You Intimidate Me
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kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
Exactly. I didn’t feel intimated by posting in the forum for more than a week or two once I started, but I’m just now getting past hating sending friend requests and thinking about them anxiously for days if not weeks before actually hitting send. If I am sending one, it’s because I enjoy someone’s posts and the thought of them possibly rejecting it was very intimidating.2 -
CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »If you let people intimidate you in a web forum then I am concerned with how poorly you would handle a physical confrontation.
Just sayin'
DISCLOSURE: I teach Combatives, Defensive Tactics, and Personal Protection
Sorry physical confrontation is easier to deal with that social rejection
This is an opinion and not fact. Times have changed a lot over the years that may make what you say true for many.....but believe me my friend, intimidation from where I grew up was physically and mentally excruciating. Social rejection comes in many forms, and cyber intimidation is something i never had to deal with but do see it so i wont discount it. But having the big kids jack you up to sell drugs for them because you are to young to do time is pretty traumatic physical intimidation. That and other things like that happen to kids and even some adults to this day in neighborhoods where I work with the kids. It's never just one way when it comes to what's worse when it comes to these type of things.
I agree with Thomas about this being opinion and not fact. I feel I am very outgoing and confident on social media platforms. I was like this as a child over the phone calling for donations, etc from organizations for school, church, etc. Never afraid of being told no or rejected when there is not the face to face connection. A select few on here have actually met me (@clever_user_name to name one). NOW, put me in a face to face setting and I will be very intimidated...very shy, awkward, a total introvert. I don't want someone to look at me and tell me no. Online rejection is so much easier for me to handle than physical rejection/confrontation.1 -
skctilidie wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
Exactly. I didn’t feel intimated by posting in the forum for more than a week or two once I started, but I’m just now getting past hating sending friend requests and thinking about them anxiously for days if not weeks before actually hitting send. If I am sending one, it’s because I enjoy someone’s posts and the thought of them possibly rejecting it was very intimidating.
And I was very excited to see your friend request @skctilidie!2 -
rhenry2424 wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
Exactly. I didn’t feel intimated by posting in the forum for more than a week or two once I started, but I’m just now getting past hating sending friend requests and thinking about them anxiously for days if not weeks before actually hitting send. If I am sending one, it’s because I enjoy someone’s posts and the thought of them possibly rejecting it was very intimidating.
And I was very excited to see your friend request @skctilidie!
Aww, I’m so glad I worked up the nerve to send it!1 -
My "intimidation" comes from not visiting these forums too often. I spend most of my time in the monthly running challenges where I am more confident and comfortable. Venturing over here into the dark side where everyone is friends and witty and young and good looking... well... it can be a little daunting...lol... but it's so damn entertaining I can't help but peek in from time to time....5
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kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
Doesn't help when MFP deletes the friend requests.
Twice.1 -
LaDispute57 wrote: »My "intimidation" comes from not visiting these forums too often. I spend most of my time in the monthly running challenges where I am more confident and comfortable. Venturing over here into the dark side where everyone is friends and witty and young and good looking... well... it can be a little daunting...lol... but it's so damn entertaining I can't help but peek in from time to time....
If it turns out that you’re as bad a judge of age as I am, stick around and you’ll learn that Chit Chat is not collectively as young as you might have thought. I have been dumbfounded time and again to find out that someone I’d have guessed to me mid-20s at the most is actually my age or older.0 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
Doesn't help when MFP deletes the friend requests.
Twice.
Perfect example. I thought you hated me. Hahaha3 -
@skctilidie I believe you, but I would put good money on the fact that not many here are 60 or older...lol... 45 is young to me...
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LaDispute57 wrote: »@skctilidie I believe you, but I would put good money on the fact that not many here are 60 or older...lol... 45 is young to me...
Ehh, what’s it matter anyway? None of us are in elementary school anymore and I’d hope our real lives aren’t segregated by age. From what I’ve seen, you’ve fit in just fine here. Keep posting.0 -
kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
I’ve only sent one friend request for this very reason..lol. Luckily she accepted 😊1 -
skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »Most of my FL intimidated me when I first came to chit chat.
pretty sure I'm not one of those!!!
