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Also.. I know it's harder for others being seperated from others, some people have that deep family connection.. I hope I'm not offending anyone8
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KrissCanDoThis wrote: »Also.. I know it's harder for others being seperated from others, some people have that deep family connection.. I hope I'm not offending anyone
I think it might have sounded like you were saying Easter isn't important. Easter is a huge family celebration for a lot of us, and it hurts to miss it. Just as much as it would hurt to not celebrate Christmas with family or friends. I miss my nephews terribly, and pictures from my SIL of them with their baskets was just a reminder of the time I'm missing. And Easter is I think a little more culturally important in many countries outside of North America, much closer to the importance of Christmas than it is here.
I know that's not how you meant it btw, and I'm not criticizing and I wasn't offended
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L1zardQueen wrote: »I checked and it turned out that Home Depot is open (even this year) on Easter, so I figured I'd try it again, and also realized there was one I hadn't thought of that is probably the closest to me (it's west, so I wasn't as familiar with it as the ones between me and work or the one north of me). Went over there, and there was a line, but only two people, so I figured I'd try it out. The sign said only 100 people total in the store (which is quite big, like most HDs). I only needed to go to the garden/seed section, and it was probably the most relaxing time I've ever spent in a HD, I was in and out quickly, and they actually had all the seeds I was looking for, so yay.
Then I stopped for gas on the way home at the closest gas station to my place and they were selling masks (better than my makeshift masks that I've been using), so I picked up some. Typical stand outside and do the transaction through a tray gas station kind of thing.
Someone just a few houses down was selling flowers to plant, which I saw on my way home (they'd posted something in Nextdoor a while ago, but I didn't realize they were doing it every Sunday), so I got some of those too (transactions outside, everyone standing back and wearing masks). Bit more out of the house interaction than I'm totally comfortable with, but all pretty safe.
Irrationally happy about getting my seeds and flowers for Easter.
Which seeds did you get? And flowers?
Oh, I missed this before.
For flowers I got sweet allium, pansies, a hydrangea, and a pericallis senetti. For seeds I really overdid, as I got them at HD where I was kind of rushing so just bought everything rather than doing what I normally would have, taking more time to think it through there. I'd assumed there would be less available and I was just going to get what I could find. So I ended up getting: cucumbers, leeks, carrots, green beans, peas, and radishes, plus marigolds, lavender (which I grew in my herb cart last year), and then some other flower seeds too (coneflowers, violas, black-eyed susans, daisies, California poppies). No clue what I will do with them all.6 -
Mmmm... okay, yes I can see that.. my apologies, I guess I just mostly had my mind on those stories of people with 20 cars in their drive ways and even tho police were chasing them out, they only returned anyway..
If my mom had decided to have our family over for any reason, not just easter, with my 82 year old grandmother there, I'd be livid with her, if she got sick, I would never wanna be in that position where she could be in the hospital and critical and because of covid, im not even allowed to be there...
As much as I miss them.. at least I know that we did everything we could to prevent it, those people having those parties, potentially exposing their loved ones to a virus they themselves may not even have experienced symptoms for yet.. I just couldnt imagine taking that chance..9 -
Lynn- I was surprised the big item pickup wasn’t cancelled either. Some pick up the metal items off the curb to copper folks toss for money at this time others for furniture 🪑 who can’t afford a couch or dining table. Everyone knows if it’s not at the curb it’s not yours! Normally no one walks up a driveway to grab or onto a porch either. I just got done bleaching my trashcans all of them for the trash pickup y I bleach them before y after with the bleach water I just used to clean my home so none is wasted!
Got my packages finally 1 can of soup busted open the delivery guy fumbled dropped. Luckily wasn’t bad so was able to save what was inside I wiped off what was outside if it y top of the can soup. So 1/3rd can wasted but enough to heat at high heat just for me. Originally was for a casserole oh well. Rebleached the doorbell for next person to ring it.
