What made you suddenly lose interest in someone you were pursuing?

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  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    amwbox wrote: »
    amwbox wrote: »
    amwbox wrote: »
    When they start sending out feelers about your finances....God I hate that sinking feeling when you realize someone is corrupting their personal relationship decision make process with money...

    You have eyes. Do you corrupt your personal decision making process with lookism?

    Yes. The basic need for people to be attracted to one another is equivalent to shallow, trashy, gold digging. Seriously? :|

    Some would consider paying bills more important than basic attraction. Many people through many centuries in many countries have arranged marriages based solely on "shallow, trashy, PROVIDING."

    Just a thought. That the women you are talking about might not be as shallow as you think, but are rather being practical.

    The notion that women are somehow so incapable of taking care of themselves that they would expect or even need to be "provided for" in the old school sexist sense is pretty offensive in the 21st century. At least in the developed, liberated West. I'll not speak about situations in other places or times.

    You're offended by a woman talking about matters affecting women?. . Well, thank goodness you're here to take care of all these misguided women. . (ironic). .
    In the relationship sense, I'd be looking for a partner, not a dependent. I work to support myself...which is about as basic as it gets. That's all I expect of anyone. As long as they are a functioning adult who can take care of themselves, I really don't care how much or how little they make.

    So. . you're saying that their personal finances matter b/c you don't want someone sponging off of you . .(ironic).
    When it comes to marriage, on the other hand, (which presumably happens much later on)...that is when it's necessary to discuss credit scores, debt, etc. But even then, remember: "For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer....." (I know, right? Wedding vows. Solemn oaths sworn in front of everyone you know, usually including whatever your religious figure is. How quaint!)

    You quote the traditional wedding vows to make your simplistic point. . . even though you clearly think wedding vows and religion in general are stupid.
    I honestly can't think of a situation where a relationship is properly based in money. Well, I can, but those are the sorts of interactions that can land you in jail...

    You take ownership of what is and is not "proper" . . as if your worldview is correct and everyone else is wrong. .

    This whole thing is high-handed, condescending, and naive.

    You're still in college aren't you?

    Maybe professional student. With a LOT of student loans....

  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    "hey wut u doin"

    /Over.
  • Pour_Decisions
    Pour_Decisions Posts: 1,053 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    They consistently posted comments that ran to more than five paragraphs. Say it in two sentences or begone!

  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    81Katz wrote: »
    "hey wut u doin"

    /Over.
    sorry not sorry
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  • Keto_N_Iron
    Keto_N_Iron Posts: 5,385 Member
    well the restraining order made me believe that we may not have been on the same page ...
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  • amwbox
    amwbox Posts: 576 Member
    edited August 2018




    nt
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Re money... I completely lost interest in a guy I was starting to date (although to be honest I really wasn't very interested in him, I was hoping I'd grow more attracted to him in time) when he told me all these amusing stories about how he hadn't been able to pay his utility bills and he'd had various services cut off. Recently.

    Yeah, that level of financial irresponsibility isn't appealing.
  • amwbox
    amwbox Posts: 576 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    Re money... I completely lost interest in a guy I was starting to date (although to be honest I really wasn't very interested in him, I was hoping I'd grow more attracted to him in time) when he told me all these amusing stories about how he hadn't been able to pay his utility bills and he'd had various services cut off. Recently.

    Yeah, that level of financial irresponsibility isn't appealing.

    Agreed.

  • junelove89
    junelove89 Posts: 759 Member
    His bad breath
  • hud54014
    hud54014 Posts: 3,777 Member
    I had to show him how to change a flat tire
  • mustacheU2Lift
    mustacheU2Lift Posts: 5,844 Member
    Lack of reciprocation in conversation, paying for dinners, everything
  • amwbox
    amwbox Posts: 576 Member
    Is this lack of reciprocation actual silence or monosyllabics and grunts?
  • IHaveMyActTogether
    IHaveMyActTogether Posts: 945 Member
    They posted stock photos to amplify their post

    Observant post is observant.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    Exposing? Seems accurate. Have you seen some people's credit scores?! 😉😜
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