I’m with @kinetixtrainer2 in that “most of my FL was intimidating to me when I was new” feeling - and yes, you’re included in that, as is he. That said, I was very pleasantly surprised at how warm and welcoming and non-cliqueish people were when I decided that the only way to get over feeling intimidated by you beautiful people was to jump right in and start posting in the threads that intimidated me most. It still took a while but I’m finally feeling comfortable and no longer intimidated by anyone here. (OK, maybe slightly so sometimes because @SabAteNine can take selfies that are a work of art and my attempts at recreating them have so far been really pathetic.)Clever_User_Name wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »LaDispute57 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Who here is or was intimidated by @kinetixtrainer2 ?
Because that might be the best example I can think of for someone who would never do it intentionally
I am just intimidated by his arm.
have u seen his toosh?
we have all seen his toosh
kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »
for those of you that haven't
Do you have this saved or something? Also, how the hell do I intimidate you?
You’re someone who is easy to spot as being hilarious and well-loved here. Sample size of 1 here, but I thought you were pretty intimidating until I got to know you because it seems nearly impossible to match your ability to post just the right funny comment at any given moment.
this is exactly right for @Clever_User_Name !!!0 -
kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
completely makes sense and I'm pretty sure most of use are thinking of it in the same way!! I know I am1 -
JustKeepTryin wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »Most of my FL intimidated me when I first came to chit chat.
pretty sure I'm not one of those!!!
I’m with @kinetixtrainer2 in that “most of my FL was intimidating to me when I was new” feeling - and yes, you’re included in that, as is he. That said, I was very pleasantly surprised at how warm and welcoming and non-cliqueish people were when I decided that the only way to get over feeling intimidated by you beautiful people was to jump right in and start posting in the threads that intimidated me most. It still took a while but I’m finally feeling comfortable and no longer intimidated by anyone here. (OK, maybe slightly so sometimes because @SabAteNine can take selfies that are a work of art and my attempts at recreating them have so far been really pathetic.)Clever_User_Name wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »LaDispute57 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Who here is or was intimidated by @kinetixtrainer2 ?
Because that might be the best example I can think of for someone who would never do it intentionally
I am just intimidated by his arm.
have u seen his toosh?
we have all seen his tooshkinetixtrainer2 wrote: »
for those of you that haven't
Do you have this saved or something? Also, how the hell do I intimidate you?
You’re someone who is easy to spot as being hilarious and well-loved here. Sample size of 1 here, but I thought you were pretty intimidating until I got to know you because it seems nearly impossible to match your ability to post just the right funny comment at any given moment.
this is exactly right for @Clever_User_Name !!!
With as frequently as we speak for each other, you and I might just be forced to meet up in the middle somewhere and prove we both exist.
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kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »When I speak of intimidation in this thread it’s not from a physical or mental place of fear. In my case it’s where I read the posts of someone and start to paint a mental picture of someone’s personality and their attributes. I enjoy reading their thoughts and sense of humor. Then the thought of sending a friend request was intimidating because there’s the chance of rejection from someone you’ve come to like.
Hope this makes sense.
Were you shy when you first asked your wife out for a date?
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caco_ethes wrote: »And @lstrat115
This makes me sad. I guess you never really know how you make people feel, but I have never tried to intimidate anyone. Except for with my banana. @denny_mac and @Motorsheen are justified in being intimidated
I missed this.
It was only because you were so well liked and funny. Now stop being sad
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skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »Most of my FL intimidated me when I first came to chit chat.
pretty sure I'm not one of those!!!
I’m with @kinetixtrainer2 in that “most of my FL was intimidating to me when I was new” feeling - and yes, you’re included in that, as is he. That said, I was very pleasantly surprised at how warm and welcoming and non-cliqueish people were when I decided that the only way to get over feeling intimidated by you beautiful people was to jump right in and start posting in the threads that intimidated me most. It still took a while but I’m finally feeling comfortable and no longer intimidated by anyone here. (OK, maybe slightly so sometimes because @SabAteNine can take selfies that are a work of art and my attempts at recreating them have so far been really pathetic.)Clever_User_Name wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »LaDispute57 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Who here is or was intimidated by @kinetixtrainer2 ?
