Minor rant

McCluskey1128

You are a beautiful woman now as I'm sure you were then. I'm thrilled you're happy with your new body and I am righ there with you. But make sure to love the old one as well. The old body got you to through the hurdles and challenges it took to get you to where you are today.

Enjoy being fit and keep up the good work! Haters' gon hate.

hrtchoco

Ummmmmm...she *is* a body builder.

This is what I had in mind


Ps. I think you look amazing also. I want muscle like yours.

CoderGal

What you ARE saying and what you MEAN to say are two totally different things. I suggest taking a break from the forums...like, forever.

I clarified myself later. Sorry you misunderstood me. I also don't appreciate the personal attack.

Personal attack? Where?

The take a break from forums forever part. That's mean and I'm hurt. Honest, all I said was I don't think women who bulk up like men are attractive. Is that really a crime?

You are perpetuating nonsense and need to stop. It is not mean to tell you to stop.

But if you insist on staying in the forums and talking how you are, you had better develop some thicker skin, because you will get eaten alive.

I thinks this looks good


Body builder women don't look good. Sorry, I don't think it's nonsense.

Her little weights are cute.



...That was mean. This thread is bring out some hostility. I need ice cream. Also this woman is lovely and muscular an probably worked very hard to look that good. Probably didn't involve tiny weights, but half the time body builder women are shown with them. What's that about?

Gotta make em look fragile somehow. Gotta keep it a big secret that heavy weights doesn't make you bulky. Gotta sell purse weight programs somehow.

ggxx100

What you ARE saying and what you MEAN to say are two totally different things. I suggest taking a break from the forums...like, forever.

I clarified myself later. Sorry you misunderstood me. I also don't appreciate the personal attack.

Personal attack? Where?

The take a break from forums forever part. That's mean and I'm hurt. Honest, all I said was I don't think women who bulk up like men are attractive. Is that really a crime?

You are perpetuating nonsense and need to stop. It is not mean to tell you to stop.

But if you insist on staying in the forums and talking how you are, you had better develop some thicker skin, because you will get eaten alive.

I thinks this looks good


Body builder women don't look good. Sorry, I don't think it's nonsense.

Her little weights are cute.



...That was mean. This thread is bring out some hostility. I need ice cream.

I'd bet a good lot on the fact that she doesn't lift those tiny weights.

hrtchoco, you don't seem to grasp the fact that bodybuilder women have an extremely wide range of physiques. The women you are classifying as "bodybuilders", ie hyped up on celltech and danabol, are only the extreme end of the scale. The tour has fitness and bikini competitions, all of which present toned and feminine physiques of bodybuilders.

CoderGal

What do you mean no difference? Yes. If you start shaming on someone's body...whether it is a muscular woman, a woman who uses steroids, or someone that it is overweight/obese....IT IS STILL BODY SHAMING! Seriously, this can't be that hard.

Sorry I didn't think people would be so sensitive. Tbh, I have never called anyone fat in my life. I thought I was just pointing out the obvious that too bulky or too much weight do not look good.

My mom told me I was getting chubby and need to lose some weight when I gained my freshman 15, I said, darn it, you are right. I didn't say, you are body shaming mom! How could you!

Wow you're really missing something. For example, by saying that people who are a certain weight don't look good, or people who are muscular don't look good, you are saying this person, and other people that others think are hot, doesn't look good:




You made a statement when it was an opinion as if it were true in everyone elses mind (you didn't say it was a very rare opinion). And your opinion is completely wrong. That's not...you being right. That's not someone telling you something and you having to accept it. Nobody is going to accept what you said because unlike your case, nobody has to admit to anything, because you're wrong, and insulting beautiful people along the way. And if you do think the above person doesn't look good, just because your mind is sick doesn't give you the right to go around shaming everyone who are nearly underweight like us

Well I do think she looks good...

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Iron_Feline

Ummmmmm...she *is* a body builder.

This is what I had in mind


Ps. I think you look amazing also. I want muscle like yours.

STILL NOT OK (the body shaming just FYI)

Repeat after me

I will not be a judgemental, body shaming .................

hrtchoco

Gotta make em look fragile somehow. Gotta keep it a big secret that heavy weights doesn't make you bulky. Gotta sell purse weight programs somehow.

That's why I think something is wrong when some women bulk up... Lifting heavy weights will only tone up. I am trying to lift as heavy as I can, and I wish one day I can lift like those fit and toned women.

hrtchoco

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

Junie2013

This is jealousy, pure and simple. She's trying to make you feel insecure and make herself feel better. She also might have some boundary issues. Asking to see a heavier pic of you after you said you didn't like to show people old pics is crossing the line.

^^ This!

Sorry you had to be put in that position. If you're happy and healthy, you can't let the crazies get you down.

hrtchoco

STILL NOT OK (the body shaming just FYI)

Repeat after me

I will not be a judgemental, body shaming .................

Here is the thing, if that person is in front of me, I wouldn't say a word. But that's not attractive to me still.

Achrya

What you ARE saying and what you MEAN to say are two totally different things. I suggest taking a break from the forums...like, forever.

