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MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
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😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.1 -
MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
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😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜2 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
https://www.amazon.com/Just-Because-Nice-Doesnt-T-shirt/dp/B07K13LMRR?customId=B0753882ZV&th=1
😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜
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When I was at my most physically active I would get that comment from people I didn't see frequently and, to my rude awakening, it made me feel resentment toward myself.Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
I used to go to the gym everyday, no life event could keep me out, and it wasn't uncommon for me to spend 3 hours there because it was a time in my life where I believed that if I looked good, absolute happiness and inner peace would follow.
So when someone at the water cooler or bbq grill would casually mention that I look like I workout, I would think "Well *kitten* I would hope so. I only spend all of my free time there (gym). While you are probably busy raising a family, moving up the corporate ladder, or going dancing with your friends- I'm at the gym trying to fill a void in my life. Do you know how embarrassing it feels to have 3 gym memberships because you don't want to be too well-known at a particular one and make the employees notice you spend every Saturday night there? My extremist tendencies are going to send me to a shrink one day, y'know. But enough about me, how's your mother doing!?"
😅 That's how the old me would've broken it down later that night in bed. But in real time I'd say "Hey thanks! I try!" and keep it moving. That's been the difference between my 20's and 30's. 🤙
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chuckle_bunny wrote: »
When I was at my most physically active I would get that comment from people I didn't see frequently and, to my rude awakening, it made me feel resentment toward myself.Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
I used to go to the gym everyday, no life event could keep me out, and it wasn't uncommon for me to spend 3 hours there because it was a time in my life where I believed that if I looked good, absolute happiness and inner peace would follow.
So when someone at the water cooler or bbq grill would casually mention that I look like I workout, I would think "Well *kitten* I would hope so. I only spend all of my free time there (gym). While you are probably busy raising a family, moving up the corporate ladder, or going dancing with your friends- I'm at the gym trying to fill a void in my life. Do you know how embarrassing it feels to have 3 gym memberships because you don't want to be too well-known at a particular one and make the employees notice you spend every Saturday night there? My extremist tendencies are going to send me to a shrink one day, y'know. But enough about me, how's your mother doing!?"
😅 That's how the old me would've broken it down later that night in bed. But in real time I'd say "Hey thanks! I try!" and keep it moving. That's been the difference between my 20's and 30's. 🤙
That’s interesting person. Would you have felt that in the context above?
Walking out of the gym as a new person....
Small talk....I ask you “what do you normally do?” You say “I haven’t worked out in years”. I say “oh, you look like you work out” (side note....he told me he was a carpenter so I’m sure he actually did work hard physically.)
Kill me now if he ever stumbles upon this. 🙈0 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
https://www.amazon.com/Just-Because-Nice-Doesnt-T-shirt/dp/B07K13LMRR?customId=B0753882ZV&th=1
😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜
😂😂I promise no.1 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »MelG7777, perhaps you need this?
https://www.amazon.com/Just-Because-Nice-Doesnt-T-shirt/dp/B07K13LMRR?customId=B0753882ZV&th=1
😂I honestly don’t think he thought anything at all. I think the lady did. And I was curious what other peoples opinions were on it.
I think other things will make it appear a flirt, like telling them they look like they workout while making eye contact and squeezing his muscle. 😆
Did you look into his eyes and squeeze his muscle Mel? 😜
😂😂I promise no.
Obviously you did it wrong then. 🤷♀️3 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
One of my big fitness goals is to look like someone who works out (since I don't look the part, even though I work out) so that would be an awesome compliment.
The closest I ever got was when a coworker walked into the workroom just as I was reaching across the photocopier for something and gasped. "Holy *kitten*, look at your arm!" She's normally kind of catty so it was a particularly good compliment from her.
My flirt detector was never installed so I'd never see it as "something more". It's quite possible I have infuriated many men over the years by being dumb as a stump in that regard.1 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
One of my big fitness goals is to look like someone who works out (since I don't look the part, even though I work out) so that would be an awesome compliment.
The closest I ever got was when a coworker walked into the workroom just as I was reaching across the photocopier for something and gasped. "Holy *kitten*, look at your arm!" She's normally kind of catty so it was a particularly good compliment from her.
