WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2020

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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,197 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Dellafayfox: We live beside the Columbia River and have relatives in eastern Oregon who we visit once in a while. I was trying to figure out the location of an island in the river above Bonneville Dam. DH told me that he’d point it out the next time we travel that way. It may be quite a while before we travel. :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

    I like your masks. One of our shopkeepers here in town has been making masks for sale. It appears that we’ll all be using masks for some time to come and this is a good way for talented sewers to make an important contribution to overall health. :flowerforyou:

    Debbie: Your masks also look great. :star:

    To both of you:

    Grocery stores in our area are requiring masks. Remember the old saying, “No shirt, no shoes, no service?” Now we need to add “No mask, no service ” to the list. The two of you and many others are helping to keep people safe. Thank you both!

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    masks are required everywhere here too- most stores enforce it really well, a few don't do it as much as they could.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,197 Member
    Debbie Those are very nice looking mask. I like the idea of the velcro in the back. For walking, I use a super stretchy nylon/spandex compression neck choker that is mainly for neck support and I added extra material to it that pulls up for mask part. It is easy to wash and dries quickly.

    I started doing the Velcro ones when I ran out of the elastic I had on hand- I had 25yrds of Velcro I had picked up a few years ago at a yard sale- didn't know what I would use it for but knew I would and was a great price. Ran out of that too so had to order more of both. Bought extra- won't run out any time soon. Same with the fabric. Spent $45 last week but have enough for a few 100 more if not more.
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    MCRAIT ~ You joined by posting. Tell us a bit about yourself and how you want us to call you as MCRAIT is hard to remember.

    Carol in Georgia
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,329 Member
    Camping I have been camping since a child. Started with tent camping, then parents got a pop up but kids had to be in tent. Then parents went to a small tow but I had moved out by then and married my first DH. Hated camping by then cause I had 3 kids and no one helped cook or sweep out sand or anything. Not a vacation for me. What really killed it was when my X decided to drive to Florida and stay at a campground in a tent. The campground cost the same per night as a hotel/motel in the area and it was cold at night so had to go out and buy new sleeping bags for everyone. Never went camping with second DH until we went full time in an RV. First year traveling across country and site seeing and now hosting for the last 2 years in Roswell, NM. Chores are shared this time. I retired at 61 and am now 64 and feels like one long camping vacation so far.

    Today is calendar has a long list of things to celebrate:

    Esperanto Day worldwide
    National Tree Day in Australia
    One Voice Day Worldwide
    Saint Anne Feast Day Christian
    Parents Day in US
    All or Nothing Day worldwide
    National Chili Dog Day in US
    National Coffee Milkshake Day in US
    National Aunt and Uncle Day in US
    Day of Maritime Search and Rescue Germany
    Navy Day in Russia
    Reek Sunday in Ireland
    Kargil Vijay Diwas in India
    Day of the National Rebellion in Cuba
    Independence Day in Liberia and Maldivis


    RV Rita
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,197 Member
    Just checked MFP- check-in, last time I added my weight was in Jan. I am 2 ounces HEAVIER today than I was then- still sticking to the 1000 cal a day like I have for over a year- Really need to add in more exercise- Getting discouraged.
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,820 Member
    edited July 2020
    Tracey - That was some amazing bargain you picked up! :D

    Beth - They are nice, but no way worth that kind of money. They would be half that price over here. Try ringing or emailing. It never hurts to complain.

    Rebecca - I'm a bit like you. Once I start cleaning I have to do it properly. >:) That's another reason I have a cleaner. Her standards are different to mine, but my house looks presentable. She only has two hours every two weeks! I hate the way she moves things though! I am very OCD about the placement of objects and hate them out of position. I think she wants me to know she's been there and cleaned!
    As a child I was severely OCD to a debilitating level, and a little of that has stayed with me. It's not a problem now, but occasionally I notice it.
    I was touched yesterday that the cleaner turned up with her own, much superior, hoover, in order, she said, to get into the edges. :D I didn't see her when she finished so I will text her to thank her for taking the extra care.

    The sun is shining this morning. I don't know if the family stuck it out yesterday in the tent. It was HORRIBLE weather! They often switch their phones off when relaxing, so I didn't enquire. :o
    I used to camp out all the time with my parents as a teenager. Mostly in Europe. When I was first married we also camped. And a couple of times when my kids were young. Purely through tight finances, not from choice. My honeymoon was camping for a month! It often rained and rained and rained. And rained. Nothing is more miserable.
    I spent my young years envying like crazy the 'posh' people in the nice hotels.
    Caravans are a big step up and it amuses me that you Americans call it camping. No way! Nor are shacks camping. Nothing with a roof and a toilet is camping.
    The only tents I have been in since are the mega luxury kind with their own toilets and showers, a huge, gorgeous bed and a nice young man to bring you tea and biscuits in the morning. Kenya, and Rajasthan in India.
    These days both DH and I have to go to the loo three or four times a night. The thought of zipping myself out of a sleeping bag and a soggy wet tent is not appealing. No way. Even a dry tent. You need a very strong bladder for camping.

