WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR FEBRUARY 2018

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  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Wendy - All I can give you is my own experience, and you can take that with a grain of salt. I do, absolutely, clean if I know someone's coming. It's always been a good excuse. But it's been extraordinarily freeing to simply be myself, and a massive weight lifted. I was always what everyone wanted me to be... and when I stopped, I had to figure out who I was. You've got a really good handle on who you are... now you just have to hold onto that with other people. Oddly enough (or maybe not), I've made many more friends and better ones than when I was trying to be all things to everyone. You're an amazing person, and they know that already... so let them join your lives instead of stopping it for them. It will probably be a lovely experience for them. And quite different. People here PAY to work at places like yours, no joke. :)

    And, I'm trying to go to sleep, but fell asleep over my book this afternoon, and napping always throws me off. So I'll lay down with it again and see if it creates the same magic.

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in NC

  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,194 Member
    :)Wendy, You have gotten some good suggestions about your guests. I can't add anything better. Best wishes for a visit that meets your needs and those of your husband.

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  • wildhorsewendy
    wildhorsewendy Posts: 563 Member
    Michelle, you are probably right. They might be bored of their regular life. I know the guy comes to visit because my hubby usually takes off a week and goes fishing with him. (He hires expensive fishing guides and they go to exclusive spots where they can catch huge trout and he pays for it all, so my hubby is happy to go. This has caused lots of arguments in our marriage because my hubby then won't take any time off to go on holiday with the family or me because for the past 20 years he's used up his holidays to go on the guy's fishing trip instead.) The fact that I got to go to both Fiji and Vanuatu this year was a total fluke and usually I get no holiday with my husband whatsoever. My hubby finally told him this year that he couldn't go fishing with him as he had already used up his days off with me. That was a huge victory, hard fought, for me. But the guy is still coming and bringing his wife.

    So, when the wife comes too, I am expected to entertain her while they do guy things. She has a very stressful job so I think the contrast when she comes here is refreshing. I spend my days trying to think of fun things to do. Even though I work hard, I also play hard. I'm not sitting in front of the tv. I'm out doing. I have taken her garage saleing and one year we bottled Black Doris plum jam. To my husband, I joke around and say she has come over to go "slumming." I don't really know. I've never been to their place though I have seen photos of their house and entertainment areas and hot tub etc. Even though they've been visiting us for 20 years, I don't really know them that well at all. I just think that she needs something from me, and I'm not sure what. Maybe it's just accepting her and not expecting anything from her. She lives in a corporate world where image is everything and the demands are huge...and political. I am so uninterested in politics that I never talk about it. Probably quite different to most people she is around. Maybe she just wants to be at a place where she doesn't need to put forth her perfect image. Let her hair down a bit. We are slowly thawing to each other. Will be interesting to see what this year brings forth. <3 Wendy
  • wildhorsewendy
    wildhorsewendy Posts: 563 Member
    Imagine: Free Dreamer Horse Rider Waterfall Girl trying to find common ground with Career Woman Power Player High Flyer. Perhaps she secretly wants to gallop horses on the beach and go barefoot and grow her hair long. LOL. Or maybe she just keeps a secret notebook of all the crazy chit that happens here and then has amusing stories to relate at her Prestige Dinner Parties. LOL. (There was one year that we chased chickens around with a crazy woman...and then the year she got chased by a bull when we were biking...)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    wildhorsewendy wrote: »
    Imagine: Free Dreamer Horse Rider Waterfall Girl trying to find common ground with Career Woman Power Player High Flyer. Perhaps she secretly wants to gallop horses on the beach and go barefoot and grow her hair long. LOL. Or maybe she just keeps a secret notebook of all the crazy chit that happens here and then has amusing stories to relate at her Prestige Dinner Parties. LOL. (There was one year that we chased chickens around with a crazy woman...and then the year she got chased by a bull when we were biking...)

    Have you taken her galloping on the beach?

    If it were me, I think I'd be inclined to suggest hikes (like the one you did a month or two ago), long bicycle rides, galloping on the beach ... and other active activities.


    Maybe she does just like the contrast to her own life. Hers is probably exhausting having to keep up a certain image. Maybe she finds she can relax with you.

  • knjiuv
    knjiuv Posts: 61 Member
    Wendy, I think you have for excellent suggestions from everyone. You say they go on African safaris. I think at least the wife might find your bee keeping interesting, it is a little bit of working with the wild side. Have you asked her what is interesting around your home that she might like to participate in? I'm just glad I don't have that problem. When my kids come, it is for a weekend and they go home.

