Less Alcohol- July 2018- One Day at a Time
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Westschmeis wrote: »Interesting side effect for me is lower resting pulse rate, and lower average pulse rate. Really did not expect that, plus a new low on the scale this morning, and this is only a little over a week AF!
HooRaw!!
Great points! Our friend @NormInv posted his significant resting pulse rate change dramatically lowered over the time he has been AF. So, you are so right about noticing that. So happy for your 8 days of AF! Awesome!
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@salleewins Hugs!
Sometimes we can get into a really morbid mindset. A morbid downward spiral.
Focusing on the bad things we do to ourselves and on our bad health aren't often great motivators.
I think that's why "Being Kind to Tomorrow You" has been said to be helpful by so many.
Focusing on doing nice things, and giving ourselves the treat of sobriety or moderation is a positive thing that breeds more positivity and good emotions.
Have you participated in the Self-care challenge threads at all? I love them for their positive "vibes".
I posted about this at some point I think or it could have been one of the many I wrote out and then deleted. When I am unhappy with something that happened yesterday I try (not always successful) to view it as something past me did or the flipside of "tomorrow you" would be yesterday me. It is a minor distinction but it helps me treat the situation as if someone else did it. I believe that in life that you can't expect grace from others unless you freely give it. So I can be disappointed that yesterday me didn't live up to expectations but I try to give grace as I would if it were someone else. More than anything if I can get the raw emotion out of the equation I can try and learn from what possibly went wrong.
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@salleewins Hugs!
Sometimes we can get into a really morbid mindset. A morbid downward spiral.
Focusing on the bad things we do to ourselves and on our bad health aren't often great motivators.
I think that's why "Being Kind to Tomorrow You" has been said to be helpful by so many.
Focusing on doing nice things, and giving ourselves the treat of sobriety or moderation is a positive thing that breeds more positivity and good emotions.
Have you participated in the Self-care challenge threads at all? I love them for their positive "vibes".
I posted about this at some point I think or it could have been one of the many I wrote out and then deleted. When I am unhappy with something that happened yesterday I try (not always successful) to view it as something past me did or the flipside of "tomorrow you" would be yesterday me. It is a minor distinction but it helps me treat the situation as if someone else did it. I believe that in life that you can't expect grace from others unless you freely give it. So I can be disappointed that yesterday me didn't live up to expectations but I try to give grace as I would if it were someone else. More than anything if I can get the raw emotion out of the equation I can try and learn from what possibly went wrong.
Insightful.
Yes, it's hard to forgive ourselves, but often easier to forgive someone else.
Something something something about the cells in our bodies being replaced daily/weekly/monthly etc and we're not the same person from one day/week/year to the next anyway.3 -
Day 9
It’s tough
It’s easier than I thought
I want a drink
I don’t want to drink
Last night I went out with 30 people they were mainly drinking I didn’t
I think I felt good
Afterwards I felt really good
Welcome to my roller coaster ride of alcohol addiction14 -
andysport1 wrote: »Day 9
It’s tough
It’s easier than I thought
I want a drink
I don’t want to drink
Last night I went out with 30 people they were mainly drinking I didn’t
I think I felt good
Afterwards I felt really good
Welcome to my roller coaster ride of alcohol addiction
Been there. Still there. Was more up and down in the beginning though of sobriety.5 -
I still haven't had a single drop of alcohol throughout this whole month
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....... When I am unhappy with something that happened yesterday I try (not always successful) to view it as something past me did or the flipside of "tomorrow you" would be yesterday me. It is a minor distinction but it helps me treat the situation as if someone else did it. I believe that in life that you can't expect grace from others unless you freely give it. So I can be disappointed that yesterday me didn't live up to expectations but I try to give grace as I would if it were someone else. More than anything if I can get the raw emotion out of the equation I can try and learn from what possibly went wrong.
I have a FOOD hangover today. LOL!! Seriously!! I've been battling some loneliness issues lately & gave in to food yesterday. We all know that if I was still wining & dining it would be WINE AND FOOD!! So, on one hand I'm kind of ahead of the game by not "wining" I'm thinking.
