WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018
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Woo hoo! Becca- Congrats on the house! Wow! That is a biggie! Obviously, it will take some time to close on it and to move in; which is good, as it will give DH time to heal and get stronger for the move.
Sue- I don't buy junk when I shop, but my DH does his own shopping, which is generally all done in the chip and candy aisles. He has a "pantry" of his own in his office. I am pretty good about "if-it's-not-in-my-face-I-won't-eat-it". Good luck and welcome!
Suebdew- Been meaning to say hello and how are you? I read about your choking scare and am so glad there were "helpers" on hand for you! All well with you and your DH?
Evelyn- Don't beat yourself up! We all slide off the wagon now and again. Jump back on and keep moving forward! You can do this! WE can do this!
I have had a funny belly, the past couple of days. Just feel like there is a hole in my stomach and not sure if it is nausea related or hunger related. Today I tried to ease the "gnawing" with a couple of three inch pancakes and some banana bread. Those are definitely NOT on my food list. But it DID fill the hole. I am thinking I need to throw more protein and carb/fiber into my meals.
Spring Break for my area begins this Friday. I will lose one of my toddlers (going on vacation), but will gain a school aged girl. I am kind of looking forward to having this young lady in my house; and kind of not. Makes my age range a LOT bigger (she is nine). So...I need to find activities to occupy a nine year old.
Time to visit Pinterest! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
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grandmallie wrote: »about bills / and wills and such.. my Dad left nothing, no will and a reverse mortgage, to say its a pain in the -ss is an understatement... I will sit down one my finances are figured out and put it all on a usb for the kids.. not going to do what my dad did .. learn from experience.. going to feed DFIL and walk the dogs. that is my early morning daily.. then before work , laundry today.. meeting a girlfriend on friday and bringing Alfie.. she has a fenced in backyard.. we are going to watch the rescue dog dog show and have some lunch together
I'm curious about this, Allie (and anyone else who has gone through this), because my mil still doesn't have a will -- we are trying to work on it -- and while she doesn't have a reverse mortgage and more or less owns her house outright, she receives benefits from the state which have led her (and us, by extension) to believe that when she dies, the state will take her house.
Anyway -- in that case, what's to stop the family from just walking away from everything? Instead of you and your brother (or my husband, when the time comes) trying to settle all of the debts and finances and house, why can't we just wash our hands of it all and walk away? If the person has no family at all, someone else (the state?) would have to take care of it, right?
Sorry if these questions make me look like a b**ch. As you can probably discern, I am not a big fan of my mil and am pretty annoyed that my husband is left trying to clean up her mess, even before she's gone. And I mean mess, literally. She is a hoarder like I've never seen before. For example, she has a freezer in her kitchen. When we were there last weekend (she's not living there any more -- she's in an assisted living -- on your dime -- she's never worked. Ever.) I commented on it, and my husband opened the door, and it is full -- completely full -- of fabric, patterns, and unfinished craft projects. For some reason it turned my stomach, and I had to leave the house. I spent the rest of the time in the car.
I think it helped my husband see it all for what it really is. He's already filled up one huge, industrial dumpster, and there are probably four or five more dumpster loads in the two bedroom house -- you can't even walk into one of the bedrooms. My husband said I should never go into the basement.
Sorry for the rant. But especially since she was a horrible mother, I am really resentful that we have to take care of this, and by 'we,' I really mean my husband. Because I told him we needed to pay someone to come in and hall everything to the landfill. He's not going to do that.
Felicia, who gets the award today for worst daughter-in-law in the world
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Good morning everyone. My name is Sue. I wanted to jump in and start reading this discussion, as I'm 58 and your group seems encouraging.
Some thoughts please: when you keep buying junk food in between yours bouts of staying focused and on your plan....what do you do, with said junk food?
Hi, Sue.
I do sometimes eat junk food -- and log it, when I'm logging. (which I'm not consistently doing right now.) I have also been known to throw perfectly good food away to keep from eating it.
I read something recently which suggested a 90/10 model. Eat well 90% of the time and allow yourself time to eat the things you love for the other 10%. For instance, when I go to Cafe Yumm for lunch, I get a very reasonable bowl --(half sauce, yogurt instead of sour cream, no added protein) and it is delicious. Then I get a gluten free ginger cookie. Some people might see that as "cheating," but I only go there once every two or three months, and because I am gluten free, I hardly ever get to have good cookies. So totally worth it and I don't think of it as straying from my general focus of healthy eating.