    My husband used to always say he was going to sell our house and buy a trailer. Or if we divorced he would just move in a trailer, he told the girls to get a trailer. Well Christina got a trailer. She was I thrilled by the bay window in the kitchen and in the living room. She loved the large kitchen and the garden bathroom. What she didn't see was the addition they put on themselves. It was awful. It was a master bedroom with large closet and office and a large addition to the living room. Well they didn't get the new and old cane red very well. I think they were connected by carpet only. They also put a studio apartment on top of the roof. You could have access by a big scary ladder in the garage or a big staircase on the side of the house which was what was used the most.mit was also used by some furry guys. The trailer had some serious mold problem and the longer they lived there the worse it got. Also they kept a base ball cap by the commode to put on your head if it rained. I was never so glad when she called and said that the back foreclosed on them. They had enough they were able to rent a fairly decent townhouse. It wasn't the Taj Mahal but it was better than they were living in. Then they found a 3 bedroom ranch to rent. Both girls now have their own bedrooms, a good size master and the family room which was a garage makes a perfect office for my SIL. And it has a large fenced in back yard so they don't have to walk their dog. I felt so sorry for that dog at times. Now he has a whole back yard of his own. We own our house and I don't regret it. I just regret that it is a bilevel.

    Oh, the relief I got from my cold fingers and face lasted about 12 hours. I woke up this morning frozen again. But I will let my doctor know and let him do. The thinking

    Joyce, Indiana
  • wildhorsewendy
    wildhorsewendy Posts: 563 Member
    MMMMhhhh. Hiding under the house with the cats could be my Plan B.
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    EAGLES WIN THE SUPERBOWL
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  • Lagopus
    Lagopus Posts: 1,016 Member
    edited February 2018
    langman22 wrote: »
    Heather, I keep my jewelry in individual plastic bags. This will keep them from tarnishing. If you have something that is already tarnished I use a polishing cloth. You can also get from a jewelry store a liquid jewelry cleaner that you dip the jewelry in which works pretty good. I use something by Connoisseurs. I’d ask at a good jewelry store in your area.
    Terry - When Heather asked how you keep the jewelry clean, I thought not so much about keeping it shiny, but more about how to get lint and dirt out of all those holes and crevices. As a former lab-rat m0204.gif I would suggest using an ultrasonic cleaner. You drop whatever you want to clean into a little chamber full of ordinary tap water, zap it with ultrasound for a few minutes and it comes out squeaky clean. All the grime is gone. People use them for jewelry, glasses, dentures... I wouldn't be one bit surprised if most jewelers have them on hand for when customers come in and want things cleaned.

    Heather - I'm with you on the earworms. I can get stuck on a catchy but trivial tune for days on end. But I've also learned I can counterattack with the baryton aria "Betrachte meine Seel" from Bach's St. John Passion. I love that aria, so it easily exorcises any mere earworm, but it also has the decency to leave me alone after I've hummed through it a couple times. Any chance you could find an exorcist of your own?

    Becca - Ever since we lived in Miami for my husband's post-doc, I've been a fan of pink grapefruit. In my childhood home we also had pointy grapefruit spoons, and a couple decades ago, my husband bought a set of four grapefruit spoons with serrated tips. But I'm lucky enough to enjoy the physical process of segmenting and de-membraning grapefruit, so I always do my own. For me, it's a double treat!

    I'm in the process of finalizing — er... hmm... trying to finalize — the annual report I'm editing so the layout person can take over. About 10 days ago I sent out the edited articles to their authors and gave them today as a deadline for any comments and corrections. Most responded right away, but as always, some let it slide. I'm still waiting for responses from seven of them. Worse, I'm still waiting for translations of three or four articles — I haven't even begun to edit those.

    Meanwhile, we're in the throes of a humdinger of an arctic snowstorm. Soon I've got to walk down to the grocery store and replenish my supply of veggies. I'm a bit reluctant, but I know as soon as I venture out into the fray, all I'll feel will be exhilaration. I do love me a good storm, yes indeedy! As long as it isn't dangerous.

    /Penny at the t07190.gif
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Kate UK <3
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,253 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Monday -- back to work, and will also need to devote a rather significant amount of time later today to studying for my final exam.

    M in Oz

    My head just doesn't feel ready to study yet.

    In regular semesters, the class ends and we've got a full week before any possibility of exams. In these intensive courses, I've got 3.5 days.

    So I've got to remain in intensive mode ... no short breaks to catch my breath.

    Machka in Oz
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,517 Member
    Wendy - sounds like you have a really good handle on why these people come to visit you.

    I'll need to post answering people on each page because we shut down the servers last night and I can't get to my Word document.

    Joyce - that trailer sounds horrible! Bet the previous owners were so happy when it was sold. So glad that now they have a good place

    Michele in NC going to FL
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,517 Member
    Last night it wasn't so great that the football game ran late. I wanted to see the season finale of "This is Us". This sure answered a lot of my questions.