I don’t mind the homes that invited a few relatives very few to celebrate practiced social distancing best they can maybe even remembered their masks hopefully.It was the tons of friends to too many family member ones. If someone has 5 kids who had 5 each plus grandma y grandpa called up Uncle so-so his large family that’s not good! More folks less ability in a home with small backyards to social distance they had no masks . They could have scheduled times to come to see grandma even so all the huge gaggles took turns not all at once have masks in social distancing to protect grandma . The ones I saw were friends mainly huge groups tons of cars cases of beer in hand hugging shaking hands bbq going no PPE on anyone! Saw friends stop by grab a beer sit down to eat bouncing the neighbors baby in their knees no masks. Just unnecessarily putting themselves at risk y others. They could easily have had outdoor bbq 🍗 scheduled times PPE on chairs far apart eat in your lap talk enjoy go home next set come in if family members only. Not a good time to invite a friend. Well will see how this plays out I’m expecting a jump in numbers from this. Too many had the same let’s bbq in groups of 10-100 people! The house with 20cars was not 1 person per car it was spouses with their kids pouring out with older family too crammed in like sardines in a can! Some were even in large vans full to the brim. Surprised still that the cops didn’t give a citation! Holidays will still be here next year we skipped Easter completely will celebrate next year. Another family member chose her kids to only be with hubby y her Easter egg hunt in the yard watch a church broadcast send pics to grandma.3 -
Easter is huge here. We usually have a big easter eve event with the whole (extended) family - we're talking 40 people, maybe more. First day of easter all friends and family visit us, next day we visit them, then for 2-3 days we get a few more visitors here and there. We serve coffee, chocolate, and easter sweets. The whole house is usually heavily decorated just like Christmas. It's more cultural than religious although my mom is religious and there will be no mass for her this time.
This year it will be different. Our relatives live one house over, so we're thinking barbeque together this easter eve. I would personally skip it if it didn't mean so much to the rest of the family, but they need this. We did not decorate and there will be no visitors. I'm slightly uncomfortable, but with 0 confirmed cases in the city (and it being closed off) and people confined to the areas they live in, I feel they deserve to feel a little bit normal for once. I'm thinking about skipping it just to have some sorely needed alone time, but we'll see.5 -
Mmmm... I guess that's what I meant by "cant you miss easter" I think I just didnt say it right lol... those scenarios you described were who I was directing that comment too, the people who blatantly put everyone at risk just because it's a holiday, if today is about your faith, worship, but for the love of your family and friends, the bbqs, the beer, the close quarters and no protection, cant you just miss that this one time?7
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My grandmother just recently found out my uncle has lung cancer and it doesnt look good for him, this will be her third time losing a child, my heart really broke for her because he lives in another province and she cant even go be with him.
I guess that's another reason it really fires me up because there are people out there who are in these hurtful circumstances who are doing what they can to make sure this doesnt get worse and stay home all the while their son is dying from cancer...and you have other people who just dont care, prolonging the situation13 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »Mmmm... I guess that's what I meant by "cant you miss easter" I think I just didnt say it right lol... those scenarios you described were who I was directing that comment too, the people who blatantly put everyone at risk just because it's a holiday, if today is about your faith, worship, but for the love of your family and friends, the bbqs, the beer, the close quarters and no protection, cant you just miss that this one time?
We did, but it's hard. Easter in my family is another family feast day much like Thanksgiving or Christmas. A big component of the holiday is getting together as a family and doing a ham or leg of lamb, etc and sharing as a family. My mom desperately wanted to come over to enjoy the holiday and to see my boys who she hasn't seen in a month now except for face time, but I had to say no. It's hard telling your mother she can't come over.
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cwolfman13 wrote: »KrissCanDoThis wrote: »Mmmm... I guess that's what I meant by "cant you miss easter" I think I just didnt say it right lol... those scenarios you described were who I was directing that comment too, the people who blatantly put everyone at risk just because it's a holiday, if today is about your faith, worship, but for the love of your family and friends, the bbqs, the beer, the close quarters and no protection, cant you just miss that this one time?
We did, but it's hard. Easter in my family is another family feast day much like Thanksgiving or Christmas. A big component of the holiday is getting together as a family and doing a ham or leg of lamb, etc and sharing as a family. My mom desperately wanted to come over to enjoy the holiday and to see my boys who she hasn't seen in a month now except for face time, but I had to say no. It's hard telling your mother she can't come over.