Good luck!
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon8 -
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Hello ladies! I'm very happy to say that I am finally back to being able to swing my 40 pound kettle bell! I had just worked myself back up to it in January and then got sick with the flu and then bronchitis and then vertigo! Now I am relatively healthy and I worked my way back up to the 40 pounder.
Kettlebell Workout
Goblet Squat 3x5x40
Russian Kettlebell Swing 12x7x40
My husband and I are getting ready to do our keto diet for the month of April. We generally eat a keto diet when we are not going out with friends but living here we go out a lot! Now that most of the snowbirds are heading home we will be able to concentrate on that way of eating.
Have a great day everyone!
Mary from Arizona7 -
Say hello to my new great-granddaughter, Layla 6# 3oz, born at noon my time. She is Mia's little sister. Looks as if her hair my be dark like her daddy's rather than blonde like Mommy and Mia. What a blessing
Janetr OKC25 -
Janetr - Congratulations Layla is absolutely beautiful! My daughter was born with black hair that turned blonde as a grew out and you could see the black hair on the tips of the blonde until I cut it! 4
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fanncy0626 wrote: »Janetr - Congratulations Layla is absolutely beautiful! My daughter was born with black hair that turned blonde as a grew out and you could see the black hair on the tips of the blonde until I cut it!
Thanks, Mary, I wish I were closer so I could hold her and kiss those little cheeks.
Congrats on the 40# KB, not sure I'll ever get there. I'm still using the 25# but doing it faithfully. I've lost 23# since Jan. 2nd and my body is noticeably changing and losing fat. I'm sticking to high protein, very low carbs and feeling great. I thank you for it and your example
Janetr OKC9 -
Felicia
We probably could walk away,but my son is living there,and we are trying to raise money for a probate attorney...we will see nothing out of all this.but will do our best to get it done.yes it's agrivating but live and learn...my dad also got state aid, insurance and food stamps and it's true..they have first dibs on any money , anything.then the reverse mortgage people than all the others. Get what's left...hence the probate attorney..5 -
Many congratulations, Janetr!
Wonderful!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx3 -
Janet OKC ~ Layla is a doll. My granddaughter had a head full of black hair when she was born, but then it turned light brown. You look too young to be a great grandmother. My two grandchildren are 6 & 8 as my son did not get married until he was 31.
Felicia ~ I completely understand about the hoarding. When my mom passed, she had four double closets full of clothes plus drawers in 3 bedrooms stuffed with clothes, pocketbooks, and shoes. A lot of them still had the tags on them. I have sent most of the clothes to Good Will but still have some very nice coats that I have not donated. I think growing up during the Depression and being poor had a lot to do with the buying of things. And, she would never part with anything willingly.
Carol in GA4 -
Monday was the funeral for my dear brother-in-law. It was an absolutely beautiful ceremony. Started at 10:30am with a 2 hour visitation. Photo slide show set to music. Distributed a memorial card and a small envelope with Forget-Me-Not seeds. Followed by a beautiful service delivered by their pastor. Then his daughter - my niece - spoke about her father. The many things he said and did... his little "isms". His character. The service was packed. The funeral director asked people to scoot together to make more room. And there were still some people standing in back. My BIL would've loved that - he was known for doing a headcount at events and announcing it. A testament to his friendliness and his character - the mail carrier cried when learned he died. He frequently met the postman at the mailbox just to say hi and ask about his family. He was a mason and his lodge members came to deliver the Masonic funeral rites. The placing of the apron and evergreen.
After the service pall bearers (nephews) placed his casket on a horse drawn caisson and we walked behind it a quarter mile to the cemetery. Me pushing my sweet mother (91) in a wheelchair.
An honor guard team fired three volleys from rifles. (This tradition comes from traditional battle ceasefires where each side would clear the dead. The firing of three volleys indicated the dead were cleared and properly cared for.) Presentation of the flag draping his casket.
Then we gathered at my niece's home for good food and to visit. Kids swam in the pool. We had barbecue with all the trimmings and some great desserts. Beer and wine. I think most people left around 8:00pm.
My BIL has been in our lives since I was a small child. He was always happy. Always positive. Married to my sister for 49 years. He was exceptional at maintaining connections with people. He became friends with many of my family’s old neighbors. I saw many, many old friends from my old childhood neighborhood. It was an amazing day and perfect send off for a great man.
