My Boyfriend thinks I'm Fat

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  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
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    Once upon a time I was 5'5" and 125 pounds. I wore a size 2-4. I was with a guy who said things that made me feel I was unattractive and made me feel all kinds of awful things about myself. And guess what? He was wrong. Don't believe it just because your boyfriend says it; in fact, someone would would tell you that in those terms is most likely wrong about a lot of things.

    If you want to get into your ideal shape, dump him and do it for you.

    All of this.

    My ex-boyfriend used to get on me about watching my weight if was more than 115 pounds at 5'5. Notice he's an EX-boyfriend. The only weight I had to lose was about 140 pounds of crappy boyfriend.
  • harlanJEN
    harlanJEN Posts: 1,089 Member
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    My boyfriend thinks I am out of shape and chubby. I am 5'6" and weigh 140 pounds. At 145, he thinks I'm fat, and he can deal with it when I'm 135. Oh the things we do for love...

    Is this ok? I'm not sure whether to be upset about or agree with him. Its true i'm not at my most idea weight, but I eat healthy, do yoga all the time, and do the best I can with exercise for having a job that requires me to be sitting 9 hours a day.

    I used to be good with how I looked, but he really likes skinny girls and makes me feel like "I look good" is not as adequate as "I look like a sport's illustrated model."
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    NO.

    Not OK. NEVER EVER settle for someone like this. If he is making you feel like this now, as time goes on - won't be any better. TRUTH. KICK him to the curb. Move on. Life is too short to spend any time or energy on *kitten*.
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
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    Don't feed the trolls
  • feelingreat90
    feelingreat90 Posts: 5
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    He is really skinny...lucky duck inherited his mother's ridiculous metabolism plus is on his feet about 10 hours a day for his job. When we started dating 2 1/2 years ago we weighed the same at 145 and he is 6'2".
  • Event_Horizon975
    Event_Horizon975 Posts: 226 Member
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    I have probably 1000 things to say about this but most noteworthy:

    1. Lose a huge amount of dead weight by dumping him
    2. Work on your self respect and priorities so you realize that 1xxlbs ain't nuttin & you're more than just a number
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,143 Member
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    ....... he really likes skinny girls and makes me feel like "I look good" is not as adequate as "I look like a sport's illustrated model."

    Even Sports Illustrated swimsuit models don't really look like that. But if that's what he wants, tell him to buy a subscription and dream on.

    Personally, I would LOVE to be 140 pounds. However, if YOU feel the need to lose more weight, do it for YOU.... not that guy you are dating that is living in a fantasy world. JMO. :)
  • kesciamuhammad
    kesciamuhammad Posts: 27 Member
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    I think my husband is old. I mean, he's 45.

    lol... 45 is old? wow.

    I'm 41. I married him when he was a hot 31 year old.

    LOL....hate to tell ya, then you're old too.

    Are you kidding? I'm four years YOUNGER than him.

    Also, my kids are three and one, so they're not old enough yet to tell me how out-of-it I am. I have at least three more years of grace.

    So you honestly think that because you are a measly 4 years younger then him, that he is old yet you are not?
    My husband is 46. I am 39. My husband is far from old. If you feel your husband is old at 45, I hate to say it, you need to add yourself to that bracket as well.
  • wool_gathering
    wool_gathering Posts: 8 Member
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    Yeah...not cool. It's possible for a boyfriend to positively motivate you to be healthier and more fit without being disrespectful! In any case, it sounds like you're a perfectly reasonable weight!
  • katekross
    katekross Posts: 463 Member
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    I didn't even read the OP and think you should dump the son of a *****. Any guy who mentions your weight is worthless. Get that **** off your shoes and MOVE ON.
  • kesciamuhammad
    kesciamuhammad Posts: 27 Member
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    I think my husband is old. I mean, he's 45.

    lol... 45 is old? wow.

    I'm 41. I married him when he was a hot 31 year old.

    LOL....hate to tell ya, then you're old too.

    Are you kidding? I'm four years YOUNGER than him.

    Also, my kids are three and one, so they're not old enough yet to tell me how out-of-it I am. I have at least three more years of grace.

    So you honestly think that because you are a measly 4 years younger then him, that he is old yet you are not?
    My husband is 46. I am 39. My husband is far from old. If you feel your husband is old at 45, I hate to say it, you need to add yourself to that bracket as well.

    I'm pretty sure she's joking. It's called sarcasm.
  • CookNLift
    CookNLift Posts: 3,660 Member
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    honestly? he's a piece of garbage.
  • dym123
    dym123 Posts: 1,670 Member
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    DTMFA
  • CountryGirl8542
    CountryGirl8542 Posts: 449 Member
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    Unhealthy relationships lead to weight gain! Dump his *kitten*... you deserve way more!
  • LBNOakland
    LBNOakland Posts: 379 Member
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    Bump for the troll answers!

    What is a troll?

    Are trolls real people?

    Why would anyone want to troll a thread?

    What is hijacking a thread?

    Inquiring minds want to know!!
  • ebgbjo
    ebgbjo Posts: 821 Member
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    Best way to lose over 100+lbs fast is to dump the jerk. What is it with the guys lately being posted on this forum who have no respect for the women they are with???
  • Ghomerzgirl
    Ghomerzgirl Posts: 67 Member
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    Get rid of him! If he doesn't like what you look like then why is he with you? Love means loving the person whether they are super skinny or 600 pounds. My current boyfriend and I dated in high school, we were each other's first gf/bf but we broke up because his parents had a problem with our age. I was a freshman and he was a senior. The girls he dated after me where larger than I am, and he found that he does like women who are in his words more curvey. I am 30 pounds underweight. Yes he tells me that I am too skinny and need to gain weight, but not because he wants me bigger for looks, but for health reasons. I have many medical conditions that attribute to me being underweight and he knows that if i could gain the weight I would feel better about myself. That's what you need, someone who is supportive of you, not putting you down for ANY reason! From the sound of it, you are quite healthy, you eat healthy, you exercise, and that's not easy to do with a job like that, i've been there. I may not know you but am proud of you for making time in your busy life to eat healthy and exercise!

    Jenn
  • nxd10
    nxd10 Posts: 4,570 Member
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    You are a little overweight. But that's a different issue than your boyfriend.

    My sister dated a guy in college who wouldn't date her until she lost weight (she started out about where you are - I never though of her as fat). She did - and looked fantastic. She also wound up with bulimia (not the fault of her sensible weight loss program, but true nonetheless.) He controller her eating. She worried if she gained weight she'd lose him. He could be obnoxious. My mom saw him walk across the room and take food out of her hand.

    We all worried that anyone who would only love you if you were thin was not a person you would want to be with for better or worse. This seemed shallow to all of us.

    They got married. It's been 30 years. She did gain weight eventually. He's good with that. I still don't like the controlling thing. I wouldn't have married him, but I didn't have to. She did.

    How do you like to be treated?
  • jkoenig1980
    jkoenig1980 Posts: 31 Member
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    Conversation probably went like this.

    Girl: Do you think im over weight?
    BF: You got a few pounds to lose.
    Girl: You think im fat. I will go tell the world how big of a jerk you are.

    If he thought you were disgusting and fat he would leave you for a smaller girl.
  • Melissa_mojo
    Melissa_mojo Posts: 156 Member
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    He's a POS dump him plenty of others out there your nuts if you stay with him!
  • deborahr59
    deborahr59 Posts: 11
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    do you really want to stay with someone who thinks your fat at that weight! he must think im obese at 175!! no time for idiots like that you deserve better x:angry:

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