I agree, my birthday back in march was much the same, she couldnt understand why I wouldnt just sneak into her building and celebrate with her and my grandmother (at that time their apartment building had banned visitors) but it had to be done, and yeah it sucks spending anything alone lol.. but I feel better knowing I didnt go.
Every time I go to the grocery store I wonder if that's the trip where I touched that can of soup or pack of chicken that someone else infected touched and it will be my turn.5 -
With the situation in nursing and assisted living homes, I'm sort of reevaluating my life plans. A block from me, there's a brand new assisted living place, a very nice one, with 4 coronavirus deaths and, I think, 38 infections. There's been another one in a neighboring county where the employees were either too sick or too scared to come to work and they had to evacuate the patients. I find the situation of the elderly in these circumstances almost too heartbreaking to bear.
My mother is almost 80 and lives alone. This whole situation is making me realize that I don't ever want her to have to go to an assisted living home if we can at all avoid it. I live in a different state than she does, but I'm also the only one in the family in a reasonable position to live with her when that time comes. I'm feeling very selfish that I really do not want to have to move to her city, but also trying to accept the fact that I think that's the very best option. I know it will still probably be several years before I have to do that, but I think it's the best choice; I just hope I can learn to be happy about it before it's time.
And meanwhile, my mood is a strange kind of sick of staying at home, but also too lazy to even want to go out for a walk today. And I'm sad that I didn't get to have any Easter candy. Does See's not realize they're an essential business? Isn't my need for chocolate eggs worth someone's life? (that was sarcasm).13 -
https://youtu.be/_T7MGWWVVC8
Just saw this Don’t see how she lost, theirs Lots of Essential Workers especially in the medical field that’s a Single parent. Makes no sense that she lost to me. A Single Dad Doctor would he get the same verdict? A Single Mom/Dad Nurse could they have this happen to them in the same state or city? What about other essential workers like a grocery store cashier?3 -
With the situation in nursing and assisted living homes, I'm sort of reevaluating my life plans. A block from me, there's a brand new assisted living place, a very nice one, with 4 coronavirus deaths and, I think, 38 infections. There's been another one in a neighboring county where the employees were either too sick or too scared to come to work and they had to evacuate the patients. I find the situation of the elderly in these circumstances almost too heartbreaking to bear.
My mother is almost 80 and lives alone. This whole situation is making me realize that I don't ever want her to have to go to an assisted living home if we can at all avoid it. I live in a different state than she does, but I'm also the only one in the family in a reasonable position to live with her when that time comes. I'm feeling very selfish that I really do not want to have to move to her city, but also trying to accept the fact that I think that's the very best option. I know it will still probably be several years before I have to do that, but I think it's the best choice; I just hope I can learn to be happy about it before it's time.
And meanwhile, my mood is a strange kind of sick of staying at home, but also too lazy to even want to go out for a walk today. And I'm sad that I didn't get to have any Easter candy. Does See's not realize they're an essential business? Isn't my need for chocolate eggs worth someone's life? (that was sarcasm).
I work for a nursing home myself, where one of the homes ended up with cases of it between several staff and residents. The one I work at, well all.of them here, there is temperature screening at the door, health questions asked, hand sanitizer is applied before you can even touch the door handle and your phone is also to be sanitized before you can take it into the building. Staffing in nursing homes has always needed to be looked at and improved, the people who work there, they do love the residents with their whole hearts, they care about their safety just like family, this situation does put a strain on workers, who are working 12 hour shifts and work short normally, now even more so with the virus, staff are being denied entry with even a slight rise in their temperature, and there is no one replacing them, so the ones working have to work harder. They burn out.. and that's the sad truth, they're worried too just as much as anyone about catching it and giving it to a resident or another staff member.
Masks are mandatory here now. All residents from a unit have been moved to make a space for isolation in case someone does get sick, residents dining tables are spaced out for social distancing and they are not allowed to leave and go to other neighborhoods or leave the property and all visitors and care packages have been banned from the facility.
