Women 200lb+, Let's Keep It Moving This March!!!
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Friday weigh in day!
5'4"
31 years old
SW 207
3/1: 199.4
3/6: 199.0 (-0.4)
3/13: 196.4 (-2.6)
3/20: 195.6 (-0.8)
3/27: 194.2 (-1.4)
(Month overall: -5.2)
Goals: let's say we get to a solid 195 this month. We'll start there and see where it goes. ✅
Non-weight goals: continue logging everything in grams,✅ work on getting sodium intake beneath 2000mg each day,⛔ continue getting at least 100g protein each day.⛔
Fitness goals: lift more than 3x this month (lol) ▌▌_ _⛔
Running: let's go for 25 miles. It's not about the distance, it's about the form. Get the form right.
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This month has been so hard. For everyone. Special hugs for @mmccloy12 about the job, @terytha about fruit, @KeriA about trying to help your mom, and for all of you. We're all going through a thing, but in spite of that, it's still very positive in here.
I didn't do as well as February, but my compliance wasn't as strict as February, so that explains it. I still did very well, and met my weight goal.
I've been outside more, playing with my kids more, and cooking more. Trying to look at the bright side of things.
It's been a weird month, but it's almost over. Bring it on, April.11 -
Friday weight in
Age: 30
Height 5'6"
SW 287lbs
3/20/20 279.8lbs
CW 281.8
So I had a bit of a gain, but it was expected... I just did not do well and snacked a lot of food I knew should not help. But it was not as bad as I thought it would be at least!
Things I learned...
Moderation is hard when it's something I like... Better to not even have it in the house.
It's okay if you less up and long as you get back on the wagon
Progress is a rollercoaster
You weigh less if you stand up straight 😂 I actually did this today. Lost 2lbs just by standing up straight!
Goal for next Friday weight in (end of March beginning of April):
Major: 275lbs
Realistic 😂:278lbs
Non scale goal: don't go crazy and find a new job!8 -
Day one of our 21-day lock-down started. I can't say I'm not stressed about the future, but trying to just focus on the present time! I made pancakes for my son (And didn't have one!) I had quiet time, did chores, Lesley Sanson walking, I planted veggie seedlings (Hopefully they won't be eaten by something!). We walked and ran up our country driveway. Can't stop logging onto worldometer, this year has been crazy! The awful bushfires in Australia and now this Covid-19! I wonder if this lock-down is even enough! Good luck with all your weigh-ins! Mine is on Monday!9
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Friday Weigh-In
SW (1/6): 201.4
Jan end: 199.2
Feb end: 198.6
3/6: 201.2
3/13: 200.6
3/20: Didn't weigh at all
3/27: 197.4
1st GW: 190
UGW: 140
It's been almost the whole month that I haven't been here in the group at all. March has not been my month emotionally AT. ALL. I was already feeling down since last month, I was trying so hard not to let my depression or anxiety get the best of me. The first week of March I tried Hasfit workouts with dumbbells, but I wasn't mentally ready for the weight gain I would experience because of water retention. So I stopped that. Truth be told, I stopped all exercise this month. Going back to square one with my weight really bummed me out.
The second week, I went grocery shopping with my husband, and I didn't think the stores would be empty because of all the panic buying people did!! My anxiety got the best of me, because what if I didn't get the NECESSARY things we needed?! It took us all weekend, a whole lotta stores, but we got most of the things we needed. But I did have my panic attacks in the car.
Then I realized this past few days that our health insurance is screwed up and it's been hard to fix it, especially since the offices are closed and they only attend people through phone calls, my worst enemy. It's all still up in the air... who knows when it will all get fixed. Still trying to work that out. But the first day I found out, I had a full blown panic attack... my husband found me crying, not being able to breathe... not even my meds were working for me that day.
That weight loss has been nothing more than me not eating because of my anxiety, my worries, my depression. I'm the type of person that doesn't eat, or barely eats when stress happens. It's not fun at all... good thing is, this whole "stay-at-home" thing we're doing is so normal to me, so I'm ok with that. If I think about it, I could totally do IF 16:8... although lately it's been something like 20:4. I haven't really logged my food. But I'm still here.9 -
My goals over the next few months are to stay physically, mentally and emotionally healthy. Many of us are the emotional center of our family. I'm working to stay calm, well informed and well rested.
