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Things people say when you lose weight

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  • Bluetail6Bluetail6 Member, Premium Posts: 2,058 Member Member, Premium Posts: 2,058 Member
    AKTipsyCat wrote: »
    I had someone ask me if I still planned on losing more weight when I was really nowhere near my goal and with a clearly disapproving look ... but I couldn't tell if it was because she expected me to be farther along; or because she thought I'd lost too much. Or because she thought I was sleeping with her son. I didn't really ask.

    I finally stopped laughing!! Thank you, as honestly it has been a long and crazy week. I seriously found this post hilarious!!🤣🤣
  • salleewinssalleewins Member Posts: 1,672 Member Member Posts: 1,672 Member
    nitalieben wrote: »
    "Oh, you should stop, you're starting to look sickly"

    "Which diet are you following?"

    "Can you eat that?"

    "I can tell you work out"

    "You look like a whole new person" (This one actually hit me right in the feels, it was an old school mate, who hadn't seen me in years, and knew that I was overweight/obese nearly all my life. He said he barely recognised me)

    "Women shouldn't have too much muscle"

    "Are you developing an eating disorder?"

    "All that water can't be healthy"

    "You're getting so skinny, you should maintain that"

    "You can't have anything more to lose"

    "Want candy?"

    "How do you do it?"

    just wow.....
  • salleewinssalleewins Member Posts: 1,672 Member Member Posts: 1,672 Member
    spyro88 wrote: »
    I don't like it when people ask me how much I've lost (which seems to be really common!?)

    Like if I put a number on it it will somehow validate the achievement?

    Why do they need to know?

    When I'm cagey about it they will push it and go "oh go on, you MUST know... is it around *insert number here*?"

    It's pretty personal in my opinion and I don't get why it matters? If they think I'm looking good then they can just say that and move on?

    (Yup - it's a real bug bear of mine!) :D

    just amazing, how nosy some people are.
  • salleewinssalleewins Member Posts: 1,672 Member Member Posts: 1,672 Member
    One thing I've gotten WAY more often than expected is: "Can... Can I see your stomach?"
    After losing 110lbs, and getting pretty lean overall they always expect a lot of loose skin. Fortunately I don't have that much.

    That is terrible. Hope I don't get asked that, too. I have been told (like I wanted that person's opinion) that they knew where I lost my weight from as they could see it. Yep you guessed it. My stomach.
  • salleewinssalleewins Member Posts: 1,672 Member Member Posts: 1,672 Member
    Just this week, a friend said, " you are tiny. " That was okay until she was saying something that I knew I didn't want to hear., right after One of those usual comments, it started as. I immediately somehow blocked myself from hearing her words. Maybe I mumbled something about the surroundings outside at the same time. Then I started talking about how the last time I was at the Doc's what she said about me losing a little bit more. Saying what a good and kind Dr. says helps me.

    A bad Dr. once said that if I lost weight, that it would help my back injury. That was about 50 lbs ago. I asked for advice and he walked away, pretty much rolled his eyes and abruptly said, "how about the mediterranean diet....!" That one really stung.

    I am here to say it has not been calories in, and calories out. It is not that easy for others, too. If is has been for you, I am glad it worked.
    edited April 24
  • mtruitt01mtruitt01 Member Posts: 367 Member Member Posts: 367 Member
    Have you lost weight? "Noooo, I don't think so" and then I tell them they look great, love their hair, etc. Some won't let it go. Yes, I prefer to puzzle them. I downright lie cause it aint none of their business. I've lost 15 so far and intend to keep on going. I'll continue to lie cause they aren't on the path. If they are I'll share my journey. IT'S NONE OF THEIR NOSEY BUSINESS!!!
  • salleewinssalleewins Member Posts: 1,672 Member Member Posts: 1,672 Member
    Honestly, this is what I am least looking forward to as things open up. Especially visiting the in laws this summer, they are constantly commenting on everybody's body, but it seems I am the only obese person they have ever seen in their lives? FIL in particular finds it personally offensive.

    Maybe something can change so you don't have to visit. I can just feel what you are feeling as I have been there. That is terrible!!

  • concordanciaconcordancia Member Posts: 5,317 Member Member Posts: 5,317 Member
    salleewins wrote: »
    Honestly, this is what I am least looking forward to as things open up. Especially visiting the in laws this summer, they are constantly commenting on everybody's body, but it seems I am the only obese person they have ever seen in their lives? FIL in particular finds it personally offensive.

    Maybe something can change so you don't have to visit. I can just feel what you are feeling as I have been there. That is terrible!!

    The nieces and nephews and seeing MIL's face when her son comes in the door all make up for it. Even if her son is too scrawny (at least it isn't just me!)
  • MaggieGirl135MaggieGirl135 Member Posts: 345 Member Member Posts: 345 Member
    Oh goodness. I'm so sorry about this and can relate a bit. Eating in front of my mother-in-law is terrifying. She's actually a really wonderful woman, but she has her own issues about food, which have been exacerbated by health problems with my father-in-law, and I feel like she's always watching me when I eat. I think when you're overweight or obese it's easy to feel like people are watching you when they really aren't, but the reality is some people *do* - and she's one of them. If I eat too what she thinks is too little, she comments. If I eat what she thinks is too much, she comments. If I don't eat things in whatever proportion she thinks is correct, she comments. I have no idea what she thinks is actually appropriate. It probably doesn't actually matter - I think she just wants to say something to me about what I'm eating and why it's wrong. It probably won't stop just because I get to a normal weight. She'll probably want to warn me about not going back - all for my own benefit, of course.[/quote]

    This is difficult and yet, you have the right to enforce healthy boundaries. ‘Thank you for your concern and I would appreciate you no longer commenting on what I eat’. Then stop talking and hear her comment or have both of you sit in the silence. You do not need to respond to anything she says. It would be hard to say and yet, has the potential to improve the relationship.
  • concordanciaconcordancia Member Posts: 5,317 Member Member Posts: 5,317 Member
    mtruitt01 wrote: »
    Have you lost weight? "Noooo, I don't think so" and then I tell them they look great, love their hair, etc. Some won't let it go. Yes, I prefer to puzzle them. I downright lie cause it aint none of their business. I've lost 15 so far and intend to keep on going. I'll continue to lie cause they aren't on the path. If they are I'll share my journey. IT'S NONE OF THEIR NOSEY BUSINESS!!!

    While I like your style, I am just annoyed by the people who think "Have you lost weight" is in itself a compliment, whether they actually think you have lost weight or not. My MIL once went into great detail about why it seemed like I had lost weight, when in fact I was the fattest she had ever seen me. There was once a guy I think my friends were trying to set me up with - lots of invitations with just the four of us between a couple, him and I -, but one of many turn offs was that he would say this every time we saw each other. Uh, no, I haven't but clearly you think I should...

  • HatsheputHatsheput Member Posts: 18 Member Member Posts: 18 Member
    I haven't seen any of my friends or family since December because of where I live so if I send them photos and they usually say 'wow you lost weight' or 'did you lose weight?' I like to reply with nonsense. One time I told my friend I just looked smaller because my cat (that I was holding in the photo) had gotten bigger. Usually I just say 'it's just this shirt.' I just don't like having discussions about it.
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