I really hope this becomes a wake up call to the government here that their funding to these facilities and their requirements for staffing levels are insufficient, even more so now in this time because there is no one there to fall back on
I hope my grandmother or mother can also stay in their home, not because the staff would treat them terrible or neglect them, but because the government is leaving them in a situation that in an emergency can lead to not being able to provide the care they deserve.10 -
So...my lucky small town. They've chosen our local correctional center in which to transfer 28 Covid-19 positive inmates. The staff and workers that will be handling them will be housed at a motel close by. So where do you suppose all the workers will be doing their shopping in our small home town? They have exactly 2 grocery stores and 2 pharmacies to shop at. I was feeling semi-safe here but now, not so much.
Our town manager was getting the blame for allowing it to happen and he didn't even have it a clue it had been decided.
Very worrisome for our small community. I suspect our area will become a hot spot over the coming few weeks. That hillside hermit hut I've always fantasized about, sounds better all the time. 9 -
It’s hard.
If it were up to me, I’d see my DD. My only child. Then, knowing how devastated she would be, for the rest of her life, if one of us contracted the virus and she felt responsible for possibly giving it to us, I know it’s for the best. Same way I would feel if I gave it to her.
There are a lot of very wise and selfless people on here. It truly helps getting through this. Thanks!❤️13 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »With the situation in nursing and assisted living homes, I'm sort of reevaluating my life plans. A block from me, there's a brand new assisted living place, a very nice one, with 4 coronavirus deaths and, I think, 38 infections. There's been another one in a neighboring county where the employees were either too sick or too scared to come to work and they had to evacuate the patients. I find the situation of the elderly in these circumstances almost too heartbreaking to bear.
My mother is almost 80 and lives alone. This whole situation is making me realize that I don't ever want her to have to go to an assisted living home if we can at all avoid it. I live in a different state than she does, but I'm also the only one in the family in a reasonable position to live with her when that time comes. I'm feeling very selfish that I really do not want to have to move to her city, but also trying to accept the fact that I think that's the very best option. I know it will still probably be several years before I have to do that, but I think it's the best choice; I just hope I can learn to be happy about it before it's time.
And meanwhile, my mood is a strange kind of sick of staying at home, but also too lazy to even want to go out for a walk today. And I'm sad that I didn't get to have any Easter candy. Does See's not realize they're an essential business? Isn't my need for chocolate eggs worth someone's life? (that was sarcasm).
I work for a nursing home myself, where one of the homes ended up with cases of it between several staff and residents. The one I work at, well all.of them here, there is temperature screening at the door, health questions asked, hand sanitizer is applied before you can even touch the door handle and your phone is also to be sanitized before you can take it into the building. Staffing in nursing homes has always needed to be looked at and improved, the people who work there, they do love the residents with their whole hearts, they care about their safety just like family, this situation does put a strain on workers, who are working 12 hour shifts and work short normally, now even more so with the virus, staff are being denied entry with even a slight rise in their temperature, and there is no one replacing them, so the ones working have to work harder. They burn out.. and that's the sad truth, they're worried too just as much as anyone about catching it and giving it to a resident or another staff member.
Masks are mandatory here now. All residents from a unit have been moved to make a space for isolation in case someone does get sick, residents dining tables are spaced out for social distancing and they are not allowed to leave and go to other neighborhoods or leave the property and all visitors and care packages have been banned from the facility.
I really hope this becomes a wake up call to the government here that their funding to these facilities and their requirements for staffing levels are insufficient, even more so now in this time because there is no one there to fall back on
I hope my grandmother or mother can also stay in their home, not because the staff would treat them terrible or neglect them, but because the government is leaving them in a situation that in an emergency can lead to not being able to provide the care they deserve.
Bless you, @KrissCanDoThis , for the work you do, in the circumstances in which you do it - under normal circumstances, let alone these times.
This next is generic, not intended as just personal to you, just for clarity:
I'm seeing nursing home workers, sometimes now, being demonized as uncaring or incompetent, when these circumstances arise. I'm sure that there are rare cases where that's true. I think it's also true that some profit-driven nursing homes cynically create circumstances where caring and proper precautions are impossible, or where workers are so pushed and prodded by poor management until their normal humane impulses are driven out of them. It's a field with, generally, high turnover and under-training. But I think the majority of workers are doing the best they can, in the circumstances where they find themselves, and - when that breaks down - feeling devastated by the deaths of elders that they truly care about. And they, themselves, have heightened risks for themselves and their families, like other health care workers.