I know my sister and niece will have some tough days ahead. A whole year of firsts. We are a large supportive family and we will have their backs. My 3 nieces are all close. They stay in touch with each other almost daily. My sister is exceptionally close to one of our cousins and to us siblings. We four sisters have a group text. For years now - we touch base almost daily. If only to say “good night” and “I love you”.
Thank you for all the hugs and kind words. Monday felt good. A celebration of his life. Very fitting. I feel more energized. A weight lifted. I’m not sure why. But, I’m going with it.
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janetr7476 wrote: »coastalgosgal wrote: »We got it!!!
Becca
In shock in
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How exciting, it sounds like a retirement haven for you and hubby. You'll have to send pictures. I am so thrilled for you. When will be move take place?
Janetr OKC
The weekend of April 7-8th! My oven is already laughing its dirty little laugh.....Eeek!
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Woo hoo! Becca- Congrats on the house! Wow! That is a biggie! Obviously, it will take some time to close on it and to move in; which is good, as it will give DH time to heal and get stronger for the move.
Sue- I don't buy junk when I shop, but my DH does his own shopping, which is generally all done in the chip and candy aisles. He has a "pantry" of his own in his office. I am pretty good about "if-it's-not-in-my-face-I-won't-eat-it". Good luck and welcome!
Suebdew- Been meaning to say hello and how are you? I read about your choking scare and am so glad there were "helpers" on hand for you! All well with you and your DH?
Evelyn- Don't beat yourself up! We all slide off the wagon now and again. Jump back on and keep moving forward! You can do this! WE can do this!
I have had a funny belly, the past couple of days. Just feel like there is a hole in my stomach and not sure if it is nausea related or hunger related. Today I tried to ease the "gnawing" with a couple of three inch pancakes and some banana bread. Those are definitely NOT on my food list. But it DID fill the hole. I am thinking I need to throw more protein and carb/fiber into my meals.
Spring Break for my area begins this Friday. I will lose one of my toddlers (going on vacation), but will gain a school aged girl. I am kind of looking forward to having this young lady in my house; and kind of not. Makes my age range a LOT bigger (she is nine). So...I need to find activities to occupy a nine year old.
Time to visit Pinterest! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
KJ, its only a rental house. So son it paying the monies, and we get an email four places we electronically sign. We move when son comes down with the uhaul on 6th and we pack up 7-8th! Easy peasy!
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ginger. Your BIL sounds like such a special person and his memory will love on in the hearts of your special family.
((( ))).
NYKAREN4 -
Ginger - So glad the funeral was everything it could be and left a lighter place in your heart.
Heather UK xxxxxxx3 -
Felicia, sorry your husband is stuck organizing all that! Don't feel like you weren't a good DIL, because what she dealt with is a disease. Hoarders are sometimes actually neat freaks, but they can't start to clean because of fear of doing it wrong in their minds. So its easier to not start. Simple decision making is not possible either, because they live under a different sets of rules than you or I. My thoughts are with ya!
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coastalgosgal wrote: »janetr7476 wrote: »coastalgosgal wrote: »We got it!!!
Becca
In shock in
Oregon!
How exciting, it sounds like a retirement haven for you and hubby. You'll have to send pictures. I am so thrilled for you. When will be move take place?
Janetr OKC
The weekend of April 7-8th! My oven is already laughing its dirty little laugh.....Eeek!
Becca
Oh wow thats quick!!! Sometimes its easier thank agonizing over it for a long time. So thrilled for you all.
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Ginger The funeral day sounds like a time of healing and celebration. So glad for all of you.
Janetr Doll baby granddaughter! We are expecting Phoenix, Olivia's little brother, in about 3 weeks. So exciting!
Becca Congrats on getting your house!
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Ginger - the celebration of your DBIL’s life sounds perfect. So glad it lifted your spirits. You have a wonderful family and I know you will be there for your sister.
Becca - that is quick! Good luck with the move. Make sure your chief takes it easy. He will probably try to do too much.
JanetR - what a beautiful baby. I bet Mia will love her too.
KJ- I have been very careful; about what I eat now. Unfortunately, I got one of my bad headaches a few weeks ago and have to take a pill that is not good for my one kidney but I think maybe tomorrow I can stop taking them. The big deal in my life is my son and DDIL are planning a Huge party to celebrate my DH’s 80th birthday! I can’t believe he is that old as I’ve know him since he was 17. We’ve invited over 100 people and so far 58 have said they are coming. The party barn they were building isn’t going to be ready due to delays in construction (rain) so a tent has been rented. Sure hoping it is a beautiful clear day. Lol Last night we finalized a lot of details and DDIL invited him out to the ranch to celebrate his birthday. We have guests coming from several states so it is a big deal.Oh I forgot, it is a surprise party!!!
