Help please! I'm a beginner at all of this..

Hello, I am an extreme beginner at eating healthy and losing weight, I've tried multiple times over the years but nothing seemed to work for me and I gave up easily. I'm sticking to it this time.. two weeks now of logging meals and finding hethy alternatives, I still snack late at night but that is a current battle. I'm getting frustrated because I have not been losing ANY weight. Not even 1 pound! I walk 10,000 steps at least 5 days a week. I will incorporate more exercise as I lose weight, but I'm to uncomfortable at my size. I don't know what to do and I wish I had a mentor through all of this. I am 232 lbs and 5'9". I gain weight evenly everywhere so my problem fat deposits are, well, everywhere. My goal is to lose 80 pounds by summer 2021 and be physically active at that point. Is there anyone out there who is willing to give me some tips to help improve myself? Thank you! P.S. sorry if this isn't the proper spot to ask this, I'm very desperate for help...
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  • LyndaBSS
    LyndaBSS Posts: 6,964 Member
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?
  • chefbender5310
    chefbender5310 Posts: 11 Member
    One day at a time. Set goals you can keep each day. Walking by itself is good and it sounds like you are doing well with that! Good job! The evening snacking needs to be your priority it sounds like...so when you do your food diary be honest and put that amount that you think you will be eating in there and adjust your other meals to account for the calories if you can..best of luck to you!
  • KayPoel93
    KayPoel93 Posts: 6 Member
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.

    10k steps puts her in a pretty active category. Without knowing for sure it should create about a 750 calorie deficit over the course of 7 days for 1.5 pound of loss per week. Without a food scale, of course, it would be hard to verify her actual calories.

  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    NovusDies wrote: »
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.

    10k steps puts her in a pretty active category. Without knowing for sure it should create about a 750 calorie deficit over the course of 7 days for 1.5 pound of loss per week. Without a food scale, of course, it would be hard to verify her actual calories.

    With 10k steps, isn't the average burn nearer 500cals?


  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    NovusDies wrote: »
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.

    10k steps puts her in a pretty active category. Without knowing for sure it should create about a 750 calorie deficit over the course of 7 days for 1.5 pound of loss per week. Without a food scale, of course, it would be hard to verify her actual calories.

    With 10k steps, isn't the average burn nearer 500cals?


    I am not 100 percent certain being still new to steps myself. I know people around here often say that puts you in a fairly active category so I ran the TDEE based on that. Either way it would create a deficit since her sedentary TDEE is about 2100. Either more calories are being eaten or the weight loss is being masked by TOM or another water weight fluctuation.
  • tkmcc85
    tkmcc85 Posts: 10 Member
    Forgot to note that my calories from walking became considerably more accurate (and lower) when I put Pedometer++ on my phone and linked it to MFP. Walking doesn't burn as many calories as the exercise database entries indicate. Sedentary lifestyle assumes 5000 steps/day, so I don't start getting many walking exercise calories until I'm over 5000 steps.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    edited August 2019
    apullum wrote: »
    You don’t mention anything about how many calories you eat or how you’re tracking your food.

    Weight loss is 100% about consistently eating fewer calories than your body burns. You can ensure that you’re in a calorie deficit by weighing and logging all your food.

    Exercise alone will not cause you to lose weight. Eating “healthy” alone will not cause you to lose weight. Cutting out snacking alone will not cause you to lose weight. The only way those things are relevant to weight loss is if they help you stay in a calorie deficit.

    All of this!

    I started out years ago losing weight by the method of "eating healthier, eating less at each meal, exercising 10X more" and it worked....SLOWLY. It took me over 6 years to lose 45 lb doing that. I started over 300 lb.

    I then tried the calorie counting here with religiously tracking every bite I ate. I lost 90 lb in a little over 1 year and got to where I want to be. I've now maintained for 6 years doing the same, although I've relaxed in my logging considerably as I've learned what works & doesn't work and have a better idea of calorie/macro content of my meals.

    It really does work, if you don't mind logging everything...totally worth it.

    PS another thing that made a huge difference for me was figuring out the best times to eat my meals and how many calories for each meal. I tend to eat only 10% of my calories at breakfast and then 40% at lunch and 50% at dinner, very rarely snack. In the past I was eating 20% at breakfast, 20% at lunch, 30% in various snacks through the day, and 30% at dinner. This is all kind of TMI I'm sure, as different things work for different people. But it has helped immensely with my feeling satisfied & energetic all day. When I was snacking more and eating smaller lunch & dinner, I felt vaguely hungry ALL the time and never satisfied.
  • KayPoel93
    KayPoel93 Posts: 6 Member
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.

    I'm 5' 9" average height. I am going to stick to just 2000. Thank you!
  • KayPoel93
    KayPoel93 Posts: 6 Member
    apullum wrote: »
    You don’t mention anything about how many calories you eat or how you’re tracking your food.

    Weight loss is 100% about consistently eating fewer calories than your body burns. You can ensure that you’re in a calorie deficit by weighing and logging all your food.

    Exercise alone will not cause you to lose weight. Eating “healthy” alone will not cause you to lose weight. Cutting out snacking alone will not cause you to lose weight. The only way those things are relevant to weight loss is if they help you stay in a calorie deficit.

    All of this!