Today was a good day. My husband and I walked 7.29 miles (16,856 steps). We started out early before it got really warm (81 degrees here today). We plan to walk three times a week and bike ride at least twice a week. I'm still working on yoga and pilates. Yesterday I moved the chairs on the porch, pulled out my yoga mat and did some stretching and yoga poses. It was nice. I haven't officially weighed in since 2/28. My goal is to stay under 230 pounds throughout this stressful time. I'd like to stay as close to my calories as possible (except for Friday) and burn at least 300-500 at least 5 days a week.
Our college senior is doing well with her online classes and "working at home" with her internship. The school refunded a portion of her dorm fee for the rest of the semester. They notified the students that all of their belongings will be packed and stored in the room until Fall semester..which will allow doctors and nurses from the local hospitals a place to lay their heads as they care for coronavirus patients. The school has put a secure packing process in place...they are working through a lot of moving parts but we will get through it.
One day at a time...
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Great weigh in @Cupcake Crusoe. You made your goal! I am enjoying cooking too. Glad your getting outside time and kid time.
@nels5850 I think you know what to do and will do well. Thanks for the scale tip. I have to put my scale in just the same place or it won’t register the same. Hope the job search goes well.
@changeforeverlj sounds like a successful day.
@Lasmartchika Congratulations in making it to Onderland but sorry it has been a hard time.
@BrownSugar nice exercise schedule. My college senior needs to find a job or internship for the summer but it seems hard to do if you are in a shut down. She will only have her capstone project to do after spring quarter. Glad yours found one.
Well I checked my work email to see if there was news about future plans since we had only had news up until Tuesday next week about the closure. They had sent something out yesterday. We have the decision about our job future. The shutdown with pay was extended to the end of next week. Then we have a week of leave with no pay unless we want to use our annual leave. Then we will be on temporary furlough until it is safe to return. It turns out we can file for unemployment. We will have health care benefits. So I won't be entirely unemployed next month and beyond. We will come back to work after it is safe with our same anniversary dates, positions, etc. I have been working on putting together our budget before this happened so this weekend we will see how this pencils out. I love my job but I do not want to go back to work if it isn't safe for me and others. I think we can get through this but we have our work cut out for us to make sure. At least I have a couple more paychecks coming or 1 1/2 paychecks anyway. I am close to my goal for the month but not sure whether I will make it before next Tuesday or not.
I started to get onto MFP and then asked my husband to go for a walk. This news sort of took up the day.9 -
Oh I forgot to say I requested to use comp-time and annual leave for the week before we go on furlough. I need to use the comp time up anyway and I have plenty of annual leave. So that will make 3 weeks with pay during the closure until the temporary furlough. I am glad my husband has been classified as an essential employee at his work.7
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@KeriA Does the university have an online career center program which would allow your student to search jobs, upload a resume and communicate with potential employers? GWU has an online career center program called HandShake which allows the students to apply for on campus jobs, internships and permanent jobs with what seems to be a thousand employers. Her major/minor is international affairs/political science. Between using HandShake and her networking she’s had internships in her field since her freshman year. She started this internship with a DC based political consulting firm in January. What is your child’s major?5
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Today should be relatively quiet. I want to begin staging the rooms we don't use much and doing some cleaning upstairs so that I don't have to do it in a hurry later. There's some laundry to fold that I finished last night, and some ironing to do, which I actually like.
Lunch today should be coney dogs and chips and pickles, and I have lamb meatballs to use up in the freezer, so we'll have lamb curry with cashews and spinach and rice for dinner. I make my own meatballs with a small portioning scoop, bake them on a rack over a sheet pan, then freeze them. I can toss the right quantity, still frozen, into the sauce and let them warm through in there. But we are getting ready to move, and the initial panic buying seems to be over in my neck of the woods, so I'm going to return to trying to use up the stuff in the big freezer.
Boyfriend is sick because (well, let's be honest) he did something stupid and ingested something poisonous. He spent yesterday in bed, and he may spend a large chunk of today in bed as well. He did get up in the night and have a bowl of cereal, because I saw the dirty dishes, so at least there's something in his system.6 -
@Lasmartchika, yip the anxiety is real isn't it! I read that we will react to this like being in a state of war! We will go through, being positive and productive, to detached, to depressed and angry and then finally acceptance of the uncertainty. I'm going to listen to a Brene Brown podcast about flying solo.
@AlexandraFindsHerself1971, Gosh your supper sounds good! When I open my freezer all I see is a whole lot of chicken that I need to cook from scratch! I want to find a peri-peri recipe online as I forgot to buy my usual Nando's supply! And we like spicy food!