Anyway, this comment (that I quoted correctly, YAY ME!!) resonated with me. I will discover what is generating the lonely feelings, but need to moderate my food intake as I do that. Whether I self-medicate with food or wine or any other substance doesn't matter, cause self-medicating is NOT dealing with the "issue" so now I need to do that without guilt about yesterday. It's only one day & today is a new "ONE" day & I can do pretty much anything in one 24-hour period!!
I choose to be kind to me today & move on!!
Thank you @NovusDies for your insight!!
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andysport1 wrote: »Day 9
It’s tough
It’s easier than I thought
I want a drink
I don’t want to drink
Last night I went out with 30 people they were mainly drinking I didn’t
I think I felt good
Afterwards I felt really good
Welcome to my roller coaster ride of alcohol addiction
Good job on the 9 days and avoiding the group drinking temptation.5 -
andysport1 wrote: »Day 9
It’s tough
It’s easier than I thought
I want a drink
I don’t want to drink
Last night I went out with 30 people they were mainly drinking I didn’t
I think I felt good
Afterwards I felt really good
Welcome to my roller coaster ride of alcohol addiction
Lol I can relate to this. When I am out when others are drinking I go back and forth on being happy I am not drinking and sad. I wish I thought less about it. I do think I am getting there.10 -
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Westschmeis wrote: »Interesting side effect for me is lower resting pulse rate, and lower average pulse rate. Really did not expect that, plus a new low on the scale this morning, and this is only a little over a week AF!
HooRaw!!
awesome on both. Great work4 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »I have a FOOD hangover today. LOL!! Seriously!! I've been battling some loneliness issues lately & gave in to food yesterday. We all know that if I was still wining & dining it would be WINE AND FOOD!! So, on one hand I'm kind of ahead of the game by not "wining" I'm thinking.
Anyway, this comment (that I quoted correctly, YAY ME!!) resonated with me. I will discover what is generating the lonely feelings, but need to moderate my food intake as I do that. Whether I self-medicate with food or wine or any other substance doesn't matter, cause self-medicating is NOT dealing with the "issue" so now I need to do that without guilt about yesterday. It's only one day & today is a new "ONE" day & I can do pretty much anything in one 24-hour period!!
I choose to be kind to me today & move on!!
Thank you @NovusDies for your insight!!
Look at you quoting like a pro!
I am not sure how much it helps but I am definitely rooting for you.5 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
....... When I am unhappy with something that happened yesterday I try (not always successful) to view it as something past me did or the flipside of "tomorrow you" would be yesterday me. It is a minor distinction but it helps me treat the situation as if someone else did it. I believe that in life that you can't expect grace from others unless you freely give it. So I can be disappointed that yesterday me didn't live up to expectations but I try to give grace as I would if it were someone else. More than anything if I can get the raw emotion out of the equation I can try and learn from what possibly went wrong.
I have a FOOD hangover today. LOL!! Seriously!! I've been battling some loneliness issues lately & gave in to food yesterday. We all know that if I was still wining & dining it would be WINE AND FOOD!! So, on one hand I'm kind of ahead of the game by not "wining" I'm thinking.
Anyway, this comment (that I quoted correctly, YAY ME!!) resonated with me. I will discover what is generating the lonely feelings, but need to moderate my food intake as I do that. Whether I self-medicate with food or wine or any other substance doesn't matter, cause self-medicating is NOT dealing with the "issue" so now I need to do that without guilt about yesterday. It's only one day & today is a new "ONE" day & I can do pretty much anything in one 24-hour period!!
I choose to be kind to me today & move on!!
Thank you @NovusDies for your insight!!
Lorraine I am working on this too. Only way this works is if we address the reasons behind our addiction. Hugs5 -
I’m so inspired and encouraged by all of your words. I’ve been at this since Monday, so I’m just figuring things out (technology wise) so I haven’t been commenting as much as I’d like on individual posts. Takes me so long! I’m so grateful to have this fairly anonymous source of support. I’ve limited myself to one drink a day four four days, which is huge. It seems that if I pass the one drink threshold, all bets are off and I’ll keep going. Evening boredom and social situations are challenges for me. My weight is down and I’m feeling good about my progress so far. Thank you all for your support.9
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Thought I'd written in here last night, but I must not have pushed POST REPLY - ha!
