Relapsers getting Real Healthy Accountability group- 2020-2021

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  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    Hi T-M-H-o-y (autocorrect was getting the name wrong).

    Welcome to the group/thread. It's definitely the place to be. When I started gaining again, I found that a lot of it was because of mindless eating, along with stress and less activity during the day). I started logging for a week or two, which made me more aware of what I was eating. There are certain things that I don't bring into the house (ice cream) because I have no control. It's a special treat when I get it, and it's much more enjoyable.

    Also, don't beat yourself up; it's only going to push yourself further down the rabbit hole. Dukare's post a few days ago was very helpful, which reminded us to just focus on the now.

    Stay strong, and we're here for/with you.
  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    @TMHoy sugar is as addicting as crack..... I find if I am not drinking as much water, snacking n eating proactively (and balanced) and even sleep/stress can all push me to grab more than I would normally. ... and then That spirals till I'm back up to "too much"

    My mom is 70 and emotion eats up the wazoo! My sister is almost 50 and she loves on her candies and didn't move too much.... but everyone is different.

    I bloat with increased processed/ carb foods....

    I would give it time and try upping goood stuff including protein and actively portioning your stuff. Also, in the early days of my efforts I gave a 3 day rule- if I still wanted that thing after 2-3 days, I would go out and get it and enjoy (sm or portion size). Then I learned what was reflex and what was genuine wanted/ cravings. πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ€—πŸ€— maybe that'll help??

    Chin up!!! You got this!!!
  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    As for my update! Doing great on working out every night! Not so great in getting my hours in at work....but I've got time.

    We got on the smart tech bandwagon and now have buds, and getting smart watches tomorrow.... better be worth it ha.

    Hoping to transfer activity logging to the watch and hr even... and then the buds are for working out easier but they aren't connecting to my switch so I'm frustrated about that- should but aren't. Of course. At least my originals still do.

    Anyways, so I tripped on the baby Playpen and scraped up my foot/ leg bruising of glory.... really hope I don't lose momentum and skip workout. ... then again, I could use the extra time at work. Maybe just a 30 min bike.

    Hormones are driving me nuts. Hubby is driving me nuts and for every 6 tasks done 10 left to do....but I'm okay! Haha

    Saw a dip in weight which always helps momentum go!

    Got a physical trainer waiting to meet at the gym I joined for Therapy lol.... will be 4th? Time I do this kind of thing, they always so sure and yet always just do circuit or hiit and boo zumba. Blah. πŸ˜† he kicked the hubs butt though... serves him right the buggar.πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‹πŸ˜‹

    Anyways. I ate dinner after workout so I'm still awake and writing this. Hoping I survive tomorrow.

    Never underestimate the power of enough water, 80 oz min, and nutrients (vitamins if needed)... iron for my anemic soul- GAME CHANGER.

    Who know I was sluggish and fatigued just cause of that!? Magical lil discovery making a Huge change for me.

    πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³β€β€β€πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ¦Ήβ€β™‚οΈπŸ¦Ήβ€β™‚οΈπŸ¦Έβ€β™€οΈπŸ» Cheers everyone! Conquer the day!!!!!!
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    Yesterday, my sister (with her friend)and I met up in LaCrosse for a girl's day. I had decided I was going to have one splurge so I decided that would be ice cream. At lunch, I had water (instead of beer) and a Greeg salad. I was so proud, but the disappointed that there was too much vinnegeratte dressing on it, I typically I have it on the side and just dip my fork. I paid for that mistake; dressing dripped off the fork/salad onto my new shirt I had only worn once before. I'm trying my best to get it off. :/)
  • Gold6767
    Gold6767 Posts: 145 Member
    Oooooh @TMHoy we are more similar than you know! Sugar is my kryptonite and the main reason my weight is back up again. It's worse in times of stress, but it's a constant struggle for me to stay away from it. What works for me is simple: don't buy it. I have no self-control so if it's in the house I'll eat it...and a lot of it. Simple to say, not simple to put into practice I know. But you did it before and you can do it again I know you'll get to that goal weight!
  • SuzanneC1l9zz
    SuzanneC1l9zz Posts: 456 Member
    Morning everyone, and welcome @TMHoy . Not much is going on here. Kid has one final exam tomorrow and he's done for the year. We've given him some summer "homework" though - he has to get his driver's license. With me going to school in the fall he's going to be on his own for transportation a lot of the time.

