Trying to gain weight sucks
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I just started working out like two days ago. I eat three full meals a day. That's why I feel like I'm eating enough.Because I also snack all day. All I do is eat. I eat more than my boyfriend does. Before I was always eating junk food and just unhealthy things. My doctor told me to try an gain weight on more healthy foods. So now that's why I'm trying to eat healthy. Because even candy bars and ice cream and soda wasn't making me gain weight. I have literally tried lots of stuff and I cannot get over 87. I was 112 and then I just dropped down to 83. I don't think that just magically happens. And people really reporting me? I'm not laughing in anyone's face. All im seriously just trying to say that I know myself and I saw myself loose weight and everything out of nowhere and nobody should be loosing weight like that. It's not normal.1
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And there's no way to deliver food here. I live in the middle of nowhere. But I should be getting a vehicle here soon. So thank you for the good ideas everyone1
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Also I have have a lot of heat flashes throughout the night and I've been told that I'm way to young for that. I'm 19 years old and my room could be cold and I have heat flashes all night long.1
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I can gain weight super easy if I try, it just won't be the kind of weight I want (muscle). For that reason I eat at maintenance or slightly above and build muscle very slowly. I figure it'll take me 2-3 years to reach the point that I want to be, and have been at it for a little over 1 year now. If I wanted to gain muscle faster I'd have to eat a LOT more and I'm just not willing to pack on that much weight because losing it was rough for me.3
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kaykay6676 wrote: »I just started working out like two days ago. I eat three full meals a day. That's why I feel like I'm eating enough.Because I also snack all day. All I do is eat. I eat more than my boyfriend does. Before I was always eating junk food and *kitten*. So now that's why I'm trying to eat healthy. Because even candy bars and ice cream and soda wasn't making me gain weight. I have literally tried lots of stuff and I cannot get over 87. I was 112 and then I just dropped down to 83. I don't think that just magically happens. And people really reporting me? I'm not laughing in anyone's face. All im seriously trying to say is that I know myself and I saw myself loose weight and everything out of nowhere and nobody should be loosing weight like that. It's not normal.
Your focus continues to be stuck on *what* you are eating and your *perception* of how much you are eating and not the math, which is all that matters. There's not really anything else anyone can say to help you. But for sure, I'd be pounding down the doctor's door with concrete evidence of what I've been eating with such mysterious weight loss. Wish you good health.8 -
How about we all just let this whole being "rude" argument back and forth go. Like I said I apologize for saying you were being rude If that's not what you intended. I'm also sorry if it seems like I'm being rude. But I'm going to start tracking my calories and eating more. I'm taking you all up on your advice. Because you're probably right. Thank you everyone for your advice and help. I appreciate it.11
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kaykay6676 wrote: »It kinda is obvious because if it was something that simple I'm pretty sure I'd know. And I have seen a doctor. They did test and took my blood and said that I'm fine and they don't know what else to tell me. But I mean you can't tell me someone loosing that much weight out of nowhere? I was 112 and now I can't get above 87. I'll get up to 87 and then drop right back down.
Did your doctor specifically test your thyroid function via the blood work? If not, you should definitely have that done.3 -
You need to start seriously weighing and logging your food. Count the calories you are eating. If you are TRULY eating at a surplus and losing weight rapidly, you need to get checked into the hospital immediately and demand to get tested. If you eat 500-1000 calories (accurately measured, weighed, and logged) over maintenance for 2 weeks to a month and don't gain anything (and even LOSE) then you have a serious medical condition that needs to get checked out.
Sometimes we think we "aren't eating anything at all" "why am I gaining weight? I hardly eat all day" or "I eat ALL THE TIME and can't gain weight" where in both scenarios people are severely under or overestimating their calorie intake. Just because you eat snacks all day long, including meals, doesn't mean you're eating 2000 calories and just because you're only eating two meals a day doesn't mean you aren't eating 3000 calories.
Weigh, measure, and log.2 -
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kaykay6676 wrote: »Also I have have a lot of heat flashes throughout the night and I've been told that I'm way to young for that. I'm 19 years old and my room could be cold and I have heat flashes all night long.
Was it the doctor who told you that? If so, did they run any tests based on that?
