Less Alcohol- May 2018- One Day at a Time

RubyRed427

Just went to the local beach. At 3:00 , I heard an announcement about happy hour beginning... then they described the drink specials.
I was arguing in my mind, "Well it isn't June yet." Then, I thought, "You always have an excuse."
In the end, I skipped the happy hour drink. Little triumphs.

erikNJ

JulieAL1969 wrote: »

Just went to the local beach. At 3:00 , I heard an announcement about happy hour beginning... then they described the drink specials.
I was arguing in my mind, "Well it isn't June yet." Then, I thought, "You always have an excuse."
In the end, I skipped the happy hour drink. Little triumphs.

Those little victories are so big.

RubyRed427

erikNJ wrote: »

JulieAL1969 wrote: »

Just went to the local beach. At 3:00 , I heard an announcement about happy hour beginning... then they described the drink specials.
I was arguing in my mind, "Well it isn't June yet." Then, I thought, "You always have an excuse."
In the end, I skipped the happy hour drink. Little triumphs.

Those little victories are so big.

Thanks Erik! Here's wishing our June is mostly DRY and sunny:)

amberellen12

So the last two days I’ve had the habit of getting a beer call me. Both times I took one out and put it in a sleeve. Then I just put it in front of me and thought about do I really want this or is it the habit. I know if I want a beer I can have it it’s my choice. Both times I put the beer back in the fridge. Two days down!

Orphia

JulieAL1969 wrote: »

@amberellen12 It's called Dry January. I have an iphone.

I tried to use it but it only works for US or UK currencies.

Are there any others that would work in Australia, does anyone know?

lorib642

Surprised myself, but I stuck with it, thank you

Colety1956

OK, June is moderation month. I am in!

kittybenn

@JenT304 @donimfp Oh man, do I get the mortification. I almost didn't post this here because it's so mortifying, but in solidarity . . . I think I've mentioned that my son and girlfriend have been pretty much AF since March after a breakup that had to do with her excessive drinking. Prob his too, TBH. So, they're back together and we three are in various states of moderation/AF. They are doing amazingly well. I'm trying to keep up! Anyway, my son told me recently that a long time ago we drove our grandsons home to his house after being out to dinner with them. He said he knew we'd been drinking but didn't want to say anything. I died. I really did. Shame, mortification, the whole range of emotions. What if anything had happened to my beloved grandsons? I'm in tears thinking about how awful it would have been. It was only a couple of glasses of wine, but still. It just brought this rush of shame. I'm sitting here now with my face turning red, I kid you not.

Okay, moving on. Those days are behind me. Things have been pretty good, not perfect, with the drinking since we got back from our cruise. I need to tighten up a bit, but otherwise things are ok. Looking forward to starting a new month, both alcoholwise and foodwise. Best to everyone here. V excited about the new addition, @JenT304.

Thank you as always @JulieAL1969, for being our guiding light.

RubyRed427

@kittybenn We all have these embarrassing mortifying memories in the back of our minds. I have several I could think of. Another reason to stay focused and vigilant. I don't ever want to go back to that type of drinking. Xo
I'm happy your son and his girlfriend are together and doing well. I remember when they broke up. And now, they can work on improving their lives as a team.

RubyRed427

Colety1956 wrote: »

OK, June is moderation month. I am in!

Happy you're in! Find our June link and keep us updated on your progress.

RubyRed427

lorib642 wrote: »

Surprised myself, but I stuck with it, thank you

Congrats! So happy for you!

donimfp

@kittybenn I hear you. There’s just something especially heartbreaking about any implication that we’re not trusted with the most precious people on earth to us. That came up in the latest season of Grace and Frankie with Lily Tomlin’s character, and even though it didn’t involve alcohol it just slew me

But we need to be compassionate to ourselves. We know better and we do better. For you relative “youngsters” here, be so thankful you’re working through this now. May your grown children never have to have a second’s concern about entrusting you with their (and your) most beloved little humans.

amberellen12

Drank last night 3 beers as planned for my moderation. I was fine but my partner lost it over a plate!!! Started yelling and wouldn’t stop no matter how calmly I asked him to stop yelling. We’re on a boat in a marina and of course all our boat neighbours got to watch the show. He needs to quit too. Not sure what I should do about this. Right now I want to just go home away from him.

SunnyDays930

@amberellen12 One of the most important reasons I need to give it up is I would have fights with my husband and wake up in the morning and wonder why he was not speaking to me. I literally would not remember one word I said. Thank you for sharing this story with us. It really reinforces my desire to stay 100% sober.

salleewins

Just finished going to my birth town because of Dad passing. What a tough week with much to do and grief. Even got a ticket. Don't the police ever give warnings anymore?? It wasn't done on purpose.Usually I drink and heavily having to deal with family members. Still had to deal with "xxxx" from certain family even though we postponed the service to a few months from now. If it wasn't for Dad, I wouldn't even feel like doing this service. Some cities in the US are known to promote and do more drinking than others, too. Had to deal with all of it in one week. Still AF. Truly a miracle. And I told you just some of it all. I have to catch up on you all now.

salleewins

Can't say I have been cookie, candy or junk free however! Weaning myself back to a good plan again!

kittybenn

@donimfp - thank you. Yes, we do need to practice self compassion, realize our mistakes and try to move on.

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RubyRed427

salleewins wrote: »

Just finished going to my birth town because of Dad passing. What a tough week with much to do and grief. Even got a ticket. Don't the police ever give warnings anymore?? It wasn't done on purpose.Usually I drink and heavily having to deal with family members. Still had to deal with "xxxx" from certain family even though we postponed the service to a few months from now. If it wasn't for Dad, I wouldn't even feel like doing this service. Some cities in the US are known to promote and do more drinking than others, too. Had to deal with all of it in one week. Still AF. Truly a miracle. And I told you just some of it all. I have to catch up on you all now.

My sympathies to you. Sometimes other family members can really test our resolve to stay positive and loving. I bet you dealt with your grief quite differently being Af than if you would have been drinking away the pain. Are you on our June thread?