    Time for tea!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    Over the years I have come to the conclusion that traveling takes so much mental and physical energy. The change in how I start, and end my days is messed up. I also get up 3/4 times a night. I love my own space! Sometimes husband stirs after I get up. I make noise so he knows I am in the bathroom. Once or twice he has come into the bathroom not knowing I am on the toilet! Scared the heck outta both of us! I physically have issues when I travel. My sleeping is off as well as my digestion. It usually takes a couple days for my body to acclimate.
    Cleaning and being particular is a good thing in my book. My husband likes to move items just a bit. I normally group items in groups of three, (for some reason). I am excited for our management company putting in bids for the driveway, and painting the house! Now for the owner on the east coast to make decisions.
    💖Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Our vet's assistant called and requested a photo of our old dog's backside. He has a cyst of some sort. I sent it to her so the doctor could see. Haven't heard anything back yet. :star:
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,282 Member
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Faye: Thank you for the story of Chicken Charlie. It is hard to imagine living alone on an island for so many years. The time span between 1916 and 1963 is a long one. I've never heard about it before and it is nice to learn a bit of Oregon/Columbia River history. THANK YOU! :heart:
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    (((Pip)))
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,055 Member
    Rita: Lovely banner. Very colourful!
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,055 Member
    edited July 2020
    Beth: The bouquet is nice enough, but inferior to what was ordered so I would definitely contact them to query it. I think some Mail order florists bank on the recipient not knowing what has been ordered. We had the same problem with flowers ordered from New Zealand by my BiL for DMiL for one Mother's Day. The flowers were from Interflora! and they bore little resemblance to what had been ordered, were barely alive. I went straight to the shop that delivered them and demanded a refund, and told them that it was going on Facebook if I didn't get it. They paid up and we bought mum a lovely bouquet from M&S.
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,622 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :)Lisa, I loved your description of camping as pretending to be homeless. Someone once told he that her idea of "camping" was staying at a two star motel that didn't have HBO. I like my own house best and a nice motel second. When I first met Jake, he asked me if I like camping and when I said no, he was delighted because he didn't like it either.

    When we travel, I like cabins best, especially relatively remote cabins.

    Then nice B&Bs, especially those where you've got a certain degree of self-sufficiency.


    There was a time when we'd stay wherever, but I'm getting more fussy.


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,622 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    My husband and I are feeling a little bit sad.

    I've packed up my work stuff in preparation to go back to the office this week.

    It's been such a happy, relaxed, delightful, fantastic 4 months ... now that's coming to an end.

    But maybe there will be a second wave and we'll be sent home again.

    I'm not taking back as much as I brought home ... just the essentials. If I have to move home again, I'll be ready to go in a matter of minutes!!

    Machka in Oz

    When I was talking to my former sister in law(delivering the masks she ordered from me) she said their office is not planning on opening until 2021. She works for a city tourism. She works at home four days a week and only goes to the office once a week to get the mail, pay the bills, etc.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley, CA

    We're pretty much back to normal here except that we've got to keep distance between each other.

    I stopped in at the office to drop off my computer equipment today. They've got signs up everywhere and stickers on the floor indicating where to walk and how far apart to be.

    It was nice to see my work colleagues so that makes it a bit easier.

    Tomorrow I'll go in for my first real day back.

    Machka in Oz
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,055 Member
    edited July 2020
    We camped when we first got married. It was the only way we could afford a holiday. DED was only 6 months old the first time I camped. It was in a small ridge tent. I was more into Youth Hostelling as a teenager. Eventually we had our own frame tent and raised camp beds. We camped in France when the girls were older. In later years I much preferred staying in a hotel.

    ☘️ Terri
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,622 Member
    mcrait wrote: »
    Hi ladies, Is this a closed group? Don’t want to barge in. Your topic appealed to me. I am back after a long break. I am a Canadian grandma. Anyway, hope you are all able to stay safe and well.

    This is just a thread in a subforum of MFP's forum. :)

    Anyone can comment! But we especially like hearing from women over 50. :)

    Welcome here!

    Machka in Oz
  • trucker743
    trucker743 Posts: 394 Member
    Oh, Faye! There’s my beloved mountain again at the last! I never tire of pictures or surprise glimpses of her.