If it was someone else who told you that, have you mentioned the hot flashes to the doctor yet?2 -
Yes she tested me for all of that stuff including diabetes etc. and I'm not 4 ft. Lol. I'm 4'11 1/2. At least that what I was when I last got weighed and stuff at the doctor and that was awhile ago. Lol. But I probably haven't grown. My whole family is short and they all weigh a lot more.0
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Someone else told me that. And I honestly don't remember if I mentioned it to my doctor. It was awhile go that I got test done. Like 4 months ago maybe. And she told me to just try to eat more proteins and that what I've been doing and it hasn't been working0
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kaykay6676 wrote: »Someone else told me that. And I honestly don't remember if I mentioned it to my doctor. It was awhile go that I got test done. Like 4 months ago maybe. And she told me to just try to eat more proteins and that what I've been doing and it hasn't been working
Young women can experience hot flashes, it's just not that common. They're not only associated with decreasing hormones and menopause - though wonky hormones aren't out of the question given you've dropped weight like you describe.
Glad to see you've decided to log. If that shows you're eating enough that you should be gaining and the doc still doesn't pay attention, get a new one stat.3 -
kaykay6676 wrote: »I just started working out like two days ago. I eat three full meals a day. That's why I feel like I'm eating enough.Because I also snack all day. All I do is eat. I eat more than my boyfriend does. Before I was always eating junk food and just unhealthy things. My doctor told me to try an gain weight on more healthy foods. So now that's why I'm trying to eat healthy. Because even candy bars and ice cream and soda wasn't making me gain weight. I have literally tried lots of stuff and I cannot get over 87. I was 112 and then I just dropped down to 83. I don't think that just magically happens. And people really reporting me? I'm not laughing in anyone's face. All im seriously just trying to say that I know myself and I saw myself loose weight and everything out of nowhere and nobody should be loosing weight like that. It's not normal.
I PROMISE you if you add a gallon of chocolate whole milk per day to your foods you'll gain. I'm a "hard gainer" too. Current daily intake is around 5000. (Gaining for Powerlifting). I just have to force the food after a certain point.
Calorie dense foods. Liquid calories. Make a homemade gainer shake. Ice cream, pb, chocolate, Nutella.
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kaykay6676 wrote: »Someone else told me that. And I honestly don't remember if I mentioned it to my doctor. It was awhile go that I got test done. Like 4 months ago maybe. And she told me to just try to eat more proteins and that what I've been doing and it hasn't been working
It doesn't matter what your macro split or if you eat clean or dirty. What is important is getting adequate calories. There is nothing else that matter.
For someone your size, you need about 80g of protein; and since protein and fiber is highly correlated with satiety, you shouldn't eat too much of it otherwise you will be too full to eat more. So eat more carbs and fat. Start to drink some calories (like chocolate milk). Increase meal frequency and pretty much what I say in the link I posted before.5 -
kaykay6676 wrote: »Is it just me or does it seem like trying to gain weight is way harder then trying to loose it?
I seem to gain weight just thinking about food unfortunately.3 -
I can definitely drink some chocolate milk. I love chocolate milk. I just didn't know i could actually drink so much if it. But now that I know that I think I'm gonna go buy a gallon right. Haha! Thank you3
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kaykay6676 wrote: »I can definitely drink some chocolate milk. I love chocolate milk. I just didn't know i could actually drink so much if it. But now that I know that I think I'm gonna go buy a gallon right. Haha! Thank you
You can drink as much of it as you like - make a wicked thickshake by whizzing it up with a pile of icecream!4 -
Make it whole milk! Yay!3
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kaykay6676 wrote: »I can definitely drink some chocolate milk. I love chocolate milk. I just didn't know i could actually drink so much if it. But now that I know that I think I'm gonna go buy a gallon right. Haha! Thank you
One of the biggest problems with people trying to gain weight is self limitations. But the reality is, you will never gain weight without adequate energy. When people finally hit that point and realize it, it makes it so much easier to meet their goal.
