Married and flirty....?
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I heard there was flirting going on in here.. did I miss it?
Im a born flirt, I don't know any other way..and when I was married and we went out, hub used to enjoy that I flirted...he said it never bothered him because he knew I was going home with him anyway.
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »I heard there was flirting going on in here.. did I miss it?
Im a born flirt, I don't know any other way..and when I was married and we went out, hub used to enjoy that I flirted...he said it never bothered him because he knew I was going home with him anyway.
you missed the flirting but arrived in time for the tent revival2 -
150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.6 -
SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!1 -
Renaissance_Turtle wrote: »Runner1393 wrote: »It doesn’t all come down to ego; sometimes it comes down to religion and ones belief system. I wouldn’t be in an open marriage bc my faith says it’s wrong and condemns it. Flirting isn’t harmless when you believe lusting is wrong. If one believes that the sole purpose of a marriage is to glorify their creator and be a representation of Christ’s love for the church, that cant in good conscience be defiled. For me it has nothing to do with ego, but what I believe is right and wrong. And everyone will believe differently. Xoxoxo
Here, let me rock your theological world for a moment. Actually, scripture says nothing of the sort. True it is God's desire that marriage be between just one man & one woman, but, to have more than one is not a sin & the bible in no way condemns multiple spouses. Even in the NT, the marriages were not limited to one man/one woman, which was a concept taken from the restriction placed on OT Kings who were only supposed to have one wife. The one wife restriction was only placed only on persons of church leadership in the NT based on the idea that this was God's preferred model for marital relationships.
Nowhere in scripture does it condemn these actions at all. As a matter of fact in Exodus it actually expressly permits it. It's very specific that if someone had multiple spouses, that he was to treat the second wife as well as the first. The parable of the ten virgins. One Bridegroom & ten brides. It wasn't a confusing concept back then. Even God metaphorically describes himself as having a polygamous marriage between Himself, The Kingdom of Judah & the Kingdom of Israel. He also called them both wh-ores in that situation too. Then he declared judgment on one for being too much of a ho & took the other back & for gave her.
Why do I know this weird random info? Well, I was an associate pastor, a youth pastor, credentialed minister, spent years at bible college & I'm still an avid theology student. (I'm sure a few MFP'ers that are my friends are scratching their heads in disbelief after reading that) I'm ultra conservative theologically speaking, but I'm also a literalist. I refuse to make the bible say something that it doesn't even if it's something I'm not comfortable with.
Personally, the idea of more than one spouse is pretty forked up & just down right stupid, but your condemnation takes it even a step further than that even the condemning of conversation. All of these people would be perfectly within the biblical realm of freedom of what is permissible if they quit flirting & just said "I Do". Problem solved... or not.
When it comes down to religion & one's belief system, what does one do when certain bits of this system were built completely on a religious man made agenda vs what scripture actually says?
Oh Sweet Lord.....in the words of Jesus himself......youve been schooled!
I dont believe in Christ, Buddha, Mohammed or anyone else.
We love in a society and times where old school thoughts from the 40s and 50 are widely dismissed, but we'll live by a book written thousands of years ago, where a snake talks, people come back from the dead, a guy walks on water and a virgin has a baby......that *kitten* we believe!
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.0 -
ExileFromTheNorth wrote: »Renaissance_Turtle wrote: »Runner1393 wrote: »It doesn’t all come down to ego; sometimes it comes down to religion and ones belief system. I wouldn’t be in an open marriage bc my faith says it’s wrong and condemns it. Flirting isn’t harmless when you believe lusting is wrong. If one believes that the sole purpose of a marriage is to glorify their creator and be a representation of Christ’s love for the church, that cant in good conscience be defiled. For me it has nothing to do with ego, but what I believe is right and wrong. And everyone will believe differently. Xoxoxo
Here, let me rock your theological world for a moment. Actually, scripture says nothing of the sort. True it is God's desire that marriage be between just one man & one woman, but, to have more than one is not a sin & the bible in no way condemns multiple spouses. Even in the NT, the marriages were not limited to one man/one woman, which was a concept taken from the restriction placed on OT Kings who were only supposed to have one wife. The one wife restriction was only placed only on persons of church leadership in the NT based on the idea that this was God's preferred model for marital relationships.
