The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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7:11 qm in Vegas another 24 💖 have a fabulous AF day all!4
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I recently saw on TV that the increase in deaths that are alcohol related since 1997 has doubled and that the highest incidence of death occurs in women. I think nearly every nite n in our city there is a car accident involving DWI's........scarry , a DWI costs the person about 17 , 000 dollars , and that doesn't include jail time or probation...not worth it...........and its devastating when some one is killed.........Ive lost 2 cousins to being killed in car accidents because the other driver was drunk..............it totally destroyed his pregnant wife and their 2 boys.............not worth it.............6
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Hi All 😊 Great to read all the comments & welcome to all the newbies. I can relate to the failure to moderate generating feelings of guilt. I am mostly an all or nothing kinda person, so I find AF the way to be for me!! Moderation does not work for me.
Perhaps that is why I have difficulty moderating food. We need food to live so it isn't like there is another option. If I could be FF like I am AF I'd be set. I've been working on the food thing consistently since Dec 30 & am beginning to feel less dragged out & sluggish. For me food is basically the same as alcohol as far as self medicating & numbing out. It's just a different substance.
Hoping everyone is continuing their work toward health & happiness 🌹4 -
@lloydrt SO sad about your family members deaths due to someone else's poor choices & the loved ones left to suffer at the hands of another's selfish act.
At one point shortly after I stopped drinking, I had shared that a former drinking buddy got her 2nd DUI & had her grandkids in the car with her. She had just got her license back 3 months before that. That was 17 months ago & she is still drinking & denying & lying about her problem while she has lost friends, family members, her health & yet she chooses to poison herself over what we all hold dear!
There all kinds of excuses...they have a disease, they are sick, they had a rough childhood BUT it is also a CHOICE. 😥 And sadly the people who die at their hands have no choices left.
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »Hi Friends, I'm still here reading your messages. I am stuck in bed with the flu so I don't have anything to add to the conversation. But still reading your posts.
I'm a sicko too. I'm on the mend & hoping you are too. 💗
@RubyRed427 @lorrainequiche59 Hope both of you are feeling better today!5 -
mscanadianbakin wrote: »New to the 'group'. I abstained from alcohol for three years until Nov of 2018.
I have once again given up booze as of Dec 27, 2019
@mscanadianbakin Welcome! It's great that you're here!6 -
6:04 am in Vegas another 24 💖8
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@MCinChicago Thank you. Yes feeling much better. On the mend.5
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So happy to see all the new faces! We are here to support each other and you as well! Like so many, many others, I too cannot moderate. It took me years to figure that out. I have no off switch. There had been days when, lets say, I had a glass of wine with lunch, I knew I would drink from then to my bedtime. People I have told this too are mostly incredulous. "What? Why? Just stop!" Well I could no more moderate drinking than I could smoking. Thank God THAT door was slammed shut years ago. I don't ever think about cigarettes anymore. Hopefully it will be like that with the wine eventually. I definitely take encouragement from those of you who have been AF for more than a year. Well done!7
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Hi everyone! I haven't checked in since the beginning of the holidays, but I do stop by and read this thread every so often. I've been AF since Jan 1, 2019 and feeling good about having an entire AF year behind me now.
I'm popping in today to give a book recommendation. I just finished reading a new book, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol by Holly Whitaker. There is some really good information in this book if you can get past language and politics if those things bother you. I personally have not had as wild of a life as Holly or used recreational drugs, but many of the things she mentioned just about drinking I could relate to. I also have read posts on this board which correlate to some of the things she talks about, so I thought some of you might like this book. She talks a lot about the marketing of alcohol and how we've all been programmed to believe it's part of life - a rite of passage. How Big Alcohol is like Big Tobacco. All very good points. She offers some reasons why AA doesn't work for everyone and discusses why other avenues are still good options for leaving alcohol behind. We're not all supposed to be lumped into a category of an alcoholic or a "normal drinker." There is a lot of gray area she covers.
There's a lot more to say about this book and I did skim the end of the book because I've been AF over a year now and didn't feel she was giving me any new info about how to live without alcohol. There's been some criticism for the way she sounds like an entitled white girl who can afford the luxury of therapy, massages, yoga, etc. I think you have to look at it as suggestions for filling up the time that alcohol used to rob from you and not focus on what she spends on her new rituals. It's pretty easy to find low cost ways to entertain and nurture yourself, so I feel like that's a non issue.
