What’s a red flag for you?

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  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    joelo_1119 wrote: »
    people who describe themselves as “driven” or “disciplined.” They see those traits as virtues but what I hear is “uptight” and “inflexible” which are not appealing to me.

    I think I catch the intent, but I wouldn’t necessarily draw a direct distinction between the two terms. Drive and discipline in the absence of self awareness is probably what you’re getting at, aka, “my way or the highway”.

    I am, and have many driven/disciplined individuals in my network and, at least personally, pride myself in the ability to adapt, course-correct, and be proven wrong. Don’t count us out that easily!
    This is pretty insightful.

    To clarify, it’s not a dealbreaker but it is a red flag that would put me on alert to watch for selfishness and an inability to compromise.

    I like people who work hard. In fact a couple of my favorite people possess that quality. But they would not describe themselves that way. In fact they probably wouldn’t describe themselves at all. They just do what they do and let other people do the describing.

  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    People who write LMBO
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,733 Member
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    edited January 2023
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,733 Member
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).

    Am I misremembering it as asparagus or was that another time?
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,733 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).

    Am I misremembering it as asparagus or was that another time?

    No. I wasn't sure but I think it *was* asparagus! Got the "A" part right, at least :)
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).

    Am I misremembering it as asparagus or was that another time?

    No. I wasn't sure but I think it *was* asparagus! Got the "A" part right, at least :)
    That would still be LMAO 😁
  • honey_honey_12
    honey_honey_12 Posts: 14,692 Member
    Lack of follow through
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Someone who dislikes tacos, kittens, and/or rainy days
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 6,127 Member
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

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  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 6,127 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

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  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

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  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    When they don’t take anything seriously, especially themselves and especially especially me
  • R3d_butt3rfly_
    R3d_butt3rfly_ Posts: 1,584 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

    Yay! Happy Fri...
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 6,127 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

    Yay! Happy Fri...

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  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    There are certain patterns in user name choice that are an instant red flag for me. I’m not naming names so don’t ask
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    *changes name..
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
    *changes name..

    Might I suggest DaddySparklePizza?
  • Peachesnstuff
    Peachesnstuff Posts: 1,261 Member
    edited February 2023
    There are certain patterns in user name choice that are an instant red flag for me. I’m not naming names so don’t ask
    Like....pinkykinycuffs?
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    There are certain patterns in user name choice that are an instant red flag for me. I’m not naming names so don’t ask
    Like....pinkykinycuffs?

    You can’t trick me
  • honey_honey_12
    honey_honey_12 Posts: 14,692 Member
    If I have to ask if he’s married.
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member
    edited February 2023
    They don’t know what a blueberry, cut strawberry, beets, avocado, grocery store discount cards are. Thought cooking rice would be like popcorn and didn’t add any water.
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    They don’t know what a blueberry, cut strawberry, beets, avocado, grocery store discount cards are. Thought cooking rice would be like popcorn and didn’t add any water.
    This is a person who has never seen the inside of a kitchen. I hope they’re OK😂
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member
    They don’t know what a blueberry, cut strawberry, beets, avocado, grocery store discount cards are. Thought cooking rice would be like popcorn and didn’t add any water.
    This is a person who has never seen the inside of a kitchen. I hope they’re OK😂

    I called him out a while back for not knowing how to make box pancakes. I said, you’re a momma’s
    boy aren’t you. He said yes, how did I know. 🤦🏻‍♀️ He says he shops at dollar general and eats gummy bears and monster energy for breakfast and steals his coworker’s food out of the work fridge….. I honestly don’t know why I’m talking to him other than I find it fascinating and am trying to teach him how to fend for himself. He says he can’t do it but I told him he can and he’s gonna learn. I’m like, there’s YouTube that can show you how to do anything and he said he doesn’t usually follow any directions. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Keep trying to pop that rice then!
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,579 Member
    They don’t know what a blueberry, cut strawberry, beets, avocado, grocery store discount cards are. Thought cooking rice would be like popcorn and didn’t add any water.
    This is a person who has never seen the inside of a kitchen. I hope they’re OK😂

    I called him out a while back for not knowing how to make box pancakes. I said, you’re a momma’s
    boy aren’t you. He said yes, how did I know. 🤦🏻‍♀️ He says he shops at dollar general and eats gummy bears and monster energy for breakfast and steals his coworker’s food out of the work fridge….. I honestly don’t know why I’m talking to him other than I find it fascinating and am trying to teach him how to fend for himself. He says he can’t do it but I told him he can and he’s gonna learn. I’m like, there’s YouTube that can show you how to do anything and he said he doesn’t usually follow any directions. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Keep trying to pop that rice then!
    😂😂😂
    Oh my goodness you got yourself a project

  • honey_honey_12
    honey_honey_12 Posts: 14,692 Member
    If he reaches over and takes food off my plate.
    First off, it’s rude.
    Second, Melissa doesn’t share food. 🤨
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member
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  • RiaChasingGoals
    RiaChasingGoals Posts: 136 Member
    He won’t post pics of you together on his social media. He a playa! My sista run…run as fast as you can!