Nowhere in scripture does it condemn these actions at all. As a matter of fact in Exodus it actually expressly permits it. It's very specific that if someone had multiple spouses, that he was to treat the second wife as well as the first. The parable of the ten virgins. One Bridegroom & ten brides. It wasn't a confusing concept back then. Even God metaphorically describes himself as having a polygamous marriage between Himself, The Kingdom of Judah & the Kingdom of Israel. He also called them both wh-ores in that situation too. Then he declared judgment on one for being too much of a ho & took the other back & for gave her.
Why do I know this weird random info? Well, I was an associate pastor, a youth pastor, credentialed minister, spent years at bible college & I'm still an avid theology student. (I'm sure a few MFP'ers that are my friends are scratching their heads in disbelief after reading that) I'm ultra conservative theologically speaking, but I'm also a literalist. I refuse to make the bible say something that it doesn't even if it's something I'm not comfortable with.
Personally, the idea of more than one spouse is pretty forked up & just down right stupid, but your condemnation takes it even a step further than that even the condemning of conversation. All of these people would be perfectly within the biblical realm of freedom of what is permissible if they quit flirting & just said "I Do". Problem solved... or not.
When it comes down to religion & one's belief system, what does one do when certain bits of this system were built completely on a religious man made agenda vs what scripture actually says?
Oh Sweet Lord.....in the words of Jesus himself......youve been schooled!
I dont believe in Christ, Buddha, Mohammed or anyone else.
We love in a society and times where old school thoughts from the 40s and 50 are widely dismissed, but we'll live by a book written thousands of years ago, where a snake talks, people come back from the dead, a guy walks on water and a virgin has a baby......that *kitten* we believe!
I think people had way more sex 1000 years ago. Have you seen game of thrones?6 -
SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.
Boobies pump?1 -
SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.
Yes you are my right hand woman :laugh:
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.
Boobies pump?
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.
Yes you are my right hand woman :laugh:
I'm left handed. You're welcome to the right.1 -
SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.
Boobies pump?
I think I'm going to flirt with you from now on. It's only wrong with the opposite gender.1 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »SEAHORSES4EVER wrote: »150_lbs_by_2019 wrote: »Flirting is cheating of the heart and if you think it's harmless, you're wrong. I guarantee unless you are in an open relationship in which you and your wife are allowed to f@#k around on one another, there will be harm. Your wife will begin to lose all trust in you and always wonder if you're cheating around on her. She will analyze every female you have contact with and worry if that is the one you're screwing behind her back.
You know women are just as bad right? I don't understand why this is all aimed at men.
Pfttttt...We can do no wrong!!! It's them. They are the evil!
Speak for yourself I am the devil's right hand woman.
Boobies pump?
I think I'm going to flirt with you from now on. It's only wrong with the opposite gender.
Oh no! Please don't, that would be awful.
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Renaissance_Turtle:
Nothing to do with the Bible.
Even atheists adhere to monogamy and some sense of loyalty to spouses. It’s human nature. It is the norm in all countries in the world. Surely it is not based on a selective religious system. Humans are naturally inclined to take a life partner and live with them with some sense of commitment.
Your defence of polygamy citing the Bible sets a dangerous precedent. Deuteronomy says a lot of weird things and there is also a lot of underage marriages or unions in the OT. Would you defend child marriages in the same way?
Are you saying not monogamous couples are not committed to each other?
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Renaissance_Turtle:
Nothing to do with the Bible.
Even atheists adhere to monogamy and some sense of loyalty to spouses. It’s human nature. It is the norm in all countries in the world. Surely it is not based on a selective religious system. Humans are naturally inclined to take a life partner and live with them with some sense of commitment.
Great, another "be like me" post.
It's also human nature to be attracted to other people. Just because you're not in a monogamous relationship doesn't mean the relationship doesn't have loyalty or commitment, as long as all parties are happy with their setup, who the *kitten* cares? Why not just let people be however they want to be?4 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »I also skimmed through the responses. If you have to come out in such heavy defence of inappropriate behaviour, it’s only a sign of self-assurance.
Deep down, there is a little part of your mind that tells you it is not the right thing to do.
Okay Dr.Phil. Nobody is actually defending the original post, it's tasteless. The only people that are coming out strong are the ones that are judging others for the way they live their lives and calling OP pathetic.3 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »I also skimmed through the responses. If you have to come out in such heavy defence of inappropriate behaviour, it’s only a sign of self-assurance.