    Suebdew! you’re the first people I actually know to have corona virus, and I have a wide circle of online and not acquaintances. I hope your progress continues good. It can be a tricky and deadly disease.

    Katla, when the very rare urge hits me for chips (usually tortilla chips), I look around for the lunch-size bag, indulge and log. Looking at the price tag on my little splurge also keeps me from over-indulging. I also get those tiny one-serving pots of ice cream. Again, only one and I only go to the store or order about once every three weeks. And only one indulgence per trip. It makes those things manageable without my feeling deprived.

    Beth, those flowers would be totally unacceptable to me at that price and looking at what was promised. Did you pay by credit card? I’d put a hold on that charge.

    Debbie and DLFK, you may have gone into starvation mode, with your body thinking it needs to hold onto every calorie because food is scarce. Try bumping it up to 12-1400 to see if you start losing again. And go crazy with fluids. That’s another key to good weight loss figures.

    Cleaning: I do fine for a month or so after my daughter or granddaughter get things shop-shape. Then an incident happens that’s overwhelming either because it’s beyond my abilities or I can’t figure out what the first step would be. I find myself paralyzed and can do almost nothing. Sometimes I try getting one small area done, but I have to stop. I’m overwhelmed. Finally I end up here.

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    That’s where I am now. It affects my overall mood and I tell myself I’m lazy. I COULD do something and I’m not. I avoid looking too closely at my motives for fear of what I’ll find. I can’t afford a cleaner. My granddaughter drives 100 miles to help me and puts in a whole day. My daughter, who has the autistic son, has only weekends free, and she really wants time with Nick and her husband too, so I hate to even ask. Can any of you help me get a handle on this? My therapy at is only for med management at present. My 12-Step groups aren’t very helpful right now. Too few women. It’s mainly old guys who say they have trouble relating.

    Oh Faye! Oh Heather! How much I relate. Being in pain from this a good part of my 77 years is sad. I’m usually a happy person, and so I think I’ll avoid any more about this and move on to something I LOVE!

    Camping! Just as Ratty in Wund In the Williws” loved messing about in boats, I love messing around about a campfire. I’m a decent campfire cook, and have managed a full meal the time I forgot the pans. It involved lots of foil, ziplock bags and a buck knife. The only thing I need to feel secure camping now is something the right height and stable enough to lean on and leverage myself up off the floor. I particularly adore camping near the ocean where I can mindlessly listen to the waves come in- the waves come in- the waves come in for hours and think of almost nothing. That is true peace, especially if I have chai tea mix or sugar-free hot chocolate along.

    Wow! Dint know where all that came from. Being able to post in a non-judge mental yet interested forum can be powerful. I love the camping pictures of kiddos. My girls adore camping, and always have. Well…there was that period when middle daughter was an early teen and would NOT camp anywhere she couldn’t plug in a hairdryer.

    Sharon Near Seattle
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,955 Member
    Sharon - my daughter suffers terribly from anxiety and a lot of it comes from mess and what people will think of her. I have gone several times over the years and helped her clean and organize and if one thing goes wrong she loses control and motivation. She decided this past winter that she needed at least one room that she could relax in without mess and chose her bedroom as that is what she had the most control over without the kids and husband messing it up. She went through all of her clothes and her husbands clothes, organized her books and decorated the room. She was able to keep it maintained for a month and then did her daughters room, kept both up for a few weeks and took care of her sons. She then moved to the main level and is struggling again because she is the only one to keep it up and she finds it so stressful again, but she’s done well at maintaining the upstairs. She says she has just made it a thing to do every morning, make the beds and tidy up. She also forces herself to put her laundry away immediately after it’s done. She does procrastinate in doing it though.

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,622 Member
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    I find I have to start by doing one thing. Pick up one thing and put it away. Make one appointment (which usually involves a phone call and I do not like using the phone). Write one paragraph/section/page. Tidy one shelf. Gather up all my "dirty" clothes and toss them in the washer. There is something about doing a load of laundry that makes me feel I've accomplished something today.


    And today ...

    I've taken my husband to his follow-up appointment.
    I've dropped off my computer equipment at work.
    My husband and I have gone over some documents we're working on for a personal project. I think one of those documents is ready to send. The other needs some more work.

    I do need to do that load of laundry.
    I need to make two appointments (two phone calls!!)
    And I should take a look at my homework.
    But I feel like napping right now.

    Machka in Oz
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,197 Member
    trucker743 wrote: »
    Oh, Faye! There’s my beloved mountain again at the last! I never tire of pictures or surprise glimpses of her.

