What’s a red flag for you?
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Dating someone for almost a year and then they say they don't feel like we are compatible anymore. How do you guys feel when a girl or guy asks for space all of a sudden?
From what I’ve seen from the people around me, asking for space usually means “I found someone else, getting to know them, but keeping you on the back burner just incase it doesn’t workout”. Don’t wait on anyone who is asking for space.
It’s just mind games. keeping you holding on but they’re already checked out.
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A Hotmail email address containing more than 4 numbers1
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Dating someone for almost a year and then they say they don't feel like we are compatible anymore. How do you guys feel when a girl or guy asks for space all of a sudden?
Some people honestly believe that *kitten* idea that if you love someone you should let them go because something something butterfly bullshrimp. If she’s the type to buy into that, then she’ll have you jumping thru hoops all your days.
Asking for space means you’re more committed and she knows it and it makes her uncomfortable for some reason.6 -
If, even after a thorough explanation and a long slow fade, he still wants closure.4
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Yes, definitely. ^0
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insensitivity2
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Shhh. Nobody likes a mouthy happi.happimess01 wrote: »insensitivity
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When they don’t have Facebook 😳 who doesn’t have Facebook???? 😱0
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eatpolerepeat wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »
And me 😂
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It was going well. I need an explanation. But that's what I plan to do- give her all the space she wants and let her initiate. I just hope there's a good outcome from this temporary "break".
I feel you. *kitten* sucks. Especially when you feel that everything is/was going well or the relationship has been going on for awhile. Not much you can do except let them be and keep doing you. Hardest part of it all is not thinking about the situation until she’s ready to talk.
Right off the bat - sounds like commitment issues. Or she's not entirely sure if you're the one she wants to be with / possibly wants to break it off and let you down easy. Sucks. Sorry, dude.1 -
Dating someone for almost a year and then they say they don't feel like we are compatible anymore. How do you guys feel when a girl or guy asks for space all of a sudden?
From what I’ve seen from the people around me, asking for space usually means “I found someone else, getting to know them, but keeping you on the back burner just incase it doesn’t workout”. Don’t wait on anyone who is asking for space.
It’s just mind games. keeping you holding on but they’re already checked out.
Or this. Don't ever allow yourself the disgrace of being anyone's benchwarmer. A person who is genuinely interested will talk to you every day, and make efforts to spend time with you.2 -
Dating someone for almost a year and then they say they don't feel like we are compatible anymore. How do you guys feel when a girl or guy asks for space all of a sudden?
I just went back a page and saw this first message on your situation. Bru, it's over. It sucks, but the sooner you accept that reality the sooner can start the process of moving forward. Sometimes relationships start great, but as time goes on one or both of you may realize you're on different pages on what you want out of life with a partner. Or a million other reasons. It's cliche but there really are so many other women out there. One day you'll run into one who's crazy about you and wants to talk every day, spend time..... all.you can do is be patient in the meantime2 -
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Thanks for all your input guys. So far I haven't heard from her. Last time we texted was just told each other Happy New Year. We also go to the same church so tomorrow will be interesting....3
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Thanks for all your input guys. So far I haven't heard from her. Last time we texted was just told each other Happy New Year. We also go to the same church so tomorrow will be interesting....
Dress nice. Smile a lot, not necessarily at her. Leave before she does and don’t approach her, but if you do make eye contact, give a polite head nod and that’s it.5 -
Thanks for all your input guys. So far I haven't heard from her. Last time we texted was just told each other Happy New Year. We also go to the same church so tomorrow will be interesting....
Dress nice. Smile a lot, not necessarily at her. Leave before she does and don’t approach her, but if you do make eye contact, give a polite head nod and that’s it.
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keeps a pleasure journal 😐3
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When you borrow his phone to make a call and his password looks like this.
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If she has ever taught a teenage abstinence workshop0
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If they smell bad bad hygiene in general2
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Tragically hip. Always up on the latest trends.
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Constant impulse purchases. Double the red flag when he impulse buys everything that pops up as an ad on IG and admits it with no shame later.1
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Inability to listen. For example, if you specifically ask me "do you like this particular food item?" and I respond that I very much dislike it and do not eat it, do not then cook it for me 2 days later and be upset that I do not want it.
Looks for validation and praise every time he does basic tasks like washing dishes, laundry, or grocery shopping - because he so rarely does any of the above or any other housekeeping task.
Related: hoards anything, but especially not being able to bother to throw away food that's long past the stage of disgusting and is bordering on unrecognizable. (Most recent specific example - why is there, among other gross things, half a pie with a best by date of months ago that's now mostly covered with mold sitting in a half-open box on your counter? How long has it been there? Are you aware there's a trash can 3 steps away? I might have an answer to the question of why you're having such a hard time with ants and mice...)
Daily selfies, especially if they're always posted to multiple social media platforms.