    Oh, how I love pink grapefruit. When our friends go to see her grandson and usually stay at the condo, they many times bring me back a bag of grapefruit. Honestly, I need to limit myself to one/day or else I'd just pig out on grapefruit.

    Penny - stay safe

    Heard Vince was up so cut my exercising short this morning. I still did Shape's Bikini Body DVD. I'll probably do some HIIT tomorrow since I don't do that for as long and I'll need to run to the store, sign up to use the gym, lots of other things. I just want to be sure I have enough time for everything.

    Well, we'll most likely be on the road soon (yeeaaa!)

    Michele in NC
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,647 Member
    Sharon - thank you for sharing pictures of Keira's birthday. She is adorable! Good that Jason is in NA and hope he has a good sponsor. I once had an alcoholic boss who was out of control, finally joined AA and it changed his life. As I recall, I think he went to 30 meetings the first 30 days and I'm glad it was there for him. Working for an alcoholic was almost like being married to one and I went to a few Al-Anon meetings myself.

    Wendy - know that if any of us came to visit you, we'd be perturbed if you went out of your way and bought new towels and sheets, lol. We'd even clean the toilet if it needed it-just show us where the cleaning supplies are!

    Your guests do sound like interesting people and I'll bet she's looking forward to spending time with YOU - otherwise she'd find a reason to stay home. If your house isn't clean enough or the sheets aren't new enough, c'est la vie.

    I don't think our DH's understand how much trouble and worry we go through having female house guests. There was a time my DH loved to have his guy friends visit - easy to entertain, just make sure there's plenty of beer and snacks. Girls are more picky!

    Barbara- thank you for sending those pictures! I agree with your DH, what a lovely place to be - even though it's off the beaten path. Do you have any close neighbors nearby? Anyhow, I'll visualize myself there when I need a break and that will have to do until the Teleporter gets out of the shop.

    Michelle - have a safe trip!

    This laptop is acting strange so I'd better hit the post button before I lose this.

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • Lagopus
    Lagopus Posts: 1,016 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    That said; after my knee "popped" last Friday and the majority of the pain went away.
    Penney-Arctic Storms! I can just see you dressed in your arctic gear headed to the store. I guess you don't have to worry about your ice cream melting!
    Kelly - When I read your first description I wondered if your knee might have been slightly dislocated. Hurts like a sumbitch but once it's back in its proper place, the pain subsides immediately. Just a thought.
    And when I go shopping for veggies there is NO ice cream involved :noway:
    /Penny, now lunched and ready to venture out at the t07190.gif
  • sdjm62
    sdjm62 Posts: 72 Member
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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,647 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Heading home today. I got sick during the Super Bowl program—stuffed myself with a bean dip that goes on crackers, something I would never normally eat. DS & DH thought I had too much alcohol. I had a little, but not enough to make me sick. I was sick enough to keep me barfing in DH is mad at me today.

    Katla who is ready to fly home.

    ((((Katla))))     sounds like you both are getting a touch of vacation burnout. Different food, different beds, different time zones, different weather, different schedules.

    There's no place like home and hugging your pup again.

    Have a safe flight <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,248 Member
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  • ryenday
    ryenday Posts: 1,540 Member
    Michelle The Good Place is my favourite current TV show. Season One might very well be my favourite season of any TV show ever. It is streamable from pay services like Amazon Video and Netflix but I don’t know of any free streaming.
  • ktps898
    ktps898 Posts: 1 Member
    Hi Everyone - I just joined and am glad to find this forum. Seem to be gaining weight from HRT, and trying to kick the daily red wine habit. Wish me luck!
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    edited February 2018
    Wendy ~ I stressed for you describing the upcoming visit. Whenever I know there will be folks coming, I have anxiety attacks. As everyone else has said, the lady probably just enjoys being away from the hustle and bustle of the corporate world. I would make her help with the dishes. If she is a gourmet cook, there probably are a lot to wash. Also, as someone else mentioned, let her go food shopping by herself. She might just enjoy being able to shop alone without any expectations made of her.

    Barbara ~ I love the fir trees and the view you must have.

    Terry ~ My husband cleans silver/gold with a liquid called "TarnX". And, of course he has a polishing cloth.

    Katla ~ So sorry you are ill. It was probably the beans. Have a safe trip home.

    I would love to declutter but am too lazy! :'( I need to go through my closet and drawers and throw away about 80% of my clothes. You can imagine how old some of them are if you remember Bobby Brooks and Misty Harbor. After I do that, I need to make myself go to a shopping center and buy some new decent things. I hate to try on clothes but everything I have ordered online never fits and gets put in the Goodwill pile. I have wasted so much money doing that.

    Got to go walk the POM!

    Carol in GA

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