Cliques
caco_ethes
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That thing we all love to hate and no one really seems to know if they’re in one. Just how cliquey is this place? How do you identify which clique is which? Are there clique turf wars? What happens if someone from Clique A wifes up someone from Clique B? At this point I just want to see how many times I can say clique. So dish about cliques! Don’t hold back.
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cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.14
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JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
You’re not alone, as I see this come up often. What makes you feel like an outsider?0 -
I belong to the Clique-fil-a.9
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Muscle_for_Fitness wrote: »I belong to the Clique-fil-a.
This was terrible, I love it1 -
caco_ethes wrote: »Muscle_for_Fitness wrote: »I belong to the Clique-fil-a.
This was terrible, I love it
Well I'm not here to not be terrible0 -
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rickswifey83 wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
I always thought you were an insider!
I would’ve guessed the same0 -
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Muscle_for_Fitness wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Muscle_for_Fitness wrote: »I belong to the Clique-fil-a.
This was terrible, I love it
Well I'm not here to not be terrible
Well you’re doing a terrible job
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caco_ethes wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
You’re not alone, as I see this come up often. What makes you feel like an outsider?
I don't think it's anything specific. more my own feelings of (or lack of ) self worth or the idea that anyone would find me interesting at all. i'm sure it's mostly steeped in a lack of confidence. I go though phases. I have a HORRIBLE habit of comparing myself to others. oh well.
But if you give me a chance I'm pretty awesome most days
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caco_ethes wrote: »Muscle_for_Fitness wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Muscle_for_Fitness wrote: »I belong to the Clique-fil-a.
This was terrible, I love it
Well I'm not here to not be terrible
Well you’re doing a terrible job
Well thank you very little
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Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.2
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rickswifey83 wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
I always thought you were an insider!caco_ethes wrote: »rickswifey83 wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
I always thought you were an insider!
I would’ve guessed the same
thats some BS lol I just know some of the long termers cause i've been here for sooooo long1 -
JustKeepTryin wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
You’re not alone, as I see this come up often. What makes you feel like an outsider?
I don't think it's anything specific. more my own feelings of (or lack of ) self worth or the idea that anyone would find me interesting at all. i'm sure it's mostly steeped in a lack of confidence. I go though phases. I have a HORRIBLE habit of comparing myself to others. oh well.
But if you give me a chance I'm pretty awesome most days
So you feeling like an outsider has more to do with how you feel than how you’re made to feel? That makes sense. Some days I just don’t blend here. I get that.
I’m interested to hear from people who see cliques here though. What I wonder is if people see the group of people who post most frequently as being in their own clique.0 -
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Just sayin'
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!2 -
rickswifey83 wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »rickswifey83 wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
I always thought you were an insider!caco_ethes wrote: »rickswifey83 wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
I always thought you were an insider!
I would’ve guessed the same
thats some BS lol I just know some of the long termers cause i've been here for sooooo long
That's what happens when you do hard time
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caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
To me a clique is a group of people who will interact with each other to the exclusion of others. If this happens here, I’m genuinely unaware.
However, I do still remember being new and feeling like people were blind to my posts. What I didn’t realize then is that I was being subjected to a routine newcomer/catfish scrutiny. I felt unnoticed but behind the scenes people were trying to figure out who I was, if I was a former user. Why do I know this? Because it’s how I react to pretty much every new person. 2 -
I’m still trying to figure out who cliques with who 🤔0
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_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »cliquey (is this actually a word??) enough for me to feel like an outsider most days.
You’re not alone, as I see this come up often. What makes you feel like an outsider?
I don't think it's anything specific. more my own feelings of (or lack of ) self worth or the idea that anyone would find me interesting at all. i'm sure it's mostly steeped in a lack of confidence. I go though phases. I have a HORRIBLE habit of comparing myself to others. oh well.
But if you give me a chance I'm pretty awesome most days
So you feeling like an outsider has more to do with how you feel than how you’re made to feel? That makes sense. Some days I just don’t blend here. I get that.
I’m interested to hear from people who see cliques here though. What I wonder is if people see the group of people who post most frequently as being in their own clique.
I think some people do see it like that. Honestly, when I first joined here and started to post it kind of felt like that. Then I realized I just need to losen up I can also see how some people may feel a little intimidated in here sometimes, especially when not knowing the regular posters personality and sarcasm.
Plus when you throw in inside jokes and references to events that happened before you came on the scene, it can feel exclusionary at times. But it’s good to recognize when it’s just a feeling and not reality2 -
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caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
To me a clique is a group of people who will interact with each other to the exclusion of others. If this happens here, I’m genuinely unaware.
However, I do still remember being new and feeling like people were blind to my posts. What I didn’t realize then is that I was being subjected to a routine newcomer/catfish scrutiny. I felt unnoticed but behind the scenes people were trying to figure out who I was, if I was a former user. Why do I know this? Because it’s how I react to pretty much every new person.
Ya, i can see the newbies feeling left out because there are inside jokes due to time being spent on here. And so weve all been there and felt excluded. And sometimes the banter between a group of people is carried on in such a way others might stop responding or feel excluded. Not sure thats a clique. But i must meet the clique quota. And so i will say clique one more time.3 -
rickswifey83 wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
Perfect sense, I like to read everyone's comments also. I think this group is full of diverse characters and I honestly enjoy them all. Some are more sarcastic and others are deeply intellectual. Perhaps we should think more along the lines that the chit-chat forum is in itself a clique....
Good point. I think you may be on to something...and within the larger group/clique everyone has there favorites or friends you banter with more naturally.1 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Interesting...i guess Wed have to define clique. Im definitely a loner in these here parts.
You seem like you’re friends with everybody!
Well i guess thats why a definition is needed. Because i think thats the opposite of cliques. I see value in everybody's interactions. But i dont necessarliy click with one group or group of people. ? Am i making sense lol, probably not
To me a clique is a group of people who will interact with each other to the exclusion of others. If this happens here, I’m genuinely unaware.
However, I do still remember being new and feeling like people were blind to my posts. What I didn’t realize then is that I was being subjected to a routine newcomer/catfish scrutiny. I felt unnoticed but behind the scenes people were trying to figure out who I was, if I was a former user. Why do I know this? Because it’s how I react to pretty much every new person.
Ya, i can see the newbies feeling left out because there are inside jokes due to time being spent on here. And so weve all been there and felt excluded. And sometimes the banter between a group of people is carried on in such a way others might stop responding or feel excluded. Not sure thats a clique. But i must meet the clique quota. And so i will say clique one more time.
If someone says something I don’t understand I resort to saying something in code so they know I’m not following. But then they don’t know what I’m saying and we get confused and they make us both look bad.0
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