WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2019
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Debbie I have worked in schools over 20 years. If you GS is abused the school where ever he is will by law be required to report it. Unfortunately in my twenty plus years I have seen and heard about many heartbreaking stories. If you report grandson's abuse to a teacher they will by law be required to report it. If they see signs of abuse they will be required to report it.
Changing schools in the middle of a school year can be hard of a child too. So it changing schools is a good idea this is the time to do it.
From what you shared it sounds like your daughter needs to get away from her husband and will need help to do it. It is good you are saving all the documentation as to what happened to her. If she doesn't do it for herself she could think of doing it for her child.
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Machka: That’s a wonderful worthwhile thing you are doing. Your delivery was perfect. It’s great to put a voice to the face.
Kelly: Can I come play at your house, please. Those kids are so lucky to have you looking after them.
☘️ Terri3 -
kelly do you build that space ship every year? AMAZING, CLEVER, I want to be a kid in your care too!
NYKAREN2 -
Machka, Loved the video, your voice sounds exactly as I thought it would, including the accent you've described before. You're doing an amazing thing, helping others through your own experience.
Lisa in AR
Headed north for an all-day meeting... If you would like to know my opinion on meetings (you know you would!) I wrote this in 2003:
Business Interests
Another business meeting
On another set of data
That shows nothing,
And I try to hide a yawn.
An insane amount of effort
Has gone into all this paper
People making charts to show
They still belong.
Please just let me run this show awhile,
Just one chance to make them understand.
That the path to hell is lined
With all the paper you have used
On unread memos, charts and useless plans.
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BIAT (Brain Injury Association of Tasmania) asked me if I would be a part of this project ... a video resource. I thought about it for a little bit and then I agreed. My husband is part of it as well.
Go to the link: http://www.brainlink.org.au/page/125/ilc-launch-of-new-brain-injury-resources
Read through the intro and scroll down to the videos. Ours is "In the Hospital".
Machka in Oz
I just watched the video. Besides the fact that it was well done and full of useful information, I loved seeing you and hearing your voice. 3 -
Debby in VA
...or...online public school...2 -
Machka- I’m the opposite love Cous Cous grew up with a great Aunt from the Middle East y Filipino relatives both cooking jasmine rice for me lol so to me it’s memory food of times long ago at grandmas kitchen table her frying up chicken chatting with a ton of relatives coming by. I can’t stand brown rices taste! Someday maybe but still trying to get used to it.
Debby VA- Sometimes a not so good school is better. Once she’s free she could look into better school options maybe even move to an apartment near a better one. But that’s her choice hopefully she’ll find the courage not to worry what he thinks start thinking more about a better future.Great school doesn’t help when they see Mom getting hit y crying a lot.My Daughter left her school to a lesser one but her grades y knowledge flourished! Her job now wow is ones others of the Navy can’t get because she’s emotionally stable had time to deal with the trauma y learn without being afraid to sleep or talk. Walking on Egg Shells is how we both describe it now we were walking on egg shells trying to not make a sound or he would be set off. Meantime can’t get in trouble for looking up knowledge about escaping abusers to laws in VA on the computer y cell phone yours isn’t being checked by an abuser...hers is! They would see him at fault as an abuser- Not Daughter.They don’t remove the child from a Woman escaping abusers they help them. Just do what you’ve been doing she’s seeing some light hopefully now or soon she’ll fully run 🏃♀️ to it! In the meantime she’s seeing options that your there y helping! On her own she may not have gotten this far. Seeing a support system that will drive with you to walk into a school if she wants etc is empowering to her! When either now or soon she gets loose she knows she has a safe landing spot with options. Before doubt she knew those avenues were there with him saying I’m all you got bleep* until she believed it! Now she knows that is a lie!
Vaseline helps with heat rash for some folks worth a try.I keep getting one have to use topical ointment from my doctor in the summer.
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Machka That was a wonderful video.
Kelly No way! The coolest rocket ship ever!
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Debby in VA If you think the heat rash might possibly be a yeast rash (warning graphic image), and you don't have any prescription meds, try OTC athlete's foot powder. It might help.
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Machka ~ Enjoyed seeing you on the video. It was very informative and you certainly presented yourself well!
Amber ~ I agree that going to the lesser school would not be a bad idea. Better to be in a safe environment than in one that is viral.
Kelly's space station is beyond excellent!
I have been filled with anxiety all week because we had planned to go to Daytona Beach Fla for several days and it was too overwhelming for me. Cancelled the trip this AM and just wanting this month to be over. This month I turned 71, our 50th anniversary will be next week, and my GD's birthday will be two days later. Now, we don't have anything planned for our anniversary and that is a part of the cause for my anxiety.
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Carol
There is no rule that says you have to have a grand 50th wedding anniversary celebration.
