my Grandmas house for the weekend like always. Something was wrong though because she was on the phone all night crying and yelling. It was past bedtime when she told me and my brother to get in the car we were going home. That NEVER happened. We always spent the night. When we got home we (my 10 year old brother and I) were brought into our parents room where my mom told us our father had committed suicide. At 7 I didn't know what that meant but my brother did and started crying. So I did too. It was very scary. Then I was driven to my aunt's house to sleep and I had never slept there before. I finally figured out what suicide was and had to deal with it all alone in a strange bed with nobody to talk to.
I'm 38 and clearly remember this night. Worst of my life for sure and has caused many issues growing up.2 -
SarahMorganP wrote: »When. I was 7 I was at my Grandmas house for the weekend like always. Something was wrong though because she was on the phone all night crying and yelling. It was past bedtime when she told me and my brother to get in the car we were going home. That NEVER happened. We always spent the night. When we got home we (my 10 year old brother and I) were brought into our parents room where my mom told us our father had committed suicide. At 7 I didn't know what that meant but my brother did and started crying. So I did too. It was very scary. Then I was driven to my aunt's house to sleep and I had never slept there before. I finally figured out what suicide was and had to deal with it all alone in a strange bed with nobody to talk to.
I'm 38 and clearly remember this night. Worst of my life for sure and has caused many issues growing up.
I hope you found peace in life after such an occurrence. Ill pray for you!0 -
SarahMorganP wrote: »When. I was 7 I was at my Grandmas house for the weekend like always. Something was wrong though because she was on the phone all night crying and yelling. It was past bedtime when she told me and my brother to get in the car we were going home. That NEVER happened. We always spent the night. When we got home we (my 10 year old brother and I) were brought into our parents room where my mom told us our father had committed suicide. At 7 I didn't know what that meant but my brother did and started crying. So I did too. It was very scary. Then I was driven to my aunt's house to sleep and I had never slept there before. I finally figured out what suicide was and had to deal with it all alone in a strange bed with nobody to talk to.
I'm 38 and clearly remember this night. Worst of my life for sure and has caused many issues growing up.
My petty bad memories is nothing compared to yours. It must have been hard for you.0 -
At 13 I found my mum after she hung herself, couldn't get her down as her dead weight had set in and I was too weak.
It haunts me every day still though not nearly as vividly as then. At 28 i'm now only less than 10 years younger than she was.
It's a head frick seeing someone you love so much who gave you life so dead and lifeless.
I am happy to talk about it now though.
It nearly caused me to take my own life, but I overcame it and now I regularly fundraise for mental health charities and give presentations on suicide and depression awareness.4 -
jpoehls9025 wrote: »jpoehls9025 wrote: »jpoehls9025 wrote: »Some of these bad "experiences" should not haunt these people still today... some just need thicker skin. But others I can relate with totally Shi** stuff can happen in life just as long as you can turn your circumstances into something constructive. Ive dealt with a lot of trauma in life and I just rather choose to learn from the experiences rather then let it haunt me for ever.
Please don't undermine someone else's trauma.
I suppose your right what is common place for me might be an out right tragedy for another, who am I to judge. I still think people could benefit from developing a thicker skin / Positive mindset.
Maybe too thick of skin can cause someone to think that they are not bigger than their circumstances. They may just take life as it comes and never use those bad experiences to create positive changes in their lives.
No one can really judge what should or shouldn't be traumatic to another person.
actually I believe having "thick skin" will allow you to not fall victim (adhere to some ones standards, criticism or any other form of physical / mental abuse) to the circumstances and allows you in your words to always be bigger then them in any or all situations. Thus this will allow the individual to always have a positive outlook, no mater what adversity they face in life, and as I said "who am I to judge" because at the end of the day some one on one side of the world has probably witnessed friends and family murdered to the hands of tyrants and here in the US we drop our gum on the sidewalk and its just an absolute tragedy... thats my point.
Jeez you're being a dik. This is why mental health is a huge issue today. Skin protects you only from physical issues and doesn't do that well.
Psychologically damaging experiences should never be bottled up, you should never tell someone who is srruggling to have a thicker skin.
Sharing relieves so much of the weight from their shoulders.
Never presume that your situation is the same a their's. You're probably not getting the full story as it haunts them to recall the whole thing.
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SarahMorganP wrote: »When. I was 7 I was at my Grandmas house for the weekend like always. Something was wrong though because she was on the phone all night crying and yelling. It was past bedtime when she told me and my brother to get in the car we were going home. That NEVER happened. We always spent the night. When we got home we (my 10 year old brother and I) were brought into our parents room where my mom told us our father had committed suicide. At 7 I didn't know what that meant but my brother did and started crying. So I did too. It was very scary. Then I was driven to my aunt's house to sleep and I had never slept there before. I finally figured out what suicide was and had to deal with it all alone in a strange bed with nobody to talk to.
I'm 38 and clearly remember this night. Worst of my life for sure and has caused many issues growing up.