I clarified myself later. Sorry you misunderstood me. I also don't appreciate the personal attack.

Personal attack? Where?

The take a break from forums forever part. That's mean and I'm hurt. Honest, all I said was I don't think women who bulk up like men are attractive. Is that really a crime?

You are perpetuating nonsense and need to stop. It is not mean to tell you to stop.

But if you insist on staying in the forums and talking how you are, you had better develop some thicker skin, because you will get eaten alive.

I thinks this looks good


Body builder women don't look good. Sorry, I don't think it's nonsense.

Her little weights are cute.



...That was mean. This thread is bring out some hostility. I need ice cream.

I'd bet a good lot on the fact that she doesn't lift those tiny weights.

hrtchoco, you don't seem to grasp the fact that bodybuilder women have an extremely wide range of physiques. The women you are classifying as "bodybuilders", ie hyped up on celltech and danabol, are only the extreme end of the scale. The tour has fitness and bikini competitions, all of which present toned and feminine physiques of bodybuilders.

Haha, I'm sure she lifts them, while rolling her eyes at how silly they are.

I let my annoyance get the better of me with that statement. People love a fit woman, so long as she's still small and pretty and holding tiny weights, but show that same woman squatting some really heavy weight and everyone is suddenly tuned off. This image, as posted by that body shamer, just highlighted that for me. And then angry snark slipped out.

ggxx100

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

Lol Chimanlifts over there is way over 200 lb and 6'2. In person he's even scarier. Now go tell him he's fat and doesn't look good.

hrtchoco

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

Lol Chiman over there is way over 200 lb and 6'2. In person he's even scarier. Now go tell him he's fat and doesn't look good.

I only tell my hubby is fat cuz it's fun to do. He also does need to lose weight( the doctor said so).

RGv2

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

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215 lbs.

Feels body shame for being too heavy.

doctorsookie

Maybe she doesn't like having attractive competition in the office? :P

That!

I'm going with this one.

RivenV

What is going on in here?

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Carry on!

CoderGal

What you ARE saying and what you MEAN to say are two totally different things. I suggest taking a break from the forums...like, forever.

I clarified myself later. Sorry you misunderstood me. I also don't appreciate the personal attack.

Personal attack? Where?

The take a break from forums forever part. That's mean and I'm hurt. Honest, all I said was I don't think women who bulk up like men are attractive. Is that really a crime?

You are perpetuating nonsense and need to stop. It is not mean to tell you to stop.

But if you insist on staying in the forums and talking how you are, you had better develop some thicker skin, because you will get eaten alive.

I thinks this looks good


Body builder women don't look good. Sorry, I don't think it's nonsense.

And back to the body shaming. *smh* I'm beginning to wonder if we are being trolled.

sighs. Unfortunately, I don't think so. She did say in other threads that if she weighs every day and if she sees any weight gain (which is normal even in a maintaining human being and does not mean you over consumed) she eats less and less and was dieting on under 1000 cals plus exercising. And that she thinks her 18.5 inch thighs are fat....and seems to think she's semi magic and can 'feel fat melting away', And mentioned several times that she feels soooo hungry/starving every day and if you don't you're doing it wrong. She also says she's healthy. There's a few logic fails in there. Perhaps we should give her a break since I think all that's a pretty valid reason to not be able to think clearly.

CoderGal

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

Lol Chiman over there is way over 200 lb and 6'2. In person he's even scarier. Now go tell him he's fat and doesn't look good.

I only tell my hubby is fat cuz it's fun to do. He also does need to lose weight( the doctor said so).

Wow....My bfs over weight and I say nothing about it. He knows perfectly well, I don't think insulting him accomplishes anything.

Achrya

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

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215 lbs.

Feels body shame for being too heavy.

You so fat, Fatty.

My husband aspires to be fat like this, btw.

PikaKnight

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

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215 lbs.

Feels body shame for being too heavy.

.....you know....for science and stuff >.>

rgbushphd

You are definitely her nightmare and competition. You look great, full of confidence, and your stealing her monopoly on the male attention in the office! Good for you...and keep it up. You deserve all the smiles, head turns, and pleasantries you can get. Enjoy!

Mamakatspokane

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

Lol Chiman over there is way over 200 lb and 6'2. In person he's even scarier. Now go tell him he's fat and doesn't look good.

I only tell my hubby is fat cuz it's fun to do. He also does need to lose weight( the doctor said so).

This comment should make you all realize that she will not "hear" you even if your screaming at her. Telling her hubby he's fat and says it's fun is the worst thing anyone can do for someone's self esteem. Even if her hubby laughs it off like men do they are hurt inside and she obviously doesn't care...so please stop arguing with her! She will not learn!

Achrya

You are definitely her nightmare and competition. You look great, full of confidence, and your stealing her monopoly on the male attention in the office! Good for you...and keep it up. You deserve all the smiles, head turns, and pleasantries you can get. Enjoy!

Or the OP looked better heavier.

rml_16

Wow....My bfs over weight and I say nothing about it. He knows perfectly well, I don't think insulting him accomplishes anything.