@KeriA I've only been on this group for a week but wanted to say you are so thoughtful and supportive! Thank you! Glad you still have a few paychecks to rely on!
@Brownsugar, I couldn't have said it better...One day at a time! I love your goals!3 -
Hi, guys.
Really frustrated with my progress. Can’t seem to shake this last pound & a half. Guess I’m going to have to cut back even more 😩
SW: 307 (4/2019)
CW: 201.4 (😭)
GW: 165
March GW: 199.9 🤞🏽
Have a great weekend!
I did take a walk. Relieved frustration and gave me thinking/music time. By the end I was dancing down the street 💃🏽
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SW: 272
2/29: 244
3/8: 249
3/13: 243
3/22: 242.5
3/28: 242
March GW: 240
Doesn’t look like I’m going to meet my March goal, but with everything that’s happened this past month, I’m happy to have a consistent loss at all. I’m ready to go into April focused on what I can control and doing what I need to do to protect myself and my loved ones. Life seems to be changing everyday and I’m trying to not let that get the best of me. I hope everyone has a nice weekend!9 -
@mmccloy12 - I am so sorry you lost your job. So many others are in the same boat. I don't know if that's more comforting or scarier. But you know this is temporary. The question is how long? I know none of that is little comfort right now. I wish I could say the words to ease your anxiety. But there are no words. I wish you peace and comfort during the difficult time ahead.
@changeforeverlj - such a spot on insight about our reaction to the human tragedy we are all experiencing. I do find myself actively compartmentalizing my emotions just to get by. Its exhausting. This is an epochal moment like the Civil War, both World Wars and the Spanish Flu - those events upended society and changed it forever.
@pamiede - so many of us got stuck right before we got under 200. I don't know why that is, but I can tell you the scale will get there if you keep doing what you have been doing.
And it is finally Saturday! Raise your hand if you felt like this past week took 3 months to get through it. But Saturday means check in day:
SW: 286.5
GW: 180
3/1: 198.6
3/7: 198.4
3/14: 196.4 - 90 pounds down!
3/20: 194.8
3/27: 193.2
3/31:
So I had all these non-fitness goals but I am just not going to bother listing them here. Only goals that matter now are logging my food, keeping up with running and walking. I just don't have the patience for minutia anymore. I know those little goals were what kept me accountable on on track for the bulk of my weight loss, but times are different now.7 -
@changeforeverlj: I make my menus up five weeks at a time. It is not as awful or hard to do as it sounds. If anyone wants I can explain how I do it, and of course you can adapt it to you. I got in the habit of doing five weeks because we got paid monthly, and months are not always four weeks precisely; this made sure that I had the gap covered, so to speak. But at the same time I wanted things to repeat not too often, so it was, "Oh, great, Fettucini Alfredo!" instead of "Oh, Fettucini Alfredo again. (sigh)" Five to six weeks, I find, is about right for people to start saying, "Hey, we haven't had Fettucini Alfredo for a while. I'd like to have that again sometime!"6
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Hi Guys!
I wanted to post today because I really want to share some things with you. So many of you have sent comforting words and I just want to return the favor. We are in trying and hard times. The anxiety levels are high and the future is uncertain. I am right there with you. There are so many on here reaching out to each other with help and encouragement! This thread and the friends I have made really make a difference in my life, not just for my weight loss journey. I am saying prayers for everyone to get through this stronger than we were before!
I can say that I have really worked on some things these past few days that has helped me tremendously!
@aliciap0116 and @mmdevaux have mentioned the phit and phat podcast and how helpful it is. I concur. But I thought I would pull out just a few things that she is saying in these last few weeks that has helped me.
Maybe it will help...
One thing I have stopped doing is looking at the news, Facebook and other media outlets,one of her suggestions. I have only checked my sons school district page and my county web page for any stay at home orders (my state has not issued one yet). And believe me I am not going out anyway! Let me tell you the anxiety has lowered tremendously since I have done this.
Two...I have started journaling and getting my thoughts out on paper...she calls it thought downloads. My mind just goes through tornadoes of thoughts and creates more anxiety for me. Putting it down on paper helps me organize it and it's not so bad. Another part of this process is to list 5 things I am grateful for. 1 thing that I love about myself. And what you will eat for that day. There is more to it then this but just these things are helping me.