This occupational field is one where understaffing is common, and low pay is widespread. The high cost of care almost drives this to be true: Care is expensive, and average people can't afford it. It's a high-touch field, difficult to automate into reduced costs, and therefore costs rise disproportionately over time (as is also true with other high-touch, high-staff fields like general health care, education, and more).
When my dad wanted (<= right word) to move to assisted living, we were lucky to find a privately-owned facility that was reasonably cost-competitive, but with enlightened management: They realized that if they paid workers a little more than the average, trained them well, and treated them well, they'd have much better staff retention. That meant that not only were their training costs lower, and maybe even slightly fewer (trained) staff could provide better care than more (less experienced, trained) staff, so costs were more stable. Moreover, the long-term staff came to know and understand their individual residents, and were better able to tailor care to them and their health.
Nursing home/assisted living workers are one of the groups I'm holding in my heart now. I can't imagine how difficult it is, how frightening, for the many caring, humane, decent people who are in those jobs.16 -
No need to thank me, I truly do love my job and love being there for the residents.
Min wage here is 11.55 an hour. We are paid 16.61 an hour, I am considered support services, I do food generally, so cooking, dishes, making sure residents who need special diets get what they need, snacks and hydration, CCAs who provide the care get paid a little bit more then I do.. but maybe only like 1.50 more.
Weekends we get paid 2.15 more an hour. The nursing home I work for is a non profit and rely heavily on donations, our wages are determined by the government, so doesnt matter where you work, if its government funded the wage is the same, the government also decides what acceptable staffing levels are, which is about 8 residents per 1 care worker. The old nursing home I worked at had 24 residents per unit and had 3 staff, the one I'm at now has 13 per unit and they have 2 staff. The government decided that this is acceptable, so having an extra person per unit to share in the load and offer more divided attention to each resident is not something they are willing to budget for, in fact a couple years ago they removed 3.2 million in funding. We had a wage freeze for years, because our contracts usually come with a wage increase yearly, they stopped that for a long time. We only recently obtained 16.61 as our wage.
I cant speak for other nursing homes, but I know the one I work for, if they had the money it would be spent on the residents and the facilities. They just recently built solariums for the residents to have an open space to share with their families. They have done things like incorporate something called "true doors" where the resident occupying the room can choose a design of a door that looks like it comes from a beautiful Victorian house, they come in tons of styles and colors and they made the units look all different and unique to remove that "hospital" feel. These things made possible due to donations from businesses and wealthy people who support the company.
They do their best to listen to their residents and their families needs.
But as you mentioned staff turnover is high. Not only that but because of staffing shortages, a lot of staff are denied vacation, leaving them more opportunities to burn out and call in sick.
Staff are heartbroken when any resident passes away. They dont just want more staff to make it easier on them, they want staff to give the residents more.12 -
@KrissCanDoThis
You are an amazing young woman! It takes very special people to care for the elderly.
I agree with AnnPT77!8 -
I appreciate it. Thank you. 2 -
How funny that this was posted just two hours ago talking about this very thing
https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/masks-now-mandatory-for-workers-at-n-s-long-term-care-homes-1.55309533 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »With the situation in nursing and assisted living homes, I'm sort of reevaluating my life plans. A block from me, there's a brand new assisted living place, a very nice one, with 4 coronavirus deaths and, I think, 38 infections. There's been another one in a neighboring county where the employees were either too sick or too scared to come to work and they had to evacuate the patients. I find the situation of the elderly in these circumstances almost too heartbreaking to bear.
My mother is almost 80 and lives alone. This whole situation is making me realize that I don't ever want her to have to go to an assisted living home if we can at all avoid it. I live in a different state than she does, but I'm also the only one in the family in a reasonable position to live with her when that time comes. I'm feeling very selfish that I really do not want to have to move to her city, but also trying to accept the fact that I think that's the very best option. I know it will still probably be several years before I have to do that, but I think it's the best choice; I just hope I can learn to be happy about it before it's time.