I just went through this with my 65th birthday. I just couldn't get excited about the ideas being proposed by well-meaning family & friends, and it was making me anxious trying to figure out how to live up to what I perceived to be their expectations...and then I figured out that they just didn't want to let me down. I told everyone in clear, simple language that I did not expect or want a "big deal" 65th birthday...which turned out to be fine with them! I planned the day - my partner & I had eggs Benedict at a diner, saw the micromosaics at the art museum, and had watermelon mojito smoothies & a carrot cake cupcake for dinner. Then I relaxed with my dogs & watched a program on TV with my partner. It was one of the best birthdays I have ever had. I saw my grandchildren two nights before at a swim meet. My son gave me a birthday present and a funny card. I received a few birthday cards in the mail from dear old friends. It was wonderful & no stress.
I realize an anniversary is a bit different because it involves the desires of 2 people, but maybe you and your husband could brainstorm about what would make it a lovely day for the 2 of you.
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Karen- That’s what I keep getting in the summer! They give me a cream for it.Lol foot spray probably work too it’s what the dermatologist gives JR for yeast infections on booty ones.Until you have sprayed your sons buns with foot spray or applied cream with a big foot 🦶 on it lol you have no clue how weird it seems. Hubby gets normal rash so vasaline..my Dad sweats a lot so he uses the medicated powders.
Thankyou yes seeing measurements going down feels great! Been 2 yrs 4months to loose them y 35lbs so I’m a slow looser but it’s going!
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Yesterday-156.4!
CW- 160.8 about to start period I feel the pain in my left surgical site (they took my Fallopian tube leading into my stomach funny part it’s the one getting me pregnant lol put it into my uterus through the hole 🕳 in my uterus into my stomach yes pregnant with a hole in my uterus y bad piping lol it hurts ever since during ovulation y periods!) my right side feels great but it doesn’t produce eggs so it has no reason to hurt lol.
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Karen in VA ~ Thanks you for your kind words. You were right when you said the anxiety was over what I perceived to be everyone's expectations that there should be a special celebration.
Carol6 -
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Carol - I booked the cruise to get away from everyone's expectations about my 70th. I wanted absolutely no hassle and to escape. Now DDIL has been very 'sweet' and has organised the family lunch the week before the cruise. I will be having my elder son to visit.
I love him, but don't really want to have to entertain just before we go away, I suffer horribly from packing anxiety. I'm sure he doesn't want to come.
My preference would be a tiny tea party with just the grandchildren. She said, "Oh, you are only 70 once, let's do something special".
I'm going to break the habit of a lifetime and get takeaway for the other meals. Not go mad on cleaning etc. It's my birthday and I want it EASY. Easy and peaceful.
I went all out to help DH celebrate his 70th in the way he wanted and it was a massive amount of work. I'm not doing it for me. I am going to put on my sparkly dress on the cruise and let the paid staff take the strain!
KJ - Yes, the same place. They are so glad to be back there! Can you imagine the cost if they had to hire it for two weeks! It's not a direct swap, it's a points system. The people in their house this time are just a couple! Could you swap your place near the beach? Desirable location.
I wouldn't mind swapping ours, but I can't see DH going with it. When I swapped my London apartment it was my own property. Had great swaps in Paris, Tuscany, Lisbon and Brussels.
The swap companies these days can organise cleaning and linen changes so much easier.
Been for my 5k run. Making rabbit stew tonight, in cider.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx5 -
Fun thing is take your tiny drink bottles to cereal boxes .Tape or glue them shut y screw kids on super tight with glue. Now can play more realistic grocery store. Can even spend a few more dollars for a basket to hold put them in or your cloth shopping bags! Did for both kids now cheap y a great recycling way. The clear bottles y jars can poke holes put bugs to observe then let loose or to put glitter y water in them with a little cooking oil/or baby oil.
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M in Oz: Your brain link video is powerful and compelling. Thank you for sharing!!! I’m happy to hear that the storm has eased a bit and hope that your home remains safe and undamaged.
On the subject of food, I am a big fan of brown rice. We both like to add a bit of chopped sweet peppers and green onions to it, Mushrooms, too. 
White rice has a very high glycemic index—it turns to sugar in the body very quickly. My diabetic DH can’t handle it, so we don’t use it anymore. :noway:
Kate UK: Congrats on good medical news!!!
KJ: I love your egg carton space station. WOW!!! :bigsmile:
Debby in VA: I had a student years ago who had huge family challenges. The eighth-grade classrooms were not happy places for her because of social problems so she stayed home and went to online school. I saw her again a year or two later, back in school at the high school level and thriving.
(((Carol in GA))): I hope you find a way to celebrate your 50th Wedding Anniversary that doesn’t add to your stress. Our 50th will be next March. We have ideas for the occasion and hope that they can come true without creating a load of stress.
Amber: Successful weight loss is slow. Peter Rabbit never wins the race because he is too distracted. The tortoise wins. Slow and steady wins the race and also weight loss success. :flowerforyou:
Heather: Happy 70th! Mine was perfect. DS paid a surprise visit & that was the best gift of all. We had a meal out, went to an automobile destruction derby at the county fair and had chocolate cake. It was sweet and simple. I hope you can convince your DDIL that you’d prefer a low key celebration.
