Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..

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  • Yoshiboobs wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    Block

    OOF
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    Wait, you have to politely indicate? I just leave it on read 😬

    No i’m just trying to break down the code people use!

    Like @_sw33tp3a_11 said she uses a standard “have a nice day” in her messages, and if i get a message that says have a nice day, i’m like oh 😬 they don’t wanna talk anymore
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    Wait, you have to politely indicate? I just leave it on read 😬

    No i’m just trying to break down the code people use!

    Like @_sw33tp3a_11 said she uses a standard “have a nice day” in her messages, and if i get a message that says have a nice day, i’m like oh 😬 they don’t wanna talk anymore

    I think short messages just enough to respond to whats said is an indicator....but then again I do that all day because I'm busy at work.
  • CacoEther wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    Wait, you have to politely indicate? I just leave it on read 😬

    No i’m just trying to break down the code people use!

    Like @_sw33tp3a_11 said she uses a standard “have a nice day” in her messages, and if i get a message that says have a nice day, i’m like oh 😬 they don’t wanna talk anymore

    I think short messages just enough to respond to whats said is an indicator....but then again I do that all day because I'm busy at work.

    Ok
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    Wait, you have to politely indicate? I just leave it on read 😬

    No i’m just trying to break down the code people use!

    Like @_sw33tp3a_11 said she uses a standard “have a nice day” in her messages, and if i get a message that says have a nice day, i’m like oh 😬 they don’t wanna talk anymore

    I think short messages just enough to respond to whats said is an indicator....but then again I do that all day because I'm busy at work.

    Ok

    😂, you must be at work
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    I don't really see it this way and it's not really ever that I don't want to chat...

    It's just that life, the universe, nature, whatever pulls us apart and maybe back together again at some point in the distant or near future 🤷🏽‍♂️...

    I take no offense and mean no harm, and usually assume the other way... ✌🏼
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    Back when we could still DM without the FR rigamarole I would message super tall men for clothing recommendations because the SO is super tall and shopping options are nil here. Retail Research.
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    Guys,

    Do you like it when your girl calls you baby?
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Guys,

    Do you like it when your girl calls you baby?

    Eeewww
  • Guys,

    Do you like it when your girl calls you baby?
    Indifferent to it. Any pet name can get old if overused though
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real

    "Who dis?"
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    edited November 2020
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: how do you politely indicate you don’t want to message anymore without coming right out and saying it?

    I'd come right out and say it, personally. I'd appreciate the same. [Spock voice...] Is this not how communication and boundaries among humans work?
  • PaperDoll_
    PaperDoll_ Posts: 32,857 Member
    Ladies

    It’s okay to send creepy, inappropriate messages to other ladies, right? 😬

    I mean, too late now 😏
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Guys,

    Do you like it when your girl calls you baby?

    Mine does but he'll never admit it

    You two are the cutest
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    Guys,

    Do you like it when your girl calls you baby?

    She can I don't mind...

    But I would feel like I might as well ask her about her fitness goals if I called her Baby or Babe...

    I prefer just Jes... It's way hotter than Babe 😏😂
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    Going back a couple of pages to the questions about messages/comments being misconstrued...

    Most of my "interractions" are online. I have little use or patience for people IRL. I've perceived more and more momentum behind that idea that any comments about another person not explicitly asked for are unwelcomed and could border on shaming, harrassment, etc.

    Is my perception off in that sense, or do other people have similar impressions/feelings? If so, do you feel this is now the social norm, or is it just a small portion of people making a lot of noise?

    To be clear, I am aware of the difference between commenting, "you look great" and "nice tits"... I'm not *that* oblivious.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Going back a couple of pages to the questions about messages/comments being misconstrued...

    Most of my "interractions" are online. I have little use or patience for people IRL. I've perceived more and more momentum behind that idea that any comments about another person not explicitly asked for are unwelcomed and could border on shaming, harrassment, etc.

    Is my perception off in that sense, or do other people have similar impressions/feelings? If so, do you feel this is now the social norm, or is it just a small portion of people making a lot of noise?

    To be clear, I am aware of the difference between commenting, "you look great" and "nice tits"... I'm not *that* oblivious.

    Hmm. Maybe true online in general but I wouldn’t see it that way here in chit

    I’d say the vast majority of people feel good when singled out and given a compliment. A small but noisy minority might disagree. (I don’t mean this with any lack of sensitivity to true harassment issues, i’m talking about general well-meaning commentary)
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Guys,

    Do you like it when your girl calls you baby?

    pfft ... call me anything you want.