My flirt detector was never installed so I'd never see it as "something more". It's quite possible I have infuriated many men over the years by being dumb as a stump in that regard.
Me too! I don’t look like someone who works out yet even though I do but I’d be stoked. And I also assume people are being nice and nothing more. It would have to be pretty blatant for me to think anything.0 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉3 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?0 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol2 -
Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol
I think stating you haven't worked out or haven't played in years, a natural response would be oh, you look like you work out...shes not just out right stating the obvious...shes surprised because he stated he DOESNT workout
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Missed my point. Him saying he hadnt worked out in a while is a response.....asking someone what they do for a workout is the initiation of that response. After you initiate the rest is irrelevant, you succeeded in starting a conversation. His response does not exist without initiation. Now it doesnt have to mean she or anybody is hitting on them.PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol
I think stating you haven't worked out or haven't played in years, a natural response would be oh, you look like you work out...shes not just out right stating the obvious...shes surprised because he stated he DOESNT workout0 -
Missed my point. Him saying he hadnt worked out in a while is a response.....asking someone what they do for a workout is the initiation of that response. After you initiate the rest is irrelevant, you succeeded in starting a conversation. His response does not exist without initiation. Now it doesnt have to mean she or anybody is hitting on them.PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Question: If someone tells someone “it looks like you workout” would you take that as just a regular compliment or something more? Does it make a difference depending on where it’s said? Like....gym vs. work vs. grocery store?
Context: It was a few months ago but someone I told about it just reminded me of this. A new guy was coming to the gym. If I get the opportunity I try to say something to new people. On the way out we were like “crazy workout hey?” And I asked him what he did normally for exercise. He said he hadn’t worked out in forever and I said “oh really? You look like you work out.” and the lady walking by us kind of laughed and looked at me like “really?”🤷🏻♀️ He didn’t seem weirded out by it.
Plot Twist:This is just a funny addition. Don’t take this into consideration for your answer. He lives like 2 blocks from me I found out because I basically followed him home.😂 I don’t remember if it was the same day or the next day but I was like “holy *kitten* is that the monster truck I always see near my house? And now I’m following him?” We would talk a little on the way out sometimes so I made sure to tell him why it might look like I was following him.🙈 It must have been a 30 day trial cuz I haven’t seen him in a long time. Or he switched times because of some creepy lady.
If someone tells me i look like i workout, they are either hitting on me or looking to strike up a conversation for some reason. Its obvious that i workout, to say that would really be like saying, man it looks like you breathe like everyday. Lol.....it sounds conceited but its also kinda true. 😉
Ok. That’s fair. Like if someone tells me at a grocery store I shop really well I’d be like.....duh, of course I do.
But something to the equivalent above. I think it would have to be something we just completed together to make it a similar situation, no? And I compliment you and you’re like “I haven’t done that in a long time” ......like say you join my basketball team and I compliment you after our game and say “what team did you play on before this?” And you’re like “I haven’t played in years” and I say “really? You look like you play”
You’d still think that?
Not the same i dont think. If Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime was walking with you out of the gym, would you think to tell him he looks like he works out? I would hope not.....unless of course yuou wanted to find a way to talk to him. What he says after that is irrelevant.....stating the obvious is just a way to start a conversation. Sure is cold today huh? Ummm....yeah, its 0°.......wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm? ......you see, that small obvious talk works all the time lol
I think stating you haven't worked out or haven't played in years, a natural response would be oh, you look like you work out...shes not just out right stating the obvious...shes surprised because he stated he DOESNT workout
I'm confused...whats your point?3 -
My takeaway.....just don’t compliment people in that way. I don’t want to give people the wrong idea. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s not necessary to say anything really I suppose.1
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I lost all concentration at "wanna jump under the covers in my bed to keep warm?" My mind is basically on par with Benny Hill's (but in reverse...)
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My takeaway.....just don’t compliment people in that way. I don’t want to give people the wrong idea. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s not necessary to say anything really I suppose.
I was just legitimately confused...😅
I will no longer speak as I could be flirting, I could be insulting. I have no idea anymore😬4
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