Haven't had any alcohol since last Saturday. I am feeling pretty damn good about that. Also hit a new low weight-wise, when in truth I haven't been doing that well the last few weeks! Can't help but thinking cutting down on the drinking is a big factor here.
Happy Friday, all!
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@ErynVee I have done the same (forgetting to hit post). Great work on being AF. Amazing how the weight comes off when we do not drink those empty calories
@imfitasacello This thread is so supportive. I felt the same on posting for a while. It gets easier to post.5 -
Welcome everyone.....for the newbies.....it really gets easier around day 10.....just get to day 10 and its gonna be ok7
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Welcome, newbies!
If you're posting on the app, don't click "Done" up the top unless you've seen your post has been uploaded!
That darn "Done" tricks me so often!4 -
Day 170 today! (Thanks for the stats, Nomo app!)
Yesterday I took the bottle of bubbly out of the fridge and the frozen dacquiri sachet out of the freezer.
I think my reasoning goes like this.
I kept them there all this time because I wanted to feel like I could drink any time I felt I needed to. I was happy with that safety blanket.
Now I know I don't need to.
They were annoying me now by taking up space in the fridge, rather than them long ago being a daily guilty pleasure.
I put them in a cupboard, so that if I want to have a drink for a special occasion and break my streak, I can plan for it by putting them back in the fridge.
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Ok I did pretty well and was AF for 6 days. Then another birthday lunch happened, and I had a few drinks. So, I'm starting at day 1 again. BUT I have promised myself to keep trying and never stop trying. So, if I have to have one hundred "day 1"s until it sticks, I will.
I also started a new hobby: knitting. So, I have been using that to keep my mind occupied and hands busy. After several hours this week, I am not farther than the casting off stage. But once again, I will keep at it. My plan WAS to make all of you hats for winter:) I'll settle for knitting a washcloth at this point.
I'm happy to see our new friends are doing well. Yes, I agree that day 10 is a magical day when you feel like you can continue without too many issues.
@Orphia Congrats on day 170. Bravo!
@ErynVee It's a win-win. You're losing weight and staying sober.
@imfitasacello I like your username:) Made me smile. I'm happy you found us and we found you. Sounds like you're meeting your goals.
@trishfit2014 So happy to know you are doing well! And staying on course with your own goals. Yes, social occasions are difficult- I can relate.6 -
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andysport1 wrote: »Day 9
It’s tough
It’s easier than I thought
I want a drink
I don’t want to drink
Last night I went out with 30 people they were mainly drinking I didn’t
I think I felt good
Afterwards I felt really good
Welcome to my roller coaster ride of alcohol addiction
Well, you said it perfectly. The mental back and forth is crazy. So happy you're on day 9. Buy yourself something little to represent day 10's success. You can look at it as a symbol of your hard work and dedication to your health. Xo4 -
I drew us a picture.
It's called "Sufficient".
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Ok I did pretty well and was AF for 6 days. Then another birthday lunch happened, and I had a few drinks. So, I'm starting at day 1 again. BUT I have promised myself to keep trying and never stop trying. So, if I have to have one hundred "day 1"s until it sticks, I will.
I also started a new hobby: knitting. So, I have been using that to keep my mind occupied and hands busy. After several hours this week, I am not farther than the casting off stage. But once again, I will keep at it. My plan WAS to make all of you hats for winter:) I'll settle for knitting a washcloth at this point.
I'm happy to see our new friends are doing well. Yes, I agree that day 10 is a magical day when you feel like you can continue without too many issues.
@Orphia Congrats on day 170. Bravo!
@ErynVee It's a win-win. You're losing weight and staying sober.
@imfitasacello I like your username:) Made me smile. I'm happy you found us and we found you. Sounds like you're meeting your goals.
@trishfit2014 So happy to know you are doing well! And staying on course with your own goals. Yes, social occasions are difficult- I can relate.