    Just don't call me late to dinner.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Going back a couple of pages to the questions about messages/comments being misconstrued...

    Most of my "interractions" are online. I have little use or patience for people IRL. I've perceived more and more momentum behind that idea that any comments about another person not explicitly asked for are unwelcomed and could border on shaming, harrassment, etc.

    Is my perception off in that sense, or do other people have similar impressions/feelings? If so, do you feel this is now the social norm, or is it just a small portion of people making a lot of noise?

    To be clear, I am aware of the difference between commenting, "you look great" and "nice tits"... I'm not *that* oblivious.




    I’d say the vast majority of people feel good when singled out and given a compliment.

    That cat tower of yours is pretty hot.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Going back a couple of pages to the questions about messages/comments being misconstrued...

    Most of my "interractions" are online. I have little use or patience for people IRL. I've perceived more and more momentum behind that idea that any comments about another person not explicitly asked for are unwelcomed and could border on shaming, harrassment, etc.

    Is my perception off in that sense, or do other people have similar impressions/feelings? If so, do you feel this is now the social norm, or is it just a small portion of people making a lot of noise?

    To be clear, I am aware of the difference between commenting, "you look great" and "nice tits"... I'm not *that* oblivious.




    I’d say the vast majority of people feel good when singled out and given a compliment.

    That cat tower of yours is pretty hot.

    You should see it when it’s on fire 🔥
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Going back a couple of pages to the questions about messages/comments being misconstrued...

    Most of my "interractions" are online. I have little use or patience for people IRL. I've perceived more and more momentum behind that idea that any comments about another person not explicitly asked for are unwelcomed and could border on shaming, harrassment, etc.

    Is my perception off in that sense, or do other people have similar impressions/feelings? If so, do you feel this is now the social norm, or is it just a small portion of people making a lot of noise?

    To be clear, I am aware of the difference between commenting, "you look great" and "nice tits"... I'm not *that* oblivious.




    I’d say the vast majority of people feel good when singled out and given a compliment.

    That cat tower of yours is pretty hot.

    You should see it when it’s on fire 🔥

    I'm sure that's only a matter of time.
  • CacoEther wrote: »
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real

    Curiosity and interest. He could, after all, want the recipe for something I was talking about in a forum, or to ask me how the heck I cope with having a boyfriend AND a girlfriend, doesn't he get jealous, and that's not a problem. I like to talk to friendly intelligent people. I have even been known to flirt on occasion. I am even willing to talk about how my kink works in a 24/7 relationship. I'm a very friendly open person.

    Actually the people who think that it's appropriate to message me and assume I'm here to help him with the problem in his pants aren't a problem either. I have a delete button.



  • hawkeye45_
    hawkeye45_ Posts: 812 Member
    How can you tell the difference between someone wanting attention and someone wanting your attention?
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    hawkeye45_ wrote: »
    How can you tell the difference between someone wanting attention and someone wanting your attention?

    Not sure if either is too healthy if done for an extended period of time.

    That said, I'd think someone who wants your specific attention will commit to actions they assume (or know) will be of interest to you whereas general attention-seeking looks like them doing the same thing(s) with any and every person repeatedly.

    Basically, lack of originality.

    Also, you can just ask them.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    hawkeye45_ wrote: »
    How can you tell the difference between someone wanting attention and someone wanting your attention?

    Those could be the same thing

    If she wants attention in general, her selfies are posted publicly

    If she wants attention from you specifically, she sends you selfies that you won’t find publicly

    But if you really want to know if she’s interested in you specifically, she:
    asks you why you have to live so far away
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Guys: how you take it when she tells you “you should selfie more”
  • hawkeye45_
    hawkeye45_ Posts: 812 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    hawkeye45_ wrote: »
    How can you tell the difference between someone wanting attention and someone wanting your attention?

    asks you why you have to live so far away


    Low cost of living and no state income tax.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    hawkeye45_ wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    hawkeye45_ wrote: »
    How can you tell the difference between someone wanting attention and someone wanting your attention?

    asks you why you have to live so far away


    Low cost of living and no state income tax.

    Uh huh, so you live in SD then?
  • Revolu7
    Revolu7 Posts: 1,035 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys: how you take it when she tells you “you should selfie more”

    If i was 16 id be all swole and proud......after 40.....id say......just stop.....