Deep down, there is a little part of your mind that tells you it is not the right thing to do.
You be you and I'll be the sinner that I am.
I'm going to the gym for a yoga class and there's one guy there that picks his toenails the whole time and grunts loudly during downward dog. Still better than this conversation.
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In my mind being kind and paying compliments is not flirting, unless it's something sexual. Like I can tell a woman she is beautiful, or I can tell a man that he has a nice smile. To me flirting is private messaging or even posting it to each other talking about sex and what not. It's not really about my ego, it's more about hey I'm committed to this guy and only this guy and I want him to do the same. No shame against open relationships or marriage.0
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Marriage is the most emotionally and physically satisfying thing that we will ever experience in our lifetime. To give yourself completely, body and soul, to someone else takes a huge amount of courage. You are the most vulnerable you ever been and yet, the strongest you've ever been. You never knew until that moment that you could ever even love someone that much. They literally become your reason to get out of bed each morning. You're happy together. You're sad together. You face hardships together. When you're first married, that love, that feeling: it's a feeling you never want to go away. You feel so safe and secure and happy. The only thing I can say at this point is: regardless of your religious or any other views, do whatever strengthens your marriage and keeps that feeling alive, because a strong marriage is the most important thing you can give yourself ... and your children. We all have different views and different ways of coping with life. Do what works for your marriage and makes both of you happy.3
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I agree!0
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Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »Marriage is the most emotionally and physically satisfying thing that we will ever experience in our lifetime. To give yourself completely, body and soul, to someone else takes a huge amount of courage. You are the most vulnerable you ever been and yet, the strongest you've ever been. You never knew until that moment that you could ever even love someone that much. They literally become your reason to get out of bed each morning. You're happy together. You're sad together. You face hardships together. When you're first married, that love, that feeling: it's a feeling you never want to go away. You feel so safe and secure and happy. The only thing I can say at this point is: regardless of your religious or any other views, do whatever strengthens your marriage and keeps that feeling alive, because a strong marriage is the most important thing you can give yourself ... and your children. We all have different views and different ways of coping with life. Do what works for your marriage and makes both of you happy.
Uggghhhhhhh. You sound like my wife
Wife?? But you just flirted my socks off ..how could you ?
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Just popped through for educational purposes
whos hogging the popcorn? I'll just sit over here on the fence with @beingmore1 
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Its one thing if its agreed upon as a couple...communication is key...here are the boundaries and respect and love that we expect from each other ...I never had an issue with the flirting...however, it wasn't always just flirting...that's not every person and we can't label every situation...however, I don't know that we can call someone insecure just because they don't want their SO to flirt with others ...0
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
Yeah, I agree with all that.Marriage is the most emotionally and physically satisfying thing that we will ever experience in our lifetime. To give yourself completely, body and soul, to someone else takes a huge amount of courage. You are the most vulnerable you ever been and yet, the strongest you've ever been. You never knew until that moment that you could ever even love someone that much. They literally become your reason to get out of bed each morning. You're happy together. You're sad together. You face hardships together. When you're first married, that love, that feeling: it's a feeling you never want to go away. You feel so safe and secure and happy. The only thing I can say at this point is: regardless of your religious or any other views, do whatever strengthens your marriage and keeps that feeling alive, because a strong marriage is the most important thing you can give yourself ... and your children. We all have different views and different ways of coping with life. Do what works for your marriage and makes both of you happy.
But aside all that, speaking like a man, high levels of testosterone and all that, I am not into the wife sharing thing. I cannot fathom it.
When I hear open marriage guys tell me, yeah, we love each other so much, we have been together for twenty years and we are best friends and lovers we go swinging blah blah blah... my first thought is - go drink some testo and locate your man card.
But of course, I believe that it’s the right thing to do to acknowledge that your spouse needs you at all times.
There are things that I feel are wrong but I'm not here to judge anyone. I don't want to do that.0 -
blackcomaro wrote: »Just popped through for educational purposes whos hogging the popcorn? I'll just sit over here on the fence with @beingmore1
Get out of here you ..mr flirty mcflirtison 1 -
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »blackcomaro wrote: »Just popped through for educational purposes whos hogging the popcorn? I'll just sit over here on the fence with @beingmore1
Get out of here you ..mr flirty mcflirtison
Who me?
Im just here to watch the show. 0
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