Red Flags
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »What did you learn about yourself or others when you were the "bad guy"?
@bojack5 great idea or point...we love pointing out others faults...what is our own.
Post your red flags...if you were to warn others of your issues or quirks...run if you see....
If I was to warn a prospective man about me, I would tell him:
* I'm a "controlled" sex addict. If I am getting it, I need it A LOT. When I am not, leave me alone, unless he can handle my craving volume.
* I am not prone to set boundaries, however, if he does, watch his borders, because I will be annal about keeping the red lines.
* I am open to negotiation . Talk to me when it concerns our bed/my sex. He would much prefer to do that vs the alternative. I loathe a radarless relationship.
* I like vanilla, sometimes , not ALL the TIME.1 -
If you come visit me don't be offended if I Lysol the chair you were sitting in while you're getting ready to leave and have my mop and bucket filled with a mild bleach solution ready because I have to clean all the floors you've walked on2
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If you see me checking the oven/stove/kettle etc even if I didn't use them...cut me some slack..."safety first"3
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Pulling out a bong when she’s driving to work.... yeah, I’m gonna say that’s a little reddish for me.0
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Red flag...I randomly text have a good life because you jumped in the shower instead of responding to my texts.
I'm prone to misplacing or ignoring my phone for hours so I don't respond to texts or voicemails. Guess that's a red flag for some people.
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Versicolour wrote: »I hate doing housework and will do anything I can to avoid it
I have dozens of unfinished projects and dozens more in the planning stages
Once a month I get really needy and insecure
I think we are long lost twins. Your father wasn't named "Paul" was he?1 -
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chipped fingernail polish2
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chipped fingernail polish
YES!!
GIANT red flag!
That's why every girl who wears nail polish should have some nail polish remover in her giant bag of "be prepared" and can sneak off into the x-ray room (or where ever you can do shameful things in private at work or in public) and take care of that abomination3 -
Red flag...
His mom comes over to clean his apartment and do his laundry, and buys his requested groceries
...nope, I'm out0 -
debrakgoogins wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »I hate doing housework and will do anything I can to avoid it
I have dozens of unfinished projects and dozens more in the planning stages
Once a month I get really needy and insecure
I think we are long lost twins. Your father wasn't named "Paul" was he?
😂 We're soul twins!0 -
Red flag...
If he borrows your car and returns it with almost no gas, a half empty sugary coffee cup with overspill all in the cup holder, crumbs from who knows what all over the drivers seat, and dirty napkins thrown on the passages seat...
...I took the napkins, swept up the crumbs, took the coffee cup, the fast food bag and placed them on the driver's seat of his truck, clearly he wanted to keep them
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If he checks his phone every few minutes while on a date.
If he only talks about himself and not really interested in anything you have to say.
ETA:
A red flag of mine - I like to drink (especially wine). Any day of the week or time of day is perfectly acceptable to me (except at work or if I'm driving of course).
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Red Flag: Too much too soon5
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If he takes you to a nice restaurant but then questions the server as to why 18% gratuity is automatically added to the bill.
Red Flag that he's probably too broke to be there or just plain cheap.0 -
I once got a strike on here for calling Canadians communists.3 -
Red flag: if he starts using pet names way too early on. Bruh, I ain't "your love", we haven't even had a date yet. Slow your muthatruckin role.4
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »Red flag: if he starts using pet names way too early on. Bruh, I ain't "your love", we haven't even had a date yet. Slow your muthatruckin role.
Babykins, why you gotta be all harsh on my pet names, my Schmoopiness?1 -
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Its a huge red flag for me if a guy doesn’t treat his mom with respect. Obviously there can be extenuating circumstances here, but it generally holds true.
Also a guy who never has plans without me. Go do stuff, fool. I need a night in to take a two hour bath. 😏
One of my red flags? I don’t really know. Sometimes I’m just not in the mood to talk. Maybe I’d rather watch stupid YouTube conspiracies or play sudoku. If you find that unnerving and question me about why I’m ‘ignoring’ you or ‘don’t care’ about you, it’ll go down a rabbit hole I won’t have the energy to follow you down. You’re not my everything. I better not be yours 😬2 -
caco_ethes wrote: »Its a huge red flag for me if a guy doesn’t treat his mom with respect. Obviously there can be extenuating circumstances here, but it generally holds true.
Also a guy who never has plans without me. Go do stuff, fool. I need a night in to take a two hour bath. 😏
One of my red flags? I don’t really know. Sometimes I’m just not in the mood to talk. Maybe I’d rather watch stupid YouTube conspiracies or play sudoku. If you find that unnerving and question me about why I’m ‘ignoring’ you or ‘don’t care’ about you, it’ll go down a rabbit hole I won’t have the energy to follow you down. You’re not my everything. I better not be yours 😬
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I get very withdrawn at times (for weeks and sometime months)0
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-unsure about making decisions on my own
-care WAY to much
-people pleaser
red flags
-when he asks you to move with him in the first month
-when he lies about the meds hes taking and they turn out to be molly and when confronted he starts hitting his head against the wall (should have ran as far as i could from this one)
-when his mom is still calling his teachers to fix problems (he was in college)
-when ever time there is an issue he doesnt want to deal with and he responds with ill tell my mom she will deal with it
-when almost everytime you have an argument he offers killing himself as a solution
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I am very intense. Thats not for everyone.1
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Red flags you should catch about me
-I've been told I like to brood a lot and that I always seem down based on my (lack of) expression. Really I'm just the stoic type and I promise a nothing face is a happy face.
-I have a tendency to follow through with bad choices and decisions to the end, just to learn what not to do again.
-I like dogs more than people. A lot of people say this, but if a person and a dog were drowning in a river, I'd probably save the dog. You shoulda learned to swim.
-I have no control when M&M's are in the equation. Game over.
-I have control issues. Not so much as in what you do, but as in I'm driving, I'm pushing the cart, I'm doing the heavy lifting etc...
-I love babies. I had 4. I still have them, and they are full blown children now. I still love them, but I miss babies. (not going to make anymore though, I promise)
-I don't let things go because of the way you were raised. You should be at least 30 to talk to me, by now you've had plenty of time to figure the world out.
Red Flags I'll catch about you
-You want to date me seriously even though I live on my sisters sofa. I need to be held accountable too, and you have no standards.
-You use astrology as your faith. What is the point if the story has already been written?
-You have children from a previous relationship, but are not involved.
-You can not turn your phone off and put it away for the weekend every once in a while. All those status updates and emails will still be there on Monday.
-You're so independent that you won't allow me to open a door or pull up a chair for you. It isn't degrading to your abilities, it's just a nice thing to do and I do it for my guy pals too.14 -
If all your ex wives and ex common laws were heiresses and corporate executives with MBAs
*and*
all your former consorts on the down low were waitresses, hat check girls and casino employees - that's a red flag flyin' high on the pole.3 -
Once you realize my socio economic status is incongruent with the potential you imagine I have, you might want to red flag me or at least get an iron clad prenup.3
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