A shocking experience at any age. It does mess with you, my story is above. Remember you're not alone and always open up to family or friends or even a helpline. Someone is always willing to listen.4 -
Wow. This thread is deep. I feel fortunate for my childhood.2
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One time I was climbing an obstacle (log wall) and somebody (another kid) threw a Frisbee and successfully hit a hornets nest in my vicinity. I was swarmed with hornets. It was excruciating, but I climbed down the wall and ran and everybody at the gathering was also stung and I'm sure they remember as well.
I will never **** with a hornets nest.
Approach with caution and a flamethrower.1 -
At 13 I found my mum after she hung herself, couldn't get her down as her dead weight had set in and I was too weak.
It haunts me every day still though not nearly as vividly as then. At 28 i'm now only less than 10 years younger than she was.
It's a head frick seeing someone you love so much who gave you life so dead and lifeless.
I am happy to talk about it now though.
It nearly caused me to take my own life, but I overcame it and now I regularly fundraise for mental health charities and give presentations on suicide and depression awareness.
Wow, this played my heart strings. I am so glad you took a horrible tragedy and turned it into something good in your life.
My father in law shot himself in the head less than a year ago. I was the one in charge of making most decisions, it didn't kill him but he was brain dead. My mother in law and husband were too distraught to do anything. I had to give the final ok to take him life support and sat there with him as he died. I also cleaned the room he used to shoot himself in. These things haunt me like it was yesterday and I am 41. I can't imagine what you went through.1 -
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RunHardBeStrong wrote: »At 13 I found my mum after she hung herself, couldn't get her down as her dead weight had set in and I was too weak.
It haunts me every day still though not nearly as vividly as then. At 28 i'm now only less than 10 years younger than she was.
It's a head frick seeing someone you love so much who gave you life so dead and lifeless.
I am happy to talk about it now though.
It nearly caused me to take my own life, but I overcame it and now I regularly fundraise for mental health charities and give presentations on suicide and depression awareness.
Wow, this played my heart strings. I am so glad you took a horrible tragedy and turned it into something good in your life.
My father in law shot himself in the head less than a year ago. I was the one in charge of making most decisions, it didn't kill him but he was brain dead. My mother in law and husband were too distraught to do anything. I had to give the final ok to take him life support and sat there with him as he died. I also cleaned the room he used to shoot himself in. These things haunt me like it was yesterday and I am 41. I can't imagine what you went through.
Truly awful experience. I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's still gut wrenchingly painful no matter what age you lose someone, especially to suicide.2 -
At 13 I found my mum after she hung herself, couldn't get her down as her dead weight had set in and I was too weak.
It haunts me every day still though not nearly as vividly as then. At 28 i'm now only less than 10 years younger than she was.
It's a head frick seeing someone you love so much who gave you life so dead and lifeless.
I am happy to talk about it now though.
It nearly caused me to take my own life, but I overcame it and now I regularly fundraise for mental health charities and give presentations on suicide and depression awareness.
Damn man, I'm sorry to hear that. No one can replace a mother. Depression is a silent killer. If you going through stress, want to vent out feel free. Anyone is welcome to Holla at me.2 -
jpoehls9025 wrote: »jpoehls9025 wrote: »jpoehls9025 wrote: »Some of these bad "experiences" should not haunt these people still today... some just need thicker skin. But others I can relate with totally Shi** stuff can happen in life just as long as you can turn your circumstances into something constructive. Ive dealt with a lot of trauma in life and I just rather choose to learn from the experiences rather then let it haunt me for ever.
Please don't undermine someone else's trauma.
I suppose your right what is common place for me might be an out right tragedy for another, who am I to judge. I still think people could benefit from developing a thicker skin / Positive mindset.
Maybe too thick of skin can cause someone to think that they are not bigger than their circumstances. They may just take life as it comes and never use those bad experiences to create positive changes in their lives.
No one can really judge what should or shouldn't be traumatic to another person.
actually I believe having "thick skin" will allow you to not fall victim (adhere to some ones standards, criticism or any other form of physical / mental abuse) to the circumstances and allows you in your words to always be bigger then them in any or all situations. Thus this will allow the individual to always have a positive outlook, no mater what adversity they face in life, and as I said "who am I to judge" because at the end of the day some one on one side of the world has probably witnessed friends and family murdered to the hands of tyrants and here in the US we drop our gum on the sidewalk and its just an absolute tragedy... thats my point.
Jeez you're being a dik. This is why mental health is a huge issue today. Skin protects you only from physical issues and doesn't do that well.
Psychologically damaging experiences should never be bottled up, you should never tell someone who is srruggling to have a thicker skin.
Sharing relieves so much of the weight from their shoulders.
Never presume that your situation is the same a their's. You're probably not getting the full story as it haunts them to recall the whole thing.
Not trying to be a "dik", I feel you made my point for me. Either that or I have no conveyed my point clearly enough. Im just trying to promote a more positive outlook mindset through the ability to let stuff roll off. If you cannot do this, yes, you are right, you will have Psychological damage. Also why its such a problem today.
