My Boyfriend thinks I'm Fat

sweebum

I'm thinking you need a new boyfriend, seriously.

serenere

dump him! seriously. And not because of the weight, but because of the comment. I would never be with someone that makes me feel bad about myself, doesn't matter if you are out of shape or not. If he thought you were he could have been helpful and suggest you two do some sort of sport together, not just making bad comments.

gr8xpectationz

Here's the thing... Is this really a man who will stick with you through the ups and downs of life? What about when he finds you unattractive because you're pregnant? What about when he finds you unattractive because your hair falls out when you're going through chemo. What about when he finds you unattractive because your skin wrinkles as you age.

Seriously, do NOT be this guy's trophy, because if your relationship is conditioned on his whimsical opinion of your attractiveness, then he has a ready-made excuse not to stick with you through life's unattractive times.

brittanynicole_86

Oh my god what an *kitten*! Seriously...ditch him. When I met my boyfriend I was 5'7.5" and 145, now I'm 100 pounds more than that and never has a word like that crossed his lips! People like that cause beautiful healthy people like you to have eating disorders. You deserve better!

grentea

So basically, what he is saying is, " You would be perfect, if only you conform to what I think is "good enough". I love you so much, I want you to leave your self esteem at the door." Maybe you are better off without that in your life.

MissBenes

I think it's ok if he's honest. But you know, it's ok only if "you're chubby" is followed by "I like you that way too."

MercuryBlue

I've been with my husband for a decade now, and he's seen me at my heaviest and my lightest. The lowest I ever got was when I was about 115- and I looked too thin, in my opinion. The highest I ever got was just before I gave birth, and I was 199- I remember that clear as day, because it was so close to that 200 mark.

Never, not in ten years, has my husband ever commented on my weight. At all sizes, he's complimented me and told me he found me sexy. The closest thing to "criticism" I've ever received about my figure was when he knew I was struggling with weight loss and he said, "I don't care what you weigh. I care that you're not happy right now, you don't feel good about yourself, that you're feeling depressed. If losing weight is going to make you feel happier, then I agree it's what you should do, because that's all that matters." And with those words of support, I went on to lose about fifty pounds or so. I've since gained a bit again because of health issues, still got a bit of roundness to me. I'm 5'6.5", 155 pounds, and JUST on the verge of being overweight for my height (though not there yet). 140, at your height, is really not fat. It's not too bad at all!

Honestly, if your boyfriend were concerned about your health or thought you were at risk, that's one thing. But to remark on your weight at this point, that's just douchey and gross.

bushidowoman

He sounds like my first husband. I put up with that $%!# for five years, and looking back, that was five years too many. Don't waste your time trying to change him; he's unlikely to change. The only person you can change is yourself and how you deal with his attitude.

ciaokk

seriously? He's not very respectful of you, he only looks at you for your body, not your mind. Not someone who is worth staying around for....

kasimarie29

My boyfriend thinks I am out of shape and chubby. I am 5'6" and weigh 140 pounds. At 145, he thinks I'm fat, and he can deal with it when I'm 135. Oh the things we do for love...

Is this ok? I'm not sure whether to be upset about or agree with him. Its true i'm not at my most idea weight, but I eat healthy, do yoga all the time, and do the best I can with exercise for having a job that requires me to be sitting 9 hours a day.

I used to be good with how I looked, but he really likes skinny girls and makes me feel like "I look good" is not as adequate as "I look like a sport's illustrated model."

I'm five foot two and i would KILL to weight 140! I'm sure you look fine the way you are. Don't let men change you. I learned that the hard way.

candifeola

Time to get a new boyfriend girlie.

Tigermum9

get shut

Trechechus

This sounds like my abusive ex. He is an EX for a reason. Don't let anybody make you feel small, especially the one person who is supposed to make you feel amazing.

Kick his *kitten*, or send him to me and I'll kick it for you.

PilotX

troll post

indeed

Turtlesallthewaydown

And what is he willing to do in return? Relationships are about give and take and I'm sure he isn't a physical ideal of perfection. So if you have to meet his ideal for the female form what is he willing to do to keep things equal?

OperationXmas

He's got to go.

MsJulielicious

KathyPerry70

Sounds like it's time for you to find someone who likes you the way you are now, not 5 or 10lbs from now. If he wants a S.I. model, let him try to find one. I feel really irritated by this because I'm 5'6.5" and 145lbs is my target weight! The question shouldn't be should you lose weight because he things so. How do YOU feel about you? You need someone who'll encourage you to be the person you want to be, not what they want you to be. Argh!

Beastette

Your boyfriend thinks you're fat? Well, I ain't down with that.

action_figure

He is an *kitten*. Lose him.