Michele: Thanks for your sympathy for DH. I am relieved that there won’t be a surgery and I think he is relieved, too. He’s been through three surgeries already and none was easy to heal from. The surgeon encouraged him to go to physical therapy, get exercise, and take pain medications as needed. He also put in a good word for yoga. The doctor’s advice ratcheted both of our stress down dramatically.
It is time to take the dog to the groomer. Have a great day!
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Heather There's still time to have a heart-to-heart with your daughter-in-law to cancel the lunch and a phone conversation with your son to reschedule his visit...I'm encouraging you to be politely assertive! 1
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Machka... well done on the video! I loved seeing both you and your husband.
Need some help gardeners. My niece, who recently bought this home, sent me a photo of these red flowers. She doesn't know what they are and says they're taking over in the area they're planted. Thick stalks. She lives in central Ohio.
Beth
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Katla--I pray the PT does help DH and that they are right and he does not need surgery. I do hope you can work it out to visit the DGC soon.
Machka--Sounds like the wind we had last week. Still lots of trees down and city is running out of places for people to drop them off. It rained most the night and still off and on this morning.
Kelly--WOW!! I am so impressed with your space week.
Today is a better day. Weigh in this morning was up, but expected that. It's a new day and things are better.
Blessings, Vicki GI NE 1 -
Beth - Hollyhocks perhaps? Could tell better if I could see the leaves up close. That's my first glance, lol.
Were you able to get your produce box going again? Yes, makes a difference when the veggies are in the fridge staring at you Do you pay per box each time it's delivered or do they require you to pay in advance for several boxes?
I'm happy to say I got my refund from the little gal who I paid up front with for many boxes during the summer and she had continual crop failures. I was wondering as it had been several weeks since she'd promised the refund, but she emailed me the other night, whew so I got it at her stand in town yesterday. I don't think I'll be doing this again, especially since I've found organic farm sources close by.
Machka - great job on the video, you had many thoughtful comments; the entire video was good. Loved your accent, I could hear some Canadian there .
Carol - understandable about your anxiety heading off to celebrate your anniversary. Don't blame you and I'm the same way. I read somewhere that at our age, it's a gift to do the things that were punishment when we were kids, like staying home,
Today I'm making lists of what needs to be done by this coming Monday, surgery day. Think I might have my BFF pick me up from the hospital and bring me home. DH is starting to get very anxious about it already, so will get as much set up as possible - grocery shopping & food/meals prepared in advance, writing dog feeding schedules, getting all laundry caught up, etc.
I should be able to drive within a week if I'm not on painkillers, no heavy lifting (over 10#) for 6 weeks, which will be a challenge since I'm bustling around a lot on a typical day... I'm not a sitter.
Took little dog to the groomer this morning so that job is done at least for a month.
OK ladies... onward, by all means
Lanette
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Lanette - Sending good wishes for next Monday. At least they are getting on with it quickly. I have every confidence that it will all go smoothly.
Katla - I think it's good news that your DH isn't going to have to go through surgery again. I hope he can find a PT that gives him some relief. You should definitely take yourself off to visit the grandkids for a bit, having made arrangements for someone to keep an eye out for your DH. I have close friends with children in Korea, Hong Kong, Australia and New Zealand. They visit once or twice a year. I know you will be worried about him, but it can be done. As for your own fears - feel the fear and do it anyway.
Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxx1 -
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Work up to drizzling rain, grey skies, and in the 60's. Fall has come to the island. Was not interested in going to the gym, but my Chief is so darn funny, and upbeat I pulled my self up and out. Workout was good! So we are home now, and my body is warm from the sauna, and humming! Excited about lunch! White sticky rice, a splattering of crunchy walnuts, and some warmed smoked salmon, then drizzled with Amy's shiitake mushroom dressing! Yum! (Only eating half of this package of salmon).
Have a good day today ladies.👍
💖Rebecca5 -
Hi Gals,
Machka – what a great video – I loved hearing you and seeing your husband.
Beth – Lanette said Hollyhocks, which might be, but my first guess was mallow, as hollyhock has multiple blooms on each stem where mallow has one on the end of each stem.
Kim from N. California
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Now I know why it's a good thing we don't eat out much. Went to Chili's and had a hamburger and fries...1,240 calories. Ugh
Yes, I could have gotten salad but I didn't. Stress eating. Will do better tomorrow.
Carol in GA3 -
carol last night we had a goodbye meal at a diner and I had an old standard—cheeseburger and onion rings regret it in so many ways!!
But Today is a new day and simpler eating is starting to make me feel better.
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Karen y Carol- I cut eat half the portions at a chili’s when I go y many restaurants take it home to eat later.I eat first what won’t reheat well like onion rings! Rolls! But the burger heats well from there for another meal! It’s portion control in that situation because they don’t have many low cal options at some restaurants. Think I got my records from Daughter visit. Might go over some or not at all if you cut it in half.
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