Also have previously "who am I to judge" because the life styles we live strongly dictates how things impact us mentally. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that the son of a millionaire is going to have a much different "mental / psychological makeup" from a child in Somalia fighting for their life at an early age.1 -
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I was going to say being the hold of an alcoholic Father that screamed at you for everything. Dreading bringing a test or report home. I would be so scared to come in the house knowing how much I would get screamed at and he'd pound the table and when I couldn't figure the answers on home work he'd yell for a half an hour at his loudest in my face. I was happy when he worked second shift Being screamed at almost daily made me a wreck. Took my self esteem away. I used to feel for my Mother when he screamed and made her cry all the time.
I had a cousin that used to hold is under water and bully us and hold us down. To this day I won't swim with guys that I don't know well or guys that rough house. It's scary being held down under water.
At 14. My Dad came and took me and my best friend to the hospital and told me my Mom was probably not making it. I didn't believe it. But went. She didn't make it that day and I sat holding her hand. Trying to understand how it could happen and what I was going to do without my Mother. That day still seems clear. A terrible day. When I get depressed I end up rethinking about it over and over because that's the beginning of most things that went wrong for me. But reading the posts from some of the others I feel that my fears are nothing compared to theirs. I think because I had such a good kind mother and she taught me how to be sympathetic. And the fact that my Dad was not all that nice and the trauma he put us through makes me feel for the less fortunate. I've always been there for them. Sometimes I think we go through things to make us strong so we are better at helping others going through things of the same sort. I'm hoping those with the most trauma have someone to talk to. Even though you're emotionally in pain it's nice that you're helping others. You are stronger than younthink7 -
My Childhood memories have made me an Amazing Parent as I have done everything opposite! Just today I had to respond to my Mama's oblivious mindset and tell her how it makes me feel!4
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_Just_Ash_ wrote: »
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Although it doesn't haunt me to this day to be honest. If it did I'd be a broken man.
I knew about your leg..but adding those images kinda makes you get a super clear picture
Im sorry you went through that
you did turn out a supercool guy 
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_Just_Ash_ wrote: » plus plus equals
Although it doesn't haunt me to this day to be honest. If it did I'd be a broken man.
Ah, the fake leg.
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At 4, I grabbed a perkalator of coffee by the handle off the stove. It spilled all over me giving me 1st degree burns. And to this day...............I detest the smell and taste of coffee.
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At 4, I grabbed a perkalator of coffee by the handle off the stove. It spilled all over me giving me 1st degree burns. And to this day...............I detest the smell and taste of coffee.
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Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Did you mean, third degree? The blisters and all? That's extremely painful
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Hell, I don't have any good memories....alcoholic and abusive parents, abject poverty...had to begin working at 11, physical and sexual abuse, foster homes...but probably the worst was that my old man forced me to shoot my dog because I had done something wrong....I should have shot him....actually did once...bad memories???? Yeah, a few...0
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Who said I was functioning???? Lol....If not for a morbid sense of humor, I would have "climbed the Texas tower" long ago...But fortunately I joined the Army, went to Vietnam and saw *kitten* that makes my childhood look like child's play....I have been over the edge and come back....what doesn't kill you makes you stronger....12
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My parents put me in the care of my grandparents as they didn't have money to put me in creche/daycare. So my *kitten* grandpa used to molest me. Stick his fingers up my private parts and threaten to rape me. Thankfully, he died when I was 5. He wanted me to wear Indian clothes and not frocks or skirt blouse. Thats the reason he gave me when I asked him why he was abusing me.1
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No, 1st degree. The coffee wasn't that hot, but left my skin red and painful.At 4, I grabbed a perkalator of coffee by the handle off the stove. It spilled all over me giving me 1st degree burns. And to this day...............I detest the smell and taste of coffee.
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Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Did you mean, third degree? The blisters and all? That's extremely painful
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Wow, it is quite heart breaking to hear of many people's experiences. Thank-you for sharing tho, it's very humanizing3
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I used to have a temp job in this sports shop a few years back. My contract ended after only being there for a month or so but after I left I got a text message from an unknown number. Turns out a guy that I worked with had taken my number out of the system behind my back and texted me like it was a completely normal thing to do. He told me that he done that and he thought I was pretty. He was about 26-27 at the time and I had just turned 19. It was a few months after it that I found out that he had also stalked my older brother's girlfriend.
Had another guy threaten to find me, kidnap me, rape and murder me online just because I called him an idiot in a joking way. It freaks me out to this day and I am terrified that he will find me.1 -
I hate birds with a passion.
On separate incidences as a child, I was:
Chased and bitten by a swan
Chased by geese
Swarmed by pigeons
Swooped by magpies
Bitten by a seagull (trying to feed it a chip)
Now I have a fear of a bird flying in to my head and stabbing me in the skull with its beak..3
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