Three...whether you are working from home or not working at all....make a to do list. Prioritize the list and mark the top 3 on the list. Then put 1 on your calendar for that day...and show up for it. It doesn't matter if you don't get the other things done, but show up for that 1 thing. You will start a process of making small commitments that will lead to small successes and eventually you will start building larger commitments.
These things seem small, but are huge in a time of uncertainty. A time that we are out of our routine, your normal food is scarce, you have endless hours to look in the fridge or in the pantry,you are an essential employee, you just lost your job etc.
I am going to list my 5 things I am grateful for...and the 1 thing about myself I love today. Maybe we could take a break and do this?
1. I am grateful for my son, my little miracle
2. I am grateful for already having a web ex job interview on Monday
3. I am grateful for our health care workers, essential employees still having to go to work and risk being exposed.
4. I am grateful that I can stay at home during this time
5. I am grateful for this thread
The 1 thing I love about myself today is that I have some rocking hair going on during this thing!
My top to do on my list today is to clean out my junk drawers
Again, prayers and comfort to all of you! Hang in there...try your best to make good choices and show up for yourselves! I know you can do it!
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Love this quote.8 -
https://nypost.com/2020/03/26/obesity-increases-risk-for-coronavirus-complications-report/
When I started at 288 my BMI was 42.53...”Morbid Obesity”. Now I am 226..my BMI is 32.57 “Obese Class 1”. My BMI will be 29.84 when I get to 208 pounds!! That’s not much to go!! Oh! My! Gosh! I didn’t even realize I was that close!
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@BrownSugar, You don't have far to go! I hope I can follow in your footsteps! Scary article you posted from NY Post, if ever there was a wake-up call for all of us its now!!
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changeforeverlj wrote: »@BrownSugar, You don't have far to go! I hope I can follow in your footsteps! Scary article you posted from NY Post, if ever there was a wake-up call for all of us its now!!
Between the article and learning that the virus can be suspended in the air (like an aerosol) for up to 30 minutes or longer😬!
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2020/03/17/health/coronavirus-surfaces-aerosols.amp.html
Anything we can do to become healthier is critical🙏🏽
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BrownSugar174 wrote: »@KeriA Does the university have an online career center program which would allow your student to search jobs, upload a resume and communicate with potential employers? GWU has an online career center program called HandShake which allows the students to apply for on campus jobs, internships and permanent jobs with what seems to be a thousand employers. Her major/minor is international affairs/political science. Between using HandShake and her networking she’s had internships in her field since her freshman year. She started this internship with a DC based political consulting firm in January. What is your child’s major?
My daughter is getting a degree in Computer Science and Software Engineering. She does use HandShake at her school. She has done some career fairs at her career center when she had time. Many of the male students have jobs lined up. Part of the issue is she doesn't want to work while in school. She has ADHD and needs to stay focused on classes. She is getting mostly A's. Many internships want you to work part-time while in school. However this summer she wants to start working since she only has capstone which can be work related. I am wondering how you get a job when people are only working at home? Political Science is a great field for her location!2 -
Just a very quick, late update. I spent a good four hours on the phone with my Dad and my brother today.
I've been able to read, not always able to keep up with the responses.
@mmccloy12 - Sorry to hear about your job. If I recall, your company had recently laid off a lot of people, so if I had to guess the current situation may have put them in a bad financial position, if not on the verge of going out of business. So happy to hear you have an interview tomorrow! Best of luck, I hope some of the recent successes you've had with your weight and health carry over to give you confidence tomorrow!
@BrownSugar174 - I've seen other sources that state obesity is a factor in corona virus mortality. It's strange to me that it's not included in the media blast that I've seen with TV ads. It's also true that it's a general factor in morbidity and mortality for pneumonia as well, but generally it is said that's the case because abdominal obesity specifically reduces ventilation, and clearing the infection becomes more difficult. Interesting to see the overall issue of inflammation being mentioned here too. Thanks for posting!
@KeriA - I have not done Corinne's official program, I have been listening to her podcast. As you mentioned, it's not anything I didn't figure out some way on my own. A lot of what she says is reinforcement for me, but managing the mental and emotional perspective on weight loss has been a bit of an eye opener. (I wrote about that a bit more below.) I'm glad you are figuring things out in your household during this time, and have the time to go through her program in depth.