Knitting keeps your hands and mind occupied. Making something small is a good idea at first because it takes longer to knit something than crochet. If you get bored with knitting, try crochet. I do both and will help if you have questions. Also, you should check out ravelry.com. it's free, and there are free patterns for every level.2 -
imfitasacello wrote: »I’m so inspired and encouraged by all of your words. I’ve been at this since Monday, so I’m just figuring things out (technology wise) so I haven’t been commenting as much as I’d like on individual posts. Takes me so long! I’m so grateful to have this fairly anonymous source of support. I’ve limited myself to one drink a day four four days, which is huge. It seems that if I pass the one drink threshold, all bets are off and I’ll keep going. Evening boredom and social situations are challenges for me. My weight is down and I’m feeling good about my progress so far. Thank you all for your support.
Well done you,
Ask yourself why one drink?
Today take just a small sip and then sit back.
Now, have a think “do you really like the taste?”
I don’t want to know the answer, I just want you to know why you drink.
The reason alcohol makes people feel relaxed is because it blocks your brain from working correctly.
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Ok I did pretty well and was AF for 6 days. Then another birthday lunch happened, and I had a few drinks. So, I'm starting at day 1 again. BUT I have promised myself to keep trying and never stop trying. So, if I have to have one hundred "day 1"s until it sticks, I will.
I also started a new hobby: knitting. So, I have been using that to keep my mind occupied and hands busy. After several hours this week, I am not farther than the casting off stage. But once again, I will keep at it. My plan WAS to make all of you hats for winter:) I'll settle for knitting a washcloth at this point.
I'm happy to see our new friends are doing well. Yes, I agree that day 10 is a magical day when you feel like you can continue without too many issues.
Good on you,
I read an ebook called “quit drinking the easy way”
It made perfect sense to me.
Maybe read the book
Good luck today
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So this is the big day
The magical day
Why ?
Is it a 10 day myth?3 -
andysport1 wrote: »imfitasacello wrote: »I’m so inspired and encouraged by all of your words. I’ve been at this since Monday, so I’m just figuring things out (technology wise) so I haven’t been commenting as much as I’d like on individual posts. Takes me so long! I’m so grateful to have this fairly anonymous source of support. I’ve limited myself to one drink a day four four days, which is huge. It seems that if I pass the one drink threshold, all bets are off and I’ll keep going. Evening boredom and social situations are challenges for me. My weight is down and I’m feeling good about my progress so far. Thank you all for your support.
Well done you,
Ask yourself why one drink?
Today take just a small sip and then sit back.
Now, have a think “do you really like the taste?”
I don’t want to know the answer, I just want you to know why you drink.
The reason alcohol makes people feel relaxed is because it blocks your brain from working correctly.
This might come across as pushing instead of just supporting. Her goal was one drink per day and she seems happy with it. This thread can be kind of tricky because less for some means moderation which can have countless definitions and for others means none or working towards none.
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Ok I did pretty well and was AF for 6 days. Then another birthday lunch happened, and I had a few drinks. So, I'm starting at day 1 again. BUT I have promised myself to keep trying and never stop trying. So, if I have to have one hundred "day 1"s until it sticks, I will.
I also started a new hobby: knitting. So, I have been using that to keep my mind occupied and hands busy. After several hours this week, I am not farther than the casting off stage. But once again, I will keep at it. My plan WAS to make all of you hats for winter:) I'll settle for knitting a washcloth at this point.
I'm happy to see our new friends are doing well. Yes, I agree that day 10 is a magical day when you feel like you can continue without too many issues.
Orphia Congrats on day 170. Bravo!
ErynVee It's a win-win. You're losing weight and staying sober.
imfitasacello I like your username:) Made me smile. I'm happy you found us and we found you. Sounds like you're meeting your goals.
trishfit2014 So happy to know you are doing well! And staying on course with your own goals. Yes, social occasions are difficult- I can relate.
I am not even sure the queen has this many birthday affairs. Are you like the most loved person in the world? Understandable if true.
Good call on ditching the hats. It would take you all your free time to get one done for my gigantic head.
Hoping this is your last day one for awhile...6
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