Because that might be the best example I can think of for someone who would never do it intentionally
I am just intimidated by his arm.
have u seen his toosh?
we have all seen his tooshkinetixtrainer2 wrote: »
for those of you that haven't
Do you have this saved or something? Also, how the hell do I intimidate you?
You’re someone who is easy to spot as being hilarious and well-loved here. Sample size of 1 here, but I thought you were pretty intimidating until I got to know you because it seems nearly impossible to match your ability to post just the right funny comment at any given moment.
this is exactly right for @Clever_User_Name !!!
With as frequently as we speak for each other, you and I might just be forced to meet up in the middle somewhere and prove we both exist.
lol as proof that we are not actually the same person! or maybe we are...0 -
JustKeepTryin wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »Most of my FL intimidated me when I first came to chit chat.
pretty sure I'm not one of those!!!
I’m with @kinetixtrainer2 in that “most of my FL was intimidating to me when I was new” feeling - and yes, you’re included in that, as is he. That said, I was very pleasantly surprised at how warm and welcoming and non-cliqueish people were when I decided that the only way to get over feeling intimidated by you beautiful people was to jump right in and start posting in the threads that intimidated me most. It still took a while but I’m finally feeling comfortable and no longer intimidated by anyone here. (OK, maybe slightly so sometimes because @SabAteNine can take selfies that are a work of art and my attempts at recreating them have so far been really pathetic.)Clever_User_Name wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »LaDispute57 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Who here is or was intimidated by @kinetixtrainer2 ?
Because that might be the best example I can think of for someone who would never do it intentionally
I am just intimidated by his arm.
have u seen his toosh?
we have all seen his tooshkinetixtrainer2 wrote: »
for those of you that haven't
Do you have this saved or something? Also, how the hell do I intimidate you?
You’re someone who is easy to spot as being hilarious and well-loved here. Sample size of 1 here, but I thought you were pretty intimidating until I got to know you because it seems nearly impossible to match your ability to post just the right funny comment at any given moment.
this is exactly right for @Clever_User_Name !!!
With as frequently as we speak for each other, you and I might just be forced to meet up in the middle somewhere and prove we both exist.
lol as proof that we are not actually the same person! or maybe we are...
I would be really sad if it turned out you’re just some second personality/a figment of my imagination and not my actual long lost twin.0 -
skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »skctilidie wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »Most of my FL intimidated me when I first came to chit chat.
pretty sure I'm not one of those!!!
I’m with @kinetixtrainer2 in that “most of my FL was intimidating to me when I was new” feeling - and yes, you’re included in that, as is he. That said, I was very pleasantly surprised at how warm and welcoming and non-cliqueish people were when I decided that the only way to get over feeling intimidated by you beautiful people was to jump right in and start posting in the threads that intimidated me most. It still took a while but I’m finally feeling comfortable and no longer intimidated by anyone here. (OK, maybe slightly so sometimes because @SabAteNine can take selfies that are a work of art and my attempts at recreating them have so far been really pathetic.)Clever_User_Name wrote: »JustKeepTryin wrote: »Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »LaDispute57 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »Who here is or was intimidated by @kinetixtrainer2 ?
Because that might be the best example I can think of for someone who would never do it intentionally
I am just intimidated by his arm.
have u seen his toosh?
we have all seen his tooshkinetixtrainer2 wrote: »
for those of you that haven't
Do you have this saved or something? Also, how the hell do I intimidate you?
You’re someone who is easy to spot as being hilarious and well-loved here. Sample size of 1 here, but I thought you were pretty intimidating until I got to know you because it seems nearly impossible to match your ability to post just the right funny comment at any given moment.
this is exactly right for @Clever_User_Name !!!
With as frequently as we speak for each other, you and I might just be forced to meet up in the middle somewhere and prove we both exist.
lol as proof that we are not actually the same person! or maybe we are...
I would be really sad if it turned out you’re just some second personality/a figment of my imagination and not my actual long lost twin.
bwahahahah so ... as in you have a split personality and are logged onto two difference computers at once so you can respond to your own posts 2
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