Arguments in the Supermarket

Food preferences
Budgeting
Special diets
Binge foods
Impulse buying
Child tantrums
"Fussy eaters"
How to please everyone at dinner
Decisions, decisions, decisions!

Thought we might need a venting thread!

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Orphia

I do love shopping on my own.

porkchopsandapple

Shopping is my jam. I love it. I love planning out my meals and snacks and then basing my list on those plans. I love organizing my list by store layout and sometimes I even record price trends on items I buy often.
I dont have kids yet, but since I do the shopping my husband has no choice but to eat what I buy or go out and get it himself.

ruqayyahsmum

I order online
Can't face meltdowns from my son with ASD

went into a cafe with my daughter (also SN) she headbutted the counter

If I go in a shop I try and go fast (usually with my son laid on the floor) I end up buying junk food and forgetting what I went in there for

I should stick to online

ruqayyahsmum

porkchopsandapple wrote: »

Shopping is my jam. I love it. I love planning out my meals and snacks and then basing my list on those plans. I love organizing my list by store layout and sometimes I even record price trends on items I buy often.
I dont have kids yet, but since I do the shopping my husband has no choice but to eat what I buy or go out and get it himself.

I sent my husband once with a list...... He came home with fruit juice, cake and sweets.
I never asked again

rickiimarieee

I have a 2 year old and a newborn, I haven’t been grocery shopping since my newborn came lmao. I have no idea how I’m gonna do it.

Keto_Vampire

More so just enjoy looking at "revolutionary" new items with fancy marketing words ("keto friendly, paleo, Gluten Free, etc.") for some laughs...ex) Peanut butter specifically marketed for diabetics...of course it's in the diabetic section, not with the regular PBs...because it's "special"

sam33a

I only shop for myself, thank god.

rickiimarieee

ruqayyahsmum wrote: »

porkchopsandapple wrote: »

Shopping is my jam. I love it. I love planning out my meals and snacks and then basing my list on those plans. I love organizing my list by store layout and sometimes I even record price trends on items I buy often.
I dont have kids yet, but since I do the shopping my husband has no choice but to eat what I buy or go out and get it himself.

I sent my husband once with a list...... He came home with fruit juice, cake and sweets.
I never asked again

I sent my husband to get a few things (maybe like 20 things such as noodles, or canned vegetables) and I gave him the name, description of what the packaging looks like, screenshots of pictures of it, and the isle it was in and it took him like 3 hours. Lmao and came home with much more than I wanted (such as powder protein that he never used) and bags and bags of chips and sweets. Lmao

Psychgrrl

ruqayyahsmum wrote: »

porkchopsandapple wrote: »

Shopping is my jam. I love it. I love planning out my meals and snacks and then basing my list on those plans. I love organizing my list by store layout and sometimes I even record price trends on items I buy often.
I dont have kids yet, but since I do the shopping my husband has no choice but to eat what I buy or go out and get it himself.

I sent my husband once with a list...... He came home with fruit juice, cake and sweets.
I never asked again

With my ex, that was his strategy to get out of doing chores. Screw it up and he figured I wouldn’t ask again. Yeah ... that passive-aggressive crap didn’t work for him.

MrsBradyBunch

Like the old song says, you *can't* please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

We're all on different schedules and different diets here. So we all pretty much shop and cook for ourselves. That works in a household that's all adults, but it's going to be a problem if you have children living there.

quiksylver296

I order online and pickup at the store.

It saves a LOT of impulse purchases. I can also add to my order throughout the week, as I realize I need things.

MikePTY

I dont think my wife and I have ever had a "supermarket" or food related argument.

Despite the stereotypes, I do a significant amount of both the shopping and the cooking for us. Certainly more than 50% of both. I buy stuff for me, stuff for both of us, and stuff for her. I never need a "list", maybe just a special item here or there that she wants, but I know all our staples.

Hamsibian

I'm a cashier, and while I don't usually hear arguments between couples/families, I do hear complaints. The most common one is when someone buys all to-go and prepackaged stuff, then whines about how eating healthy is expensive.

Cahgetsfit

I love shopping on my own. I sometimes take my daughter (she's almost 8 now, so not as painful) but it means she will want to buy 'stuff' - not so much food related, usually just plastic crap. She's now also a bit too big to fit in the trolley along with the groceries, so I can only take her if i'm doing a small shop.

The Husband sometimes goes shopping on his own. He will not look in the fridge/cupboards before he goes though. He just decides to go. And comes back with bags full of stuff that we already have in the fridge. So then the stuff goes bad. Like milk, greens, potatoes... just stuff in general. Bags and bags of those pre-packed salads that if you don't eat on the day you buy them they go all yucky? yeah - we have like 4 bags in the fridge right now.

It drives me insane because it's a waste of money/produce/energy/etc etc. But if I crack it at him he gets his knickers in a twist and will be a child for the next 2 weeks so I breathe in and out and ignore the fact that there are 2 bottles of milk in the fridge for 1 person (the child) to drink. And a whole bunch of other crap.

rickiimarieee

quiksylver296 wrote: »

I order online and pickup at the store.

It saves a LOT of impulse purchases. I can also add to my order throughout the week, as I realize I need things.

See they have this at my store but I’ll iffy about it because I feel like they’d forget something. What happens if they forget to put something in there and you go home and unpack and realize. How does that work?

Kupla71

I love grocery shopping probably because I only have to shop for myself. I know what I want to eat and plan accordingly. These stories I’m reading sound like a total pain in the butt!!