@jspeyer - I can understand not having the mental energy for minutia at times like these. I also can understand how others are comforted by having something they can feel in control of right now, like @AlexandraFindsHerself1971. I think I fall somewhere in between where it's the routine that suits me. I've always said that exercise regulates a lot of things for me: physiologically, mentally, and now with how work has been crazy, having that time to get out to walk or run makes it seem like something is still normal.
Height: 5' 6"
SW (09/08/2019): 239.2 lbs
March SW (3/1/20): 179.4 lbs
3/8/2020: 180.2 lbs
3/15/2020: 180.0
3/22/2020: 175.2
3/29/2020: 174.2
March GW: 173 lbs
GW: 150 lbs (then reconsider)
My goals for March are:- Cardio for 45-60 min, 5-6 times a week, 2-3 of the sessions Couch-to-10K workouts, with a long run on the weekend. Check! I think I've also maybe got to the point where I can just do a long run on the weekend and skip the long endurance-building walk. I ran 8 solid miles this weekend, with an additional 0.5 slow-run cool down.
- Core exercises at least 3 times a week. Also need to add other weight training for legs, upper body. – Started back to this mid-week, and it might explain why my scale weight was up and down. I am definitely making a new plan for April and going forward.
- Continue to drink water – Check, though on the average it's definitely down since being at home.
- Take better care of my skin in hopes it will start to regain its shape. Hoping faithfulness here will be rewarded in the long run. This has been a hopeless pursuit this month.
My one comment about today's weight is that it is a very dry weight. I weighed at a little after noon, and I really had not had anything to eat or drink at that point. So I definitely expect some rebound tomorrow morning, and I don't believe I'll make goal in the next few days. I'm still happy that the trend is down and not up, and I believe my time will come.
What follows is a sort of journal or thought download. It is quite personal, and if you read I hope that it might be something insightful for you.
I commented above that sometimes there's some topic in Corinne's Phit-n-Phat podcast that makes me see something about my life a lot more clearly. This past week, I received official word that the Broad Street Run will be postponed until October. I'm happy it's being postponed and not cancelled. And I didn't think I'd be able to run the whole race in just a few weeks, so I'm happy that I've got the extra time to train.
But can I also say that I am disappointed? That this is a race I've been waiting five years to run and now this has happened? Without someone saying I'm not entitled to feel that way and I should be grateful I'm not one of the people in the hospital on a ventilator?
Can I say I'm disappointed that my gym is no longer open? For many reasons but also because of the "stupid" reason that there was some guy who seemed to have some sustained interest in me, for what feels like once in my life, then this happened? Don't I deserve to have someone in my life? Without someone saying I'll have other chances, or saying that I should be grateful I'm not one of the people in the hospital on a ventilator?
If you don't believe that my thinking I'm not entitled to have feelings could be at the core of why I overeat, I'll post a confession here: I could not even finish typing those paragraphs above without going into the kitchen and eating a couple of spoonfuls of almond butter straight from the jar.
And I can't remember what Corinne said that prompted it, but I finally, finally have gotten monumentally angry over the last week or so at every one finding a way to belittle or negate my feelings. For almost any time I can remember in my life.
Like how my mother, since the time I was 5 years old, told me I wasn't entitled to be a sad daughter who missed her father once her parents had separated. (For the record, my Dad took us for visitation every weekend, every holiday, and would attend our recitals and school plays. He was not a deadbeat.) I paid the price for my feelings many times over - from my mother's actual punishments, to me constantly swallowing my feelings because that was the only place there was ever any validation.
There's more, but that's probably the big one. Where it all started.
At least I have the belief that I had to get over my past and live in the present to lose weight. I would never have gotten this far without at least that. But clearly, I've got more emotional threads to untangle if I want to keep it off for good.
It's also good to come here and just vent...and have some people who will say, "I'm so sorry you feel that way."
Hope everyone is holding everything together. I know it's tough right now, but try to stay hopeful for the future. April is only two days away! When I was running yesterday, I saw something up ahead at the side of the trail and I thought it was a toad. It was a bunny! Spring is really on its way!9 -
Sorry, I keep forgetting to update in this group
2/28 - 320.2
3/6 - 320.6
3/13 - 318.4
3/20 - 316.6
3/27 - ? Hopefully down again
I was not
3/27 - 317.4 but the weather here in crappy SoDak is getting better and I dug my bike out of the shed and plan to get some riding in this week 4 -
@AlexandraFindsHerself I love lamb. I love the idea of meatballs ready to go in the freezer. I hope you boyfriends gets better soon.