    Suebdew! you’re the first people I actually know to have corona virus, and I have a wide circle of online and not acquaintances. I hope your progress continues good. It can be a tricky and deadly disease.

    Katla, when the very rare urge hits me for chips (usually tortilla chips), I look around for the lunch-size bag, indulge and log. Looking at the price tag on my little splurge also keeps me from over-indulging. I also get those tiny one-serving pots of ice cream. Again, only one and I only go to the store or order about once every three weeks. And only one indulgence per trip. It makes those things manageable without my feeling deprived.

    Beth, those flowers would be totally unacceptable to me at that price and looking at what was promised. Did you pay by credit card? I’d put a hold on that charge.

    Debbie and DLFK, you may have gone into starvation mode, with your body thinking it needs to hold onto every calorie because food is scarce. Try bumping it up to 12-1400 to see if you start losing again. And go crazy with fluids. That’s another key to good weight loss figures.

    Cleaning: I do fine for a month or so after my daughter or granddaughter get things shop-shape. Then an incident happens that’s overwhelming either because it’s beyond my abilities or I can’t figure out what the first step would be. I find myself paralyzed and can do almost nothing. Sometimes I try getting one small area done, but I have to stop. I’m overwhelmed. Finally I end up here.

    f180j76kpvay.jpeg

    That’s where I am now. It affects my overall mood and I tell myself I’m lazy. I COULD do something and I’m not. I avoid looking too closely at my motives for fear of what I’ll find. I can’t afford a cleaner. My granddaughter drives 100 miles to help me and puts in a whole day. My daughter, who has the autistic son, has only weekends free, and she really wants time with Nick and her husband too, so I hate to even ask. Can any of you help me get a handle on this? My therapy at is only for med management at present. My 12-Step groups aren’t very helpful right now. Too few women. It’s mainly old guys who say they have trouble relating.

    Oh Faye! Oh Heather! How much I relate. Being in pain from this a good part of my 77 years is sad. I’m usually a happy person, and so I think I’ll avoid any more about this and move on to something I LOVE!

    Camping! Just as Ratty in Wund In the Williws” loved messing about in boats, I love messing around about a campfire. I’m a decent campfire cook, and have managed a full meal the time I forgot the pans. It involved lots of foil, ziplock bags and a buck knife. The only thing I need to feel secure camping now is something the right height and stable enough to lean on and leverage myself up off the floor. I particularly adore camping near the ocean where I can mindlessly listen to the waves come in- the waves come in- the waves come in for hours and think of almost nothing. That is true peace, especially if I have chai tea mix or sugar-free hot chocolate along.

    Wow! Dint know where all that came from. Being able to post in a non-judge mental yet interested forum can be powerful. I love the camping pictures of kiddos. My girls adore camping, and always have. Well…there was that period when middle daughter was an early teen and would NOT camp anywhere she couldn’t plug in a hairdryer.

    Sharon Near Seattle

    I keep planning on eating 1200 calories one day but just never seem to do it- can't get myself to eat just to get the calories- worry about going over and keep going over. I think I will actually plan the day- it will be Thursday- we are going to my parents and plan on bbq'ing for them(we will pick up stuff to grill on our way up) and plan on picking and eating a lot of black berries-
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    is part of the black berries- two 100ft rows of thornless berries for him and I to pick-
    the second is him last year next to the popcorn. My parents are amazing. Mom is 77 and dad is almost 84- they still plant a huge garden- this year it is smaller than before but still well over 1/2 acre and do most of it by themselves. I wish I lived closer so I could help more- hoping to totally retire soon so I can spend at least half my time up there. That is where I want to be all the time.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,197 Member
    It is the end of the day- you still have about 300 cal to use. What would you eat/drink???
    I am at 728 now and just finished dinner.
  • trucker743
    trucker743 Posts: 394 Member
    dlfk, beautiful pictures. Those plants look super healthy. I’ll bet your folks till that soul really well in the spring.

    Machka, I've had some success with your method. As long as it doesn’t pull me in so deep that I get frustrated, I do fine. It’s like a beach with a rip tide. As long as you stay away from where it begins, you’re fine. But one thoughtless step beyond, and I’m drowning, with no one to call on anymore. At least not here. Everyone else works.

    Snowflake, I’ve tried your daughter’s method, but let one cat barf on the bed, and after I’ve stripped off the dirty blanket and scraped off the mess and put it in the washer (the blanket, not the mess - lol!), I’m done. Anxiety can just flatten me. We’re working on adjusting my meds, but so far I don’t notice anything - yet. Med changes take time, I know.