    I'm still losing, faster than my usual water weight fluctuation, so it looks like I need to play with my calories a bit more. On the one hand I know a lot of people would tell me to give it more time before changing anything, but every time it's happened like this before it's been real and stayed off. I'm not planning any drastic changes, just a nudge.

    Other than that I'll just be sitting here tending to my house and garden, and hoping one of my many job applications finally pans out. It has to happen eventually....
  • ClearNotCloudyMind
    ClearNotCloudyMind Posts: 238 Member
    Hi all, well it’s been a pretty shoddy month for me… I think being back at my uni weight and officially β€œhealthy” has done my head in.

    Since half term a few weeks ago, I’ve eaten and eaten and eaten. Last week I was even back into binging territory. I’ve been so scared that I’d bounce back (as always in the past) and am now watching myself and trying not to feel helpless and fatalistic as I shove another thing into my face.

    This sounds whiny, which I really don’t want to do. I just don’t want this time to be like every other time I’ve lost weight. So… line in the sand. Back to being in control of myself and will check back in tomorrow and not let it slide out of shame or boredom.
  • ClearNotCloudyMind
    ClearNotCloudyMind Posts: 238 Member
    One day… that’s all it took for my body to feel better again. Scratching my head now and wondering β€œam I crazy”?

    All I did was pre-log everything I ate. 1kg of bloat gone and I don’t feel sick and flabby. I think what this shows is that it’s all in my mind, not my body…
  • SuzanneC1l9zz
    SuzanneC1l9zz Posts: 456 Member
    I'm glad it was that straightforward! I'm not going to say simple, because it can be mentally hard even though it sounds objectively easy. But you've shown that you've got this.
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    I'm glad things are going in the right direction and that you're being mindful. The mind is definitely one of the biggest struggles.

    I 'm sending this video link, or you can search YouTube for 17 hours, ESPN. It's a short documentary on Chris S; the first person with Down Syndrom to complete ghd Ironman. It's very inspirational and touching. The repeating motto in there is 1% better everyday. It's a great way to remember/think that a lot of small steps make the difference.

    I hope things are going well for everyone.


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsqI-BD2GMs

  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    Hey all!

    Definitely live the "next day I'm all better"
    .. minds are nuts πŸ€£πŸ˜­πŸ’ƒ

    So glad to read everyone's updates, I've been so lax in my updates: I'm afloat, baby's clean and healthy, he's joined soccer and happy, I've got my zumba and surviving work.

    The bug got me the other day... that bug that draws the line in the sand and says ENOUGH. It comes n goes for me lol. Anyways... this Mama means business.

    I got to the gym tonight and tomorrow it's his night so I'll do something at home.

    Planning on doing a meet with a physical trainer, free first with joining gym ya? I've got less than 30 weeks to drop 30lb and it took me 8 years to get here, 4- 3 years of actively trying to lose down past 200... I don't have that patience anymore lol. I'm gonna see how this guy is and see about maybe doing whatever regime he has in store to get me goin to my goal in my window .... it could happen, if I kick butt....... I'm gonna kick at least partial butt if nothing else, at that means I'll at least be getting therapy through workout and feeling great in that respect ha!

    Goals.

    Ok, I've exhausted my brain now. Until next time!

    CHEERS EVERYONE!!!!! I have faith in you all!!!
  • ClearNotCloudyMind
    ClearNotCloudyMind Posts: 238 Member
    Well, yesterday rather kicked my *kitten* in terms of eating control but the scale was down again today. I was slightly celebrating unexpectedly passing the last module for my teaching qualification so it’s all over now bar the paperwork.

    On the upside, my body is still back to feeling good so I’ll take it. Still think it’s all mental but I’m so close to maintenance I need to work out what that means for my eating patterns. It’s just a few kg to go and I’m already below my uni weight. I am struggling with motivation and trying to work out if I really do want it. I suspect my body is telling me I don’t (yet) want it enough so will practice maintenance until the fire comes back…
  • SuzanneC1l9zz
    SuzanneC1l9zz Posts: 456 Member
    After a year and 11 months, I'm finally employed again. I start on Monday. Between that and the fact that it's 36 degrees here I had ice cream twice yesterday. The real stuff. No regrets!
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    SuzanneC119zz: Congratulations. That is so awesome! Celsius or Farenheit? Don't laugh at the question ;-) I'm from MN and anyway is a good day for ice cream, even sub 0. :-)
  • SuzanneC1l9zz
    SuzanneC1l9zz Posts: 456 Member
    Thank you!