And meanwhile, my mood is a strange kind of sick of staying at home, but also too lazy to even want to go out for a walk today. And I'm sad that I didn't get to have any Easter candy. Does See's not realize they're an essential business? Isn't my need for chocolate eggs worth someone's life? (that was sarcasm).
I work for a nursing home myself, where one of the homes ended up with cases of it between several staff and residents. The one I work at, well all.of them here, there is temperature screening at the door, health questions asked, hand sanitizer is applied before you can even touch the door handle and your phone is also to be sanitized before you can take it into the building. Staffing in nursing homes has always needed to be looked at and improved, the people who work there, they do love the residents with their whole hearts, they care about their safety just like family, this situation does put a strain on workers, who are working 12 hour shifts and work short normally, now even more so with the virus, staff are being denied entry with even a slight rise in their temperature, and there is no one replacing them, so the ones working have to work harder. They burn out.. and that's the sad truth, they're worried too just as much as anyone about catching it and giving it to a resident or another staff member.
Masks are mandatory here now. All residents from a unit have been moved to make a space for isolation in case someone does get sick, residents dining tables are spaced out for social distancing and they are not allowed to leave and go to other neighborhoods or leave the property and all visitors and care packages have been banned from the facility.
I really hope this becomes a wake up call to the government here that their funding to these facilities and their requirements for staffing levels are insufficient, even more so now in this time because there is no one there to fall back on
I hope my grandmother or mother can also stay in their home, not because the staff would treat them terrible or neglect them, but because the government is leaving them in a situation that in an emergency can lead to not being able to provide the care they deserve.
Bless you, @KrissCanDoThis , for the work you do, in the circumstances in which you do it - under normal circumstances, let alone these times.
This next is generic, not intended as just personal to you, just for clarity:
I'm seeing nursing home workers, sometimes now, being demonized as uncaring or incompetent, when these circumstances arise. I'm sure that there are rare cases where that's true. I think it's also true that some profit-driven nursing homes cynically create circumstances where caring and proper precautions are impossible, or where workers are so pushed and prodded by poor management until their normal humane impulses are driven out of them. It's a field with, generally, high turnover and under-training. But I think the majority of workers are doing the best they can, in the circumstances where they find themselves, and - when that breaks down - feeling devastated by the deaths of elders that they truly care about. And they, themselves, have heightened risks for themselves and their families, like other health care workers.
This occupational field is one where understaffing is common, and low pay is widespread. The high cost of care almost drives this to be true: Care is expensive, and average people can't afford it. It's a high-touch field, difficult to automate into reduced costs, and therefore costs rise disproportionately over time (as is also true with other high-touch, high-staff fields like general health care, education, and more).
When my dad wanted (<= right word) to move to assisted living, we were lucky to find a privately-owned facility that was reasonably cost-competitive, but with enlightened management: They realized that if they paid workers a little more than the average, trained them well, and treated them well, they'd have much better staff retention. That meant that not only were their training costs lower, and maybe even slightly fewer (trained) staff could provide better care than more (less experienced, trained) staff, so costs were more stable. Moreover, the long-term staff came to know and understand their individual residents, and were better able to tailor care to them and their health.
Nursing home/assisted living workers are one of the groups I'm holding in my heart now. I can't imagine how difficult it is, how frightening, for the many caring, humane, decent people who are in those jobs.
I shared this earlier, but will summarize quickly just so you know where I’m coming from. The nursing home which was the only facility we were able to get my father into was criminally negligent. They were for profit and not cheap. They already had repeated violations for all the circumstances I saw, so there was no point in reporting them. They also, according to my friends who work in health care, are about typical for our area.
On the surface they looked good. There were signs at the doors warning visitors not to come when ill, with hand sanitizer dispensers. The staff were all polite and pleasant and seemed caring.