Anyway, if any of you read this book and would like to discuss, please let me know! Oh and don't let the title discourage you gentlemen, you can skip the feminism parts of the book and still glean some good information.
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I follow Holly on Instagram and also get a newsletter here and there I like her style👍 Jen if I ever had a drink at lunch I'd be eagerly anticipating the next one and wouldn't stop til I passed out, defo no off switch! 5:56 am in Vegas another 24 💖 hope everyone has a wonderful AF day!6
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The Daybreak app evolved from the Hello Sunday Morning forum in Australia. One of the downsides is that it isn't free, though many people have found it quite helpful. Those of us who were using the HelloSundayMorning.org free site created a community site for those looking to change their relationship with alcohol by joining other like-minded people at www.newdayforme.org. It is free, safe, no advertising and open to anyone looking to cut down, moderate or quit drinking altogether. It is worth checking out if you are interested.4
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Good morning! I am feeing better; it took a full week to get over the flu. I had awful aches and pains. I was thinking about my drinking and know that I am "allergic" to it. I once read some people don't have an enzyme to digest alcohol- that's me! I also know that even two glasses of wine will make me feel badly the next day- nauseous and heart racing. So little can affect me so negatively.
I have been writing down 5 things I am grateful for each day since Jan. 1st. It really does improve your outlook. Any morning I wake up feeling fresh, since I slept well due to no alcohol, is a great morning!
Last night, friends sent me a video of them at a bar singing and drinking. I was invited to go to the event. But declined because I knew my Saturday would be shot. Instead, I woke up 6:30 a.m. with a smile on my face. Wishing all a great day! I love reading your comments.
p.s. Besides being allergic to alcohol, I cannot stop once I start. It's a fact- no sense denying it.7 -
The Daybreak app evolved from the Hello Sunday Morning forum in Australia. One of the downsides is that it isn't free, though many people have found it quite helpful. Those of us who were using the HelloSundayMorning.org free site created a community site for those looking to change their relationship with alcohol by joining other like-minded people at www.newdayforme.org. It is free, safe, no advertising and open to anyone looking to cut down, moderate or quit drinking altogether. It is worth checking out if you are interested.
Thanks for the information! I will check It out!5 -
VeggieGirlforLife wrote: »Hi everyone! I haven't checked in since the beginning of the holidays, but I do stop by and read this thread every so often. I've been AF since Jan 1, 2019 and feeling good about having an entire AF year behind me now.
I'm popping in today to give a book recommendation. I just finished reading a new book, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol by Holly Whitaker.
I also read like someone stated that the rise in women binge drinkers and alcoholics has gone up.
Thanks for this book recommendation.
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MCinChicago wrote: »lorrainequiche59 wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »Hi Friends, I'm still here reading your messages. I am stuck in bed with the flu so I don't have anything to add to the conversation. But still reading your posts.
I'm a sicko too. I'm on the mend & hoping you are too. 💗
@RubyRed427 @lorrainequiche59 Hope both of you are feeling better today!
Thanks! I am better 7 -
I recently saw on TV that the increase in deaths that are alcohol related since 1997 has doubled and that the highest incidence of death occurs in women. I think nearly every nite n in our city there is a car accident involving DWI's........scarry , a DWI costs the person about 17 , 000 dollars , and that doesn't include jail time or probation...not worth it...........and its devastating when some one is killed.........Ive lost 2 cousins to being killed in car accidents because the other driver was drunk..............it totally destroyed his pregnant wife and their 2 boys.............not worth it.............
Such a tragedy. I know of a friend from high school whose brother is in jail for life due to drunk driving where someone was killed. I think about him once in awhile- what he wouldn't trade to take back and redo that night....6 -
Lately, I also have seen several lead articles in NYT and CNN and other sites where it concerns alcohol and the devastating effects. Not sure if it's because it's January (Dry) or maybe more awareness is spreading about the dangers.7
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6:39 am in Vegas another 24,Ruby glad you're feeling better finally,I heard this flu going around is no joke! Yep I bet that guy wishes he could go back to that night he drove drunk and not do it again, I've taken many, many chances and it was just straightup luck that nothing bad happened, stupid! Hope everyone has a wonderful AF day ❤️5
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Hi glad everyone is better from their sick. Was just going to add if anyone that was struggling noticed how much easier it got know that the holidays are over. It was a constant thought on my mind for a while there. Plus all the party/alcohol commercials are done.
Happy for that because I was considering rewarding myself for good behavior.
Enjoy your weekend.5
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