Mary= good to see you posting again,
Better get some dinner ready.
SueBDew in TX9 -
Hi everyone
JanetR
Congratulations - how many granndchildren do you hav?
Sue
Welcome - Junk food - yes we all get caught. I am afraid I toss it. Waste of money I know but if it is left in my house - all of us would eat it and we certainly do not need it.
Allie
I am glad you are now free to take control of your life and make decisions for yourself. I have left everything in a with documents attached. All my important stuff is in a filing cabinet so there is place to go
Yesterday I was so tired, I went out and got takeway and of course alcohol followed. I have logged it all in my the diary - ugh! Today is a new day, I have had a healthy breakfast and I am taking the dogs out for a 5km walk whilst cleaner is here before I come back and start working again. Easter starts tomorrow where hot cross buns and family lunches abound, so we need to be on top of my game.
Trish from Oz5 -
Old pic, young yogi on Floyd’s butt9 -
Allie: Congrats on finalizing the Tomcat Ordeal. Your usual grace and patience will win out again as you get your dad's estate sorted out. Prayers going up for you.
Machka: Sounds like DH is getting good care and rest. I will visualize the blood in his brain evaporating and his full return to good health. Take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
Happy dance for Janetr and family!
Lisa: I can't wait to hear how the event went. PM me the juicy details whenever you get the chance.
I'm declaring the zen den DONE! The space is peaceful, sunny and comfortable. The windows are south facing, so I've moved several of my bigger plants in. Opposite the window are 2 file drawers, down from the six I had when the space was my office. The printer and paper shredder are plugged in but tucked in the closet, so as to keep the room as un-corporate looking as possible. Today, I hung up a map of the world where I can gaze at all the places I want to visit, and think of many of you outside of the U.S.
The fitbit has been happy with my exercise routine, but the scale hasn't budged. I'm living alcohol free, so I'm going to join Lanette in doing IF and see if I can give my metabolism a jumpstart. Tomorrow DH and I see the chiropractor for long overdue adjustments. Sometimes that helps as well. Looking forward.
Stay well friends. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
Where we went from 50 to snow today.
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Becca: Three cheers!!!!! I hope you enjoy your new adventure. April 7 & 8 is so soon! :flowerforyou:
Felicia: I saw a show about hoarders a few years ago. It is clearly a form of mental illness according to the show I saw. I am sorry you're stuck with dealing with the mess. :grumble:
Janetr: Congratulations on a healthy granddaughter.
Ginger: I'm so sorry for the loss of your DBIL. He sounds like a good man.
My dad was a Master Mason & had a Masonic service when he passed, no caisson service, though.
We're listening to old albums and reminiscing. We're listening to the Zombies. "What's your name? Who's your daddy?" DH hung around at the Springfield Creamy in those days and met Gerry Garcia & the Grateful Dead. He remembers me there and I do not. I went to a Grateful Dead & Quicksilver Messenger Service concert at Southern Oregon College when I was 18. It was a great dance, the best I ever attended in my memory. I danced with one of the crew--no idea who. Music enables time travel in the mind.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn9 -
Becca I'm doing a happy dance for your move to Whidbey Island. 4
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stats for the day:
bike ride hm 2 gym- 7.14min, 140mhr, 12.3amph. 1.4mi= 82c
apple watch- 69c
ELIPTICAL- 30min, 134mhr, 122ahr, 8resist, 4incl, 2.95mi= 245c
apple watch- 259c
ARM SPIN MACHINE- 15min, 24arpm, 112ahr, 127mhr, 2.55mi= 102c
apple watch- 97c
bike ride gym 2 dome- 5.27min, 135mhr, 16.3amph, 1.4mi= 53c
apple watch- 45c
Bike ride puy 2 sta- 14.12min, 12.8amph., 138mhr, 3mi= 127c
apple watch- 122c
jog sta 2 wk, 4.50min, 139ahr, 152mhr, 8.55min mi, .5mi= 55c
apple watch- 53c
jog wk 2 sta- windy, 4.19min, 153mhr, 9.43min mi, .4mi= 61c
apple watch- 54c
bike ride dome 2 hm- WINDY, 19.36min, 8amph, 150mhr, 2.6mi= 189c
apple watch- 146c
total cal 9144
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