And this isn't to suggest all unhealthy foods, but if you need a few treats to help you get in an energy surplus, then by all means.3 -
OP I have never needed to or wanted to gain weight, so I can not say from personal experience. But once the doctors have ruled out any medical issues (and please do urge them to rule everything out if you are sure something is wrong), once you consistently are eating at a surplus (and eat back your exercise calories, especially if your doing cardio), keep adding calories. What might be happening is your metabolism might be adjusting to what you are eating. Also if you are doing much strength training, the more muscle you put on, the more calories you need to be eating.
Don't be too concerned about "eating healthy calories", especially if you are underweight. Main priority should be gaining weight so you are a healthy weight. If you are super concerned about "healthy calories", enjoy high fat, high carb foods. Realize you will be full. Eat avocados, nut butters, dark chocolate, coconut oil or butter on veggies and rice, dried fruit, trail mix.
Fats do increase satiety though, so if you are feeling too full, cut back on fats, and increase quick digesting carbs and protein (whey protein, egg whites, white bread, bananas, mangoes, fruit smoothies, white rice, pasta). Seems counterintuitive because fats have more calories per gram, but fats take longer to digest, so might make you feel too full.3 -
Thank youuu!!! (:0
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reachingforarainbow wrote: »OP I have never needed to or wanted to gain weight, so I can not say from personal experience. But once the doctors have ruled out any medical issues (and please do urge them to rule everything out if you are sure something is wrong), once you consistently are eating at a surplus (and eat back your exercise calories, especially if your doing cardio), keep adding calories. What might be happening is your metabolism might be adjusting to what you are eating. Also if you are doing much strength training, the more muscle you put on, the more calories you need to be eating.
Don't be too concerned about "eating healthy calories", especially if you are underweight. Main priority should be gaining weight so you are a healthy weight. If you are super concerned about "healthy calories", enjoy high fat, high carb foods. Realize you will be full. Eat avocados, nut butters, dark chocolate, coconut oil or butter on veggies and rice, dried fruit, trail mix.
Fats do increase satiety though, so if you are feeling too full, cut back on fats, and increase quick digesting carbs and protein (whey protein, egg whites, white bread, bananas, mangoes, fruit smoothies, white rice, pasta). Seems counterintuitive because fats have more calories per gram, but fats take longer to digest, so might make you feel too full.
The bold is not always true. Many of us are more satiated from carbs than fats. Personally, I can eat tons of fat and never feel full. In fact, I have in the past eaten whole blocks of cheese. But potatoes, they can be tough.3 -
reachingforarainbow wrote: »OP I have never needed to or wanted to gain weight, so I can not say from personal experience. But once the doctors have ruled out any medical issues (and please do urge them to rule everything out if you are sure something is wrong), once you consistently are eating at a surplus (and eat back your exercise calories, especially if your doing cardio), keep adding calories. What might be happening is your metabolism might be adjusting to what you are eating. Also if you are doing much strength training, the more muscle you put on, the more calories you need to be eating.
Don't be too concerned about "eating healthy calories", especially if you are underweight. Main priority should be gaining weight so you are a healthy weight. If you are super concerned about "healthy calories", enjoy high fat, high carb foods. Realize you will be full. Eat avocados, nut butters, dark chocolate, coconut oil or butter on veggies and rice, dried fruit, trail mix.
Fats do increase satiety though, so if you are feeling too full, cut back on fats, and increase quick digesting carbs and protein (whey protein, egg whites, white bread, bananas, mangoes, fruit smoothies, white rice, pasta). Seems counterintuitive because fats have more calories per gram, but fats take longer to digest, so might make you feel too full.
The bold is not always true. Many of us are more satiated from carbs than fats. Personally, I can eat tons of fat and never feel full. In fact, I have in the past eaten whole blocks of cheese. But potatoes, they can be tough.
Have you thought of grated cheese on a baked potato? Lol2 -
Tiny_Dancer_in_Pink wrote: »reachingforarainbow wrote: »OP I have never needed to or wanted to gain weight, so I can not say from personal experience. But once the doctors have ruled out any medical issues (and please do urge them to rule everything out if you are sure something is wrong), once you consistently are eating at a surplus (and eat back your exercise calories, especially if your doing cardio), keep adding calories. What might be happening is your metabolism might be adjusting to what you are eating. Also if you are doing much strength training, the more muscle you put on, the more calories you need to be eating.
