What is your "Petty" Reason to Lose Weight?
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My partner wants us to be able to appreciate womens bodies together (a k.a checking other girls out and i dont. I wanna get sexy so he will notice all the other guys checking me out and not want to look at other girls. So petty but i feel like he's not attracted to my body since having a baby.
WHAT? What kind of guy asks his girlriend to help him check out other girls? The problem is NOT you.
I knowwww. I dont get it! He says lots of people in relationships do it. For example if a girl has a nice bum we should be able to both appreciate it together. He isnt doing it because i said its *kitten* up but he still thinks it shouldnt be a problem. My opinion is if you want to check out other girls then be single..19 -
resale3108 wrote: »My partner wants us to be able to appreciate womens bodies together (a k.a checking other girls out and i dont. I wanna get sexy so he will notice all the other guys checking me out and not want to look at other girls. So petty but i feel like he's not attracted to my body since having a baby.
Frankly, your partner needs to grow up, man up or get the f@$k up and move his ar5e out the door.
You look gorgeous as it is. Simply beautiful.
Do this whole MFP thing for yourself, nobody else.
You're absolutely right. Thank you so much! I need to get my confidence back!!21 -
My partner wants us to be able to appreciate womens bodies together (a k.a checking other girls out and i dont. I wanna get sexy so he will notice all the other guys checking me out and not want to look at other girls. So petty but i feel like he's not attracted to my body since having a baby.
WHAT? What kind of guy asks his girlriend to help him check out other girls? The problem is NOT you.
I knowwww. I dont get it! He says lots of people in relationships do it. For example if a girl has a nice bum we should be able to both appreciate it together. He isnt doing it because i said its *kitten* up but he still thinks it shouldnt be a problem. My opinion is if you want to check out other girls then be single..
Different people have different relationships. There is no "should" as far as him saying you "should" be able to do this.
My husband and I are both artists who make characters for video games, and often comment on other people together and it doesn't bother me. However, it does bother you, and that is what is important in your relationship. Commenting on other women in front of you if it makes you uncomfortable is disrespectful.23 -
My partner wants us to be able to appreciate womens bodies together (a k.a checking other girls out and i dont. I wanna get sexy so he will notice all the other guys checking me out and not want to look at other girls. So petty but i feel like he's not attracted to my body since having a baby.
WHAT? What kind of guy asks his girlriend to help him check out other girls? The problem is NOT you.
I knowwww. I dont get it! He says lots of people in relationships do it. For example if a girl has a nice bum we should be able to both appreciate it together. He isnt doing it because i said its *kitten* up but he still thinks it shouldnt be a problem. My opinion is if you want to check out other girls then be single..
You're right and he's wrong. He's just trying to bully you into letting him check out other people.20 -
Thank you thats exactly what I've been trying to tell him.
im so glad there are people out there who understand i thought i was going crazy. 24 -
nadean1980 wrote: »My petty reason is to look amazing in my wedding dress. On top of that others are losing weight before my wedding too so I don’t wanna be the one that didn’t so no one can say or think she’d look better in her dress if she was a healthy weight.
I’m also hoping to look amazing in my wedding dress! I should go dress shopping in a couple of months and I’d really like to hit some milestones before that. I gotta say though, I’m getting super irritated with other people fussing about my wedding, which is still more than a year from now. There’s a really weird pressure on looking your absolute best on your wedding day, even though the day is not a beauty pageant for you, it’s the day for you to get married and celebrate your relationship with your near and dear.
A couple of weeks ago I went make-up shopping with my friend, and she started fussing about what kind of make-up needs I might have for my wedding. Honestly, I just wanted to scream a little, my wedding is in 14 months and I have life, interests and needs other than my wedding.
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So my husband will compliment me again. 😕44
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Some of us just get dealt the card for having small chests. I was never busty, even when I was fat.mortikarobinette wrote: »I want my boobs to stick out farther than my tummy again.
Ugh I don’t think this will ever happen for me. Sucks to have small boobs sometimes. Lol.
But hey, look at the positives! Girls like us can buy cheap, non-supportive sports bras while everyone else struggles to find ones that are supportive without constructing them to death.
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Not all French people are rude Oo11
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I want to not be embarrassed if my shirt ever lifts and my stomach is exposed. I want to be able to eat something once in a blue moon at a resteraunt that IS unhealthy and not have people think "no wonder she is fat". I just want to feel pretty again and have my son think I'm pretty again. Like I used to be.20
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dhiammarath wrote: »I didn't start off with a petty reason, per se. Though, when I was at my heaviest, I went to the doctor for what felt like the creeping death. Congestion, coughing, fatigue; general cold symptoms. Unfortunately, the doctor I had at the time would only cursory brush me off. Focusing on my weight. Did I know I was fat (because obviously, I couldn't look in the mirror)?. Did I know that I needed to lose weight (how did this affect my SINUS PRESSURE)? It was this is this and that is that the entire visit. Well, cue a week later and my husband getting ready for a work trip to Trinidad. He made me go to the doctor again (because I was worse). I could have stabbed the nurse when she looked at me over her own gut and asked primly, "Do you exercise?" I was feeling so bad, I had no snark for her. I think I stared at her dumbly, mouth-breathing because... y'know... I couldn't breathe THROUGH MY NOSE. Long story short, the doctor treated me for pneumonia -- which I don't think I would have gotten that bad if he'd paid attention to me the first time.