    I started out years ago losing weight by the method of "eating healthier, eating less at each meal, exercising 10X more" and it worked....SLOWLY. It took me over 6 years to lose 45 lb doing that. I started over 300 lb.

    I then tried the calorie counting here with religiously tracking every bite I ate. I lost 90 lb in a little over 1 year and got to where I want to be. I've now maintained for 6 years doing the same, although I've relaxed in my logging considerably as I've learned what works & doesn't work and have a better idea of calorie/macro content of my meals.

    It really does work, if you don't mind logging everything...totally worth it.

    PS another thing that made a huge difference for me was figuring out the best times to eat my meals and how many calories for each meal. I tend to eat only 10% of my calories at breakfast and then 40% at lunch and 50% at dinner, very rarely snack. In the past I was eating 20% at breakfast, 20% at lunch, 30% in various snacks through the day, and 30% at dinner. This is all kind of TMI I'm sure, as different things work for different people. But it has helped immensely with my feeling satisfied & energetic all day. When I was snacking more and eating smaller lunch & dinner, I felt vaguely hungry ALL the time and never satisfied.

    I am currently doing small meals and a lot of snacking throughout the day, still always feel hungry, I'll try bigger meals. Thank you for the insight!
  • KayPoel93
    KayPoel93 Posts: 6 Member
    tkmcc85 wrote: »
    And other habit I found helpful. Most days I enter most if not all of my food in the morning before I eat it. That way, I know ahead of time if I have space for something else, am lacking some macros (and now micro nutrients), or if I need to cut back. It helps a lot to plan ahead. Whenever I go out to eat, I scope out the menu online and enter what I'm going to eat before ever getting to the restaurant. You don't want to be unpleasantly surprised to find you can, for example, easily eat 1500 calories in one sitting at an Indian buffet.

    I love this idea, I did this yesterday for the first time and felt more accountable. And ate 400 calories less, MFP gave me a 2100 limit but I'm going to work on 2000.
  • KayPoel93
    KayPoel93 Posts: 6 Member
    apullum wrote: »
    You don’t mention anything about how many calories you eat or how you’re tracking your food.

    Weight loss is 100% about consistently eating fewer calories than your body burns. You can ensure that you’re in a calorie deficit by weighing and logging all your food.

    Exercise alone will not cause you to lose weight. Eating “healthy” alone will not cause you to lose weight. Cutting out snacking alone will not cause you to lose weight. The only way those things are relevant to weight loss is if they help you stay in a calorie deficit.

    I'm at 2100 but people are telling me that may be to high so I'm going to try 1900-2000 calories.
  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    You need a food scale. You must weigh and measure everything you eat so you know exactly how many calories you are actually eating. That is the most important thing. If you are not losing weight you are eating too many calories.

    Some great advice in the previous posts here. If you take them on board you should start to see some progress.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,439 Member
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.
    NovusDies wrote: »
    KayPoel93 wrote: »
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Hi. What is your daily calorie allotment?

    Do you use a food scale?

    2100, I don't use a scale..

    That seems high. Are you really tall? NHS recommendations are 2000 calories per day for women.

    One of the top reasons people here don't lose at first is that they fail to weigh what they're eating. It's a good investment.

    10k steps puts her in a pretty active category. Without knowing for sure it should create about a 750 calorie deficit over the course of 7 days for 1.5 pound of loss per week. Without a food scale, of course, it would be hard to verify her actual calories.

    With 10k steps, isn't the average burn nearer 500cals?

    Both the calorie intake needs and the calories burned from walking will vary with the person's size.

    If the NHS is quoting 2000 calories to maintain, they're talking about an "average" woman. The average woman is probably somewhere around 5'4"-5'6". OP is 5'9", and she's still somewhat heavier than average. Therefore, her calorie needs (for any given weight management goal) are likely to be higher than average.

    And steps burn calories by moving one's body weight through space, which is work in the physics sense of "work". Since OP is tall and has weight to lose, her calorie burn for X number of steps will be greater than it would be for a shorter, lighter person.

    Some of way to succeed at the weight management process is personalizing many aspects of the process, including the numbers.
  • Thormodo
    Thormodo Posts: 8 Member
    edited August 2019
    +1 for food scale. Before worrying about lowering your calories, it's much better to first make sure you're logging correctly. Measuring cups (or even worse eyeballing it) can be extremely inaccurate.
  • vingogly
    vingogly Posts: 1,785 Member
    I've had the EatSmart Pro digital food scale for several years (19.95USD on Amazon). You need a scale so that you can learn portion sizes. Also, with something calorie dense (like nuts, for example), you can easily be off by enough calories to halt your weight loss by "guesstimating". I'll second the things other others have said, and add this: getting rid of the pounds is one thing, keeping them off is another. That's a behavioral issue. If you want to keep it off for the long haul, you need to change your relationship with food. For that, I recommend the cognitive behavioral approach in The Beck Diet Solution:

    http://diet.beckinstitute.org/

    Don't bother with the workbook, I don't find it helpful beyond what she writes in her original book. Dr. Judith Beck is the daughter of Dr. Aaron Beck - inventor of cognitive behavioral therapy which is the most widely used therapy technique today - because it works. It's not a diet, and will work with MFP or any other weight loss program you follow. There's also a Beck Diet Solution group on Facebook.