Don't be too concerned about "eating healthy calories", especially if you are underweight. Main priority should be gaining weight so you are a healthy weight. If you are super concerned about "healthy calories", enjoy high fat, high carb foods. Realize you will be full. Eat avocados, nut butters, dark chocolate, coconut oil or butter on veggies and rice, dried fruit, trail mix.
Fats do increase satiety though, so if you are feeling too full, cut back on fats, and increase quick digesting carbs and protein (whey protein, egg whites, white bread, bananas, mangoes, fruit smoothies, white rice, pasta). Seems counterintuitive because fats have more calories per gram, but fats take longer to digest, so might make you feel too full.
The bold is not always true. Many of us are more satiated from carbs than fats. Personally, I can eat tons of fat and never feel full. In fact, I have in the past eaten whole blocks of cheese. But potatoes, they can be tough.
Have you thought of grated cheese on a baked potato? Lol
I don't know if I can fit it with all my bacon.
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Tiny_Dancer_in_Pink wrote: »reachingforarainbow wrote: »OP I have never needed to or wanted to gain weight, so I can not say from personal experience. But once the doctors have ruled out any medical issues (and please do urge them to rule everything out if you are sure something is wrong), once you consistently are eating at a surplus (and eat back your exercise calories, especially if your doing cardio), keep adding calories. What might be happening is your metabolism might be adjusting to what you are eating. Also if you are doing much strength training, the more muscle you put on, the more calories you need to be eating.
Don't be too concerned about "eating healthy calories", especially if you are underweight. Main priority should be gaining weight so you are a healthy weight. If you are super concerned about "healthy calories", enjoy high fat, high carb foods. Realize you will be full. Eat avocados, nut butters, dark chocolate, coconut oil or butter on veggies and rice, dried fruit, trail mix.
Fats do increase satiety though, so if you are feeling too full, cut back on fats, and increase quick digesting carbs and protein (whey protein, egg whites, white bread, bananas, mangoes, fruit smoothies, white rice, pasta). Seems counterintuitive because fats have more calories per gram, but fats take longer to digest, so might make you feel too full.
The bold is not always true. Many of us are more satiated from carbs than fats. Personally, I can eat tons of fat and never feel full. In fact, I have in the past eaten whole blocks of cheese. But potatoes, they can be tough.
Have you thought of grated cheese on a baked potato? Lol
I don't know if I can fit it with all my bacon.
With green onions and you have a meal! Yum!
http://www.theyummylife.com/baked_potato_bar
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^OoOo... that looks good!1
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As a person with very similar struggles, I understand that you're frustrated. I don't agree with all that is said here, for example my weight was steady until I had a load of stessors hit me all at once & my metabolism basically went nuts as a result, but there are some great pointers. I have a load of food sensitivities & intolerances that make getting the appropriate proportions incredibly difficult, but my calories are far beyond what I should need to eat in order to gain weight that I once had.
Here's what's helped me, maybe it can help you also:
- Use MyFitnessPal religiously with your goal to gain 1 lb per week. Log throughout the day so you know where you're at as you go & if/when you need to add more.
- Watch your nutrients & your macros (there's a tab under nutrients) Make sure you're hitting those (healthy) fats, carbs, & protein #s EVERY day. This is likely where (if you're eating the calories you should) you need to make adjustments. I can't have gluten, soy, corn, dairy, & more ... so I struggle to hit my carbs & fats each day, but a lot of people struggle with proteins. It's something I have to actively plan & watch each day, but the app has made a ton of difference.
- If you're continuing to lose weight that you don't want to & want to exercise, a) don't overdue cardio, b) any calories you burn should be added to the number of calories you eat in a day at least until you get where you need to be.
- Lastly, be patient with yourself & your body. In my experience, I dropped weight super fast but it took way longer to gain any back. Heck, I added 200 calories a day because I plateaued & dropped 4 pounds that week & was furious, but as my body adjusted to the change I began seeing results. And know that it's hard for others to understand your struggle if they've never with it themselves or watched someone struggle firsthand, but you're not alone.
Feel free to message me if you want any other pointers. Best wishes!2 -
Don't know if these will actually work but I found these
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