What are you NOT grateful for today? What sucks?
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I am so sorry. That is heart breaking. I don't know what I would do if I had to give my dog up. I hope you find comfort and things get better for you.0
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I am so sorry. That is heart breaking. I don't know what I would do if I had to give my dog up. I hope you find comfort and things get better for you.
Thank you! Ugh never ever imagined I would put myself in this situation when I got her 3yrs ago (had never travelled or wanted too!). Have always believed dogs are a lifetime commitment and they are! I feel like a terrible, terrible, selfish person
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You shouldn't feel like a selfish person. I know it is easier said then done, but you are doing what is best for your dog and it is a sacrifice you are making for her.0
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Thank you. A sacrifice would of been not going but then I would be miserable. Lose/lose situation
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Avocado_Angel wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
Did you ever attempt to buy them food?Avocado_Angel wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
A little charity goes a long way.Avocado_Angel wrote: »Beggars in the street harassing me for money on my way into work in the morning. I'm cold, I'm tired & the last thing I need is someone rattling a cup at my face shamelessly asking for my hard earned dollar. Get a job !! Plus the fact you can't confront them for the fear of them attacking you with the help of their beggar friends. It should be illegal
I'm a very charitable person but in a lot of cases the begging is simply to fund a drink or drug problem. They expect people to simply hand them over money. It's not right. Your basically funding someone's addiction, that ain't charity
The thought does cross my mind, but let's be honest I'm not exactly rolling in it, I work so I can afford to put food in my mouth & my loved ones. I don't see why I should buy someone food or feel guilty because I have it. I know life is hard but in some cases it's as hard as you make it. Besides there is food banks & shelters, soup kitchens, churches not to mention the many charities & organisations specifically designed to help these people. The help is there it's their choice to take it. Many people volunteer their time to help them. Also in the UK there is a lot of help from the state so I don't view it as my place to randomly give strangers money.
Also, on one occasion my brother gave a beggar money, his friend then decided to take my brothers mobile phone. A lot of these people are thiefs, you get up close or try to be nice they might take advantage. Granted not all of them are like that
Ahah what makes me laugh is you saying above you are very charitable.
Not criticizing your way of thinking, I don't give money to beggars either, but I don't kid myself thinking I am charitable.
It is very possible to be charitable and still not give money to people on the streets. Maybe she does lots of good deeds or maybe she donates time or money to reputable organizations.
Yeah sure... maybe she does.
But usually people that think "most of those people are thieves" and that they should "get a job" and are afraid "of them attacking you" don't have a lot of empathy for "these kinds of people".
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I'm ungrateful for the terrible luck my friends have been having lately.1
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
A little charity goes a long way.Avocado_Angel wrote: »Beggars in the street harassing me for money on my way into work in the morning. I'm cold, I'm tired & the last thing I need is someone rattling a cup at my face shamelessly asking for my hard earned dollar. Get a job !! Plus the fact you can't confront them for the fear of them attacking you with the help of their beggar friends. It should be illegal
I'm behind on this a bit - but listen. If you don't want to give your money away without seeing them work for it...ask them to tell you a joke. Pay them based on how funny it was. I gave a guy $20 one time because he proposed marriage and I told him that was the funniest thing I've ever heard.
Some people are just rotten panhandlers, yes. Some people have difficulty getting an actual job because of all the factors...they don't have an address, they don't have the means to look presentable, they don't have the experience, etc. Even if they apply at a fast food place, they may be discriminated against because of their appearance, etc.
Your money is your money and no one can tell you how to spend it or give it away, but I would definitely consider offering to buy them a meal or paying them based on a simple interaction you can do quickly (like a joke).4 -
All my bloody mental illnesses. Depression, ADHD, PTSD, and BPD. I would seriously give my right arm to be neurotypical.0
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Today is the last day of my holiday. I don't want to go home yet!0
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My boyfriend can't stop being late for work. It makes me worried.0
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KurumiSophia wrote: »All my bloody mental illnesses. Depression, ADHD, PTSD, and BPD. I would seriously give my right arm to be neurotypical.
I am so sorry. Mental illnesses suck. I hope you feel a lot better soon.0 -
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Pancakes are delicious!0
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Avocado_Angel wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
Did you ever attempt to buy them food?Avocado_Angel wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
A little charity goes a long way.Avocado_Angel wrote: »Beggars in the street harassing me for money on my way into work in the morning. I'm cold, I'm tired & the last thing I need is someone rattling a cup at my face shamelessly asking for my hard earned dollar. Get a job !! Plus the fact you can't confront them for the fear of them attacking you with the help of their beggar friends. It should be illegal
I'm a very charitable person but in a lot of cases the begging is simply to fund a drink or drug problem. They expect people to simply hand them over money. It's not right. Your basically funding someone's addiction, that ain't charity
The thought does cross my mind, but let's be honest I'm not exactly rolling in it, I work so I can afford to put food in my mouth & my loved ones. I don't see why I should buy someone food or feel guilty because I have it. I know life is hard but in some cases it's as hard as you make it. Besides there is food banks & shelters, soup kitchens, churches not to mention the many charities & organisations specifically designed to help these people. The help is there it's their choice to take it. Many people volunteer their time to help them. Also in the UK there is a lot of help from the state so I don't view it as my place to randomly give strangers money.