    ’Night, Everyone! I’ve worn myself out thinking about it.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,197 Member
    trucker743 wrote: »
    dlfk, beautiful pictures. Those plants look super healthy. I’ll bet your folks till that soul really well in the spring.

    Machka, I've had some success with your method. As long as it doesn’t pull me in so deep that I get frustrated, I do fine. It’s like a beach with a rip tide. As long as you stay away from where it begins, you’re fine. But one thoughtless step beyond, and I’m drowning, with no one to call on anymore. At least not here. Everyone else works.

    Snowflake, I’ve tried your daughter’s method, but let one cat barf on the bed, and after I’ve stripped off the dirty blanket and scraped off the mess and put it in the washer (the blanket, not the mess - lol!), I’m done. Anxiety can just flatten me. We’re working on adjusting my meds, but so far I don’t notice anything - yet. Med changes take time, I know.

    ’Night, Everyone! I’ve worn myself out thinking about it.

    They have a neighbor that comes and works the ground- we moved out there 49 yrs ago- bought the land 50 yrs ago. Planted a garden before we even built the house.
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,615 Member
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: Gold Beach, H2O to soup kitchen,
    Bonus: fellowship
    Get to do: BB&B, report accident, call Surgery consultant and ask for emailed instrcutions, how long it will take and can I be there, quick vac house, email SDAO re meeting change notice requirements, practice new dances (Turning Tables, Nothing but You, Shake it like that, Larger than Life, Here I Go Again/Mama Mia, Real Deal, Get it Right); transplant bean, make garlic almonds for Barb and Dan; prep potato area and raised beds for beets, carrots, parsley root, parsnips, radishes and sow; finish weeding drive, continue weeding flower bed, mulch flowerbed; Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine. Reward: inventory seeds, plan fall cool season garden, order replenishments. Monday postpone Joe’s primary care followup to after eye sugery, firehall apologize to Aaron, make colelslaw.

    Note to self: When you step out of bed into a puddle of pee, wash your foot and go back to bed. It’s a sign.

    Jumpback July
    27: Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today, even if it was hard. Pastor’s wife’s ear, Joe’s calm response to the fender bender, another day of life.

    Rebecca could we have been at the Novato RenFaire at the same time? I visited frequently in the mid 70’s - 80’s. Your “science experiment” sounds yummy. Would love to see a pic of your son’s lit up Asian Lego city.
    Katla and Evelyn VERY belated VERY VERY happy birthday wishes to you both dear gals.
    Pip belated conVERYgratulations on retiring! Glad you got such gorgeous Rainer views on your victory lap. Sorry to hear about your phone. Wishing you every happiness in your new home and adventures. Salud!
    Kay ((hugs)) held extra long. Too many sudden losses too close together. :brokenheart:
    Lisa “enchilasagna” Brilliant!
    Sue in WA 4 stitches, ow! Holding good thoughts for the results of your mole”ectomy”.
    Michele your dishwasher confession made me smile!
    Tracey what beautiful pics, so glad your trip went so well.
    Heather Halelujah for your sharing Faye’s info with Johnny, and for his taking it “sitting down” 
    KJ thanks for your sons’ starry pics. Especially welcome as I missed the comet. Hope the “dizzy flu” is gone for good.
    Viv :cry: ((hugs)) :brokenheart:
    Barbie glad to hear you’re doing what you must to heal, no matter how hard it is for you to scale back your activities.
    Sharon sorry to hear of your Costco parking accident. I had a fender bender today too and am still shaken.
    Belated welcome @tripsmom3! Our Better Bones and Balance coach recommended resistance bands and they really help build strength, IF you use them. With the wide band above our knees we did sit to stands and all kinds of weird sideways or crescent walking. Really made the “bacon sizzle”. We used the narrow bands for presses, pushes, rows and (with a dowel) hip hinges. I sure miss that class!
    Belated welcome @josephinebowman Gwendolyn from VA

    Ants: when they appear, we “puff” food grade diatomaceous earth around the perimeter of the house and in any cracks between the deck and the outer walls. Wear a mask as you don’t want to inhale the dust when it’s clouding. Dogs don’t lick it nor do we put it out thick or wide enough from them to get on their paws, just a thin line at the base of the house does it.

    “only” 16+ pages to go ;)

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    July: better than June.
    daily: steps>5491=2236 so far, time to get up and march! vits=22.5 log=25 CI<CO=20 CI<250<CO=17 Tumble & Shadow 5=16 mfp=14 clean 10 mins=15 outside=15 up hill=13
    wkly: T’ai Chi or BB&B x3=9 rx=3 dance=7
    mnthly: board mtg=1 grant=2 20for20=
    bonus: AF=9.75 play= sew=