You had to actually visit to learn that the gentleman who was my father’s roommate, who wasn’t allowed anything by mouth due to choking hazard, screamed and wailed for hours in a mostly incomprehensible voice that his mouth was dry and he was thirsty. It was like living in a circle of hell listening to the tortures of the damned, my father didn’t understand what this guy was doing or who he was, just that someone was continually wailing in agony. Only once did I ever see anyone address this guy, when someone was in to speak to me and could see that I was shuddering, she said, “You know you can’t have anything by mouth, Mr. So-and-so.” And left him to continue wailing. Setting aside the question of what should have been done for him, it was to me unconscionable that someone should be asked to share a room with someone screaming constantly, but we were at that point just grateful to have a room anywhere after being on a waiting list for two months while caring for my dad 24/7.
You had to visit to learn that when I asked for gloves to help my father who had a MRSA infection they didn’t even know where their supply of gloves were because it had never occurred to any of them to use such a thing. I watched them mess around with picc lines with filthy hands.
They didn’t match drugs to the illness when someone was sick. If you were sick you got the one antibiotic they prescribed to everybody who was sick, and the doctor signed off on it without actually visiting anyone.
You had to visit to see that my father, who needed assistance eating because he had no fine motor control, was literally left to starve. His meal tray wasn’t even placed within his reach, but on a table across the room. He wasn’t ambulatory since he was recovering from a partial amputation of his foot. Then the nurse had the nerve to tell me he “didn’t eat much.”
You had to visit at the right time of day to catch the “speech therapist” who claimed she was having “good sesssions” in which my completely non-verbal father “talked a lot,” sitting reading a book instead of interacting with him at all.
The first week I was unable to visit because I had an illness was also the week he went sharply downhill and then died. Yes, they basically killed him, and no, there was no point in suing when this is the standard of care everywhere here, with a couple of exceptions.
Sorry, I meant this to be short, but I still have a lot of anger. I’m sure there are lovely and caring nursing home workers somewhere. I never met one here. The ones here are underpaid and the low pay does not attract a good quality of people. In fact if I had a dollar for each time I’ve heard about someone useless who can’t finish college going to get a certification to work in health care, I wouldn’t have to work myself.19 -
@rheddmobile, I'm sorry that that has been your local experience. It is inconsistent with mine.
My father lived for several years in a privately-owned private-pay assisted living facility (that was not dramatically more expensive, compared to local facilities that accepted Medicare - IIRC, perhaps 10-15% higher). Prior to that, after an accident that instantly blinded him (among other injuries) and required physical rehab, for several months he was in a nursing home that accepted Medicare (and Medicare was covering his care, at that time). There was nothing wrong with him cognitively (at least after a short period when he was recovering from the immediate trauma and shock); he was able to make quite canny observations about what went on with himself, roommates in the nursing home, and other residents at the assisted living facility.
The general demeanor of staff at both was kind, and caring, by my observation, and his reports. The nursing home staff were stretched thin, but I didn't observe what I would call negligence, if negligence can be seen as a matter of failure to diligently do what is within one's control. One roommate was a young man who was permanently immobilized, maybe 30-something years old, unable to communicate, but with some degree of sentience. They were conscientious about keeping that man fed (by hand), clean, properly dressed daily, moving him throughout the day, turning on the TV and putting it in his sightlines during daytime, and even paying attention to which kinds of programs appeared most to entertain him (based on his facial expressions and wordless sounds).
During my dad's several-year residence in the assisted living facility, we went through several cardiac crises that required hospitalization. The staff were prompt and attentive. Since this was a few years back, there was nothing like Covid to deal with, but there were certainly opportunities for them to be inattentive and negligent. They weren't.
I don't disbelieve your experience. Perhaps we had unusually good experiences. I have no way of knowing. But my experience led me to believe that here, at least, the staff are (mostly) doing the best they are able for the patients. The main differences I saw between the two facilities were that the private-pay assisted living was more personalized/home-y, the staff seemed a little less time-stressed, and there appeared to be lower turnover, compared to the Medicare nursing home.5 -
College completion doesnt always make someone less useless or more caring..
I only say that as I have a grade 9 education, and my level of care to the residents isnt a result of schooling, it comes from inside.
I'm sorry that the nursing home experience you've had to deal with was that negative, it's unfortunate that the level of care is not kept.in check.