Also, on one occasion my brother gave a beggar money, his friend then decided to take my brothers mobile phone. A lot of these people are thiefs, you get up close or try to be nice they might take advantage. Granted not all of them are like that
Ahah what makes me laugh is you saying above you are very charitable.
Not criticizing your way of thinking, I don't give money to beggars either, but I don't kid myself thinking I am charitable.
It is very possible to be charitable and still not give money to people on the streets. Maybe she does lots of good deeds or maybe she donates time or money to reputable organizations.
Yeah sure... maybe she does.
But usually people that think "most of those people are thieves" and that they should "get a job" and are afraid "of them attacking you" don't have a lot of empathy for "these kinds of people".
There is a lot of assumptive ignorance in your comment. You have no context for the situation she describes & it's impossible to accurately know the tone of her comment. Anything else is an assumption whether it is correct or not.
They might actually be thieves where she is passing. Some of them by the very nature of them begging makes them thieves. They beg all day & then go home to a nice house in a luxury car all paid for through the tax free giving of gullible people that feel guilty & hand them money. It's a pretty common scam. Others are thieves out of necessity because they've survived on the streets for so long. They see nothing wrong with taking what they can get. And there are plenty that are just people genuinely looking for help. Unfortunately, unless you spend time working with them regularly, you can't ever be certain which is which.
I've spent a great deal of time working with several different homeless outreaches & they all have pretty much the same rule. Don't give money to people on the street. In most large cities, you can't give them food without a vendors license anymore either. If they are addicts, ignoring their requests completely is often the safer option than offering them an alternative like food, because it can piss them off if they haven't had a fix in a while.
All of the outreaches I have worked with have stressed not giving them food as well due to the city ordinances against it & the potential reactions. When we were out there, the option we were supposed to use was to have them meet us in a certain amount of time at a local restaurant like McD's & actually buy them a meal when other team members are also around. It has noting to do with a lack of charity, it has to do with common sense & safety. The only other safe option is to hand them money & keep moving which just gets snorted, drank or shot up 30 minutes later.
There is one guy in my area that I see occasionally & I stopped to help him fix his bike once because I carry tools in all of my vehicles. When I see him I will go get him food & bring it back to him, but only because we have a history of trust with each other. Outside of that, I would never hand them money or offer food simple because of the safety rules I've learned through working with the people that help them every day.
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Is that a huge *kitten* toasted marshmallow in that one cone? Damn this looks tasty! Well, not the blue one, but yeah. I did not need to see this!Cutaway_Collar wrote: »This morning's 450 pound deadlifts all gone to waste.
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »This morning's 450 pound deadlifts all gone to waste.
By god!! What is this delicious looking treat?? I have never seen such beauty.1 -
KurumiSophia wrote: »All my bloody mental illnesses. Depression, ADHD, PTSD, and BPD. I would seriously give my right arm to be neurotypical.
I am so sorry. Mental illnesses suck. I hope you feel a lot better soon.
Today is a crappy coping day. Ate my feelings and generally feel like a fat pile of dreck. Gonna try and bury those emotions when I get up in the AM and slap on the happy mask since the spouse hates when I'm symptomatic. (He says I'm a Debbie Downer when my symptoms show.)0 -
KurumiSophia wrote: »KurumiSophia wrote: »All my bloody mental illnesses. Depression, ADHD, PTSD, and BPD. I would seriously give my right arm to be neurotypical.
I am so sorry. Mental illnesses suck. I hope you feel a lot better soon.
Today is a crappy coping day. Ate my feelings and generally feel like a fat pile of dreck. Gonna try and bury those emotions when I get up in the AM and slap on the happy mask since the spouse hates when I'm symptomatic. (He says I'm a Debbie Downer when my symptoms show.)
Take care. I'm sorry to hear that your spouse is unsupportive.0 -
I had a bottle of skin cream laying on it's side with the pump unscrewed so I could use the last little bit...I was putting it on and felt some "lumps". Under further inspection I discovered that the lumps were bugs.
I am ungrateful to have rubbed bugs on myself!4 -
*kitten* friends0
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Kidney stones.1
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This whole *kitten* day. Well, maybe just the last half of it.0
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Nothing fits. Nothing.0
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Vinehausen wrote: »Having to break it off with an amazing man because he's too much of a powerhouse for me to handle!
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