Constantly commenting gushing praise on half-naked/fully-naked women's photos on social media while claiming "oh, I'm totally serious about us and our relationship and I'll get jealous and anxious if you even talk to another guy, but these are my friends and I *have to* support my friends, so you just have to accept that it's not something I'm ever going to stop doing"...even better when done while apparently not noticing that these oh so important friends never respond to any of his own photos or posts.
Updates their relationship status on facebook to say you're in a relationship with each other when you've been out exactly 1 time, then calls in a panic because they're afraid you're going to break up with them when you hide that status. Didn't think an official breakup was necessary after 1 afternoon, but yes, now I most certainly am.
Gets irritated at me for going to the gym - followed by ranting at me about how he refuses to exercise in any way because his dad liked to work out and they didn't have a great relationship. Uh, ok? Afraid we're not very compatible then.
(Sheesh, apparently I needed to vent a bit about the fun that is attempting to date at 40.
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skctilidie wrote: »Inability to listen. For example, if you specifically ask me "do you like this particular food item?" and I respond that I very much dislike it and do not eat it, do not then cook it for me 2 days later and be upset that I do not want it.
Looks for validation and praise every time he does basic tasks like washing dishes, laundry, or grocery shopping - because he so rarely does any of the above or any other housekeeping task.
Related: hoards anything, but especially not being able to bother to throw away food that's long past the stage of disgusting and is bordering on unrecognizable. (Most recent specific example - why is there, among other gross things, half a pie with a best by date of months ago that's now mostly covered with mold sitting in a half-open box on your counter? How long has it been there? Are you aware there's a trash can 3 steps away? I might have an answer to the question of why you're having such a hard time with ants and mice...)
Daily selfies, especially if they're always posted to multiple social media platforms.
Constantly commenting gushing praise on half-naked/fully-naked women's photos on social media while claiming "oh, I'm totally serious about us and our relationship and I'll get jealous and anxious if you even talk to another guy, but these are my friends and I *have to* support my friends, so you just have to accept that it's not something I'm ever going to stop doing"...even better when done while apparently not noticing that these oh so important friends never respond to any of his own photos or posts.
Updates their relationship status on facebook to say you're in a relationship with each other when you've been out exactly 1 time, then calls in a panic because they're afraid you're going to break up with them when you hide that status. Didn't think an official breakup was necessary after 1 afternoon, but yes, now I most certainly am.
Gets irritated at me for going to the gym - followed by ranting at me about how he refuses to exercise in any way because his dad liked to work out and they didn't have a great relationship. Uh, ok? Afraid we're not very compatible then.
(Sheesh, apparently I needed to vent a bit about the fun that is attempting to date at 40. )
Wow. Um. Just. Wow. I think I'd be happier without all the dating hoopla of life if this was my experience. Eek. Tell me this wasn't all rolled into one guy? Even so.
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skctilidie wrote: »Inability to listen. For example, if you specifically ask me "do you like this particular food item?" and I respond that I very much dislike it and do not eat it, do not then cook it for me 2 days later and be upset that I do not want it.
Looks for validation and praise every time he does basic tasks like washing dishes, laundry, or grocery shopping - because he so rarely does any of the above or any other housekeeping task.
Related: hoards anything, but especially not being able to bother to throw away food that's long past the stage of disgusting and is bordering on unrecognizable. (Most recent specific example - why is there, among other gross things, half a pie with a best by date of months ago that's now mostly covered with mold sitting in a half-open box on your counter? How long has it been there? Are you aware there's a trash can 3 steps away? I might have an answer to the question of why you're having such a hard time with ants and mice...)
Daily selfies, especially if they're always posted to multiple social media platforms.
Constantly commenting gushing praise on half-naked/fully-naked women's photos on social media while claiming "oh, I'm totally serious about us and our relationship and I'll get jealous and anxious if you even talk to another guy, but these are my friends and I *have to* support my friends, so you just have to accept that it's not something I'm ever going to stop doing"...even better when done while apparently not noticing that these oh so important friends never respond to any of his own photos or posts.
Updates their relationship status on facebook to say you're in a relationship with each other when you've been out exactly 1 time, then calls in a panic because they're afraid you're going to break up with them when you hide that status. Didn't think an official breakup was necessary after 1 afternoon, but yes, now I most certainly am.
Gets irritated at me for going to the gym - followed by ranting at me about how he refuses to exercise in any way because his dad liked to work out and they didn't have a great relationship. Uh, ok? Afraid we're not very compatible then.
(Sheesh, apparently I needed to vent a bit about the fun that is attempting to date at 40. )
Wow. Um. Just. Wow. I think I'd be happier without all the dating hoopla of life if this was my experience. Eek. Tell me this wasn't all rolled into one guy? Even so.
I second that I’d rather stay single if I were you lol1
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