RubyRed427 wrote: »
@donimfp I wish you the best as you go back to your job but in a different capacity. Yes we never regret being AF; it’s like opening a gift every morning when you have not drank the night before.
donimfp wrote: »
@IWillTakeBackMyLife , how wonderful that you trust those of us on this forum. Your pain is so evident. I can’t even imagine 232 AF days. My knee-jerk response is that 1 day out of 232 days is no big deal. But obviously it is a big deal. I’d just like to encourage you to “try” therapy. Having an insightful, empathic person in my corner has meant everything to me. It sounds like you need that person who can really be there for you and to whom you can safely unload. And my therapist has given me so much insight into myself in addition to the listening ear. I know I may be lucky to have found a person with whom I really click, but you sound like therapy could be a valuable asset for you. Above all be kind to yourself!
JenT304 wrote: »
@IWillTakeBackMyLife You are a valuable member of our community here. I am terribly proud of you. 232 days sober is an amazing accomplishment. Way better than I have ever done. Despite all the BS we must put up just by being human, life CAN be beautiful for you. Your happiness matters. I urge you to seek therapy for your depression. You have your whole life in front of you. You deserve to feel peace.
lloydrt wrote: »
Iwilltakeback..............I have a brother who was a terrible alcoholic and abused drugs for years......about 30 years. He drank daily, had 6 DUI's and had a terrible temper when he drank........I gave up on him
on Dec of 2004 he stopped drinking.....totally and stopped getting high........that's it . He stopped cold turkey. For about 8 months or so I knew he stopped but stayed my distance
After about 1 year I got involved with him again, we visited , did stuff and I really, really never knew he was so nice, so caring and nice........just a pleasant brother to be around
He told me last year, about 14 years AFTER he stopped that one night he drank some wine...........and that was about 8 years ago, so after 8 years he had one drink
He felt bad, asked himself and God for forgiveness and put it behind him....its over and done with. He now is retired , does Hospice work, he went thru the training and also does Meals on Wheels..........
he is very religious too........
so, don't kick yourself to death.........you have done great, look at all the days you DIDN'T drink.............you have on slip up.............
If my brother threw in the towel 8 years ago with one slip up, he wouldn't be a great person today..........
keep in touch with this site.........people really care
whitpauly wrote: »
@IWillTakeBackMyLife ,I'm so sorry,do you know what happened to make you wanna drink? Brush it off,I once had a relapse and one of my support group ladies said to just be like Taylor Swift and "Shake it off" sounds dumb but it made me laugh and I didn't feel that heavy sadness as much,this is WHY I continue to come here daily to protect my quit,this thread has been very quiet so I post on the less alcohol thread and it still helps,we gotta keep it fresh in our minds what our goal is and to work on that on a daily basis,not dwell on it but defo keep it front and center in our minds,hope all are well and wishes for a fab AF day 💖
aroze0928 wrote: »
@IWillTakeBackMyLife I've done it we've all done it here. I would feel stress boom grab a beer. Something happens to make me uncomfortable run to the fridge grab a cold one.
Dont be upset your human. Life can get tricky.
Have something to eat, take a shower, rest your mind, forgive yourself and move on. Peace and blessings to you.
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
RubyRed427 wrote: »
@IWillTakeBackMyLife I love your username! You will take back your life. Don't be too hard on yourself. Life is messy and has ups and downs. You did so well for so long. One bad day isn't as bad as you think. It also sounds like you give way to much of yourself to others; it is time to be selfish for once. Focus on YOU and your needs. The world will keep spinning. You are the priority for now. Please do that for yourself. You are full of too much guilt. Take a step back and please don't dwell too much on this.
I also recommend two authors and youtube videos you can view on the subject of not being too hard on yourself. Look up Miguel Ruiz and/or Eckhart Tolle. I watch their videos and it really brings things back into perspective.
I agree with others please find a therapist. It really is a liberating feeling telling someone all your fears, secrets, shame, and guilt... it unburdens you. IT really does. You will feel so much better if you talk to a therapist. Come back to this thread and let us know how you're doing today. We care about you. xo
whitpauly wrote: »
@IWillTakeBackMyLife ,how are you feeling today? Please don't be so hard on yourself,I know that deep remorse and the wondering why did I do that feeling 😔 all you can do is brush it off honestly,great advice by everyone 💗 have a great AF day all!
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