My So went from a 30 waist to 32 in the eight years we've been together. I tease him by saying he better get it under control or I'm going to trade him him for a thinner version. ;-)

But he knows it's totally a joke and he's anything but fat. If he really was pudgy, I wouldn't care unless it seriously affected his health. I little pudge doesn't bother me.

silken555

So, you're wrong. Admit to it and stop trying to convince everyone you didn't say the things you said and that shaming isn't shaming. It's not people being sensitive and you should change their mind, it's people calling you out doing exactly what is defined as body shaming.

Yes...telling someone you supposedly love he's fat is swellllllllllllll. The doctor agrees so it MUST be ok, regardless of how it may be affecting him mentally. After all, denigrating is in, amiright????
Well I guess I am wrong. I just never seen anyone look good at 200lbs(not even my 6'2" hubby). You might think I'm all evil and what not, but I have NEVER EVER call anyone fat in my life(other than to hubby, but that's our thing), or tell anyone that you don't look good.

Lol Chiman over there is way over 200 lb and 6'2. In person he's even scarier. Now go tell him he's fat and doesn't look good.

I only tell my hubby is fat cuz it's fun to do. He also does need to lose weight( the doctor said so).

Yes....telling someone you supposedly love he's fat is swelllll....after all the doctor said so! Doesn't matter what it may be doing to him mentally of emotionally.... After all, denigrating is in, amiright?

CoderGal

Wow....My bfs over weight and I say nothing about it. He knows perfectly well, I don't think insulting him accomplishes anything.

My So went from a 30 waist to 32 in the eight years we've been together. I tease him by saying he better get it under control or I'm going to trade him him for a thinner version. ;-)

But he knows it's totally a joke and he's anything but fat. If he really was pudgy, I wouldn't care unless it seriously affected his health. I little pudge doesn't bother me.

Don't get the wrong idea, I have a very inappropriate sense of humour, as long as it's in the right tone....your story is not the same tone as hers at all. That is a completely different story and in a different tone then I think my husbands fat and I tease him and it's fun 'cause he knows he's clinically overweight and needs to lose it. Much more malicious.

TR0berts

sighs. Unfortunately, I don't think so. She did say in other threads that if she weighs every day and if she sees any weight gain (which is normal even in a maintaining human being and does not mean you over consumed) she eats less and less and was dieting on under 1000 cals plus exercising. And that she thinks her 18.5 inch thighs are fat....and seems to think she's semi magic and can 'feel fat melting away', And mentioned several times that she feels soooo hungry/starving every day and if you don't you're doing it wrong. She also says she's healthy. There's a few logic fails in there. Perhaps we should give her a break since I think all that's a pretty valid reason to not be able to think clearly.

A few? Feeling generous, are we?

rml_16

Wow....My bfs over weight and I say nothing about it. He knows perfectly well, I don't think insulting him accomplishes anything.

My So went from a 30 waist to 32 in the eight years we've been together. I tease him by saying he better get it under control or I'm going to trade him him for a thinner version. ;-)

But he knows it's totally a joke and he's anything but fat. If he really was pudgy, I wouldn't care unless it seriously affected his health. I little pudge doesn't bother me.

Don't get the wrong idea, I have a very inappropriate sense of humour, as long as it's in the right tone....your story is not the same tone as hers at all. That is a completely different story and in a different tone then I think my husbands fat and I tease him and it's fun 'cause he knows he's clinically overweight and needs to lose it. Much more malicious.

Oh, I know. I was trying to make a point of when such teasing is OK.

I guess it didn't come out right. :-) I should have added I wouldn't tease him if he were actually overweight.

CoderGal

Wow....My bfs over weight and I say nothing about it. He knows perfectly well, I don't think insulting him accomplishes anything.

My So went from a 30 waist to 32 in the eight years we've been together. I tease him by saying he better get it under control or I'm going to trade him him for a thinner version. ;-)

But he knows it's totally a joke and he's anything but fat. If he really was pudgy, I wouldn't care unless it seriously affected his health. I little pudge doesn't bother me.

Don't get the wrong idea, I have a very inappropriate sense of humour, as long as it's in the right tone....your story is not the same tone as hers at all. That is a completely different story and in a different tone then I think my husbands fat and I tease him and it's fun 'cause he knows he's clinically overweight and needs to lose it. Much more malicious.

Oh, I know. I was trying to make a point of when such teasing is OK.

I guess it didn't come out right. :-) I should have added I wouldn't tease him if he were actually overweight.

Yeah I've been through similar experiences where someone razed me about me being 'heavy' (when I was underweight) and I totally pilsberry doughboy someone in the gut in jest. We were both in shape, had the same sense of humour and were OK with our bodies.

LiftAllThePizzas

Yes....telling someone you supposedly love he's fat is swelllll....after all the doctor said so! Doesn't matter what it may be doing to him mentally of emotionally.... After all, denigrating is in, amiright?

No. Being able to accept and laugh at one's shortcomings is part of being an emotionally mature grownup. Anyone who can't has ego issues and is not finished growing up.