In the facility I work in, everyone has their own private room, only the two newest admitted residents share a double room until a private room opens. There is 1 double room on each unit. The LPNs are overseen by an RN and a nurse manager, residents symptoms are discussed and addressed professionally and privately.
In regards to the man screaming.. the resident and the surrounding residents would be an immediate concern. Firstly because dry mouth is an easy fix, and also they value the quality of life that the residents have. That is why cleaning machines cant be run in the neighborhoods during morning care or during meal times. Any residents required to be fed, even if they are in their rooms, the cca stays and feeds them, all food eaten or wasted is documented 3 times daily as its required by law and used by the dietitian that works there to address any dietary needs or changes.
Our facility goes through something called accreditation, where an outside company not connected to the facility comes in and checks everything, from cleanliness to making sure all paper work completed, right down to the temperature of the dishwashers, they also make sure that the facility is constantly making improvements to the residents lives and living areas. Accreditation scores are how the facility gets funded, last year we scored a 98.5% out of 100.
Everyone wears gloves. Gloves are changed after each care, gloves are changed between each room a housekeeper cleans and gloves are also worn by kitchen staff if something is required to be served by hand, like a sandwich.
Housekeeping carts are not transferred between units, housekeepers have 2 carts , 1 on each side to prevent cross contamination.
There is always some downtime through the day, but it's never put before the residents, if they need anything or a call bell rings, its answered.
Even our most challenging residents who have dementia, are met with patience and understanding, we try to be fair to everyone, because it's all their homes, we wouldnt be there without them.
I really wish you could experience a facility like the one I work at..12 -
I think a significant factor in health care in general, care homes, hospitals, etc. is related to management. There are just some places that I've walked onto the unit and there's a heavy feel to it. When staff don't feel supported or appreciated by management, it makes work just that much harder. When it feels like you aren't getting the equipment you need, the right staffing levels to keep people safe, a reasonable amount of down time within your own life, etc. it's really hard to not feel beaten down by that.
Years ago, when I first started working, I knew that I never wanted to be one of those cranky old nurses who made everyone around them miserable. When I start waking up in the morning dreading the day at work, I know it's time to move into a different area, whether that's a different site, different unit, or a completely different specialty. In healthcare where lives are significantly impacted by our decisions and our interactions with them, there is no excuse to continue working when you just don't care anymore. Change it or get out. The stakes are way too high.13 -
Agreed, as a part timer, I move from unit to unit, I dont get to spend long periods of time in one place and it really helps because you get a fresh environment and different staff and residents, you dont experience the heavy feeling when the scenery is always changing.
I always felt that should be the case with full time staff, however the facility also strives for continuity of care, where residents see familiar faces and staff arent always learning their needs and making things frustrating for the resident, so I get that too..
That's why vacations are so important.5 -
KrissCanDoThis wrote: »I really wish you could experience a facility like the one I work at..
I am almost willing to move to Nova Scotia if you could guarantee me a place like that!!!!
I am sure they must exist.
I would love to know where!2 -
Wow Easter 🐣 Party Cop warnings were numerous ! https://www.sanantonio.gov/Portals/0/Files/health/COVID19/Website Docs/DeclarationEnforcementReport-04132020.xlsx
Well then no wonder it sounded so loud outside why enough cars to open a car lot was at homes 🏡4 -
I dont know about private facilities but I know that all government funded facilities like mine, all go through accreditation, yearly so they can remain open another year. All of them are legally bound to specific guidelines and level of care, nova scotia health authority also visits and so does the department of agriculture to make sure we follow proper food handling guidelines.
Wait lists are long here, sometimes a few years wait, that's one downside I guess, we need more facilities.2 -
JRsLateInLifeMom wrote: »Wow Easter 🐣 Party Cop warnings were numerous ! https://www.sanantonio.gov/Portals/0/Files/health/COVID19/Website Docs/DeclarationEnforcementReport-04132020.xlsx
Well then no wonder it sounded so loud outside why enough cars to open a car lot was at homes 🏡
Jeeze.... that's a lot of calls lol... I wonder what it was like here... they will probably post on the news tomorrow how many tickets were issued0 -
Wow... I just read that a woman here just died at age 111!! That's sad and incredible at the same time
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