@pamiede that is so frustrating to be so close to Onderland. Love your maps!
@torihudson6 You are making good progress and keeping safe is priority now
@speyerj Raising my hand ✋
@mmccloy12 I have been watching a lot of phit n phat videos and took her free course. Two seems like a good idea for me too. I seem only to get one big thing done each day lately. Yay an interview. I will be praying!
@BrownSugar I have gotten down my BMI some and that article is one reason why I am still working on this now. I had seen something about this but hadn’t seen an article and they don’t usually list obesity as an underlying condition. Thanks for posting the link.
I can’t believe I missed a day checking on here. And it is late today. Tomorrow my daughter goes back to classes. We took some time to straighten up Saturday and I feel like it will be easier to keep things clean. I feel like I am better organized for the week ahead. Let's have a good week!
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SW 230.78 (16/03/2020)
223.96 (23/03/2020)
221.54 (30/03/2020) YAY!
GW 143 (Gulp, seems very far away)
April 2020 my goal is to loose 8.8 (212.74), Excercise goal: 45 min cardio 3-4 times a week, & weight training
@mmdeveau I can so relate to your post! I am an emotional eater and it started when I was 16 and my parents went through a horrible, messy, divorce. Acknowledging our feelings was really unacceptable, we just didn't have the platform to deal with our emotions, so I started binge eating secretly. And it has been a rollercoaster ever since. Now I understand that it is vital to express your feelings, and it's ok to have a range of emotions in fact its vital to our mental well being. So I salute your honesty! It's completely ok for you to be disappointed that your run is postponed!
I'm going to listen to a phit n phat podcast!
Good luck, be productive and healthy this week and going into April! Let's keep moving!7 -
It wasn't until I got into relationships where my feelings could be visible and respected as valid that I could start to think about losing weight. Because now I was safe.8
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Monday Weigh-In
SW(1/6/2020): 260.4
3/1: 237.3
3/9: 235.7
3/16: 232.9
3/23: 229.8
3/30: 229.6 (-30.8)
March Goal: 227.3
I'm bummed with today's weight...and I totally know it's normal for our weight to fluctuate but end of last week I was at 227.7 and thought I did well over the weekend. Oh well...new week of online teaching for me, almost a new month. Gotta keep going!3 -
@KeriA I know you are so very proud of her for staying focused and achieving this milestone🎓! Several of the employers are getting creative because they have to. They are initially communicating with candidates via email for applications and resumes. Once the candidate makes it through that stage the employer will interview the candidate via Skype/FaceTime. If the candidate is selected for the internship/job then they can do the on boarding process online for some of the positions. One of my daughters friends just did this for a summer internship.
George Washington University - Elliott School of International Affairs was her first choice for many reason..one of which was the location of the school. Her very first internship was at the Eleanor Roosevelt Papers Project as a first semester freshman. The internship was a requirement as part of her Introduction to Comparative Politics class. The professor developed relationships with 10 organizations. Each student had to submit a resume and be interviewed. She was selected and worked with the project doing research at the Library of Congress with a graduate student.
Is your daughter on LinkedIn? She can apply for jobs and internships there as well. I’m not sure how beneficial LinkedIn premium is. My daughter is on LinkedIn and makes sure she keeps it up to date but does not do the premium.1 -
@mmdeveau - Of course you are disappointed. This was something you have dreamed about for so long and now events outside your control have deferred that dream - and that applies to both the cute gym guy and the race. I have similar disappointments that are really just first world problems in the grand scheme of things, but I am still disappointed. I am reminded by Sam's great soliloquy at the end of Casablanca "I'm no good at being noble, but it doesn't take much to see that the problems of three little people don't amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world", but still....
So go ahead and be angry, be sad - you've earned that right. Eventually you'll move on to acceptance but you get to do so at your own pace.4 -
@mmdeveau We are all of us, in one way or another, going through the stages of grief right now. We've lost freedom, routines, schedules, plans, and in many ways just our normal way of life. You don't have to be having it as bad as the hospitalized people to still be struggling with all that. Misery isn't a competition.
It hurts. It's tragic. I had a similar feeling when my mom died: so much lost potential, so many happy things gone, and above all that, helplessness to make any of it better.
Be sad and angry. It's ok. But try to find healthy outlets for it if you can. Food will not make you feel better. Finding some things you can control and controlling the heck out of them might. When mom died I blazed a path of furious organization through her entire house.4
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