    Celsius πŸ₯΅ We've been breaking all kinds of temperature records.
  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    @SuzanneC1l9zz YAYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ»πŸ»πŸ»πŸ»πŸ»πŸ»πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ˜πŸ‘

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!🀩🀩🀩πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ»Cheers!!


    @ClearNotCloudyMind , maintaining is often hardest of all things so coast as long as it takes Haha❀

    I've been kickin butt with workouts this week,, and at work ish, now that my leg is better. Next wk I'll meet with the trainer, see how that goes...I saw 223s today and yesterday and that's just magical feeling Haha. Motivation indeed.

    With the babe, sticking at balance 2100 cal with solid workout sits well, I'm not STARVING, and get enough snacks in I'm able to keep things up pretty well! Weird considering I hit 1800 pre- baby Haha. Breastfeeding really does take it outta ya.... 😡

    Here's to a heck of a finish!! Let's getter duuuunnnn! πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—
  • SuzanneC1l9zz
    SuzanneC1l9zz Posts: 456 Member
    Thanks Dukare!
  • tinybry
    tinybry Posts: 71 Member
    Hey all, so great to hear how you are all doing. And lots of congratulations - @SuzanneC1l9zz for your new job, @ClearNotCloudyMind for getting that bit closer to being qualified, @Dukare for keeping the show on the road and making progress at the same time! And good to hear how everyone is doing.

    I've had a mix of tech issues not letting me onto the forum and also just lots of stress and busyness but I'm still ploughing on, I was really disheartened to not be making sustainable progress, so I'm trying some intermittent fasting (Monday to Friday only eating 11am - 7pm) which is helping me to get back on track, 2 good weeks, 1 with no move either way (still a win!) and I'll see how I do this week, but hopefully it will help to start things back in the right direction. I confess that I am allowing myself tea and coffee with milk before 11am, I'm not that extreme!

    Trying to keep active as so good for my mental health, been harder the last couple of weeks so looking to pick that up a bit more. Once the summer holidays get here I'm aiming to ditch the excuses and enjoy being out lots!

    Hope everyone is having a good week, sorry to be such a flaky team member, I'll try to get back online a bit more regularly now.
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    Hi. I hope everyone is doing well. My training has picked up. but I still feel like I need to up my nutrition. I keep hearing I need to get calories in, but I really want those calories to be healthy/bennificial. I am trying to stay as healthy as possible, and if my body needs to repair itself, wouldn't it be best to give it good building blocks?

    We had some friends over Monday for a Barbecue and I let myself free with whdo that, (no alcohol). I did feel it the next day. sometimes I wish I could feel the after effects of some of these eating days, before I eat the junk (at least in the volume).

    Going into the office on Fridays does serve as a reminder/eye opener of how much I graze/snack during the day because I end up feeling hungry at work, before lunch.
  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    Hello all! Just checking in. Got my trainer tonight, and hopefully he isn't just gonna be all "Lift weights!!" . He seems a good sot hah.

    Anyways, yea, so with the workouts I have been doing, I saw 223 today!! Wahhoooo!!!

    I got my first menstrual cycle since the baby last week but I've survived and still alive and kickin here hah.

    I've got 25 weeks to lose 35 lb. That can happen.........πŸ€”

    I'm not wanting to take another 4 years to make the progress I did before, so hopefully the trainer will help make it happen in the weeks I want it to. We shall see!

    Why does it always rain on the days I go out?? Thunder too ..πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ˜†πŸ˜ͺ
  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    Idk bout you guys, but I'm pooped.

    Kicking butt is hard work!

    πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ₯³πŸ₯³πŸ˜πŸ‘πŸ» we got this guys!! Stay strong!!!!!
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    Dukare, I agree.I started adding in intensity to my 2orkouts and realize how long it's been since I've worked out like that. I am so grateful I splurged and got a massage gun, and have the flexibility that comes with working from home. Although, I probably shouldn't be so reliant on so many naps.
  • Gold6767
    Gold6767 Posts: 145 Member
    Looking for some advice:
    So I "relapsed" again recently and I know that I have a gain of about 10 pounds, maybe more, in just the past few months. My debate is this: do I weigh in "officially" and log my current weight or wait until I am back on track a bit so it doesn't look as bad. Really I know that I've gained, but there is something about actually seeing it in my history AGAIN that I don't know if I'm ready for.
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    Weigh in officially and log it. Use it as motivation and a visual reminder that you don't want to continue down that path. If you wait to log it, it will become too easy to make excuses and continue down the past-you path. I hope everything gets better. :-)
  • Zombella
    Zombella Posts: 491 Member
    Hi, I hope I am not too late to jump into this.

    I am 34 and have been on MFP since 2011. I started gaining weight in late 2019 and it just got worse in 2020. I am back up to my highest known weight and really want/need to lose weight.

    I haven't worked out yet today, but plan to. The weather here is gross, very hot and humid, lots of rain this summer.

    I am also having a hard time with accepting that I've gained weight and buying new clothes for this body.
    I am trying to find healthy meals to make for my whole family, not just me.
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    Hi Zombella,

    Welcome to the group; it's a great thread and everyone is very supportive and understanding. Deciding to get back into this is the first step. We try to make sure we have vegetables in/with every meal, and we try to do it as simple as possible. We found whole wheat pasta is one of the easiest things to add a ton of veggies to. But we are also always trying new recipes and are happy that we are in the midst of Farmers' Market season and garden season, even if our crops this year isn't so great.
  • Gold6767
    Gold6767 Posts: 145 Member
    Thank you @SwtHedgehog I am weighing in "officially" tomorrow since Fridays were/are my regular weigh in day. I'm anxious about it and honestly embarrassed to really see how much I messed up my previous progress...again, but hopefully you are right and I'll use it as motivation to stop this cycle I have created for myself.
    @Zombella I can sooooooo relate. I just bought some new pants for work in a size I have not worn in more than a year. It's hard to deal with mentally, but we lost the weight before and we can do it again. Personally I find this thread to be very supportive and it helps to talk about my struggles with people who have been through similar struggles.
    Here's to everyone making progress!
  • AmberlyMarlene
    AmberlyMarlene Posts: 120 Member
    I've been on this app since forever. I once successfully lost 70 lbs using it and was overjoyed to have surpassed my goal. It didn't last long. I slipped up baaadd and was too depressed to stop spiraling. Ultimately I gained 130 lbs in a little less than 2 yrs by time I put my foot down. If that's not a relapse I don't know what is! Anywho I'm much better now as far as mental health goes and I'm trying to follow suit with my physical health. So far I've lost just over 45 lbs of the 130 lbs since December but I keep faltering off and not pushing beyond that. I've been at a stand still for the last few months. It is for this reason I'm looking to add friends for motivation and support, and to keep my head in the game!

    If you're interested in being a supporter for me and having me as a supporter for you, please send me a friend request!

    Thank you.

    I look forward to being more active in this group πŸ™‚
  • Dukare
    Dukare Posts: 144 Member
    Hey all! Just wanted to pop on to say hullo! You guys are doing great!!

    I know it's terrible seeing numbers and clothes sizes you wish to never see again, but it's also good to get clothes that fit right.... while you work on bettering yourself.

    I'm all for habit and positive mindset! My mother is queen of Emotional eating and depression, and while I'm glad I don't have it as bad as she does, seeing those relapses really takes its tolls mentally above all else. Rise above and keep going though!! It's just a dip in the water but that shouldn't stop you from swimming to shore!

    πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ

    Baby time ... best of luck all! Always cheering for you!!
  • SwtHedgehog
    SwtHedgehog Posts: 175 Member
    I am still working through my training. This past week is the first one in a really long time where I haven't cried or stressed because of my speed or anything. I am starting to feel and see myself as strong. Of course, nutrition is still a struggle for me. I don't eat super bad, but I still want/need to incorporate more veggies.

    I was at Open Water Swim last night and didn't struggle as much. The coach noticed that my legs were flailing all over the place (apparently my wet suit is super buoyant). He also said that I've made a lot of progress since the first swim.

    I hope everyone is doing well on their journey.