NorthCascades

Lines. What the hell? I was supposed to be home an hour ago!!

Clarisse_McClellan

quiksylver296 wrote: »

I order online and pickup at the store.

It saves a LOT of impulse purchases. I can also add to my order throughout the week, as I realize I need things.

I do this, too. Last week, I referred my husband to the pick-up service I use, had him place the order on a new account. He got $10 off his order, I got $10 off my next order. Free protein bars!

seltzermint555

My husband and I are both really organized, frugal, can stick to our list, like to do the grocery shopping, etc. Which is great...BUT we still butt heads sometimes in the grocery store. Partly because we married in our thirties and both had "our way" of doing things very set in stone. Seven years on, it still happens but not quite as often. We walk to and from the supermarket usually and that helps us both chill out a little from our OCD shopping tendencies.

Bagging the groceries however...that's my specialty, haha. I worked in a supermarket during college so I love that we go to bag-your-own places now and I can take over.

seltzermint555

ruqayyahsmum wrote: »

porkchopsandapple wrote: »

Shopping is my jam. I love it. I love planning out my meals and snacks and then basing my list on those plans. I love organizing my list by store layout and sometimes I even record price trends on items I buy often.
I dont have kids yet, but since I do the shopping my husband has no choice but to eat what I buy or go out and get it himself.

I sent my husband once with a list...... He came home with fruit juice, cake and sweets.
I never asked again

^ That was my ex. I didn't actually send him with a list - but when he went to get beer and hot dog buns for a cookout, he also came home with 3 types of chips, a whole birthday cake (not kidding), and much more. It wasn't anyone's birthday btw.

I don't hate my ex but he definitely fit that stereotype well. My current husband is completely the opposite and I am the one who occasionally throws in weird junk like Peeps.

Motorsheen

waaaat?

I have no idea why those chips are here now on our kitchen counter..... they must have fallen into my shopping cart when I wasn't looking .

mph323

Arguments in the grocery store always take place in my head.
"Look! Your favorite ice cream's on sale!"
"We're not shopping for ice cream today.'
"You could put it in the freezer for another day!"
"Yeah, like that would happen. No."
"But...hey, is that a 2 for 1 on chips?"

nvmomketo

rickiimarieee wrote: »

I have a 2 year old and a newborn, I haven’t been grocery shopping since my newborn came lmao. I have no idea how I’m gonna do it.

I remember switching to a store that had bigger carts so I could strap the baby carrier to the cart, and fit two toddlers into the seats.... with more straps. Lol still, timing was everything!

collectingblues

I've started working for Instacart, and realized that I *loved* grocery shopping when I didn't have to worry about finding gluten-free foods, or worrying about food provenance, or finding organic, or the price difference between grass-fed versus conventional beef.

AnnPT77

"People are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them." - Epictetus (

).

I'm single, and retired. Shopping is easy, plus I get to do it off-peak. I like to use a handbasket, not a cart: Higher NEAT.

About the only thing that bugs me is people who park their cart and their body barrier-fashion, so that you can't possibly navigate around them in an aisle. ("Excuse me" <patient smile>.) Well, and people who treat their children
or the staff rudely.

When I had a husband (I'm widowed), I liked grocery shopping with him. "I'll go over a couple of aisles and get milk and cheese, while you grab the canned beans, tomatoes, and salsa." Teamwork: Very efficient. He shopped just fine solo, too, since he was neither resistant to needful chores, nor an idiot. (This is not a hard job, grocery shopping.) Kinda LOL-ed one time when we were camping, when he went to a convenience store looking like Joe Northwoods in camo neoprene chest waders and wide-brimmed cowboy hat, to buy a few things, including tampons for me. His friend tried to give him s**t about it; didn't work.

Daisy_Girl2019

Man.... all this venting makes me feel like I'm married to an angel. I should stop whinning about my other half. Now I feel guilty.

Machka9

I order online and have it delivered. Since my husband had a workplace accident that resulted in a severe brain injury I do what I can to keep as much as possible as simple as possible.

We eat similar things but have our own preferences too ... so I order with both of us in mind.

scarlett_k

I plan meals for the next week or so and order online. No arguments.

jo_nz

Online shopping is my friend.

Helps me stick to my budget and I go through at the end before I finalise, and take out all those extras that I have put in the "trolley".

Lounmoun

rickiimarieee wrote: »

quiksylver296 wrote: »

I order online and pickup at the store.

It saves a LOT of impulse purchases. I can also add to my order throughout the week, as I realize I need things.

See they have this at my store but I’ll iffy about it because I feel like they’d forget something. What happens if they forget to put something in there and you go home and unpack and realize. How does that work?

I also order online and pick up at the store and have no arguments. Family members can add to the grocery list up until I start ordering the day before pickup day. Same day every week. If they don't tell me they want something then they can't really complain. I have a pretty firm budget. If the total is too high I start removing things from the cart and non-essentials are cut. I try to get things people want but sometimes we can only get one treat item not five.

I've been ordering the same store for quite awhile. Very, very rarely does the person mess up and not put an item in that I am charged for. Sometimes an exact item is not available and I am not charged for it. I select the option for the shopper to substitute items so they would usually sub an equivalant item if possible. I check the receipt in the parking lot against what I ordered before I leave to see if anything is missing. I have had it happen more often that I get home and realize that I got an item that I was not charged for than the other way around. Almost always everything is exactly what I ordered. If they made a mistake and charged me for something I did not get then I could let the store know. They have decent customer service. I have observed that they are more likely to make mistakes during a really busy holiday time rather than an ordinary week.