So my petty reason is to make sure that no doctor or nurse can look at me and judge/focus on my weight rather than whatever symptoms I have. It's gotten better. While I've maintained the bulk of my original weight loss, they still eye me askance. So, I'mma get down, down, down, down and then eye THEM askance.
When I read this it really resonated with me! We are two sides of the same coin. Growing up, I had ALWAYS been underweight. Even in infancy, my mother would tell me that her friends and family, my pediatrician included, were all worried that she was starving me, but I just would not eat. Fast forward to my adult life, it's only now that I've been recently diagnosed with GERD. There are still other reactions that I have from food that do not fit in the GERD pocket, but I use MyFP as a food diary to keep track of what food is causing what side effect. I at least know for sure it is not Celiac disease thus far.
There have been many times in my life where I was feeling unwell with a fever included, and the first question any doctor or medical personnel has asked, is "have you always been this skinny," or "maybe you're not eating enough." It was really annoying that no one could see that certain foods were having an adverse effect on my body. My family and friends also kept telling me to gain weight, or that I was too skinny. I grew up in a Caribbean household, so this was constant. I was not 100lbs until my Jr. year of university. I'm still not too much heavier than that but, I FEEL healthier, and imo LOOK healthier than ever before with regimented care to what my body actually needs, which isn't just "fat."
tl;dr My petty reason isn't really weight loss, but muscle gain and tone, so that I can show the people in my life that I am a healthy "thin," NOT BLEEPIN' SKINNY, human being. Skinny implies that I am weak, which after about 3 years of Ashtanga, one thing that I feel am not.11 -
People treat you differently when you are thin and attractive vs overweight and looking dumpy. I know the idea is labeled as shallow, but I would rather have the kindness people show me because of my appearance than have to work ten times harder to get people to see past my physical appearance. It really is amazing how much hate people throw at those who are overweight. And it's not just thin people! I've had ladies who are larger than me treat me poorly because I'm not perfectly shaped. You'd think they would have a little compassion since they are in the same boat.
I'd also like for my husband to be proud to have me on his arm. He never says it, but it's pretty obvious he's not attracted to my current shape. I don't blame him. My flab has been a big self esteem killer.
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@LiluChama You can DO it! Show 'em how strong you are! Good luck!
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jbauer0010 wrote: »I want to not be embarrassed if my shirt ever lifts and my stomach is exposed. I want to be able to eat something once in a blue moon at a resteraunt that IS unhealthy and not have people think "no wonder she is fat". I just want to feel pretty again and have my son think I'm pretty again. Like I used to be.
Well, I do not see a dang thing wrong with how you look! You know what? I will say it loudly and proudly...you look dang pretty to me, @jbauer0010. There.5 -
HollaDeckGirl wrote: »One word: divorce.
I lost 200 lbs. in my divorce. How much did you lose in yours?15 -
People treat you differently when you are thin and attractive vs overweight and looking dumpy. I know the idea is labeled as shallow, but I would rather have the kindness people show me because of my appearance than have to work ten times harder to get people to see past my physical appearance. It really is amazing how much hate people throw at those who are overweight. And it's not just thin people! I've had ladies who are larger than me treat me poorly because I'm not perfectly shaped. You'd think they would have a little compassion since they are in the same boat.
I'd also like for my husband to be proud to have me on his arm. He never says it, but it's pretty obvious he's not attracted to my current shape. I don't blame him. My flab has been a big self esteem killer.
You know what....as much as I HATE to agree with what you have said....you are 100% correct. And, we are all guilty of it. All of us. So, because of you, @mamasara2, I am going to make a super concerted effort to judge even less than I do now. So, thank you for putting that so bluntly. That somehow resonates big time with me.12 -
You are so right @LiftHeavyThings27105 - now that you mention it, I am just as guilty. Totally ashamed of myself for being so dadgum judgmental. Especially since I know how it makes me feel to be on the receiving end.5
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Hey, not one of us is perfect (I mean, I am pretty dang close, but....who cares?!)…..I am pretty much non-judgmental about everything but when I get riled up....not the nicest person in the world. We are all human....recognize areas in which we can grow and make the honest, concerted effort. The world will be a little bit of a better place. Plus, I would not want my two boys to see me being mean or disrespectful to someone because of <insertr-reason-here>! What kind of example would I be to them?9
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I CANNOT wear an ugly mom bathing suit one more summer. I will wear a bikini by the end of the summer whether it looks good or not!19
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My partner wants us to be able to appreciate womens bodies together (a k.a checking other girls out and i dont. I wanna get sexy so he will notice all the other guys checking me out and not want to look at other girls. So petty but i feel like he's not attracted to my body since having a baby.
I used to feel this way when my other half and I were first married. I now, after 31 years of marriage, realize it was very disrespectful of him and showed me a tremendous lack of respect. I would never do it again, I would say goodbye. That was a sign of a lot of heartache to come.29
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