Best Marriage Advice

shell_mc

Don't let the sun go down on your anger: Settle any real fight before you go to sleep.

Also, make date-nights a regular occurance. Otherwise, once life gets in the way, the romance is lost.

not going to bed angry is terrible advice... sleeping on it makes everything easier to deal with, if the "fight" even really matters to begin with.... its easy to get caught up in the moment... taking a step back and realizing it won't matter in 5 years or even the morning is way better than staying up all night arguing (no sleep, crabby, bad for work next day...causes then resentment...go to sleep)

AGREE!

I've been married for almost 16 years, and occasionally, the fight sticks and one of us sleeps in the guest room. It's ok. The next morning, in the light of day, when the bliss of sleep has calmed us down, we talk it through.

So, my advice, sometimes it's OK to go to bed angry. My advice would be to never let a fight last more than a day. Find your way through it. Talk to each other. Tell your partner he's being an a****le or she's being a b***h. Be honest.

servilia

Get into fights. Make up sex rocks!

ldrosophila

yup it's ending

BinaryPulsar

Hmm, I'm not sure how to give advice on this. My husband and I listen to each other, we support each other, we are affectionate emotionally and physically. We make each other laugh (even in the middle of an "argument"). When we are alone together, we are naked. Anytime he sees me naked he smiles and touches me. We apologize when needed. We respect each other.

Siansonea

The one piece of advice that has worked amazingly well for me is "don't ever get married". :drinker:

pinkraynedropjacki

Best advice? Live apart for the 1st 10 years lol. Now past out 17th anniversary & never knew time could fly that fast.

Siansonea

Regular, quality blow jobs. They pretty much can't argue with anything after that.

Just so much truth

And this benefits the woman...how?

ssm_1972

Don`t marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without, but whatever you do, you`ll regret it later

NotBonJovi

Don`t marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without, but whatever you do, you`ll regret it later

ekz13

you can be happy or right... pick one..

23yrs..

skcardiog

Separate bank accounts

Lindaspencer

May all your ups and downs be under the sheets

I loved reading this thread this morning lol

mathiseasy

Make a commitment: There are times I am going to screw up and there are times you are going to drive me nuts, but I love you and I am in this for the long haul. Compromise and bring her coffee for no reason.

One important thing I found: 28 years of marriage.... Find her love language. There are 5 and if you find out what her language (How she feels love) is and keep her love tank filled. For a few years, I would buy her gifts and she would just say "That's nice" and I found out she feels love by me, getting her car washed, emptying the dishwasher, taking her car for maintenance (Service) make sure every day she gets coffee.

Time spent
Service
Touch
Words of affirmation
Gifts
Find out your mates language and you got have got it made. Dr. Gary Chapman... 5 Love Languages.

This. We read this before we got married and I think it had a lot to do with the way we treat each other now. Form good habits early in the marriage like learning to fight fair, be considerate, learn the other person's love language, don't go to bed angry - for us, this doesn't mean solving the problem before bedtime, it means cool off and get yourself in a calm state of mind.
Edit for clarification: sometimes my husband works late hours so if we get into a fight at night we are both too tired and cranky to come to any cohesive conclusion.

thebigcb

1) Lambay Rules

2) Don;t get caught

jellybeanhed313

Some great advice here. I am divorced and hoping to marry my current boyfriend in the next few years. I say trust and intimacy are most important. I like the post about love languages. So true!

bombshellinprogress

Drink lots of pineapple juice.

Does that really work?

Myhaloslipped

Happy Wife = Happy Life

obrientp

Laugh together
Have fun together both in and out of bed
Be each others best friend

thebigcb

Drink lots of pineapple juice.

Does that really work?

Whats this?

bethanytowell

Listen, Dont Speak.

highervibes

Drink lots of pineapple juice.

Does that really work?

NO, it absolutely does not.

Slrajr

Kiss her.........every single day.........and learn how to forgive

Yes! Kiss her.....every single day. Good one!

highervibes

Regular, quality blow jobs. They pretty much can't argue with anything after that.

Just so much truth

And this benefits the woman...how?

Well I don't know about you, but I ususally get some action in return but I don't mind giving no strings attached (that they can see anyways lol) *kitten*. Try giving your guy road head the next time you've had too much wine at dinner then you'll have your answer dear :flowerforyou:

Swissmiss

If both partys would put each other first, then there would be a wonderful marriage. I always tell couples to do The Love Dare.

judyde

separate bathrooms...

^^ THIS!!!!

Cre8veLifeR

Well, according to the leading marriage expert, your positive to negative interaction ratio needs to be 5:1 -- which totally makes sense. And my favorite definition of love EVER is from Brene Brown:

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”

thebigcb

Regular, quality blow jobs. They pretty much can't argue with anything after that.

Just so much truth

And this benefits the woman...how?

Well I don't know about you, but I ususally get some action in return but I don't mind giving no strings attached (that they can see anyways lol) *kitten*. Try giving your guy road head the next time you've had too much wine at dinner then you'll have your answer dear :flowerforyou:

Marry me?

sewerchick93

My dear sweet grandmother of 90 years says there are 3 C's to a long, happy marriage

Communication: always keep it open and honest
Compromise: you can't have everything your way
Cuddling: a simple act of PDA that is frequent during dating but the one most people forget about after marriage when their lives start to get busy.

highervibes

My dear sweet grandmother of 90 years says there are 3 C's to a long, happy marriage

Communication: always keep it open and honest
Compromise: you can't have everything your way
Cuddling: a simple act of PDA that is frequent during dating but the one most people forget about after marriage when their lives start to get busy.

I thought it was carat, cut and clarity. This explains a lot lol

highervibes

Regular, quality blow jobs. They pretty much can't argue with anything after that.

Just so much truth

And this benefits the woman...how?

Well I don't know about you, but I ususally get some action in return but I don't mind giving no strings attached (that they can see anyways lol) *kitten*. Try giving your guy road head the next time you've had too much wine at dinner then you'll have your answer dear :flowerforyou:

Marry me?

LOL